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loyalty
i have two best friends. one i've known since middle school...so that's about 4 yrs now. and now i also have a new best friend...whom i met in high shcool. they're both wonderful and i'm so glad i have them but there's one problem. they can't stand each other for anything! when i'm with one, she's talking shit about the other. and when i'm with the other one, she's talking shit about her. they both want me to take their own sides and be more loyal to one then the other. ahhhh! what do i do!?!??! HELP!
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Don't take sides. Stay on the anonymous side. If you side with one person, it'll only make the other one mad. If you don't side with either one of them, they will eventually stop asking you to intervene.
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i would suggest taht tell them your not taking sides and also tell them that its not cool to talk bout eachother and thats its very not cool that theyre making you take sides! i was in the same posistion as you when i was like five so yeah its kinda of childish for them to be acting like that...
hope i helped you!
*PuRpLoPpEr*
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try talking to one of them and saying to them you really should give the girl a chance you may not like her but how do you know if you never give her a chance and you are always talking shit about her and fighting doesn't solve everything and you and the other girl aren't acting mature by fighting with eachother and i think you shouldn't pick and choose who's side your going to take because that will just make things more worst then they are already are.
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oh thats a tough one! You have to get them to both understand that they are both ur best friends, or close friends and that they can't keep talking to you about the other one. Make them see how hard of a position they are putting u and if they respected you and want to continue the friendship they wouldn't do that to you. Tell them they have the right to dislike the other person but they can't involve you in it and that its' really dificult for u. They also shouldn't make u take sides. So baiscally, if u explain all of this to them they should understand and stop making you take sides. Hope this helped and good luck! :)
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Ha, i was in this situation before. Just say uh huh sure to each other them. If it comes down that they ask u when the other one's around just say its between you two and walk away.. there is nuttin else you can do sorry to say
Jess
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plain out lay it on the line and tell them you refuse to choose between them and tell them you dont want to put up with anymore of their shiznit. Tell them to quit talkin crap on each other. that is just real disrespectful to you. If they are true friends they shouldnt care who you talk to and who else is considered your friend.
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Ask them what they don't like about each other. You can't do anything if you don't know what's going on. Also, definitely don't say bad stuff about one when you're with the other.
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I think you should talk to them about it. They're both your best friends, they should be understanding that you're in a difficult position. You can try telling both that the subject of the other is off limits while they're with you, unless they want to say something nice. If they really are your best friends, they should be willing to do that for you.
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