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I always chicken out when it comes time to have sex
Okay so I talk to this guy a lot and we always want to hook up with each other. Most of the time he will text me asking to have sex and we will talk dirty. I love it and sometimes I'll text him saying how badly I want sex and I want to suck his...anyway but when good time comes I always get nervous and make an excuse saying I can't.I later wish I wasnt such chicken. How can I stop getting so nervous and finally just do it?!
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There are a number of ways to look at this:
1. You didn't say if you were a virgin or not, but you may be afraid of your lack of real sexual experience and looking foolish. You don't need to do that. Tell the other person you're a virgin and hopefully he will proceed accordingly. There is no shame in being inexperienced, especially when you are a girl.
2. You aren't ready for sex with the guy or something inside you is telling you that there isn't something quite right about this situation. Now I believe in the adage that if your gut is telling you something isn't kosher it ain't kosher and it is better to extricate yourself from the situation.
3. You just aren't into sex at this time. You want the guy to like you and so you play up to his need for sex by giving him some innuendo. This is unfair to him and yourself. Be honest with yourself. Do you REALLY want sex right now or do you have some legitimate fear (pregnancy, disease, he will pull a pump and dump on you) that is causing you to balk at going through with it? He is not going to be the only guy who will want to get with you. So you don't need to treat him as if he is the only game in town. Your body is your own and your life is your own. Decide what you want and stand by it and don't let others sabotage you.
Anyway, the default safe response is to text the guy and just say you were sorry for leading him on, but you have a lot of conflicted feelings right now and so you want to step back until you get them sorted out. If he doesn't understand he is a tool anyway.
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think about how short life is. You could die anytime,anyday so just stop thinking and start doing it. You like him, you're obvisouly sexual attracted to him, and you think his hot, so what's stopping you? you deserve a good night out. So stop reading this and text the guy asking him when he want's to meet up.
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stop saying things in text u wldnt say in person cause you set urself up.everyone gets horny just hold back till ur ready.
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Have you thought that maybe you're not ready to have sex with him? That's what's stopping you. Don't try to fool yourself. If it's just nerves, tell him that you are. If you don't want to tell him, just talk dirty and say you want to be controlled/"used" and then that means he has to make the first move and in a sense he is guiding you.
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