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my friend's boyfriend has been harassing me since last year. He keeps doing things to my locker such as smashing a banana on it, putting tape all over, writing all over it, leaving long notes, putting signs with names such as boob girl or b***h etc. He would also spread all these rumors about me and call me all of these names. when my friend tells him to stop he refuses and he said that he wants to hurt me. she wants to protect her boyfriend from being suspended and she is trying to stop me from telling the GLC. He has been doing the same things to other people but they are too afraid of him to speak up. I really want to tell the GLC and take action but would I be doing the right thing by doing that even if I probably won't be friends with her anymore? also, I know that the GLC won't believe me since I don't have enough evidence to prove what he is doing to me. what should I do in this situation?
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i dont care what you believe or if your freind doesn't wanna get him in trouble'tell th eglc and i would also tell my parents and the police.i think something is really wrong with him and that you sould tell some one befor eit gets to serious and he actually does somthing.your friend is blinded and if she cared about you'she would support you all the way about the harrasment thing,so do it no matter what and i thin kyou should try to motivate the othe rpeople he is harrasing,he need sto be stoped.so tell.i am so serious-tell tell tell!
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ok your friend shouldnt go out with him if he does these things to you liek that i would tell the glc and get action if your friend will be mad at you tell her you shouldve done that if you were really my friend you know taht i ahted what he did so what ever
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Get all of the people together who this guy has been picking on, and confront the GLC together. Power, and safety, in numbers. The next time your locker is vandalized, grab a teacher to witness it so that you have someone else's word to back you up before you clean it up or take care of it. Your friend has obviously turned a blind eye on the situation, and clearly does not have your best interests at heart. This kid deserves to be suspended for what he's doing, by the sounds of it; there is no excuse for bullying.
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well i think you need a new best friend for starters.she sounds pretty selfish to not get rid of her jack@$$ boyfriend,when hes harrassing her best friend. tell whoever you need to tell to get it stopped, if its evidence you need get some. use a disposable camera to take pics of the crap he leaves on your locker and take the notes home and make copies.once youve gone through the school system a few times if they cant or wont put a stop to it, tell your parents and contact a lawyer. no one should be harrassed like that. if he gets suspended, so what? your friend wont take a stand for you,dont put up with that sh*t to keep her loser in school.
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No one has a right to be bully, and especially making threats of violence. You need to tell the GLC. Remember this, though: when you go in, you can do so without the knowledge of your friend or this guy. Tell them you are telling them this in strict confidence. Making them aware of the situation, will prompt them to alert others to watch this guy. You don't need evidence to do this. If he is doing things to others, and leaving "visible" clues such as the banana, or signs, then it's much easier for them to bring this guy in and say.. "there have been several people that have noticed these things" and bust him on it. No one has to know it was you or any other of his victims. For all he knows, it could have been some adult that witnessed what he was doing.
Sure, if he's busted, it might be assumed you had something to do with it. Whether you admit to that or not is up to you, but you could just tell him the more crap he pulls, the more chance someone is going to notice and nail him on it. He's creating his own consequences.
Good luck and go report this crap. Don't let this guy bring you down!
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Some friend you got for not sticking up for you while her boyfriend is doing all that mean stuff to you. Whatever happened to friends 4ever? and never choosing a guy over your bf? Have things just changed that much since I was in school? My advice is very simple and I do hope you follow it if for no other reason that the simple fact that you deserve better. Tell the GLC about what he is doing to you and find a new friend.
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Hi there!! well if your friend doesn't want to to tell the GLC then tell her to tell her boyfriend to stop harassing you or she will break up with him.... If she doesn't want to do that tell the GLC as soon as possible! That guy is such a looser, and a bully and needs to be learned some manners!
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The fact that he said he wants to hurt you throws up red flags. I would definitely tell someone before his behavior gets any worse. I'm not sure what the GLC is, but chances are, they have to investigate your complaint whether they believe you or not. If you could find someone to back you up or tell what he has done to them, it may help.
As for your friend, I think it's a chance you'll have to take. Hopefully one day soon, she'll realize what kind of guy this one is and understand that you had to protect yourself. I hope for her sake that the day comes soon since this guy appears to have the characteristics of an abuser.
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Look it may come to the point, where he may want to physically hurt you. You have to think of your own safety, and honestly, a true friend (no matter how blinded by love she may be) would not put you in such a position. She obviously chose his side, and you need to worry about protecting yourself. If she accuses you of being a bad friend or whatnot, you tell her write back that she's the one not being the good friend, because it sounds to me that if the roles were reversed, you would try to put a stop to your boyfriend's harassing.
I hope I was of some help, please remember to always do what's in your heart. Good Luck!
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I think you should tell on him. The reason he continues to bully people is because he gets away with it. Maybe if you say something others will be brave enough to come forward as well.
As far as your friend not liking you anymore...its a chance you'll have to take. You seem to continue being her friend even though her boyfriend treats you badly. Why should what you do to get it to stop be any different?
Hopefully she will get a clue about her boyfriend one of these days. When she does, she will want to be friends again. Why she would even stay with someone who is mean and cruel to her friends doesn't say a lot for her backbone!
Keep an eye on her regardless of what happens. Make sure this guy doesn't mistreat her. He sounds like a potential abuser to me.
Good luck and don't take anymore crap! :)
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