Well I'm a guy and I've been referred to as the High School Hitch by some of my classmates. I'm 16 years old. Ask me anything about your relationships or problems and I will do my best to answer them to the best of my ability.
E-mail: rangerrod1231@yahoo.com
Gender: Male
Location: houston
Age: 16
Member Since: January 17, 2008
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ok so i like this guy his name is jeremiah
well he has a girlfriend and i hang out with both
of them a lot.Jeremiah even rides my bus but lately ive sorta gotten a crush on jeremiah i know its wrong to like hime b/c he has a girlfriend but he's so sweet , and the last time he had a girlfriend i sorta ruined it because
his old girlfriend was using him bc if she didn't
stay with him her mom wouldn't let her date til she was 18.i messed it up cuz i told him i couldn't help it i wasn't goingto tell him until
i looked at his innoscent face and it made me break down and spill everything. I mean he's like the sweetest guy ive ever known and he doesn't desirve what the girls he's went out this year have done to him.Also me and my friends have been tinking that his current girlfriend the one he's going out with right now is just going out with him because she just wants someone she can call her boyfriend.So my question is what am i supposed to do to not feel this way i mean i don't want to break them up like i did the girlfriend befor . I'm so confused about him . Help !!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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It's not wrong to like him, it's just normal and you dont have to break them up..if you feel that you're gonna break them up then dont say anything to him. Try talking to her and seeing what else she's about. If the only reason she's wants to have someone to call b/f, then she has a slight problem within herself. She must be in a group of some kind, that she needs to have a b/f to be accepted. She needs someone to validate her being and her being wouldn't be validated w/o a b/f. Then talk to Jeremiah. Now wouldn't it be better to break them up and spare his feelings earlier rather than waiting around while she leads him on and he gets very hurt later?
Cliche Time: If it wasnt meant to be, then it wasnt meant to be.
Hope that helps...
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so ive been going to a private school my entire life, ever since i was 3. and its been the same school too. ive also known the kids in my grade for about 11 years and weve gotten really close. but this school only goes up to 8th grade. last year was my last year at that school and graduating it was the saddest thing ever. ive never cried so much. so this year, [in september] i switched over to a public highschool, which is completely different by the way. only two of my friends from my old school came with me, but there not in any of my classes. so i had to learn the hard way and make completely new friends from scratch. it also sucks because these kids have known eachother since middle school and they already have their own groups. well the first month of school i thought id fit it in good and make a lot of new friends, but i thought wrong. its been about 5 months now and so far ive gotten 2 close friends, and about 5 friends i just talk to but were not close..and there not really the coolest of the bunch..[there not losers, but idk.] and sure i have those people i smile at in the hall, but thats nothing. i hardly talk to them. its just been really hard for me and i dont think anyone seems to understand. in all of my classes ive got one person to talk to, but still..there not my friends, really..only some of them. its complicated but sometimes i get embarssed when people see me talking to those people, since im new i dont want to be put into the loser catagory. and u know i dont think im a loser. this may sound conceited a little..but i should be talking to people that are better than that..you know. its hard to explain really but right now life is just ughh im not that happy with it right now. i havent been in a good mood for a really long time. i cant remember the last time..somethings wrong with me why arent i able to make more friends as easily as all of my other old school friends? all of them have their own group now..im litterly the only one. it really upsets me. i hope you understand how i feel (link)
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Ohhhhhh, yes i understand how you feel. I've been left out a number of times and over time i've found that all this group stuff makes no sense and is stupid. You know what i did? I formed a group of one. I made a group of myself called The Me Group (well not really but its just an illustration.) The groups in your school are full of people that need other people to validate their being and social status. When youre by yourself then you might set a trend or something for at least one person. Your other friends probably made friends faster b/c they needed someone to validate their being. They weren't sure of who they were. If you stand alone then people will see that you know who you are and you can stand for yourself. You dont need a label.
