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how can i keep from getting mad when my wifes girlfriend is always around and miss's my wife after only a day or two of not seeing her? she wants to be number one in her life and to be single like her so they can be together as much as possible. when i say something to my wife she gets mad and i lose my cool. how can i handle this correctly? (link)
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Look your wife loves you, how do i know? because she just does, but she is also a women, and we love to have friends and we like to keep them close. It's true that she should also spend some time with you because you guys are married tell her that you just want to spend more time with her, best thing to do is ask her on a date i know married people don't do this but when my dad asked my mom out she was so happy and excited. Look when she's with friend you need to accept that they are probably talking about you maybe in a good way or a bad way who knows but she needs somebody in her life that she doesn't live with.
Spend some time with her and if you feel like you're going to lose it count to ten. It helps:)
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If your penis is to big for your gf, but u still want to have sex how can u make it so it won't be so painful for her? (link)
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Okay it your penis can't be too be for your girlfriend i mean come on babies come out of there and unless your penis is as big as a babys whole body then i doubt you can't fit it through. look it's going to hurt no matter what you do, be proud that you have a big penis most men have really small ones and if your girlfriend is more worried or feeling the pain instead of being happy that you are holding then she's not too excited about having sex. Tell her you love her and that it will hurt but once it's in she won't feel it and if she does then i would rethink about how much she really loves you.
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Its this girl i met a month ago she said she had a real good time with me. She also told me when shes was around me everything was clearer. i told her she special to me and i really enjoy talking to her, she responded by saying the feelings mutual. we talk everyday our conversations usually last for an hour or more. But the problem is i haven't seen her sense the day we met, she blames her job should i leave her alone or keep pursuing her (link)
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it depends what you are doing at the moment to see her. I mean do you know where she works if so suprise her if not then ask her a week before to meet you cause you got something for her or a surprise and just get some chinese take out some scented candles and if you really want to inpress her then rose pedals but of course this isn't for all girls just surprise her with something that she would like. But if you have tried everything to get her to see you then you should probably move on, or go out with your friends have some fun and just watch when you least expect it she will call you and ask you to meet her.
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18 female
ive fallen for someone and i do not want to have feelings for them anymore. i know in the end that hes only going to hurt me, as he already has begun too. the problem is that i like him so much. he got what he wanted out of me though, and now i feel that he is slowly distancing himself. so i need help or advice on getting past him and these feelings. thanks.
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Well feelings are what makes us humans you can't really get rid of them but you can somehow distract yourself from them. Look you can't help but like or love this guy who as you wrote down seems like a jerk. You have to know one thing and that is that you are better then him, love him, hate him, long for him, and then turn away from him, but know that whatever happens you are better then him and it is his lose that he is distancing himself from you. Respect yourself and go find some hot bad boy and make him regret that he used you and left you. Or if you don't want to move then accpet your feelings learn to embrace them and maybe that will give you some kind of new found confidence.
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Hey Im 16 and a senior in highschool. I met this guy in an interschool competition. He's the same age but is a senior in some other school. We started talking after the competition and became good friends. We have gone out on three dates till now. And yeah, we have kissed each other and made out a little. We cannot resist each other at all. But the problem is that even though he says he is falling for me, he keeps telling me he cannot date me cause he's a bad guy and he cares for me too too much to hurt me. He says he is not one of those dateable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me.That would hurt me and he doesnt want to do that! He also liked this girl a year back and he says he feels guilty that he got over her and fell for me! But when we meet we actually act like we are dating, cause he gets me stuff, he tells me he loves me, we hold hands. I dont know what to do. Because I really want to be with him. But cant figure out how to make him ask me out? and if he is really a bad guy? HELP. (link)
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Well that is a diffcult question, it could be that he doesn't want a real relationship. You have to tell him how you feel because if you don't then he could easily cheat on you and it wouldn't be that bad cause two aren't dating. If he says he is a bad guy but there really isn't any evidence that he cheats and stuff then that probably means he's either lying and try to find some lame excuse to not going out with you or he's hiding something. Just take the plung and ask him on a date see how he reacts. Do you like him? Do you think about him all the time? Do you want him to be your boyfriend? If you answered yes to all of those questions then you have your answer. Go after what you want and get your man.
