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I think Im depressed, and I have no help. I can’t see a doctor, and have no one to look up to or talk to. Long story not so short: When I was 5, my not so nice grandma moved in with me and my family. Our house has only 2 bedrooms and 5 people living in it. It may not seem like a huge deal, but its really affected me, and the way I choose to live my life. To cut to the chase, I’m 15 now, I don’t have many friends, never had a boy friend, I’ve never had privacy, I’m a huge introvert, I don’t talk to anyone about my problems or how I’m feeling. The reason I don’t have many friends is because I cant have sleep overs and have birthday parties. Its embarrassing when a friend finds out I don’t have a room. I think its just a waste. I want a normal teenage life. Its my first year of highschool, and I want to have friends, and boy friends. I need someone to care about me. My family says they do, but I don’t feel it. They don’t help. They don’t seem to see whats happening. Not only is this affecting me mentally, but physically also. I have been sleeping on a couch for 8 years now. Two years on a camp cot at the foot of my parents bed. I have bad hips, and its bad for your spine to curve to the shape of a couch. I have no choice. I live out of a corner basically. I only have a dresser for some clothes, and a computer to keep me sane. I feel numb. I have no emotion. I cry EVERY night. I am not some emo kid that wants attention. This IS real. This is my life I have to live, and deal with but I’ve been trying for so long, and its only gotten harder. The plan was that my family would build on to our house. They would add two additional rooms. They have been telling this to me for as long as I can remember, and they have done nothing to even begin the process. Theres always some lame excuse. When I try to express my feelings to my mom, she says “think about all the other kids that have to live in boxes, and don’t have families.” I have thought about that, but it hasn’t made me feel any better about my situation. I have to stop worrying about other people. I have to have a life to. Don’t I have a say in what I want in my life? They are focused a lot on my sisters life, and her college career, and money. Im very good in school. Its one thing im proud of, but its getting old and my parents expect even more. More than I can give them. To top it all off, my grandma is extremely racists. She is not in very good health at all. Shes depressed, she cant sleep at night, which means I cant sleep, because she is always up walking around and eating and making noises. No one knows about how this bothers me. My grandma has two other sons that have huge houses with plenty of room for her, but she had to come here. Its ridiculous. I try not to talk to her, but that’s difficult with the living situations. I have thought about cutting, burning, and suicide. Anything that hurts. I’ve been using a rubberband to slap my wrist to keep me from doing something more serious. I want to live and have privacy. I don’t want to have to go in the bathroom and act like im taking a shower, just because im crying. I’ve been having nightmares about this. Its really getting to me. This is so selfish. Im sorry.
The point is I don’t know how much longer I can live through my parents lies. I want help. I need advice.
Its one thing when you fall asleep crying, but when you wake up and tears are still falling; that’s a whole different issue.
I have no one to go to.
Please help me. (link)
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Is this for real? You're this upset because you don't have a room and you expect your parents to expand the house. Maybe they don't have the money but don't want you to know. You need to stop blaming your parents for your lack of a social life because that's your fault. Most kids won't care if you have a room. Honestly, get up and start making friends. I can sympathize with people who have no homes but not with someone who lives in a house. Why do you need a room to get a boyfriend? People probably don't like you because you're depressing, so get up and go out somewhere. You have a computer get facebook and meet new people. This probably didn't help, but you needed to hear it!
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whats a good site to see if you have any personality disorders or mental illnesses??
because i want to see if i have bipolar disorder or something like that or schizophrenia(sp) because both of those illnesses run in my family. and im just wondering.
thanks. (link)
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Honestly, if you have one of those then you'll know by your symptoms. If you don't have any symptoms then there is no way to diagnose it besides a dna test that would be performed by a doctor, however it is doubtful that any doctor would perform that.you or someone you know would have most likely noticed symptoms in you and taken you to a doctor if you did. These things are diagnosed by symptoms, so if they aren't present now then the only way you will know is as time passes.
Hope this helped!
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do you have to take tampoon out to pee? (link)
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Danielle is 100% false. You do not have to change your tampon to pee. That would be absolutely annoying. You have three holes 'down there' one of which is where your pee comes from, one is where your tampon goes and where the penis is inserted during intercourse, and the third is what your 'waste' comes out of. The pee does not come in contact with the tampon thus it can not be soaked up from the tampon. It is not unsanitary as we use the bathroom much more frequently than we need to change our tampons, so that would be a quite a hassel. In short, no you do not have to take your tampon out to pee :)
Hope this helped!
