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Hey! My name is Emily and I am 14, I signed up because I came across the site and my friend suggested I sign up because I am like the adviser of our group and people come to me with thier problems. I like helping people and try to give the best advice I can where possible. I am best at relationships ect but will give any other challenges ago!! And my pic sucks but I tried putting one of me but it kept saying file size too big, I got annoyed and settled for my msn pic!

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well i am having a baby and i got from when i got raped and my boyfriend said i will be the dad and i'll help buy things. i hope he does but i am afraid that we stay together and the baby sees him as daddy and calls him daddy then we breakup and what i will do to tell me child he's not daddy anymore

I think its good that you are keeping the baby after all you have been through. I suggest having the baby call your boyfriend by his first name, this will make it easier when the child is older if a split occurs, it also means when the child is old enough they will be able to understand better. This would let your child build up a relationship with him. Although I feel allowing the child to call him daddy could also help as even if you split your boyfriend will have built up a father son relationship anyway so will be most likely to wish to continue this. You have to decide what you thinks best.
Hope I helped :P
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Does any one know any songs that like i could take a phrase and put it in my AIM profile. My dad died and i want to put a song like I WIll remember you- by sarahM. in it but i dont know anymore. Thanks

1st Lady - Missing you

It's hard for me to tell you I love you
As I'm standing over your grave
And I know I'll never hear your voice again
Why did you leave me
Why couldn't you just stay
Because my world is nothing, without you
Now I don't know what to do, with myself

Here are some of the lyrics:

I would've given you anything
Just to make you happy
Just to hear you say, that you love me one last time
I'd go to hell and back over and over again
Just to prove to you how much I need you here
There is nothing that I wouldn't do
I'd cry for you (cry for you)
I'd lie for you (lie for you)
And there's no doubt that if I could take your place in heaven
I would die for you, yes I will
I would rather give up my life
Than to see tears in your eyes
I can't stand to see you cry

Hope I helped
xordinarygirlx

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i need to know how to get pass internet blocks so i can log on to facebook?

We have this at our school, try

www.joeproxy.com

it allows you to type in what site you wish to access and get to it (if your school hasn't already banned this site) if this doesn't work try googling anti-proxy's there are bound to be a few that your school system hasnt detected yet.

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i need to no what to do? i have a girlfriend but she says she doesnt want anyone all in her business so no one really knows we are a couple. how should i handle this situation?

First of all this question is very brief!!

If you are younger and you are her first boyfriend she might be scared about how her parents and friends will react, she may be worried about how long you will last also if you are her first boyfriend (or if she has had not many boyfriends/troubled relationships in the past) she might not want to tell people incase you leave her for someone 'better' which would obviously be embarrassing. If this is the case take it as a compliment, she thinks you have higher standards because you are a better guy than she could dream for..

Now for handling the situation, if you are close you should try talking to her more about it. Try not to ask to many questions just listen to what she has to say. In the end you need to decide if not telling people pleases her then maybe its the best thing as it will get out eventually but for now you should respect her wishes. OR end it, this is what i recommend if she refuses to tell people after a considerable amount of time. She would obviously have some issues and if she is not willing to let you help her through them the best thing is to leave her, she may just need some space and be regreting the relationship. I know it sounds harsh but you dont deserve to be treated like that. You need to make the descision, but dont give up unless it seems there is no point in the relationship at all.

Hope I helped :P
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Ok well i have a friend who I can talk w/ abou my issues. Me and her go through the same stuff, right? Well, I read one of her and my other friends conversation. She was sayign how she htought she could talk to me about the stuff we're going through but she thinks I onyl talk about myself. And I only care abou myself. what can I do to prove her wonrg and show her that i realy care abotu her too? Thank-you

Just listen more to her, even though you are going through the same things she might like to try and explain things for a bit. Let her talk and listen, give advice referring to your problems so she knows that you still have problems but you care about her too. The more you are there and the more you listen she will realise you care....you obviously do because you want to prove you do but the best way to show if by listening, and giving advice, also try and find more close friends (e.g. i have two best friends and 3 close close friends) so i can balance how much i tell them with how much i help them. The more people you can find to listen to you the less pressure she will feel under.

I hope I helped :P
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Could someone tell me the best thing to use to whiten my teeth. Brushing with whitening toothpaste doesnt satisfy me and i want some thing quick and easy. I have already tried Crest Night Effects Whitening Gel and its really messy and hard to apply. Is there anything easier to apply that i could get at walmart? I have thought about the whitening strips but i am unsure. Thanks in Advance!

My dad uses baking soda and he is a smoker with perfect teeth!It really works and if not you could always get them cleaned by your dentist for a minor cost!!

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I am 13, and all my friends shave their legs except me and one other peron. I always tell my mom to wash my sweat pants. She is like "If your wearing thooses just because you don't shave your legs than well go to the store and get you a razor!" And of course I say "What, No Mom!" because I don't like talking to her about that kind of stuff.(shaving, periods, dating, boys, whatever)
I want to shave because every one always looks at me wierd when they can see my legs and I have never worn a skirt shorter that my ankles since I was a little kid. I REALLY want to shave my legs, but I just don't how to tell my mom or what to say to her. What should I do?

