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About my dad...kinda stressed right now ..any advice is appr
:/ well..ive been going through a lot lately. Im still not exactly sure whay happened...but one day after school my mom told me that dad went to the hospitol cuz hes depressed.A day later he got transferred to this phychiatric hospitol. (nothing like the padded walls where ppl are extremely crazy) but its a place for ppl who are depressed and stay there and see phychiatrists and stuff. I viisited him once but i acted coldly towards him...things were awkward plus i was scared. What can i do to make him feel better? I dont want to slip into depression also...how long could he be there for? Also..my Math A regents is coming up in jan. and i seriously need help in that...its jus so much goin on right now..
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wow. this must be hard for you. i think that you should maybe ask your mom, if you feel comfortable, about whats going on if your confused. also, i can talk to you more about this in person, maybe if you email me or IM me...honeybuns530 is my screen name, and my email is re.dewoody@verizon.net
feel free to talk to me anytime. im here for you, i went through the same thing with my dad!
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Your dad is at a good place ryte now dont worry bout hym! study ur math ir w.e! im not sayin forget about hym im sayin u kan thynk bout hym but thynk bout studying to! im goin threw this too! my mom has been real sick nd my grades r droppin! ive been studying nd findin tyme for my mom nd i brought all my grades up! s0o try it nd if it dont work im srri!
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things like that happen. just think of it as he's getting what he needs right now and be supportive. with your math A regents, i'm in Math A and it is hard. try to stay after with the teacher for help whenever you can. ask other people who understand it for help too. - K
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a LOT & i mean a LOT of people suffer from severe depression... sum of it is caused by sumthing... & sumtimes it happenz for no reason... you need to let ur dad know that ur there from him... concentrate on school... if u start to feel like u are depressed talk to a counselor... they'll help you out...
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Hey, Cheer up, my father was admitted to a facility like that as well, it was ok to act coldly toward him at first because it was something different that you didnt understand and still might not understand,he's there to try and makehimself better, and with support and understanding from you and your family will help him to get better faster,sometimes life just gets so hard that we can'ttake it anymore, we all get that feeling someof us just handleit differently, maybe you should try writing to your father to try and understand what the problem is so you can stop worrying so much and to show him that you care,things like this only make us stronger to over come the even more difficult times in our lives, be strong and keep your head up before you know it,it will all be over, and as far as your test study and have confidence i'm sure your smart
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First, please DO NOT waste any energy feeling guilty about your reaction while visiting your father in the psychiatric ward. These facilities are extremely intimidating and scary and dealing with a hospitalized parent is a lot for a young person to process and handle.
I do, however, think it might be helpful for you (and for your father) to send him cards or letters while he is hosptialized. Initially, you can let him know that you love him and want him to get well and simply be honest that you acted coldly when visiting because you were nervous and uncomfortable about being in that setting. After that, you can just keep him informed about how you and the rest of the family are doing and that you are thinking of him and wishing him well.
Our society, as a whole, generally holds a lot of misconceptions about mental health diseases and seeking help can be pretty scary for an individual facing a mental health crisis. So, letting your Dad know that you care and are happy that he is getting help, even if it does scare you a bit, should make getting through this tough experience a little easier for him.
Also, it is common for children of parents with major mental health problems to struggle with mild forms of depression themselves. But, I don't tell you this to scare you, just to inform you. Being aware that you need to watch for patterns of depression in yourself can give you the edge that you need to get out in front of any depression problems that might start to surface. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you start to feel like you need it. And if you do begin to have problems with depression, know that you are not alone and it does not make you deficient in any way.
Your family is dealing with a disease and my advice would be to educate yourself as much as possible. If you know your father's specific diagnosis, then you can start learning about it over the internet or from a library. If you are not sure of his diagnosis, you could ask your mother if your father would be okay with her sharing that information with you so that you can educate yourself in an attempt to be more understanding of what your father and your family is facing.
I wish that I could tell you how long your father will be hospitalized, but I couldn't possibly know for sure. It really depends on his treatment plan and his progress. Please don't panic though. You can be supportive of your father and still focus on yourself. I'm sure that your father would want you to do well with your upcoming Math event and getting help with that will give you something to focus on besides what's going on with your family.
I know from experience that it can seem extremely unfair to have to deal with these kinds of issues at a young age when all you should have to worry about is being a teenager, but I promise you can get through this. Ultimately, the entire experience is likely to give you strength and understanding that you can't possibly imagine at the moment.
Be a loving child to your parents, be the best student you can "realistically" be and most importantly, be good to yourself and stay aware of what you need to keep yourself physically and mentally healthy. Focus on these things and try not to be too overwhelmed. My thoughts are with you and I wish you the best of luck in this difficult time.
Kind wishes,
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