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What is this hairstyle called? I know it's sidebangs, but how is the end styled? Is it layers, cause I asked my hairdresser to layer my hair and I showed them this picture and everything, but it's not layered :( please help. Thanks
http://i37.tinypic.com/i40q2o.jpg
http://i37.tinypic.com/241nqlt.jpg
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Yeah her hair is not layered. I get my hair cut like that too. Its just called 'angled'. Next time go back and ask your hair dresser to angle your hair. She'll ask you where you want your angle to start and you can decide where you want it to start. Getting your hair layered higher up wont create what you're looking for. I've tried it, but then I had to get my hair angled as well because layers alone will not create what you're after. That's angling :)
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I am 13 and have never gotten my period. Recently, I've been getting black stuff in my underwear and when i pee little black stuff comes out and when I wiped myself a little blood. I do not know, is this my period or not? Whats wrong with me and why is it black? (link)
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Congradulations this is your period!
sometimes at the beginnings and ends of your period there is darker blood (almost black looking), so don't fret over it. I'm sure you're fine, however if the bleeding persists for over a week contact a doctor just to be sure nothing is wrong.
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Hi my name is Heather and I am (15)-(145 lbs)
I have been struggling with my weight for five years. I need to know HOw to tone down. I use wieghts but the more I use I gain mussle mass. I know it is good. I don't want to become mussle women. I just need to know how to tone down my mussles and still lose weight. I am very athletic I run every day, I eat every four to five hours what am I doing wrong.
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My question to is: Do you look overweight? By that I mean are your legs big AND flabby, is your stomach flabby, are your arms flabby? Because quite frankly, your weight could be due to having a lot of muscle. You can't go by weight anymore because if you have a lot of muscle then you're not overweight, you're just muscular. If you don't look overweight and your in shape then why do you need to tone down? Even if you look overweight, I bet you don't look that overweight especially if you're as fit as you say you are. It's okay to have muscle and be muscular. It seems to me that you're just a muscular person, but at any rate I will now answer your question :)
1) Yoga and Pilates help lengthen muscle, so the body looks leaner and thinner.
2) Eat 3-5 small meals to keep your metabolism up. Count the number of calories you take in to make sure you're not overeating and try to keep the calores inbetween 1500 and 1800 because you excercise frequently.
3) You're already good on the excercise, so good for you in that area :)
I hope things work out for you, but if you're not at a health risk then don't worry about your body. Trust me, people really don't care.
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ok well i just learned that my best friend has been talking bout me behind my back and i dont know what to do :[ (link)
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The truth is everyone talks about everyone. The things she saying I assume are negative, but maybe it was just because you two got in a fight or she was annoyed at you, so she was ranting to other people? I admit I do that when I'm in a fight with someone, but it doesn't mean we aren't best friends. I would never tell her secrets, though. I don't have much information to go on, but if she was just saying that you're annoying or ugle then chances are she was just annoyed at you and there is nothing to get upset over. However if she was spreading rumors about you or spreading your secrets then confront her and ask her why she did so or ask a friend to ask her if you don't like confrontation. There may be a very good explanation, so wait and get the full story then react!
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Ive been sick and nearly failed two years of school with a sleep/ mood disorder and depression. Well my best buddy, weve been friends since age two and now were fifteen! But Ive basically turned into a hermit or something because Im still recovering for the start of tenth grade come fall. Ive just gotten used to being home all the time and spending time with my mom. It doesnt sound healthy, I know, but I dont mind it.
But my friend, were BBFLs, [best buds for life], and when she asks me to hang out but I dont feel well enough to get up and go, I say something like "well Ill see how I feel and maybe we can hang out in a few days, the weather is supposed to be better for the pool anyways" she just says "yeah well you say that all the time! and its not like im asking you to run a marathon! whatever i gtg!!"
But shes also had a big history of health problems. They used to call her Typhoid Mary, until she got her tonsils taken out.
But I feel like she of ALL people should know what Im going through! After all, shes a carrier for mono. I just have nothing to say to her about it and I dont want to ruin our friendship after all of these years. Please, please, help. (link)
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I can completely relate to you. I'm 15 also and entering 10th grade. I must admit that I too am a hermit because i have OCD and depression. I go out occasionally with friends when im in the mood, but I know what you mean when you say that some days you just don't feel like it.
1)Talk to her and tell her how you feel. You guys have been friends for a really long time, so i'm sure that if you talk to her then it won't ruin your friendship. Tell her that you thought she would be able to understand considering shes been through a lot and tell her that the reason you don't go out with her isn't because you don't like her anymore. tell her its because some days you just feel too sad or too tired to go out and explain to her that maybe that is most days, but that as your best friends you hope that she can understand what your going through.
