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So-called friend?
I have this friend. She gets on my nerves a lot. She gets really jealous when me or anyone else isn't payin g her any attention. She is spoiled(no offense.) and always tries to make people feel bad. I don't want to be her friend, but she keeps on saying that she has problems and she's gonna kill herself because life is so bad. I have 2 questions. Is she my real friend? And is there any way I don't have to be friends with her?
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Dear Stuck,
I am the same way with my older siblings...I just feel so left out. I cherish every moment I go out to the movies with them...or out with their friends with them...because trust me, it DOESN'T happen very often.
First off, you don't have to be friends with this girl...but maybe what she needs is some companionship...a friend. Pull her aside and ask if she would like to come over sometimes. Just because she says she wants to kill herself...doesn't mean she will but if she keeps implying it after a while...then I'd tell.
Maybe she is spoiled...but that doesn't mean she's not a nice person deep down inside. Really though...get to know her...go see a movie with her or go bowling and do something fun so if she just needs a friend...she knows your there. (But also let her know there are limits...and she can't depend on you ALL OF THE TIME).
So what I'm really saying is get to know her...and if she starts to cop an attitude with you, or cry about it...talk to her and TELL HER that she has to stop this...(but also dont TRY to leave her out just because you think it would be funny)...listen to what she has to say; don't just let it go in one ear and out the other...do you understand?
Now...go out there and try to be her friend...listen to what she has to say--and if something else happens email me...ask me a question...or all of us a question about it so we can try to help.
~GL~
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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You should probably tell a school conselur or someone who can help. She probably is your friend but its hard for her right now you really need to tell someone soon
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You can choose any friends you would like to have. Always. Love her, but stay away.
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Well people in the situation about threating to kill themselves is a pretty tricky one.Firstly if she has always been treating people how you explained it she probly doesn't realize she acts that way.If she hasn't always been this way than chances are she isn't really your friend.Secondly you NEED to tell someone that she is threating to kill her self like her parents.So once you've done that and her parents will have probly schedualed a phycoligest session and then I would wait about a month if things don't improve than set her aside and tell her that you can't or don't want to be friends with her(make sure you do this on a day where she isn't stressed out).The best of wishes HEFAMIBALL!
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Im sure most people would agree with me she is just a person who likes to have attention and make stories up so that attenetion is always on her, and so she doesn't feel left out. You don't have to be friends with anyone you don't want too its that easy, and if she asks why just tell her the truth tell her whats on your mind and why you don't like her.
Cspinoza1
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Ok. yeah stick to it for a little while longer. most people that want alot of attention have problems and are trying to get themselves happier.. i used to be the same way when i was in middle school. It's just a phase . they wil soon grow out of it , but be sure to talk to her if he is depressed try to make her happy then maybe she ioght not get on your nerves alot.
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Oh, Lord, life is too short to have to deal with people like this. She tries to make you feel bad? That's not what real friends do.
It's hard for me to say if she actually has problems or if she's just looking for attention (I'd guess it's a bit of both). If you have any reason to think she's really unhappy, you might try this: next time she starts in on her problems, tell her, as nicely as you can, that you really think that she should talk to a counselor or therapist about her problems, because it all certainly sounds very serious. And tell her that you can tell it must be a huge problem because it seems to be affecting the way she deals with her friends -- say that even though she may not mean to be hurtful, she's making it very hard for you to be supportive, and you just don't know how to be a friend to someone who treats you the way she does.
This may be a wake-up call for her to change her behavior, or it may not. If she does try to change, you can decide if it's enough for you to want to keep the friendship. If she doesn't, you're off the hook. As long as you're honest with her, and not cruel about it, you should have no guilt.
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Well, I think that you should just tell her, "I am sorry, ______, but I think you should be a little bit more possitive." And if that doesn't work, try to talk to a school teacher or counseler. They will help you.
~~Shasta~~
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Tell her that if she needs help, she should seek therapy. She certainly doesn't sound like she has problems. Trust me, I've been there. Tell her that you think it would be best if you guys took your own separate ways, for a while. If she gets all pissed with an attitude, tell her that being an attention whore is not the way to make things happen for her. If she gets really mad, then tell her, without being venomous or spiteful, that you just don't want to be close friends anymore. I hope I helped. Take care.
Love,
FG
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