Cliche Time: Just be yourself
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okay so there is this guy, he is like a skater and stuff. so my friend is like BEST FRIENDS with him. they always are hanging out and i always hang out with her so once and awhile we all hang out. by the way his name is david. so i am pretty shy, especially around guys. like, im really shy right when i get to no someone, then after awhile i am like the most outgoing person in the world, i am so crazy i do everything and you can't get me to shut up. i no there is probably alot of questions like this, but i really need help. so my friend that is his best friend is talking to him abouot me, and she knows that if i opened up to him, he would like be in love with me. like we have the same exact personalitys, once i open up. i just can't seem to do that though, it's so hard, especially with guys! so, basically my question is, i need to no how to get myself to not be so nervous and just chill out and be myself, and once i do that, i need good ways to flirt with him. thank you!!! (link)
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Well if youre going thru a friend to get to a guy and your personalities are as similar as you say they are then you need to cut out the middle man and try talking to him over the internet, like maybe myspace, msn, or AIM. Then you can slowly graduate to phone calls and talking in person. If this guy makes you feel like this, then chances are you make him feel the same way. He's probably nervous too. But if he's not then try those methods that i mentioned earlier.
Cliche Time: Just be yourself
Try this too: Try talking to him like he is one of your girlfriends, minus the girl "topics".
Hope that helps...
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Last summer my boyfriend and I of 4 years broke up. I was crushed, but it was for the best. I'm still in love with him. He has a girlfriend now, but we still talk. We talk as friends. But the other night he talked to me about "us." We talked about how much we missed each other, the memories we made, and he told me he still loved me. I don't think he is playing me because he's one of those that don't mess around. Then two days ago after school we hung out all day. It was like old times again. It was the best feeling in the world to tell the truth. Well last night we had a basketball game and a guy I once had feelings for was there. He talked me into going to a party with him. My ex wasn't there. Well the guy I have feelings for and I kissed. It was nice, but now I'm so confused. Since my ex has a girlfriend and I had a good time with another guy does that mean I should move on? I still love my ex, but I'm worried we aren't going anywhere. What should I do? (link)
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You should stay with the guy you're with. A lot of times the whole "going back to the ex" thing doesnt work. You relive a lot more of the bad times than the good. You might have had good times and you still can but just as friends. See if you can muster up more feelings for the guy that you are with.
If you still like your ex and you break up with your current b/f, but then when you go back to your ex and it doesnt work out, you'll be out of a b/f. But if you wanna have some time to your self then go for it.
Cliche Time: Do as your heart desires.
Hope that helps...
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These people sang it (REALLY BADLY) on American Idol this past week but the song is so pretty and I am trying to figure out the name of it. It goes..."There is a melody Lost deep inside of me But now I'm free." Or something to that effect. I tried searching for it on google but nothing that appeared helped me. Can you help? Please! (link)
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That's the song from the movie Rigoletto...sry i cant remember the name of that song, either.
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is it safe to have sex everyday? (link)
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of course, actually i learned from dr. oz that having intercourse is actually exercise.
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Okay. Well. Yeah. =]
I'm a 17-year-old guy and I'm bisexual. It took me a while to admit to it, but I finally accepted it. =] Anyways, I've told my mom and she has no problem with it. My parents are divorced, by the way. Well, I want to tell my dad, but he is extremely homophobic. I seriously think he would yell at me. He lives in another state. I visit him in March.
Should I tell him I'm bisexual, and if I should, then how? I'd like to tell him before March because I wear eyeliner and don't want to stop wearing it when I see him. (link)
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Wear very little eyeliner when you go, close or near to the end of your visit, tell him, but tell him in time enough to talk about it.
Cliche Time: Bi now, gay later.
I heard that from a gay friend. If you cant tell him your bi, then in the future when/if your gay, how are you gonna tell him then?
Hope that helps...