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I'm 15f I can't stop crying. I don't feel like me I'm a sophomore and I feel like noone truly likes me. I've tried changing and I don't know who I am. I want people to like me but I just feel like I don't belong where I am. I feel selfish for crying and feeling like this crap. But I can't help it. It's sophomore year everyone is in there cliques and I feel like an outsider I lost most of my friends mainly because of separation of classes and they eventually found new people. I think I pushed away people.. I don't know. I just want change in my life I think that I need a boyfriend to make me happy but you guys allways say you don't but wouldn't a friend make me happy. I try to be myself but noone likes me I do have friends just not close ones that idk I feel alone. Please help I feel depressed and I cry everyday (link)
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Yeah i think the same way. I feel like i can't breathe like i'm drowning in ice cold water and i get scared that no one will pull me out. I'm a loser i don't have many friends and i don't have anyone who can truly understand me. Will i started painting, yes painting and it helped i'm not good at it and i'll never be famous but it helps me because i feel like i'm in a different world where i'm not the ugly girl that no one cares about.I've realized that i only need one friend who will stand by me and who will love me for being me is enough and that i don't need anyone else. Sometimes i feel so lost. like i could die from my own self pity. Try painting it helps even if you suck at it you'll feel better after it. You are real which means that you're not some whore or some girl that wears a bunch of makeup and that is something sooooo special. Cherish yourself, cause you are beutiful and if people around can't see that then fuck them. But maybe you have to see yourself as someone unique and beutiful before you want others to see you that way. Be yourself and you'll get through this living hell:)
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Okay so first of all, some of you are going to think that I'm a b**** for saying this forgive me. I'm 20 years old and my sister is 26, most people say that at age 26 your brain is fully developed. I really feel like her brain is still under-developed because my sister tends to go for losers, and I'm really worried about her relationship with this one man.
He's 32 years old, I feel like at this point in his life if he was working towards his full potential in life he would have a bachelors degree and maybe even a masters, or a certificate in some kind of a trade. Instead he's been unemployed for a long time, living at his parents, and basically living off of them for over a year now. I understand that the economy is bad but if you're that serious about wanting to marry your girlfriend like he is telling her, you go to every employment agency and get work and then you save your money until you can find an actual job. I don't even believe that the man is really looking for a job, however my sister is too naive to see this.
I say this because I see a trait of laziness in him. I can basically judge this by saying that he dropped out of high school at 15. That might have been fine 40, 50 years before he dropped out of high school but you're not doing much with your degree now. He did get his GED and he has a 3.9, but the fact that he didn't fully graduate high school for stupid reason. I apologize to those of you who maybe out of high school for honest reasons, he dropped out because he didn't like going to school and he could cut. I think once you're lazy, you're always lazy... it's a character trait.
My sister in all other aspects, other than her selfishness I'm pretty proud of. The only thing that I'm ashamed is her boyfriend, the high school drop out, the man who I don't see getting anywhere in life. For a 26 year old woman who didn't finish college she has an amazing job, she's making $15.00/hour working as a customer service supervisor, a job that she quickly moved up towards after only a year of working at her company. She only has two years left of college and will be going back to school soon, and she wants to be a college professor.
Her downfall has always been men, I have no idea what it is with her. I think it may be because she saw my dad cheat on my mom numerous times, she read his emails to his ex girlfriend (that he had when he was married to my mom) and my parents are still married. All of her boyfriends in some way or another have been losers.
Her boyfriend Mike who she started dating at 16, who broke up with her after almost 3 years of dating when she was 18 going on 19 had dyslexia, and used it as a crutch, he also couldn't hold down a job. Then she dated a guy named Jeff who was a 36 year old truck driver accused of child molestation, after he apparently "gave the police photos of nude minors" in order to get it taken off the web, they dated for 8 months from the time she was 19 to 20... until he started talking about marriage. After Jeff was Tom who owned a construction company with his father, she dated him for 4 or 5 months, he was fine in all other aspects other than he was bi-polar, stopped taking his medication and went crazy for a little while. After Tom was Paul a construction worker, whose idea of going on a date was sitting in his car for hours and not taking her anywhere... they were off and on again for two years.
