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Umm ? again
Im asken this ? again cuz i still dunno wat 2 do n im hopeing this time i will get more responces! Well i went out wit this kid last year.. in september, lets call him 'Bob'. N we went out for mayb a week or two, then he broke up with me.. n me n bob i know both feel this way cuz he told me many of times, that wen we were with eachother... it just felt perfect, n even tho we have a 2year age difference it didnt even matter! N omg wen im with him it just feels soo right like i wanna be with him forever.. even if im 13 n hes 15 i mean like i -CANT- say yeah i wanna marry this kid but thats just how it feels kinda, i mean not marry him.. but i wud stay with him for very long n try to make it last as long as possible. But newayz after we broke up we argued alot, then in december, close to my birthday we started talken again, n i gess we kinda liked eachother, even tho i always had feelings for him. But then sumthing happend, he went away til umm June. Wow that was probly the hardest time i hadta face so far in life. I went crazy, i thot about him a few times a week, eventually i thought about him less and less. Then he came back. We talked alot, i told him i still had feelings for him, he told me he thot bout me wen he was away, then he went out w.sum girl, we lost touch for a lil, then started talken again. N i read him 1 of the poems i wrote wen he was away, i never thot i wud read that, but i did, n i dunno we were talken n i dunno if he likes me or not, itll be a year of likeing him this september, i mean i went out with other ppl in that year, but it wasnt tha same. But now.. he kinda likes sum girl, lets call her 'K', n i tell him to go out w/her n stuff, but i am really jealous, i just act like i want him 2 be happy... well i do, it just wont make me happy if hes with her. Wat shud i do? i rate very very good just please help me!
x0x signed confused n depressed
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It sounds like this has been a very confusing time for you. First of all make sure he knows how you feel, which im sure you will have no trouble doing because you sound like your very close to him. Telling him to go out with 'K' is a mistake, because even though you want him to be happy, which is very nice of you, you will regret it. I know if i was in his place i would want to know how you felt. Do your best to talk to him about this and if he decides that he wants to date her and not you stay friends with him, because it sounds like you have a hard time when you two are apart.
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I think he's either confused on what he wants in life or he just doesnt want to hurt your feelings. when i mean hurting your feelings, maybe he's debating on the fact to tell you that he really doesnt like her when he does, or to just say that he does like her. now im not sure what the true answer to that question is because im not inside his head, but that could be a possiblity of what he's doing. I know that being attached to someone for a long time can be really hard and i know that you want him to be happy. But he's only 15 years old and when they're that young they're still really immature. You both are still very young and you've got your whole life ahead of you to find that special someone in your life. If i were you i'd give it a rest for a little while with you 2 having a relationship together again, until he knows what he wants to do. that way, you don't have to get your hopes up for nothing
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this is kind of what is heppening to me. it's verry complicated i can't tell u exacly what to do cuz i don't know the guy, but it seems he likes u very much to but he tries to get over it. anyways what i did is i let him know i how i felt, talked about it and let him make his decision.you can't force the guy to like u and don't make it seem like u'r obssesed cuz that'll probably just make him back off,just have a big talk with him, he may like you to.
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Before I say anything, remember that he ended it, so if you got back together, he should be the one who starts things up again. Otherwise, you never can be absolutely sure how he feels. And he knows how you feel, you discussed it with him before. You also read him a poem, so I think you've done enough in that department. And you're right in that he definitely knows you have feelings for him.
I think a portion of this is caused by who you dated in the past year. I'm thinking that he was the last really good relationship you had, so you want to have that with him again. The problem is he's moved on while you're still trying to hang on to what you had. It sounds like he complains about her to you because he sees you as a friend, he's not considering the fact that you have feelings for him, he's just blowing off steam about his current girlfriend. Don't get me wrong, there is always a chance you two will get back together, but right now not. I think the healthiest thing to do is try to find some closure, at least for now. It doesn't seem like thinking about him is benefiting you in any way. Try talking to other guys, see if there are any sparks with someone else. I'm sure in time you'll get over him. And even if you get over him, that still doesn't mean getting back together is an impossibility.
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well it sounds to me like you loved him. and you still do. i think you should talk to him and tell him how you really feel. tell him that you cant stop thinking about him and how strong your feelings are. see how he feels but tell him that you still want to be friends if it doesnt work out again. if it felt perfect the first time then it might be like that again. hope it all works out. good luck.
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Hey! Well...u guys went out once right? Then became really good friends? I think U being someone dat he can turn to N talk to bout everything N anything, is a plus! "Bob" is prolly ur first "LOVE"! Since he kinda know's how u feel, juss confront him N tell him everything,how much u liked him, how much u want him back, so on N so forth! Then u can ask him if he wants to give it another try! Being "jealous" is normal, don't worry!I kno wut ur goin thru! I think i'm still goin thru it, unfortunately!*lol* are u sayin, like when he wuz gone, ur starting to lose interest in him, but when he returned from his trip, u guys communicating again, got ur interest back? It's like whatever happens u'll alwayz have feelings for him, N u'll alwayz open ur arms out for when he comes bak!right? That's normal too.I'm sayin u should let things take place, if it's meant to be then it'll happen! Trust me.i think this is u" Whatever makes him happy, makes me happy." right? WEll i did the same thing for this one guy, let him open up to u, be therre when he needs sumone....let him rely on u, let him kno he can trust u! do u get wut i'm sayin? During ur time "apart" ((not going out)) try talkin to otha guys too! Give them otha "studs" a chance! I kno they won't be da same as "Bob" but u need to see wut else is out therre! u kno? Trust me on this! I've learned from xperience, N still goin thru it! I hope i helped, tell me how it goes! if u need anything else, stopp by muh inbox! GOOD LUCK.Take care
-Phuong
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I think you should just be flat out honest with him since you already told him you had feelings for him. If he doesn`t feel the same, you should just let it go & stay close friends. Something can still happen between you guys. You`ll just have to wait untill he feel`s the same & the time is right.
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