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okay so i met my boyfriend about 7 years ago and hes two years older hen me, we didnt decide to start dating until july of 07. lately he yells at me alot and trys telling me what i can and cannot do and he even has other girls before me on his myspace page, i dont know what to do. For christmas he bought me a very expencive necklace and told me he wanted to be with me for a long time and everytime i accuse him of being a player he says "if i was playin you i wouldnt of bought u anything and we wouldnt have been together for this long" [he has a bad history of being a player] so what should i do? how do i know if hes cheating? and should i leave him? (link)
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"If I was playin you i wouldnt have bought you anything"? Maybe he felt guilty for something and felt the need to buy you something expensive. If you've ever seen Madea, then she would say that if you think that your man is cheating, then he is. Go with your suspicions, but dont make it obvious. Now dont do all of this stuff you see and hear like looking through his cell phone and whatnot. When you go out, how does he look at other women/girls. Until you get enough facts...
Cliche Time: He's guilty until proven innocent
Hope that helps...
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[[Took Something The Doctor Just Gave Me To Get Rid Of The Drousyness I Guess Hopefully I'll Be Fine.]]
I don't know why we had school today it was so bad outside with the snow but I had a doctors appointment anyway really early in the morning and wit what he was checking and looking at he gave me some medicine to take starting today aswell that would make me drousy. I went to school anyway because I had a test today and I didn't want to miss anything important. Well the medicine was more dousy making then I thought. I was out of it! Well Adam [[AKA Best Friends Boyfriend... even though I like him and BFF knows I do. I liked him before she went out with him, and she kinda knew I did but not like hardcore so]] Well Adam.. told me that at the dance next friday wanted to kiss Becky. But didn't know how she would take me... That's not something I wanted to hear-- and I was probably walking like a drunk person I fell. [[Walking down Hall to lunch]] He helped me up, and then Becky came running down the hall because it was Taco Day to see us holding hands,,, VERY BREIFLY. And I pulled away and said Thank You. Well She was RAWR on me! It didn't madder that Adam grabbed my hand and was heling me up, or anything. I was slirring my words are everything , it probably looked like I was drunk and what didnt help the situation Adam --arm and arm-- brought me to the nurse. After argueing for 15 minutes was just like Fuck This grabbed my arm and began helping me up the stairs.
I don't want Becky to be mad at me but because I told her I liked Adam she now thinks Im out to get him or something...
And now Adams asked me 3 times in one hour if Im okay. He hasnt bothered to see if Becky was fine or not...
Help. (link)
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This sounds like a problem that the guy needs to solve. He should explain to your bff that nothing sexual or anything like that was going on. What your bff needs to realize is that her b/f was trying to help you out. That's probably what she likes about him. She doesn't want a jerk for a b/f. Now imagine if he had just left you on the ground...she would've gotten mad at him. So this whole problem was your bff's, not yours or the guy's. You didnt do anything wrong and neither did he. She caught at a time she thought that you two were doing something...She didn't bother to ask about it.
Cliche Time: Skipping a lot of the facts can result in jumping to the wrong conclusion.
Hope that helps...
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lets call him J. we were together for 2 months, but we had been really good friends before that, always liking each other, always having a good time. i can tell him anything, he's like my other half. we argued, but we always got over it. and the only reason we argued was because we had so much in common. anyway, on the 15th of january, we were texting and he kept dropping hints that he wanted to take a break. so i came right out and asked him what was going on. he told me that he can't handle the fighting with his parents anymore and the only thing he can think of is to break up. so we did. his parents are reallllly strict, they like me and everything, but hes in 9th grade and i'm in 8th, we live in different school districts. they dont let him go to the movies with just me, and whenever he asks them to hang out with me, they always get in huge arguements over me. so he couldnt handle it anymore. even though my parents are divorced, my moms a whore and my dads an alcohlic and im gettinga new stepmom, i guess he feels the need to complain about how hard his life is when really mine is 10x worse. we had been talking on instant messenger up until last night, he kept saying how he wanted me to still have fun and live life, and not be obligated to him, but he still didnt want this to be the absolute end of us. then, at like 12am, he called me, and was like crying, and he was like Kendall, i love you. and i was like......i love you too....and he was like i've been thinking and i just i love you. i dont want to see you date other guys or anything and i cant wait until next year when i can drive to date you. i cant wait that long. and he kept saying all this stuff and it was like in a movie. it was so cute. but im so confused of what he wants. we havent talked yet today, he's at school, i skipped school. he put 11.20.07 (link)
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Well you and "J" should have a sit-down with his parents and talk about the two of you. It's not too movie or tv-ish, it makes sense. If the two of you love each other that much then you need to talk about it with his parents.