Jason is probably the worst though, he's a high school drop out, he's 32 and I don't see where his future is going to be... when I ask her that she won't even answer me. In her eyes she loves him and he's perfect for her, I don't see this. I think that someone who wants to be successful should date someone who has some what of a plan.
I bring this up to her all the time, because I'm really worried about this situation. It just turns into a fight, what it comes down to and I have plenty of evidence to show this she's choosing him over all of her family. She won't even go to our cousin's baby shower this month because she doesn't know when she's going to get to see Jason again. This is my cousin's first baby, and I really do believe that she should be... it really aggravates me that she's not going to be there, and what it comes down to is that all that she cares about are the future of Selene and Jason.
My sister says that my boyfriend is a loser, however he's really. He's 22 years old, already his associates, and is going to school for accounting... he's very smart and he is on the path to having a very successful future. He's already successful because he was the first one in his family ever to obtain a college degree. He's already accomplished A LOT, and I'm sure that he's going to accomplish even more in his future.
I would love for her to be a 30-something year old man whose going to take good care of her, who has a college education, has the credentials to get a good job one day. From what I know Jason doesn't really have any of those things.
This is turning into a rant, but what's the best way for her to see reality and have her date better guys? I'm really worried about who her future husband is going to be, and what of debt he's going to put her in in the future.
I know that this is really none of my business, but honestly I'm concerned. (link)
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From reading this i can feel that you love your sister alot which is really good and nice but she's 26 and you got to let her make her own stupid desicons. How do you know that when they're together that he doesn't hold her in his arms and tells her how much he loves her? How do you know that she doesn't fell like the luckiest girl alive just to be with him? Look i know that you're worried about her but she has to realize this on her own cause if she doesn't see it you telling her will only cause friction between you two because she will feel like you don't respect her enough to let her be with who she wants to be with. He's lazy and? He has two legs, two arms, his healthy isn't that enough. my boyfriend is in a wheel chiar and i wouldn't be able to live without him. Just put on a fake smile not for him but for the sister you love and respect. Sooner or later she'll realize that he either has to go or she want's to speand the rest of her life with him.
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17/f
Hi, so I'm a very active person, participating in yearly sports including cross country, triathlon, mountain biking, and the every so often hike or some other type of physical activity on my own. Last summer, my ex/bestfriend attempted suicide and I got depressed. As a result, I got a little out of shape.
I'm trying to work back up to my initial level of fitness. So far, my stamina seems to be setting back in; however, I cannot help but be a tad bit irked by my body's inability to reflect my fitness level.
I work hard daily, and yet I've not been able to see any chance in physical appearance. I'm still somewhat thick looking, and those extra few pounds don't seem to be falling off how I had hoped.
Is there anything that could be contributing to this lack of physical fitness being reflected in my physical appearance?
Also, something I'd like to add that may be a contributing factor; my daily regiment of food and nutrition intake is somewhat sporadic. I have severe GERD, and it causes me to not be able to eat as much as I should be. I try to get around 1000-1200 a day, but it's often times a struggle.
Thanks for any advice given.
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well maybe it's because of the stress you might not feel like you're stressing on something but your body might be and when ones body is stressed out it tends to keep all the fat in. Acutattly i was reading this magazine and it had a really great diet in there. it's not that don't eat anything and work you ass off diet it's acutally really effective i've tried it and lost 15 pounds. It's called the banna diet people in japan and china use this method. any way every morning when you wake up you have to drink a cup of water it doesn't have to be cold or warm just simple water and a banna and that's all through out the day you can eat anything except sweets and you have to eat dinner before 8 o'clock and you have to go to bed before midnight. try it out hopefully it will help.
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I been with my boyfriend 4 months but before him I dated girls only I feel very confuse because I still like girls and i miss my gay life I love him but I'm not in love with him. (link)
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you are gay. period that's a fact and you always will be. you shouldn't think that just because you're dating guy you're not gay anymore. and if you feel like you don't really love him then break up with him because it's not fair to keep him hoping or loving you and you not all that into him. You love girls and that normal but maybe you should give this guy a chance, and if you don't feel that WOW then just let him go.
