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my friend cut...
ok, don't say my friend is a fag or anything just because he cut.. i don't wanna hear it... but i've been really mad because, i was talking to him, and he quit cuttin for about 3months, but then while i was talkin to him, i told him something, and he said "brb" then when he got back, he told me that he had cut himself because of me.He said he was just looking for a reason to do it, but now i feel really guilty. IDK what to do, hes not online a lot so i haven't talked to him, so my guilty concious grows each day. I'm mad at myself because 3 months ago, i was the reason he stopped cutting, now im the reason he started. Can anyone give me advice on what to do right now? i don't like the feeling of being guilty, but i can't talk to him...i need a way to clear most of my concious about this, cuz its really disturbing my sleep and life in general..
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Ok. I've had at least 3 friends that have been/currently are cutters. Often as not, cutting is a cry to help, or attention, or both. There's all kinds of reasons people do it, within the categories of attention and cries for help. There is of course the possibility that you friend may be clinically depressed, in which case, there's not a whole lot you can do. Some people cut because they get adrineline (sp?) from it. Those are usually people who want the attention. If you can, and this will involve confronting your friend, find out why he's cutting. Also, find out who else knows. From what you say, it sounds like he wants attention, but I don't know him, and you do, so I could be wrong. It may be that some sort of family problems could factor into this.
The only thing for sure is that your friend does need help, even if it's just other friends knowing and being there for him. If you do choose to take action, confront him, tell an adult, whatever you choose, know that doing that is one of the best things you can do for him, and possibly one of the worst things for you. If you tell, it is very likely to put a huge strain on your friendship, or possibly end it. Sometimes it's better to tell and lose a friend and know that they're still alive than not to tell, and lose a friend to death because the cutting was linked to more serious things.
Good luck.
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i think u should tell ur friend to please stop and if that doesnt work get him some help!!
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don't feel guilty!
life is way too short to feel guilty.
DON'T HURT YOURSELF OVER A GUY!
if it keeps bothering you, try to talk to him at school (if you can find him)if you get in another fight, all i can say is that YOU NEED TO TELL SOMEONE! online isn't always the best way to get advice , sometimes it is better to get advice from the people who love you most. i will let you figure that out yourself.
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well this person who cuts needs some help. like frankie from the real world, he needs to find a personal group and talk about his pain instead of adding more. talk to him about how u care about him and matters to you. maybe he'll stop. hope i helped i lil b/c this is very serious.
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Hmm..I think that you need to talk to him (even though you feel you can't) and ask him what you have done that could make him want to cut himself. If it is a very valid reason, appogolize but if it seems to b that he just wants an exuse to cut himself (like you said then you need to try and explain that it is not your fault that he did that to himself. He needs to see somene about this to help because you can't take this on alone..the only thing you can really do is appoligize if there is one main reason that made him mad at you.
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dont blame your self at all...he said it himself he needed an excuse...he wanted to cut himself...and most cutters cut themselves for the attnetion and realise this its all that is on your mind right now and hes getting what he wants...this guy is a real jerk for blaming his problem on you when it is actually his fault that he cant control his self dont you dare take anymore of the blame...you didnt put the razor to his skin he did...not your fault end of story
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i guess ill just start out with "he needs help." I really think that you shouldn't feel guilty because he was looking for something and you were just the first thing that came along. Apoligize, and try to help him stop again (if possible), but most of all just know its not your fault.
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Wait wait wait, editing my answer
what did you tell him? go say sorry(and mean it)!
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