I would say you were lucky....next time your mum says this just say would you mind? it should be a short simple question and she seems to have no problem with you shaving your legs. If you keep putting it off you may still be dreading the conversation at 16, just get it over with, its not one of them conversations that is likely to be repeated (e.g. with boys and periods) once you have had it thats it, sorted...if you are worried how she will react the best way is to act calmly just say oh would you mind? thanks!! and carry on with whatever you were doing....if you dont make it a big deal she shouldnt either,

hope I helped :P
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Wow, Right, I am 13 years old...this is going to sound terrible but i have had sex wit this boy. GR. Me and that boy are no longer together :( My period was suppose to come on the 14th of March...did it? NO.. But then on the 1st of April.. I began to bleed. I thought it was my period. But now im starting to think differntly because the blood comes out on the tampon..but not the pad. I have been very depressed lately trying to figure out wat to do. I am very scared. I dont want to tell my mom cuz i dont know what she'd do. My friend said he'd give me money for an abortion if i am pregnant but i think abortion is murder and completely wrong...what should i do?

OK,first of all i suggest seeing your doctor to find out if you are definatly pregnant because periods at that age can be a bit unpredictable and irregular any way. If you are pregnant i suggest teling your mum, she may be angry you have had sex but in the long run it is best she finds out while something can be done about it. I am not suggesting you have an abortion if you do not agree with them but you could always put the child up for adoption, I am sure there are hundreds of childless couples that would be delighted to have a newborn baby, and that means you would still be able to see the child grow up as many adoptive parents encourage the real mothers (fathers) to have some contact with the child. I also suggest telling the boy if you are pregnant, it may not be what he wants to hear but he may be able to help support you even if you have broken up. I would never suggest getting an abortion if it is against what you believe but you must consider it as an option and not be too critical if you feel you could not deal with giving the child away. I also recommend not having any more sexual relationships until you are older, it will ensure you are not in this position again until you are much more capable of dealing with it and talking to adults about this will be easier.

I hope I helped :P
xordinarygirlx

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I've been searching for ages for a dress for 8th grade graduation. I don't want to involve my parents in the actual dress buying, so I'm on my own in paying for it. I'd love to find something under 50$, but i might be able to go over that. I'd rather not buy online, because that'd involve my mom more than i'd like, but i think I'll have to. My question is that is there any good stores around Lexington, ky that sells awesome dresses?
Thanks!

Im not sure if there is one nearby but Tkmaxx is where i got my graduation outfit from and they are quite cheap.

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xordinarygirlx

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OK so im only 14/f and im pretty skinny. I have stretch marks on my inner thighs. Nobody my age that i know has these.. is this even normal? and summer is coming up soon and its like oh there goes wearing a bikini, because its embarrasing. Is there anything cheap that i can get at a local store that will get these away. Its like when you have a baby its that bad but on my thighs. Its really embarrasing so i always wear shorts. Is there ANYTHING that will help??? Please i'll rate 5's!!!

Im not sure if there are any real ways of getting rid of them but I read having the stretch marks in exposure to the sun can help fade them. I recommend sun bathing in the back garden for example where you would not feel embarrassed and hopefully your problem will be sorted in time for going out with friends.

Hope I helped :P
xordinarygirlx

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I have so many peoples around my mouth and fourhead. I get them all the time even though i was my face every morning with acne rudusing face was (clearisl).

I don't eat that great but yet i'm still thin-ish.
should i work out more and drink water or what?

i need to get rid of my acne within a week before i hang out at this party i'm going to.

I get spots mainly when im not eating that great. Even though the food you are eating is not affecting you wieght this may be beacuse you use it all in excercise. I recommend eating a little more healthily and drinking more water. I also use Freederm which is another acne treatment whoich i found works better than clearasil and can be bought at most chemists.
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Is it ok to ask the guy you like to prom on msn? I kinda work with him and we talk a little bit here and there. I think he likes me, but we haven't really hung outside of work. Would asking over msn be weird?

I dont see why not, msn can be a good way to ask if you fear rejection because you would not have to see him face to face and see the reaction. But if you are really interested in this guy i would get to know him better face to face and then you would probably find asking more comfortable.

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Okay. I was supposed to get my period at..eh..around the 20 of last month. obviously i haven't. :( and i'm a bit confused why.

I'm NOT sexually active, nor have I ever had sex.
I'm 13.
But I can't say that defensivley because there are many people my age sexually active.

I just got over being sick..could that effect it?

Thanks for your help. :]

As you are still at an age where periods and development have only just begun your periods may not yet be regular and have some random patches. I read somewhere you have to be at least seven stone to start your periods so if you have been ill recently you may have lost some weight resulting in the stopping of your periods.

