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How do I move on?
I was in a LDR with a friend from college. Basically, we met a few years ago and caught up last year but haven't seen each other. We made plans for me to come out there and stay with him for awhile to test out the waters and see if we want to be together. Recently, we've gotten into a huge fight and he said he was done. We didn't talk for a few days. He said he still wants me to come see him and stay there. But I don't feel comfortable anymore. I care about him so much, but the things he said and got mad for bothered me. I'm stressed out feeling like he's always going to leave. I told him that if he cares about me, he will come see me. If things go well, I will go back with him. But he won't. He said I need to prove myself and go stay with him. He's blaming our failing relationship on me since I haven't gone to see him. But he's not showing me anything. He won't see me either. How do you start to move on from someone? I just can't seem to do it.
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Long distance relationships require two things: people who really, really, really want to be in them and an end date in sight. I don't think you two have either of those things. If he makes you mad now, imagine how it would be if you (for example) lived with him and had to deal with him infuriating you every day.
Also him delivering ultimatums about you having to "prove" yourself is a major red flag. Continue the relationship if you want, but I don't see it ending well.
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