Cliche Time: If you really love this guy, then it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks.
If you have a problem of parents not listening,(if you want to be a little sneaky) go behind all of your parents' backs and see him. When he gets old enough to drive, tell your parents and then you won't have to hide it. Then he can go anywhere he wants and date you, see you, or anything like that.
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this one boy is always staring at me. like, hes in my math class, and like he sits across the room, and he'll stare at me. and like before school starts, people sit in the cafeteria, and like he was in there the other day, and he kept staring at me. and hes in my lunch period, and hes alwayys looking at me. I know he thinks I'm hot. Because, I was at mcdonalds, and he was with his friend, and my friend was standing behind him, and then i was like getting my food right infront of them, and his friend is like ,the girl in front of us is really hot. and he was like, yeah i know shes in my math class, she is really hot. so yeahhh. i saw he had a myspace, should i ask to be his friend? and ive never talked to him like before. oh, and this one time, i went up to go and get my paper, and he got up and got it for me, and handed it to me.
i kindaa like him. and hes super super cute. but i have no idea how to like start talking to him.
what do you think?
do you think he likes me?
should i talk to him?
how do i talk to him? (link)
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Well if he's looking at you all stalkerish then yes he likes you. you should talk to him. break the ice with messaging on myspace and slowly graduate to phone conversations and if he makes the first move, talk to him in person. Or you can be bold and aggressive and talk to him first.
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Hello, all.
A few years ago I tried contacts, but had a hard time getting them out.
Now, three years later, I feel like I want to try them again, but I feel kinda iffy because this year I've gotten A LOT of compliments on how I look (over the summer I resolved to swallow my shyness and be outgoing so I could show people who I really am instead of hiding it away).
I know if I get contacts, I'm going to look weird, because people aren't used to me without glasses. Also, my crush has seemed to be showing more interest in me (I've been hanging out with him more lately, a rarity this school year because of our busy schedules...I've been so happy!)
I've asked some friends whether or not I should get contacts, and some of them say I look adorable in my glasses. Basically I'm afraid of losing my compliments and possibly my friend's increased interest in me if I get contacts...so any advice would be WONDERFUL!
Thanks so much, and sorry it's so long! (link)
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well i have a sight problem and I (emphasis on I) decided that i looked better with my glasses on.
Cliche Time: Be who you choose to be, not who others choose to see.
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okay me and my boyfriends have not made out yet one day he tried to but i have no idea what to do so i leaned away. i know your supposed to open your mouth and touch tongues. but what i don't get is like how. do you rub them against each outher or what? i'm so scared that to do it wrond since he has done it before. i really don't know what touch tongues mean like explain that more please. (link)
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Well technically you're supposed to massage his tongue with yours. You can practice the tongue with a lollipop and the lips with the back of your hand or something...hope that helps.....
--a 16 y/o guy
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13/f
Well I like this guy && he likes me too.
But he hardly goes on msn, he used to but hes grounded. I'm really scared we're going to loose our relationship, cause hes also in a different class then me. He only talks to me at like Break/recess & Lunch. But I'm in his Math class, I cant sit near him since his friend always sit there, and then one day, I finally found a spot that is KINDA near him... Something like this.
F= his friends BF = my friends K= always hated this girl H= Him M=Me
F H K BF
f f BF M
Sorry if that was confuesing. Anyways. It was like that, and then I dont really see him talking to me in math. But when "K" was talking to him since he was kinda right beside her, he started to laugh. I can't really find any other time to talk to him. && the valentine dance is coming up. But our school rule isnt ask people before the dance. Its actually you ask the person AT the dance. I want to dance with him, but I'm afraid of the relationship ending. =\
Any advice would do! Thanks. (: (link)
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This is a typical movie storyline. A girl that you hate is trying to steal a guy that you like. The key is to get to him before "K" does so that way you can dance and at the same time talk to him about stuff.