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I really like this boy i just recently met I just recently went to see him this past weekend and i continuously got forehead kisses from him. What does that mean ? (link)
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it means that he might like you but is just to afraid to make the first move so you should probably hint that you want more then a kiss on the forehead. it could also mean that he doesn't want to give you mixed signals he thinks of you as a friend and that you guys should remain friends but be nothing more. flirt a little and see how he reacts.
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i was on a break with my bf and he got with someone. that ended p hurting me and he said i should get with someone to even it out. bad idea or good idea? (link)
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okay one it's takes about 3 liters of strong alchol to blackout a man or drugs so if i were you i wouldn't believe that bull. two, do you really want to degrade yourself by getting even with him i mean come you guys want to give the relationship another go so don't have sex with someone else sure it'll probably make you feel better but is that enough? If he slept with someone else even if you guys were on a time out i would probably prepare myself for him cheating on you again. but then he won't have the excuse that you guys were on a break, how many blackouts is he going to have before you realize that his lieing to you. this wasn't the frist time and deep down you know it was well. so when are you going to say enough?
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I guess im asking this cuz im looking for comfort because i just got rejected by a guy i like he didnt say he did not like me just that he had a girlfriend so now im sad but things could change right? (link)
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i was 16 when i told the guy i liked that i liked him he laughed and told me that i was a loser and he could never date a girl as ugly as me, i cried so hard that night. He might change but would you really want to wait for him, do you really want to start hating his girlfriend that you don't even know and wish that they would break just so you could be with him? i'm sure you're answer is yes i guess that is the worst in people we're selfish which is normal. But i'm sure you'll find anyother guy who will tell you yeah i like you too. Best way to heal a broken heart, is puting in a horror movie or a movie of your choice, taking a nice long bath before, getting some pizza and hot choclate milk in your hands and start watching that movie you picked.it helps hopefully.
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Hi. I'm a 23-y-o, straight female. I've had the same best friend since 3rd grade (15 years). She often brings up sexual topics in a way that bothers me. I know I'm too much of a prude, so sometimes I feel like I shouldn't be bothered.
I wouldn't mind talking about it so much if she and her BF were having issues or she needed advice on something (not that I could provide it). Usually, though, she's just bragging, pretending to hit on me (we're both straight girls), going into way too much detail or making crude jokes. This happens almost every time I hang out with her and I tell her to stop and that it bothers me and nine times out of ten, she'll do it again a few minutes later.
Sometimes, when we hang out with her BF (I'm single so I'm often the third wheel) she touches him inappropriately under the table or when she thinks I'm not looking, but she isn't good at hiding it. Only, she recently told him that she's an exhibitionist. I think she's using me as an audience for her sexual gratification and that she wants me to see.
I've told her to stop so many times and she just ignores it. Is this sexual harassment? It bothers me so much that I'm not sure I want to be her best friend (or a friend at all) anymore. Is this worth ending such a long friendship over? (link)
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She could like you. Or she could be so insceure about her relationship with her boyfriend that she feels like if somebody doesn't see it isn't really real. Ending a friendship is hard and maybe you only want to end it because it's getting uncomfortable. You've told her many times to stop but she won't well tell her but this time don't me scared to stand up and scream it at her. It's finding one's voice that people have such a hard time with. Don't give up on you're relationship with her just yet give yourself time to have the couarge to really tell her what you feel.
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Hi, I want to know what to tell this girl...its like...I want to talk to her but freeze when I get the chance...what should I do/say? (link)
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just two weeks ago my best friend died and i always frooze to tell him that i loved him, now i'm going to regret it everyday. Do you want to regret not telling her? Take a deep breath and jump in the ice cold water and just make sure you don't freeze.
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Okay so I talk to this guy a lot and we always want to hook up with each other. Most of the time he will text me asking to have sex and we will talk dirty. I love it and sometimes I'll text him saying how badly I want sex and I want to suck his...anyway but when good time comes I always get nervous and make an excuse saying I can't.I later wish I wasnt such chicken. How can I stop getting so nervous and finally just do it?! (link)
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think about how short life is. You could die anytime,anyday so just stop thinking and start doing it. You like him, you're obvisouly sexual attracted to him, and you think his hot, so what's stopping you? you deserve a good night out. So stop reading this and text the guy asking him when he want's to meet up.
