Ok. I prefectly understand your situation as I used to be exactly the same.
What I did, was spoke to someone at school about it. I spoke to a teacher I liked, and she helped me get counselling.
If you don't think you can do that, speak to a teacher, then what about a relative?
It doesn't have to be someone really close, so it could be an aunt or uncle or whatever.
Do you live in England or America? If you live in England I know some brilliant phone lines and websites that really really help. If not then I can get you some. I'll find you a website where you can talk to people that do the same thing, or did the same thing and are trying to stop or have stopped.
It's always better to talk to someone that's been through it because they understand why you do it.
I know it's very hard, but you have to seriously think about giving up. You say you do it to relieve pain and deal with situations, but is there not something else you could do?
How about writing in a diary? Or punching a pillow everytime you feel like doing it.
Start a "stop-cutting" diary. Write down when you cut and why you did it. Then you can look back and see how silly you're being and how this could affect your life. Then congratulate yourself everytime you want to do it and don't do it, count the day and after a month buy yourself something a treat for not doing it!
If you want those websites or numbers let me know where you're from and i'll help you some more.
I hope I helped.
xxx

Hey!
Well you've told him before how you feel, so why can't you now?
Maybe he's shy because he feels bad for hooking up with another girl and he may think you don't like him anymore.
Ask him what is up and whether he still likes you, straight out. You'll be glad you did and you have nothing to lose!
If he doesn't like you anymore and he tells you, it'll be a good kick start to just go out there and find someone new!
Good luck xxx

Hey!
Well, a party is a really big thing to plan, so maybe get all your mates together to think up some brilliant ideas.
Maybe a themed party, like a murder mystery..You could use all the rooms as possible murder rooms, make up a story, a murderer and a murder and then get people to find clues.
There are soo many things that you can do, so look on google for teen party ideas.
Make sure you get all your friends together to help you plan it though, 2 hands are better than one, and more of you are going to make it the best party ever!

Hey!
Basically, you're boyfriend is jealous that someone else likes you. This is perfectly normal, and you should feel pretty flattered.
However, you should talk to him about it and say you need to know what's going on.
Reassure him by letting him know that you like him and that you want him and no one else.
Make sure you talk to him yourself and if he acts odd, ask him what is up.
You shouldn't be left in the dark, so talk to him!
Good luck xxx

Hey!
No, birth control is not bad for everyone. However, I would suggest you have all your regular health check ups first and make sure you're in good health to start. If you are in perfect health for it then make sure when you get it, you read the leaflet. This will let you know all the side-effects that you could expect and what to do if you get them. That way if you do get any, you'll know what to do.
Good luck xxx

Hey!
You certainly need to ask your boss what is going on. Let her know that you know all the others have had shifts and you're not happy.
If she says she doesn't want you, ask why. You can always use these tips for your next job.
If she has no reason then she's being very unfair and you should let her know that you could try as hard as the others, given half the chance.
Good luck xxx

Hey!
I think you should just go for it. Guys love confidence and if you show that confidence he'll be jumping for joy!
Maybe he's been wanting to ask you, but been to shy.
After all, what have you got to lose!
Good luck! xxx

Heya hun!
Well, firstly, after having sex you can still get your first period. In fact you can have 9 months worth of periods (but very light ones).
If she has missed this one, tell her to give it 2 weeks after the "due date" and then take a pregnancy test.
Make sure she goes to the doctor as well, as she would need a second, maybe even a third to make sure.
Wish her luck xx

What about Blu Cantrell and Sean paul, breathe?
Or there's Xtina and Ricky Martin, nobody wants to be lonely.
There's plenty, try using google and type in R&B duets!
Good luck!

