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Can't Teach an Old Dog New Tricks?
Ever heard of the saying, can't teach an old dog new tricks? Well, i'm beginning to live by that saying. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. The relationship starting on purely sex and unexpectedly we fell in love. (How romantic.) Anyway, my boyfriend is older (not 40, jeez) and I am 22. When we first met, he would be at my house every night. He would sneak out early in the mornings to miss meeting my father, (which was suspected, since he was "you know what-ing" his daughter.) Since the first night we left the bar together, he hasn't left my house since. I promised myself that I would not be the one to say the three words first, this relationship has been a lot different than my past ones. Accidentally one night, while laying in bed.. the three words slipped out of his month and it's been history since. Slowly, months and months after we've been together I slowly started to know the real him. He is crazy! He acts like a 14 year old stuck in a man's body. He drives me crazy! He's always jumping around like he has ADHD (which I'm fairly sure he does.) He makes me feel like i'm biotch because I have to reprimand him so much. I am not a moody bitch. I know how to have fun, but I also know when to be serious and he doesn't. I can't stand it. I always try now to give him ultimatums, sit down and talk like growns up. But then again, he does not act his own age. But I love him to death. Just when I'm about to call it quits, it's like he is all of sudden back the person I fell in love. I want to give him a reality check and take a month apart from living together. It is my house, after all.) But all of his things are here and I'm not sure where else he could go. I'm just looking for some advice from some mature people, who may think the same as me. HELP!
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The real him was always there, you were just ignoring it because you were blinded by lust. Once things got serious, you started to notice because you re-evaluated him as a serious partner. If he really is so much older than you and is dating someone as young as you, he probably was a man-child all along.
You just need to sit down and ask yourself if you actually love him to death or if you are just sticking around because you feel like you should. I honestly think that the problem is somewhat that you have been living together for the fwb to relationship transition. If you really think it is best, take some time away from him. That might help you to evaluate the situation more objectively without being annoyed by him.
At the end of the day, you're 22. If things don't work out and his juvenile nature drives you up the wall completely, just dump him. It's hardly the end of the world.
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