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my best friend
my best friend has changed soo much since last year.. her brothers are stoners and drunks and now she is starting to smoke and she also drinks some.. and i love her dearly and i dont kno what to do i try to talk to her but i am afraid shell get mad at me or something, somebody please help me!!!!
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listen 2 me! get ur friend som help as soon as possible! i hav friends that drink and do drugs and hav offered me but ive neva done it. alot of my friends r in drug rehab and one of them isnt goiin 2 make it to the end of the month and ive known him since kindergarten! anotha very good friend of mine died earlier this year cuz of pot. a month b4 he died i tried 2 help him get off it ...i tried 2 help him....but he couldnt help himself :(....he was found in his room w/ foam comin from his mouth, a gun in one hand and blood comin from his head. so think bout the consequences of ur friends choices and c if u can do nething bout it b4 its 2 late.
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Hey there. Okay, obviously your friend doesn't have the best role models in the world. You should talk to your friend about what she is doing ... it's normal for teenagers to experiment, but if she starts making a habit of everything, then you have to talk to her. Your going to have to risk the chace of her being mad at you, because if you don't talk to her, she may not realize what she is doing to herself. But you also have to realize that teenagers usually drink sometimes ... but still, talk to your friend.
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you can't be afraid just talk to her and tell her the truth.
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Sorry to hear about your situation, I know exactly what you're dealing with. The best advice anyone could give you is to not give up on her. But you can also look at it in a different perspective... here's a quote to help with my advice-"Life is full of changes"... that seemed appropriate, because you can never stop a person of trying to do something that they want. As things change, so will the person, and in your case, their surroundings. I know when ever I started drinking or anything else that I hated to be told to stop, it was the LAST thing I wanted to hear from ANYONE. At the time I had a girlfriend that I had been seeing for around 2 years. She was really concerned about me because she was the main one that saw the drastic changes. I would go from happy to furious in a split second when she would tell me to stop. So I guess my advice in the end is be there for that friend. She doesn't want people to tell her what to do. Maybe in the end she will realize that life isn't about partying but more of who you know. I am sure you both will be much more happy when you can just relax around each other rather than be on each others back and be mad or sad with each other. Good luck and hope I helped.
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Try writting her a letter and saying how you feel about this whole situation. Just be like "You're my best friend, so I'm ALWAYS going to be looking out for you, I'm not trying to be your mom, or preaching to you, I'm trying to talk to my best friend and helping her out. But, you've changed so much from last year, I mean you're drinking now and smoking! You can get into a lot of trouble doing that, and I for one don't want you to because your my best friend. You have a lot of things ahead of you, don't ruin it by smoking and drinking. I don't want you to get addicted to it because that would be really bad...." Just say something like that just keep going on about how you feel and how you want her to stop and that if she needs help with that, that you'll be there to help her out. You can write that in a letter or sit her down and talk to her about it. Hope this helps and good luck! If you need anymore help, just leave a message in my inbox.
xoxo Kourtney
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I know how you feel my best friend has changed to...Well you have to try to talk to her and tell her how you feel about all that.If she goes through help her try to stop take away her smokes and help her stop drinking.Slowy she will stop. If you need any more help just email me. I hope she feels better soon! <3 Me
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hey ...well if shes ur best friend then maybe u shud just sit down with her and tell her that u dont want to see her ending up like her brothers that are stoners ...if she realli cares about u the way u care about her then shell listen to you !
kate<3<3
good luck with it keep me posted
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Let her go.
It's up to her to change.
There's nothing you can do about it.
Try talkin' it out like everyone else says.
Five bucks says it won't work.
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welp...u needa talk to her..becuz how else r u gonna help her..u cant just sit there n let it go by if u care as much as u say u do...it seems shes ina bad spot right now n she needs u by her side...not sit there n wonder what to do...go talk to her...help her...remind her that u care...n ur always gonna be there for her no matter what...becuz if u dont...alot could happen to someone u love due to drugs n drinkin...more then u can imagine
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