Firstly, you really don't want to go down to that weight again. More celebs are put in mags for looking too thin then for being too fat! Think about it, if you become too thin then you'll look worse, and you'll become ill too, which is NOT attractive!
Secondly, you need to be eating food that is good for you, of course a cookie is not great for your weight! Try salads, fruits, veggies, not only will you look better, but you'll feel better and a lot more healthy!
Lastly, there is no need to be obsessive about your weight. Weigh yourself every 2 weeks, and keep a chart of your weight. Make sure you're only eating foods that are good for you, and do plenty of toning exercises, like swimming, cycling or jogging.
A good tip is to make up a mantra, something like "I'm beautiful, healthy and I can acheieve anything". You may feel silly, but try saying this into the mirror 3 times a day, or when you're feeling down.
You'll have plenty more self confidence, which oozes onto other people. When people can see this, they'll start believeing your mantra too!
Good luck, and for more advice, just ask!

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Well, it looks like your in a bit of a dilemma.
There's nothing you can do if you don't like this bloke apart from tell him the truth. It will just hurt him more if you hold out any longer.
It doesn't mean that your best friend can't see his brother, because when she comes round, she can go round to his herself.
I know this is hard, but do not go to the exes friend. At least not for a very long time.
You could split up friends, and that is not nice at all!
Think about what you do carefully first, and if your really sure, ditch your boyfriend, but do not touch his friend for a looong time!

so intensity would be frequency x time? What was your time?
I think it's the frequency you did it times the time it took = intensity...intensity is how well you did it..i think!

Hey!
A girl like a guy with confidence, so don't get someone else to do it for you! Maybe some subtle flirting first would do the trick. Tell her you like the clothes she wears, or the way she does her hair..and then tell her that you like her.
Compliments are the way to a girls heart, so flatter her!

Hey!
This just sounds like dried blood. Are you sure that you haven't started but haven't noticed until it dried. This could be the case.
If not it could be strange discharge.
I know this is weird, but what does it smell like? If it doesn't smell like dried blood you may not to seek professional medical advice!
Good luck!

Woah, hold up..There's a lot of things that need to be covered in this.
I was a cutter once, and I know how very hard it is to stop.
I need to ask some questions, but I don't want to be rude..
How long have you been doing it?
Who knows?
Why do you feel that you do it?
If you can answer these I can help you more fully, if you don't want to then i'll do my best.
Cutting IS an addiction, no matter what critics say, and it IS very hard to stop.
What you have to remember, is that this scars for life..It can stop you getting jobs and is also classed as an illness.
I really want you to talk to someone about if, if you live in the UK, try going onto connexions-direct.co.uk, if not I can find an American helpline or website to help you!
Please, post another message if you want furthur help

Why not text a flirty message? Or put something in ur sn that is a giant hint!
Everytime you see him, just drop little hints here and there, like "I like that shirt your wearing." Something like that.
Find out what he's into and then talk about that, if you bring stuff up he likes, he'll know you've been thinking about him!

You can just feel it. You don't get a sign saying "I'm ready" and no one can tell you your ready.
As soon as you feel comfortable and you're with someone that you can talk to about it and you really want to lose your virginity with that's when!

Hmm...well this is all up to you. It's difficult to please everyone at once, and I know that you are going to want to.
So, just please yourself, pick the person you really want to go with..Or if you really can't decide over a few of them, section a different part of the night for them.
If it's really that bad, talk to them all about it and see if you could all go out together..Just think about how fun it would be if you had a HUGE group.
Don't stay in, make yourself happy and pick one, or two, or all of them!

In the last 45 years suicide rates have increased by 60% worldwide. Suicide is now among the three leading causes of death among those aged 15-44 (both sexes). Suicide attempts are up to 20 times more frequent than completed suicides.
Although suicide rates have traditionally been highest among elderly males, rates among young people have been increasing to such an extent that they are now the group at highest risk in a third of all countries.
Mental disorders (particularly depression and substance abuse) are associated with more than 90% of all cases of suicide. However, suicide results from many complex sociocultural factors and is more likely to occur during periods of socioeconomic, family and individual crisis (e.g. loss of a loved one, employment, honour).


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Hey my name's Bex, I'm 16 and I'm from the UK.
I'm a very outgoing and bubbly girl, but I never used to be.
I've been through a lot of things, from an alcoholic parent, to drug abuse, sex abuse and attempted suicide..So, if there's anything you want to ask, don't be shy!
I wanna be a counsellor some day, and this would really help.
Feel free to ask me anything!

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