Member Since: February 28, 2013
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I'm fat. i want to reduce my weight. I have decided to walk. Now I'm 75 kg and 5'2. how long should i walk to reduce my weight faster? (link)
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30-45 minutes or for an hour should be good. If you've been waling on a road or flat area, try going hiking or walking somewhere very hilly for more of a workout. If you're feeling up to it, you could even try running or intervals of running & jogging. Good luck.
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theres this guy that im totally in.hes diferent than the boys ive been with before,we have lots of stuff in comment and he has the best sence of humor.but i tend to fall for guys very fast and doesnt work out that great usually,but he doesnt even know im into him and i really dont want to be rejected,so what the hell should i do? oh and im 15 btw :) (link)
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You are 15. This is your time to have fun and experiment with relationships and other things. If you like this guy and he's different from other people you've dated, why not try it? It will be a fun, different experience.
If you feel comfortable asking him out (or even just letting him know how you feel), go ahead and do that. If not, just enjoy the friendship you have with him and if something happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. Don't stress, and enjoy yourself.
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I was in a LDR with a friend from college. Basically, we met a few years ago and caught up last year but haven't seen each other. We made plans for me to come out there and stay with him for awhile to test out the waters and see if we want to be together. Recently, we've gotten into a huge fight and he said he was done. We didn't talk for a few days. He said he still wants me to come see him and stay there. But I don't feel comfortable anymore. I care about him so much, but the things he said and got mad for bothered me. I'm stressed out feeling like he's always going to leave. I told him that if he cares about me, he will come see me. If things go well, I will go back with him. But he won't. He said I need to prove myself and go stay with him. He's blaming our failing relationship on me since I haven't gone to see him. But he's not showing me anything. He won't see me either. How do you start to move on from someone? I just can't seem to do it. (link)
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Long distance relationships require two things: people who really, really, really want to be in them and an end date in sight. I don't think you two have either of those things. If he makes you mad now, imagine how it would be if you (for example) lived with him and had to deal with him infuriating you every day.
Also him delivering ultimatums about you having to "prove" yourself is a major red flag. Continue the relationship if you want, but I don't see it ending well.
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and the fact that I won't be able to attend her funeral tomorrow afternoon.
This was a girl-my age-who was in a car crash with her mom and two other boys, though they are fine and her mom is crying and blaming it on herself, the entire school is feeling it's effects. She died on Tuesday, Tuesday afternoon, I learned Wednesday. Everybody was crying and hugging each other, some even went home of sadness and paranoia, the shock really. Her locker is now covered with cards and heaven wishes, and my locker is next to hers. I cry when I go to my locker now, cry when I see my friends cry. I did avoid my locker today, and yesterday too. The whole week Wednesday forward has been unstable. I cry in my sleep now, and I had a nightmare last night. My parents have tried to cheer me up, but it's not working. I didn't even know the poor sweet girl, yet I feel a sort of connection with her, and she was only in one of my classes (homeroom) and my Gym class. She was an athlete, playing three sports in one year, another to grow on that. But she's gone now ... I wish I had gotten to know her better, have said "bye" to her before we left school Tuesday ... but it's too late. (link)
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This happened to me when I was in high school. If you continue having nightmares and feeling stressed, go talk to a counselor about your feelings. Your school has probably set up people as grief counselors for this very reason.
This stuff happens, and it is very sad, but focus on celebrating the girl's life and rallying around her family and friends for support. They need it, just like you do.
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what if my vagina is not big enough for a penis (link)
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It probably is; after all, an entire baby can fit through. Try easing yourself up to the size of the penis using fingers/sex toys/etc until it's more comfortable. When having sex, make sure there is lots of foreplay/lube used, that will help. If you cannot even say get your fingers inside yourself or anything else, you should look up vaginismus (which is an actual medical condition).
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So I get super bored in some of my classes - Whether if I'm done with everything, or if my teachers are doing something for a long time.
I can't have my phone out, so what else can I possibly do to make class time to go a little faster? Thanks! (link)
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If you like to read, bring a book. If you don't, maybe bring a book anyway, or a magazine or something. If you like drawing doodle shit on your notes. It's school, and there's going to be a lot of downtime forever. Whatever you like doing, use the extra time to work on that.
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Ever heard of the saying, can't teach an old dog new tricks? Well, i'm beginning to live by that saying. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. The relationship starting on purely sex and unexpectedly we fell in love. (How romantic.) Anyway, my boyfriend is older (not 40, jeez) and I am 22. When we first met, he would be at my house every night. He would sneak out early in the mornings to miss meeting my father, (which was suspected, since he was "you know what-ing" his daughter.) Since the first night we left the bar together, he hasn't left my house since. I promised myself that I would not be the one to say the three words first, this relationship has been a lot different than my past ones. Accidentally one night, while laying in bed.. the three words slipped out of his month and it's been history since. Slowly, months and months after we've been together I slowly started to know the real him. He is crazy! He acts like a 14 year old stuck in a man's body. He drives me crazy! He's always jumping around like he has ADHD (which I'm fairly sure he does.) He makes me feel like i'm biotch because I have to reprimand him so much. I am not a moody bitch. I know how to have fun, but I also know when to be serious and he doesn't. I can't stand it. I always try now to give him ultimatums, sit down and talk like growns up. But then again, he does not act his own age. But I love him to death. Just when I'm about to call it quits, it's like he is all of sudden back the person I fell in love. I want to give him a reality check and take a month apart from living together. It is my house, after all.) But all of his things are here and I'm not sure where else he could go. I'm just looking for some advice from some mature people, who may think the same as me. HELP! (link)
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The real him was always there, you were just ignoring it because you were blinded by lust. Once things got serious, you started to notice because you re-evaluated him as a serious partner. If he really is so much older than you and is dating someone as young as you, he probably was a man-child all along.
