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confidence around peers and everyone else!!!
I am really sick and tired being made fun off when I talk because of my accent. I always feel as if I can stand up for myself, that is until I face the problem. I am cool with most people or so, but i feel as if i need to find this one friend i can share everything with. But there is no one who I truly trust. I try to talk with my mom but she nevers sees my point. Sometimes I am just afraid to tell her somethings because of her way of taking things to seriously. So I try to talk to god it helps but I still feel as if I need let it all out to someone physically. I try to be true to myself but sometimes that gets hard especially being a freshmen. I am afraid to go and find a guy because i don't like rejection. I feel as if I just can not be myself infront of my peers. Even though I am very outgoing and I never get boring.
If anyone has any advice or suggestions on how to feel confident around my peers despite the way I talk, or how to stop myself from always feeling rejected, please say so.
P.S. I tried writing, it doesn't help.
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hey..i have an accent too, im asain and then im spanish too so ill seem asain by not talking proper english then sometimes sound really spanish, but anyway..you need to take some risks..i mean no one like rejection but thats wut your risking when you meet new people..dont worry its not that bad...and i know wut you mean about your mom..yea mines the same way..but she is really kewl now that we talk more on the same level...and about being yourself..theres always people out there you can talk to and be yourself in front of...you just have to look..plus why look anyway..just be yourself..and if no one like how you are then screw them..you shouldnt have to change for anyone right..thats how you are and you dont have to change if you dont want to...thats how we are different.unique..you naw mean? and dont worrie about the accent most people really like accents...i mean i love girls with accents..sometimes its vise versa..you naw mean? well remember be yourself..and peace out
--PinoyBoi
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I can relate to you alot. I moved to new England from the south and I still have that "southern twang" everyone laughs if I say something that sounds southern so I just tell them to back off. You should really start small. Try to be confident with just your family, then your friends, then larger groups and you will get the hang of it!
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Most people have one thing or another about themselves that they are self-concious of. Thier looks, thier family background, thier education or job, or in your case, your accent. What you need to do, is sit down and have a little one on one with yourself. Your voice is part of who you are. Be comfortable with it. If people decide to make fun for it, well that's thier problem. It's something that makes you unique. People may tease you now, but later on in life it'll be something that people will notice in a good way. It makes you stand out as an individual. Good luck!
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Ann-I love answering questions with you because we're REAL friends! lol
Anyway, ive gone through that, not specifically with the accent.. I live in the appalachin. Anyway, stop caring so much what others think. You are you and if they dont like you F them! Thats my motto! I was made fun of a lot in Junior high, and as you enter high school and people mature, it goes away. You must be patient for that one true friend. Luckily I found mine and can see myself marrying her. Nonethe less, download ICQ or something and find a good friend who you can talk to. Its easier to write things then to say them. Ive met online friends who I plan on meeting because i love em so much. Guys arn't the most important thing in the world so dont worry too much. Ann is right, people feed of your pain... show them you wont take it. easier said then done I know, but just ACT... ACT like a diva B word... lol you go girl!
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First of all, don't let them know it bothers you...unfortunatly people feed off our pain. Be proud of were you come from, and your friends shouldn't care about your accent anyways. As for the Freshman part. That will end soon enough...everyone has to go through that at some point. Find your true friends and stick by them.
Luck,
Ann
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You shouldent be feeling weird around people just because you have an accent, most people think accents are cool and then they ask where your from, and all that. Maybe you should join a sports team, or school club to find new peers and maybe you'll find a really good friend from that. You just need to tell yourself that no-one will judge you because you talk differently-because they wont judge you. Hope I helped a little!
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