|
I'm having a baby
hey,
Well, here's the deal I'm almost 17 and my boyfirend is almost 21. My mom thinks he's only 18, she hasn't met him before becuase we both are in job corp.He just left for the army and I'm going to have a baby now. I'm onlt 2 1/2 months. We have been together for 8 months. Well, this is my Question how do I tell my mom when she thinks I'm still a virgin?
loca
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
Oh my. First of all, I really hope you two are still together, as that will make life a little easier. You need to let mom know, but I would wait until the start of the second trimester, at 13 weeks. You have a high risk of miscarriage until then. Once the baby has "stuck" as they call it, I would just be honest with her. You need to consider the possibility of marrying the father, if you love him enough, because either way he needs to pay child support and the military will pay him more if he is married with a dependent. I don't want to sound like pregnancy means you must get married or that money is important, but these are practical facts you need to consider. As far as mom goes, you need to tell her so she can help you get proper prenatal attention and begin to prepare for the arrival of a baby. You haven't told us anything about your mom, but I would just sit her down and tell her, flat out, I'm pregnant. If she is abusive in any way, I would hide out at a friends and call her to tell her, then wait for her to get over the shock and be ready for you. I had an abusive father growing up and that's what I would have done with him, lol. Whatever you decide to do, good luck, and may I suggest registering at [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) they have a great teen pregnancy support group.
]
Well she is gunna find out sooner or later because of course you will start to show. It is a VERY tough situation just sit down with her and explain calmly what u did. Hopefully that works, or i hate this situation..Abortion but i think that is the worst way to deal with it hope i helped a little.
..*Cassie*..
]
Well sence your almost 17 you should wait till then unless its noticeable then tell her when you are an adult. I know it's hard to hind it but just so your baby is safe. Plus congradulations. My sister is due next month.
]
Tell her like it is. She is your mother and im almost sure shed want to help you as much as possible. Plus she has a grandkid(s) on the way. She might get a little bit upset but who wouldn't. She is your mother and she'll love you and help you no matter what.
God Bless You And Your New baby/babies!
Plus congratulations.
if you ever need anything wirte to me or email me. You will find my email at my web page.
Sincerly & Praying for your family,
**Bridgette**
]
Just say it casually, be like mom i really need to talk to you, and tell her you're pregnant, and ask her if she'll be their for you because you want her to be and it would probably be better off to tell her about how old your boyfriend is..
]
I think you should tell you mom becuase she deserves to know. She will find out eventually anyway so it is better to tell her the truth. I also think you should tell her the truth about your boyfriend. You will feel better once you tell her everything.
~***Hannah~***
]
You may want to tell your mom NOW!!! If something goes wrong who are you going to go to for help? Think about it. Also what are you going to say to your mom when she asks you why and how are you getting so fat? These kinds of things you can not hide from your parents.
Christine
]
How do you tell her? Well, you're pretty much going to have to find a way to sit down with her and just say it. There's no magic you can perform - and from the sound of it, your mom is going to be rather shocked. Instead of worrying about how to tell her, you need to worry about how to prepare yourself for the reaction that you're likely to get from her. You can't control what your mom is going to do, but you can control how you choose to deal with her reaction. I suggest you first talk to your boyfriend, though, and see what sort of commitement you two have to each other and to your child. From, there, talk to your mom - if you have your boyfriend with you or not for that talk is all up to your level of comfort and if you think him being there will help you - if you think it'll make things worse, you might not want that.
]
More Questions:<<< Previous Question
| Next Question >>>
|
|