You just need to sit down and ask yourself if you actually love him to death or if you are just sticking around because you feel like you should. I honestly think that the problem is somewhat that you have been living together for the fwb to relationship transition. If you really think it is best, take some time away from him. That might help you to evaluate the situation more objectively without being annoyed by him.
At the end of the day, you're 22. If things don't work out and his juvenile nature drives you up the wall completely, just dump him. It's hardly the end of the world.
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How do you suck dick w/o using teeth?
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Use your lips to cover them and just be careful. Have fun!
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So me and my best friend (We have known each since August of 2012.) And we were approaching 50,000 messages on facebook. (I'm a girl he's a guy btw)And we were counting down the messages. I said3...2...1...And then boom! He messages, "I love you." and I did the smiley face and said tomatoes (I had told him previously this was what my 50,000th message would be. And later on he said I really did mean it by the way.. What do I do???? (link)
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If you don't like him make this clear. If he gets angry at you for not returning his feelings, then he is not actually your best friend and you've learned a valuable lesson. Don't let him guilt trip you about this. You don't owe him anything, especially not a relationship.
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I'm a 23 year old female, working and studying. I've been with my boyfriend for 6years and we recently got engaged. I have had feelings for other men throughtout this relationship, but I never did anything about it. I went away for a few months and met this guy from jordan - we started seeing each other and now he says he love me etc. I don't want to give up what I have with my fiance, but at the same time I want to run away with this other guy or sometimes just run away on my own and disappear. If I do, I'm sure I will lose my family and friends, because he is another nationality.I'm a very pessimistic person - so I don't believe either of them when they say they love me no matter what. I believe all people are bound to be cheaters, might be becuase of my past.my fiance is more than amazing though. He loves me no matter what I do or say. He wants to provide for me - and he knows me inside and out.everyone LOVES him and say I'm the luckiest girl alive. I have clearly landed jackpot with him - but why am I still reaching out to other guys...? At this moment: reaching out to this guy.I don't want to say too much about myself as it may give away who I am. So I will just say I'm from a conservative part of the world and English isn't my first language. (link)
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Ask your boyfriend if he would be all right with an open relationship. Seriously. Then you don't have to worry about cheating, as long as you honestly tell him what is going on.
If you can't or won't do that, here's my other advice: you are basically experiencing the 7 year itch. You are currently questioning whether or not you want to be with your fiance for the rest of your life. The good news is even if you continue your relationship with him, you don't have to be with him for the rest of your life. The bad news is you have to do some very honest thinking with yourself whether or not this is what you want. If it's not, you owe it to your boyfriend to be honest. You are only 23, it is not a big deal if you break up. You have been together since you were a teenager, and a lot of things have changed in 6 years.
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17/F.
It's my first time here asking a question here, so do pardon me if it's too long. Truthfully, i'm in a state of severe depression. I've already come to the point where i'm starting to lose myself drastically, in and out. My self-esteem has reached 1/10 let alone self-confidence and i'm not getting any happier with my life. I feel very, very worthless but i won't commit suicide anyway. I still believe that i've a mission to fulfill.
The thing is, i'm giving up day by day. My grades were very bad last year and certain tragedies took place which somehow affected the way i think of myself. I'm supposed to sit for my major examination this November, and my goal is to achieve 9A+s so i can further my studies in a medical university but i just can't do it. I don't believe i can achieve that kind of success anymore. I'm beginning to feel as if everything's impossible. I'm the only child in my family, and there's pressure on me too but not by my parents, it's just me.
I used to be 'successful'. I was a great athlete, i participated in a lot of competitions and used to be the top student until the end of last year came. I no longer participate in anything. I'm becoming more quiet and isolate myself because of inferiority complex and took a long, hard time moving on after i broke up with an ex (but i'm getting better and more independent), and i had issues with studying. I didn't really understand the subjects and i didn't know it would affect me so bad. I'm in the middle class family, which means i've no reason to fail and now's already 28th February. Only 8 months to go before the exam starts and yes, i feel like''I didn't even pass the subjects and now i expect myself to be successful ? Heck no it'll never work i'll just end up being an idiot.'' My circle of friends are getting smaller, but fortunately the ones i have now are great and nice ones although, i never believe i can fit in with them. I still miss my old friends who i'd text a lot everyday, the happy times, but yeah, they've changed and maybe i lost them.