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So I finally have a boyfriend, which I havn't had for about 2yrs now. Iv only had "friends with benefits"... and I think I might be a little overdramatic because he hardly talks to me. I get like 2 txtz a day and no calls since we had sex. Am I being weird? I mean he works but he doesn't work all day, I even txtd him and he told me he was with friends, I said well txt me when u have time 4 me, and nothing... :( (link)
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You have every right to be a little pissed off i mean come on he uses you for sex and then just takes off sometimes remembering who you are and quickly writing a text so you won't start to worry about him blowing you off. Talk to him. you need to know if his being serious with you or if it was a one time thing i mean you shouldn't have to worry about this it's tiring and just plain annoying, i mean he is just a guy and you need to know that you are ten times better then him you have to power to ask him what he wants from you. because if he doesn't want anything even though it would be painful at least you can stop waiting around for someone who doesn't understand you and start looking for a guy who does.
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I just moved out of state to live with my boyfriend of two years. We just got in an argument and he was yelling at me, while putting his hand in my face. Out of reaction, I lightly slapped him.
He slapped me back on the head, then threw me off the bed.
I know hitting should never be tolerated in a relationship, but it's not exactly easy for me to pack all my stuff up and go home.
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I once read i book called dreamland it was about an abusive boyfriend i was a lot younger when i read this so it pretty much gave me a shock but now thinking back that book was amazing. You love him enough to tolerate him hiting you. Ask yourself "what i'm i going to tolarate next?" He doesn't respect you. i mean sure he loves you but is that enough? for some it is but is it enough for you? You hit him, making him feel weak that's why he hit you harder but can you really live with a man you doesn't caress you or doesn't hug you and says that his sorry? are you going to marry him, knowing that he using his fists to teach you to respect him? what about when you have kids? i know you've only been with him for two years but anything can happen. i know you feel like you have no where to go but is that true? or is it just an excuse? get out of there before you drown in his disrespect.
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21-female
My boyfriend can be a good kisser -at times. But sometimes he just gets too excited/too into it and it starts getting sloppy when we make out. I try to just slow him down when he does this, but it's gross when it's just all wet and sloppy haha. I know it's just because he gets so into it and gets really horny but that doesn't mean he can eat my face!! I don't want to embarrass him or even ruin our intimate moment when we're making out by telling him to not be so sloppy (in a nicer way of course) I don't know what I can do, has anyone else had this problem!? (link)
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That does suck, i mean i've had i guy be sloppy as well the one thing you can do is be in control so you make the first move to kiss him and when he starts getting sloppy get on top of him that helps alot because that why you're in control of the kisses. Just be the aggersive one and tease him a little bit.
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Everytime I take a home pregnancy test I not pregnant but I'm trying am I doing things ok? (link)
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Don't try. Just stop wanting it soooo badly and just trust you're body to do it for you. You're probably doing everything right i mean there isn't really a wrong or right way to getting pregnant. so just calm down. Light some candles and instead of having sex, make love to you're partner. Trust yourself.
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Saw your reply on the painless suicide options. I am seriously considering this as no way out. I have no reason to live for another micro moment so no lectures or discourses please.
Just plain and simple. Can you help me end my life? No left right or centre advise. If you want I can pay you. Just thinking if some one can shoot a hole in my head........can pay him and also sign a note absolving him of any crime. It will be an authansia (link)
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Why is you're life so bad that you would rather choose burning in hell for all eternity? you know i tried to kill myself as you can read it didn't work but i've got a book full of ways i wanted to end my life. Choose pills throw that up, choose gun to the head pulled the trigger turned out that there wasn't any bullets in it. I would slit my wrists i mean if a person wants to die they would do it not ask ways to do it but if you're going to do it anyway then sliting the wrist is very poetic because it symoblizes you passion towards death. it's painful yes but heroic. Why kill yourself in a painless why you're never going to live again, so why not give people something to talk about. Either the wrists or jumping off a bridge. That's all i can give you.
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