Cliche Time: If it wasnt meant to be then it wasnt meant to be.
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15/f
when a guy asks for your number, after you give it to them are u supposed to ask them what their number is also?? (link)
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well im a guy and i will tell you that you can ask for the number back. if they get your number but they never call u can call them and you can be the aggressive one....hope that helps...
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my best friend really likes this guy. His best friend asked her 2 be his girlfriend and she said yes because she kindof liked him. Now shes over him and likes his bff alot but how does she end it with him? Will his best friend ever look @ her? She is thinking about donig it on valentines day. Please tell me how i can descourag her from doing that. HELP!!! She's going 2 break his heart then her own without knowing it. (link)
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Well let me tell u to tell her that Valentine's Day is the worst possible day to do it. Do it as soon as possible, b/c if she does it on Valentine's Day, the guy will feel left out.
One way she could do it is if she breaks it off with him, but points him in the direction of an admirer of his if he has one. Then she could tell him that she likes his friend. I know that's easier said than done, but she has to try.
If she's over the guy, then there's no use leading him on, and that would break his heart even more.
Hope that helps...
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15/f
been going out with my boy for a year and a half, everythings perfect besides well him.
hes very outgoing and constantly flirts with girls without realizing it, it hurts me alot.. i've asked him to stop but it's just not like that you know? hes so use to it he doesn't even realize it.
:( i really cant stand it anymore either, but i love him alot [despite my age] is it best i just let him go? (link)
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Well im 16 and half of the not realizing he's flirting thing is just age and hormones, but i think that you shouldnt let him go. Do a little alert system. Do something to make him realize he's flirting. Kind of like a dog barking collar. (The following is a metaphor for your b/f) The dog is barking, the dog gets a shock, the dog learns to stop barking. btw, im not insulting your b/f.
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This is long but please read..Okay, lets call him this guy.
Now i liked him ever sense i saw him..ever sense we started our first
converstation. And i have this friend thats a guy, and Turns out hes Best
friends with the guy. okay, now my friend made it obvious we wants to be
more then friends. he flirts alot and has asked me out about four times,
but i never returned his texts. I dont know, i mean i like his best friend,
and only like my friend as only a friend. And i talked to the guy about him
asking me out and saying how i dont like him like that..he said he didnt
tell my friend but idk, will this ruin more chances of me being with "my"
guy? i mean why would he go out with his best friends crush? I bet hes heard the saying "bros before hoes" err whatever..tho im not a hoe.lol And i bet my
friend has talked to him about liking me. So that basicaly blows it all
off. i dont really know what advice im looking for. but ANY i'd be greatful
for. i mean i feel like i LOVE this guy. i think about him 24/7. and
everything about him makes me smile. He wears the most crappy clothing in
the world and barly does his hair. but i dont care. i really like him. I
dont know how he feels about me. I mean its cute, somtimes at night when
were dont texting eachother he'll text somthing like well night honey xoxo
or nite sweetypiee xoxo dont let the bedbugs bite. he even called me
Sweetie on the phone infrount of my friend and his bff [the one that kept asking me out] once. and I think he gigles err
silently laughs alot on the phone, in a good way When were on the phone alone. I was planning on just
writing a few short sentances, guess it ended in paragraphs. but Please
advice. About The guy, or the sittuation of "my" guy's and my friend liking
me.. b/c i dont know what to do. .. Does he even like me like that at all? (link)
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Oh yeah they both like you. you should go with the guy that you like...the one that is not your best friend, b/c if you date your "best friend" and you break up, then that could have serious detrimental effects in the future, if you tried to be friends again. That bros before hos thing is stupid. My policy is hearts before hormones. And sry it was kinda long so i lost some stuff but if the guy thats your friend asks you out all those times then you should go with the one you can tell is not trying too hard. hope that helps...
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