The other sad thing is, i used to be someone who would motivate people regardless how young or old they are. I held on to the belief that i can do anything and i'll never give up at all and everyone should feel the same way, and i did believe that obstacles are natural and i could overcome them but now, i'm inverse to those. I'm the one who's extremely demotivated and i feel as if the burden on me is something so, so painful. I never did cry, but now, tears are just as common. Laughter is far away, i might look jubilant when i'm with people but when i'm alone, the frowning expression takes place everyday. I don't have the interest in doing homework which i used to love so much because of the fact that i'm stupid in knowledge.
I do need help on how to stand up again. At the same time, i'm reading motivational books but it's hard when it's me being the one who's out of self-belief. Please, help me. My strength is depleting. (link)
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Have you considered talking to a therapist or getting on medication? I am NOT a medical professional but it sounds to me like you are exhibiting some signs of depression.
You are going through the stuff a lot of people your age are -- you've been told you are spectacular your whole life, and when you start to have problems, you don't know how to deal with them. Here's my advice (aside from the above): don't worry so much about what you're going to do or where you're going to go. Take some time to really, really, really honestly think about what you truly love to do and what you want to do. Then go towards that. And what you honestly want to do, not what someone else wants you to do.
Life is full of fun, exciting things. Find them, enjoy them. That's all there is to it (and I say this as a person with a severe anxiety disorder & depression myself).
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how do you get with a girl? (link)
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What to do: ask her on a date. If she says no, get over it and ask someone else.
What not to do: become her "friend" with the expectation that if you put in kindness coins, sex will come out.
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I have posted on here before about my boyfriend.
I love him quite a lot and I believe he loves me too. We have been together for a year and things have gone well. However, I feel I am not taken seriously and that I am sometimes taken advantage of. He currently lives with his friend and I stay over a lot. His lease is up soon and he wants to get a house with his friend. He always says things using "we" but he is only talking about him and his friend. We have been together through a lot (he was homeless and his ex wouldn't let him see his daughter) we have spoken about how we really have been through things and I feel like at this point we should really talk about a future but all he wants is to live with his friend. I never get to see him and spend time with just him because his friend is always with us. I want to tell him I want us to live together and not his friend but I worry he will say no or think I am moving too fast. How could I bring it up in casual conversation? I am so sick of his friend being around 24/7
Another issue is he is always out running errands and has his daughter over 3 days a week. He often would ask if I could watch her for a minute while he ran out with his friend or something. I didn't mind this because I love her and like helping him. However it has slowly evolved into he just assumes I am going to watch her and doesn't ask. He also leaves her with me for over an hour sometimes. He knows it makes me angry and it really frustrates me because I feel used. She is his daughter and it isn't fair that I spend more time with her than she he does. How do I confront him on it?? I am in desperate need. I love him but these things need to change. (link)
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It's good that you seem to already have an avenue of conversation with your boyfriend. Use that. Talk to him and make him understand that you feel pushed to the side and unwanted. If things don't get better, you're going to get more and more frustrated until things explode, honestly. If he doesn't listen to you, I don't think you should deliver any sort of ultimatums but if he doesn't understand what you want, just continue doing what is best for you and try to find other things to do without him. You'll be happier with yourself, and he might try to come along with you if you're doing fun things he isn't involved in.
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her 22 year old sister is in jail for one year for financial crimes. I have decided to allow her younger 17 year old sister to visit but I don't want her to be affected badly by the visit and I am not sure if she really should be in a prison environment, also she might sympathize with her sister and want to "join" her in some weird way or want to get involved in criminal activities as well. I am still wondering if this is a good idea at all. How can I prepare her and what should I tell her beforehand.
is it even a good idea to let her visit? (link)
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If your daughter wants to visit her sister, I think you should let her. Your daughter in prison likely needs all the support she can get, although I don't know much about your situation. My best advice though is to follow your intuition. If you think it will be bad for both of them, be hesitant.
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What are some good healthy meals??And healthy juices and drinks??How many times a day should i start working out??Im not real real heavy but i am over weight.I had lost weight before and felt really good about myself.How can i get there again??How can i control my junk food craving habits??What are some outdoor activities i can do that will help me loose weight??I really need your advice?? (link)
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If you're trying to lose weight, avoid sugar & excessive refined carbs. Eat protein (meat, soy, eggs) and veggies. Try to cook your own meals. Once per day every other day should be sufficient for working out. Try to aim for 30-45 minutes, or an hour depending on the activity you're doing. Focus more on doing things that make you feel good & happy instead of hoping the number on a scale will make you happy. It won't. You feel good because you are doing something good for yourself, not because you lose a particular amount of weight. The only real way to control junk food cravings is to stay away from junk food. Try to empty your house of it, or if you can't, keep it on a shelf out of eye view. Go hiking, biking, or (best of all if you can do it) swimming to get outdoor workouts. Find pretty places that make you happy and walk (or run if you can) to them. Good luck! But please remember that if you are unhappy with yourself or life, losing weight is not the only solution.
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