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Hey, I have a question. It involved me going to the concert with my dad that I really wanted to go to last night and with my boyfriend going to the school dance. My freind told me he was dancing with a ton of girls. This kind of makes me jealous and I don't know if it is normal to get jealous. Do you think guys shouldn't dance with other girls if they have a girlfriend already?
thanks

Its perfectly normal to be jelous but he probably just wanted to have a laugh. It depends how he was dancing, as a mate or as a method of flirting. Considering the circumstances I would say he was trying to make the most of it even though you wern't there. I think ts fine for boyfriends to dance with other girls as long as thats all they do!! Its all a matter of trust, you need to think about if its likely he would do that to you...you need to be more trusting and believe the best in him...thats why

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I was recently asked to attend a party a friend of mine is hosting. I would love to go hang out with my friend and meet new people. But there are a couple problems with this. I wont know anyone at all and Im not exactly a social butterfuly, my friend lives really far away, the party will be at night and Im not the best driver at night, and Im afraid since no one knows me I will be left out of conversations.

How can I politely say no? I want my friend to keep inviting me to do other things, but not this particular event.

I rate.

I think you should go tho this party. You could always drive up during the day and stay over night. This way you can have some drinks as well. All you need to do is start conversations yourself, don't wait to be included get in there bring up topics and make sure people listen to what you have to say. If you feel left out all you need to do is let your friend know, they will get you involved or stay with you.

If you really want to say no, just explain it to your friend.I think the best option is going because you are going to feel the same at the next event, and the one after.

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I have a group of friends at school that I have been hanging out with since Semptember. I have known one of them since last year. We all became very close very fast and I liked that. Lately, however, I have been feeling as if I am drifting father away from them. I don't want this. I want to be close to them again. They went up to one of my friend's cottage without and they spend a lot of time together without me. They have so many inside jokes. I feel really inferior. Does it sound like I am being paranoid? Should I talk to them about it or just leave it alone? How can I become closer with them agian?

Thanks, I will rate high for good answers.

You are NOT paranoid! We have a friend who recently told us she feels left out because we have inside jokes....she was in your situation. She told us about it and it really helped because we didnt know how she was feeling or that it bothered her so much...we made sure shw came out with us more so she was there when the inside jokes were made. I suggest telling them they probably dont even realise it bothers you...and thats not because they dont take notice of you...being in a group of friends can be difficult I suggest trying to find a person in that group you can be close with because that means you will never be left out if they go off again.

Hope I helped xordinarygirlx :P

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are there any cheap concealers or liquid foundations that dont bloch and stay on for at least a few hours? i have been using trublend but it blotches on my face and comes off before school ends.
please help! ill rate 5s

I use boots own because its cheap and it works....it costs me 50p ago and covers my spots and eye bags really well. I wear with matt mousse foundation and a light powder...flawless lol!
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Hey im 13f and it seems everyone has a boyfriend of girlfriend but me. It's really starting to bother me lately because ive liked this guy for over a year and he's known about it but doesnt do anything. I want to get over him and try and move on and meet a new guy, but its kind of hard because i get really shy and are extremely afraid of rejection. So really my questions are how to get over this guy and how to get to know new ones

thanks i rate 5's for good advice =)

I know what you are feeling i'm 14 and everyone in my year seems to have a boyfriend or girlfriend as well. I suggest you go to maybe a youth group/club where people will have similar interests as you. If you do there will be various conversations which you can chat and flirt with guys in and hopefully you will find one with similar tastes and opinions as you. If you ignore the fact you like this guy and concentrate on meeting new people eventually you will meet someone better who will treat you like you deserve and then you will have a boyfriend like the others!!
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Okay, so everyone works now in days and i want to work so bad. im 16 years old and i dont want to be asking my parents for money no more. so i ask them if i can get a job but they keep on saying NO because im still young and still am in school. they dont want me to be behind on credits but i really want to work. what can i do so that they can change their minds about me working and getting my own money?

Just because you are at high school doesnt mean you cant work. Try suggesting weekend jobs to your parents time which is out of school and you wouldnt be doing homework in. Tell them you need to learn to be independant and you want to have some experience (no matter how small) in basics e.g. shop work before you have to work for a living at University or at your chosen career. Try to relate it back to valuable life skills and they should be happier about it. DONT GIE UP!! xordinarygirlx :P

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I got a friend that copies me and now i think she likes the boy i like.


-Amber

What should i do about the copying and then boy liking? I'm not flattered about it either i shouldn't be.

There is a girl in our form who will do anything to fit in, she will like the same music, boys, clothes to anyone new she meets to try and get them to like her. Maybe it is the same with your friend try and let her know just because you might not have the same interests doesnt mean she isnt your friend and try and get across its putting you off her a bit. With the boy it is probably fake and if its not she might like him, me and my friends have similar taste in boys but it doesnt come between us. I wouldnt be flattered either but the best thing to do is to try and get her to get a mind of her own and tell her you dont have to be identical to be friends.

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