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My mom is an alchoholic(or however you spell it) and she left my father a few years ago. She has been an alchoholic for as long as I cant remember and she has wrecked about 5 of our cars. She used to make me lie for her so my father wouldnt find out she had been drinking. I never told on my mother, because she convinced me that it was my father who was the problem. Whenever he found out about my mothers drinking, she would blame it on me and call me a bitch. I never blamed her, saying that it was the alchohol, and not her talking. She has been to jail twice, and also AA, which did nothing. After she left my father she took half of the money with her and ruined my chances for a good college.She still blamed my father. After that she got both a dog and a cat for me but was "keeping them for me" at her apartment. She lost both of them. She dated about 100 guys who she scraped up from the under belly of satan. (They were all the "one")she finally married one of the grungiest, who smelled of pot( she did drugs to.)then she skipped town after not showing up to court after a drug bust.We havent heard from her or her husband since. All of this almost killed me. She went from loving mother to a pot addict between jobs and under house arrest in a hotel. Its hard going day after day not knowing if your mother ids still alive, so please if anyone out there knows or knew a woman named Judy M. Flint ( maiden name Judith M. Daniel) please let me know? And if anyone has gone through something similar it would be great to talk to you. Thanks
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Dealing with an alcoholic parent is one of the hardest things a kid can go through, and I can understand how hurtful and confusing it all can be.
First off, please understand that none of your mother's actions are in any way your fault. She is an alcoholic, and that is a disease, and the only person that could ever help her get out of that is herself. That she married a man that got her into trouble and ignored any help from AA is a sure sign that she is refusing to help herself, and unfortunately there is nothing that you can really do for her.
Try to understand that your mother has been very selfish and left you with a lot of pain, but that doesn't mean you should keep seeking her for the attention and love she used to give you. There is a good chance that she may not contact you for a long time because she is obviously not taking your feelings into account with her actions.
It's hard to understand why people fall into things like this, but there may be a whole history to her life you know very little about. In any case, she was irresponsible, and you have to be able to move on in your own way and hopefully live a happier life than she is currently leading. <u>Don't let her actions make you feel like you need to change, feel guilty, or feel worried.</u> That is <b>not</b> your responsibility nor should it feel that way.
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i havent heard about your mom but i am very sorry. if i hear anything ill be sure to tell u. good luck!!
xOx* kandiie
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I haven't heard about your mom =(, but, I can relate to you A LOT, when I first started reading this the first thing that popped into my head was my dad. My dad went to AA meetings for a LONG time, it did nothing, (he's also an alcoholic) he's been in rehab 11 times, and in jail 6 times...That I know of. My mom used to be an alcoholic, and finally quit for good right before I was born, my dad tried to stop for me, he could go years without drinking and would start again. My family hated him, my cousins,aunts, uncles, everyone practically except for me. When he wasn't drinking he was the most loving, hardworking person in the world. Sometimes I still feel like Im the only person who understood him. The saddest part is, I blame myself because of something I said to him when I was 8ish. and even when he was drunk, even when he would threaten my mom, he was NEVER mean to me, not once. It was like a part of his brain where I was wasn't messed up even when he was drunk. Eventually when he was drinking again, he was in jail for stealing and threatning my mom big time and then when he got out, (we didn't know about it) he tried to break into our house (and to this day I still get scared when anyone rings the doorbell) and was in jail AGAIN, then he had a hearing and we didn't know if he'd be let off or not, so we were practically "hiding" from him at my mom's friends house for awhile, and eventually the alcohol got to his brain, and they sent him to a mental institution, and I have no idea if he's alive or dead because if he did die, I doubt my mom would tell me, i have no idea how he's doing or anything. =( I know how you feel...If you ever want to talk you can email me, or my aol s/n is Mizzbr0wneyez17
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I haven't heard anything bout your mom. But I will tell you, you shouldn't feel bad. I don't know if my father is dead or alive. He too has a drinking and pot smoking problem. He has missed so much of my life. And now I am pregnant, he doesn't even know he will be a grandfather. he is just missing out on eevrything. It makes me sad, but I have learned to accept things. I see it like this, if a parent really cared about you, even a little, they would do something, call write or something to let them know they are okay and they care. You can't beat yourself up because your mother has a problem. All you can do is prey that she is safe.
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I havent heard anything of your mother but if u need someone to talk to then u can email me and i would be happy to help u with anything u need help with. my email is hot_cheerleader042002@yahoo.com
~*~kendal~*~
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i havent seen or heard of your mother but i know what your going through. My mother is sort of like yours only she still lives with me and its a miracle that my parents are actually still married! But the best thing for you to fo right now is to just start over with your life. Look back and forget the past because being kept down constantly will only make you more and more miserable. Your mom messed up her life and was starting to mess up yours. Don't make the same mistakes she did!
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im <so] sorry, i really respect you for going through all that, and not hurting yourself or doing anything bad, and just escaping life, like some people might do...
there are 2 ways to go;
either (1) just screw your mom and just try and get a good scholarship or something, or (2) try and call a drug abuse hotline or something, and try and get ur mom in rehab, and you can always call 411 to try and reach her...
best of luck, hope i might have helped:'(
.:sarah:.
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tell ur mom that she needs to take a chill pill on the alchohole cuz its not only hurting u its hurting her let ur feeling out with her and mabe it will help
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