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my ex boyfriend.
lets call him J. we were together for 2 months, but we had been really good friends before that, always liking each other, always having a good time. i can tell him anything, he's like my other half. we argued, but we always got over it. and the only reason we argued was because we had so much in common. anyway, on the 15th of january, we were texting and he kept dropping hints that he wanted to take a break. so i came right out and asked him what was going on. he told me that he can't handle the fighting with his parents anymore and the only thing he can think of is to break up. so we did. his parents are reallllly strict, they like me and everything, but hes in 9th grade and i'm in 8th, we live in different school districts. they dont let him go to the movies with just me, and whenever he asks them to hang out with me, they always get in huge arguements over me. so he couldnt handle it anymore. even though my parents are divorced, my moms a whore and my dads an alcohlic and im gettinga new stepmom, i guess he feels the need to complain about how hard his life is when really mine is 10x worse. we had been talking on instant messenger up until last night, he kept saying how he wanted me to still have fun and live life, and not be obligated to him, but he still didnt want this to be the absolute end of us. then, at like 12am, he called me, and was like crying, and he was like Kendall, i love you. and i was like......i love you too....and he was like i've been thinking and i just i love you. i dont want to see you date other guys or anything and i cant wait until next year when i can drive to date you. i cant wait that long. and he kept saying all this stuff and it was like in a movie. it was so cute. but im so confused of what he wants. we havent talked yet today, he's at school, i skipped school. he put 11.20.07<3 back in his AIM profile and i dont know how im supposed to talk to him or what im supposed to do. i love him, and i want him so bad, but if we go back out now, then the arguements with his family will most likely start up again and it will be the exact same problem. sorry this is so long, anyone taking the time to read it and answer, thank you :)
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Hmm,...not so comlpicated ^^ haha if i was in the
situation i would just have a secret relationship, dont tell, but you might not wanna do that...so you should tell his parents you love him, i know that's a very hard thing to do, but if your willing to love him, you have to show you can do anything to be with him.
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Well you and "J" should have a sit-down with his parents and talk about the two of you. It's not too movie or tv-ish, it makes sense. If the two of you love each other that much then you need to talk about it with his parents.
Cliche Time: If you really love this guy, then it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks.
If you have a problem of parents not listening,(if you want to be a little sneaky) go behind all of your parents' backs and see him. When he gets old enough to drive, tell your parents and then you won't have to hide it. Then he can go anywhere he wants and date you, see you, or anything like that.
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Different parents are like that. Some feel protective of their children, some over protective. They just don't want to see him get hurt. Keep in touch with him, to keep his feelings up. He cares about you a lot but don't make it seem as if you're not going out. Keep it to friendship, that way the arguments won't start again and you can still see each other.
I know this sounds really stupid and hurtful but i'm only trying to help you in a way which won't result in an argument.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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