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me and my boyfriend and my baby
well i am having a baby and i got from when i got raped and my boyfriend said i will be the dad and i'll help buy things. i hope he does but i am afraid that we stay together and the baby sees him as daddy and calls him daddy then we breakup and what i will do to tell me child he's not daddy anymore
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do you two really love eachother??? if so GET HITCHED. if not then find someone else.
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I think its good that you are keeping the baby after all you have been through. I suggest having the baby call your boyfriend by his first name, this will make it easier when the child is older if a split occurs, it also means when the child is old enough they will be able to understand better. This would let your child build up a relationship with him. Although I feel allowing the child to call him daddy could also help as even if you split your boyfriend will have built up a father son relationship anyway so will be most likely to wish to continue this. You have to decide what you thinks best.
Hope I helped :P
xordinarygirlx
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I'm proud of you for being strong enough to keep this baby and love it. If your boyfriend is going to be like a father to the child you can let him and this is really wonderful of your boyfriend. At some point in your child's life however they are going to have to learn that he is not the true father and for this reason it might be easier if he were called "Uncle" or called by his first name. It would be no different to a parent who had a divorce or had a husband die and was dating someone else when the baby was born. You can't worry about what will happen if you break up, just take every day at a time and focus on the love and attention the child is getting each day. Also, pray about it and let the child know that his true father is his "Heavenly Father" who was there for his from his moment of conception and will never leave him.
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Wow, my stomich dropeed thinking about that. Wow, but you should just sit down with hima nd dicuss all of it. discuss what a big responabilty it is, and that have him promise that even if you too break up he will stil come vist like a daddy becuase evrey baby needs a daddy.
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im sorry you got raped... but if you're so worried about it you could have gotten an abortion.
But if he says he will be the father then let him. dont worry about it. even if you break up you can still let the baby call him daddy... same as divorcing you know?
things are good NOW dont make it bad in the future already
Rae <3
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