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Starting a family
Well I am a 20 year old female and lately I been wanting to have a baby. So when I ask my boyfriend of 4 1/2 years he was like no because he had to babysit his 6 nephews all the time. So what should I do?
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It's normal to start thinking about babies as you get older - that's the old biological clock. It's the way that evolution has insured humans won't die out.
But that's just the species - think about you. Why would you want a baby if you are not deeply committed (for example, marriage) to your partner? There is a very real chance, especially as you are so young, that the relationship will end.
Having a baby means that the child automatically becomes your first priority, and that has to start before you even think about pregnancy. Is it fair to your child to willingly bring it into a home which will probably only have one parent? What about giving your baby a father who doesn't want kids?
You'll also want to think about money, time, and emotions. A baby is much more expensive than people think. Can you afford to give the child everything it needs, and most of the stuff it wants, while still paying for a car, food, bills, and rent? Are you prepared to give up time from school or your job (and if you do - how will that affect your financial status)? Are you prepared to change your entire life, forever?
You will miss the chance to be young. Your ovaries will still be around in ten years.
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well, get married before you have a baby. its always a good idea. then talk to him more and more seriously about having a baby.
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well, you want a baby and your boyfriend doesnt. you need to wait until he wants one too. otherwise i dont know how fair that would be to the child.
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Hm well that seems serious! Maybe you should go to a nice dinner and talk about your future and plans in life! make sure you want the same things and are on the same track ya know..you should see how he feels about everything you want, and if you arent on the same track you need to think about it!....i hop ei helped xoxo
*~MALLY~*
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ask him what the hell that has to do with one baby! lol
-xxoBrianna
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if he is still your boyfriend then you shouldnt be having children. Wait until your married!!!
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I think you should wait a little while, i'm only 13 but i know you should wait until your married, it'll be better for you and he'll probably be ready. Talk to him about that and see how it goes! if ya need anything else let me know!
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well i'm not an expert when it comes to babies but my suggestion is to maybe wait it out a couple of years until your boyfriend is really ready to have a baby with you. and plus you are still very young to be having a baby. you have your whole life ahead of you. have you gone to college yet? you should get your whole life put together before you have a baby so that way when you do have a baby your child will grow up in a loving home and you won't be struggling finacially. really think about if it's what you want. my cousin who is 22 just had a baby... she's wanted a baby for a long time now and she finally has a beautiful little girl named Ella Grace. the baby's father didn't want to have a baby... he didn't want the responsibility. so now she is left by herself to raise her baby. hope i helped! but really think about it! good luck!
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