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Uggggggh!
My best friend "Cara" is honest. A little too honest. In that sort of brutal way. She tells everyone the truth, but she does it in such a mean way. Me, Cara, & our other friend "Kandi" all went shopping one weekend for swimsuits. I tried on a bikini, & Kandi said I looked great, but that I should get a blue one instead of a pink one. Cara, on the other hand, said that it made me look chubby (even though I'm super thin) & that I should get a one-piece, like she is. Later that day, she criticized me & Kandi bcuz we were pigging out on pizza, while she only ate a salad. Another weekend, me, Kandi, & Cara went to see The Stepford Wives. On our way to Kandi's house, Cara was whining the whole way there. Even Kandi's mom agreed that Cara is a pain in the @$$. I have to see Cara again on Friday. What should I do if she's bitchy to me & Kandi again?
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sounds like a bitch. when she says "i'm only being honest," tell her "i'll ask for your opinion when i want it" and continue chomping on that delicious pizza in her salad-eating face.
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Hey!
I have a friend who is a lot like your friend. Have you tried talking to her? When my friend was always brutally honest in a mean way I told her how I felt. I told her that I didn't like the way she said things and that I would appreciate it if she was nicer about things and that it hurt my feelings. After talking to her she'll see how she acts and most liekly she'll change and not say those things. And if she doesn't change and she isn't nicer to you then she just might not be a true friend (sorry to say that). Well I hope I helped!
-Chloe-
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This is a hard situation to be in... but here's some food for thought. Did you ever notice that people who are mean or judgemental don't have very good self-esteem? Think about it this way... Micheal Jordan is playing basketball with a ten year old kid. Of course this child isn't as good as Micheal.. but chances are Micheal would be encouraging and supportive. Cuz Micheal has nothing to prove...he's one of the greatest players in the world... He doesn't need to make fun of this little guy, the way maybe an older brother or a friend would who feels like they are in direct competition. What i'm trying to say is that it sounds like you friend is judgemental and rude about the things she's uncomfortable with about herself. For example.. misery loves company, she feels uncomfortable in a two piece bathing suit... so she's going to make you feel dumb in yours, and suggest you wear a one-piece. Here's my advice... don't take her personally. Feel sympathy for her because alot of what she says to you is really what she says to herself. Show her what it is to feel good about yourself and wear that two piece bathing suit!!! If she's a good friend of your then be honest with her, though not mean. Hearing the truth from a kind friend might really help her to learn in her relationships with people.
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tell her to get a grip on her self n not worry bout u guys...tell her to stop being sooo juging..n tell her that next time she gives advice or w/e tell her not to b so mean bout it...there are plenty of other ways to tell someone something....xoxo effy
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I would tell her.. i bet she would tell you if you were doing this to her and kandi or if kandi was doing it to you and cara but i would tell her because nobody should treat anybody like that-trix
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Well then maybee she Cara isnt a true friend at all if she always bitchy towards you and kandi.I mean a true friend would be nice accept if she is PMSing i know my friends can get bitchy during that week but if its a thing that keeps going on and on and she is always bitchy I think that you should comfront her and be like your have been really mean to us lately and I dont like it at all because we havent evening done anything.I think personally she is kinda of jealous of you and kandi because you guys are closer friends then you and cara maybe.I think you all should talk as in a group and see if everything works out perfectly fine.I hope i helped.GOodluck girlie!
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Whoa how nerve racking!If she acts all bitchy and crap again be like "WHY DONT U SHUT U?!" give her a taste of her own medicine.Good luck babe
*BrittBritt
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Say to her "Why are you being like this? It really gets on my nerves". Or, you could give her a taste of her own medicine by being brutally honest to her and see how she likes it. If it doesn't work, tell her that you don't want to be friends with her.
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be brutally honest back at her. Next time she does something bitchy just say to her, "Stop being a bitch, no one likes you when you act like this."
The two things you said- the bathing suit and the salad- it sounds as if she's very self-councius about her weight. (Just an observation.)
If she continues to be Superbitch, don;t hang out with her anymore. No one should have to hang out with people who are mean to them.
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