2) Could she possibly come over and hang out around the house with you? That could also be a solution. you two could talk together and just hang out and watch tv or play board games. It may not be what she had in mind, but atleast you guys are together. I also understand that going out when you're not in the mood would just ruin your day and hers, so I don't recommend that.
Let me know if you want to talk. I mean frankly I'd love to talk to someone my age who's going through some of the same things as me. So message me if you want my SN or email :)
I really hope things get better with your friend, i really do!
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Alright, I have TONS of pictures on my photobucket. I dont feel like deleting any or anything. So to prevent stalkers from stalking me.. please reply to this if youre willing to help, then Ill send you the link to my photobucket. Because I need help picking pictures for myspace. I just want like 5-10 NORMAL looking pictures in other people's opinions. Cause I can never tell. I take weird pictures hah. Thanks! (link)
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i'm more than willing to let me help :)
i see that two other people have already responded, but let me know if you need a third!
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hi, im kind of stuck in a situation. I liked this guy for a really long time, since the beggining of the school year. He's totally cute, and a lot of people thought we'd make a cute couple. now im starting to lose hope since he likes one of my best friends, and shes known how long & hard ive liked him. But now theres someone else. Hes really sweet, and im good friends with him. I dont know if i should keep my hopes up with the first boy, or go for the second boy. Please help meee, thanks byeee! (link)
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Option 1: Why not go for both? Why do you have to pick one to 'go for'? Try flirting or subtle techniques with both boys and see which (or if both) flirt back. If both seem to be interested then you need to decide which one you like more otherwise go for the one that likes you back.
Option 2: If you'd rather take a more direct approach or pick just one guy then for for the second boy as the first boy seems to be occupied by your best friend. Since he is one of your good friends, drop subtle hints and if that doesn't work as guys are oblivious then tell him how you feel and go from there.
Personally, I'd go with option 2 seeing as option 1 could cause drama, but its up to you :D
Hope this helped atleast a little bit :)
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do you know where to find a nice semi-formal dress in short notice ?? (link)
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You didn't give a price range, so I'll just list stores of all price ranges.
-JC Penny
-Nordstrom
-Macys
-Jessica Mcklintock
-Forever 21
-Lord & Taylor
-Any Department store, really.
-Neiman Marcus
-Saks 5th Avenue
Look at your local malls online site and see if there are any boutiques as well or any other department stores. :)
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So I'm 16/f and I absolutely love to take pictures and videos, whether they're about people, animal, buildings, statues, art, nature, etc. I love to take pictures...
The camera I have, I received as a birthday present the summer after 7th grade (I think) and it was a really expensive one (around $375!). But since then, it's seen so much more better days. Right now, the cap that holds the camera battery in is broken so it's held inside by a rubber band, the exterior is all scratched up, and the mode dial is loose and won't let me get to the "User Setting Menu" and 3 or 4 other modes. When I take videos and play them back, all I can hear is a tiny volume of the actual sound part and this obnoxious "tap tap tap" sound.
I know I should've taken a lot better care of it. My mom's lecturing me about how I don't respect anything & that she's reluctant to get me a new one (but she agreed to). I still haven't had my 16th birthday yet (like, I turned 16 on 7/9 but no cake, no gifts, no candles, no singing, no anything) so I was hoping that a new camera would be my 16th birthday present and that's all I would want (plus a soccer ball). But my mom said that if she gets me one now I won't get another except if I pay it with my own money in the future (which isn't going to happen because I rarely get money from my parents and I absolutely have no time to work because during school I barely have time to sleep and during the summer I have to spend a majority of my time doing volunteer work to get an IB diploma).
So should I ask for a new camera for my 16th birthday gift or get a new computer + new camera as my college gift?
Thanks & I know I rambled...a lot. (link)
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you should definately get the camera now, which everyone else has already said.
I mainly just commented to tell you to get the Cannon Powershot SD 1100.It just came out in march and its about 250. I LOVE IT! It has so many features.
-Color Accent (Black and White with certain pieces colored)
-Color Swap (changed the colors of objects)
-Different lighting for different scenes (beach, snow, etc)
-Takes Video
-Has a 12x zoom
-It has a lot more features that I don't really use because I'm not that great at photography, but you might
for a full write up go to canon.com and search for the powershot sd 1100. :)
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i know that fiber helps with appetite control and generally makes your bowel movements more frequent (sorry, didnt know how else to say that other than makes you poop..) would fiber help me lose weight? im a 19 year old female i weigh 130 pounds and im 5'3. is this over weight? i really want to lose weight all over...i know i should be working out more but i have a fulltime job and am a student during the school year. this is no excuse but sometimes theres just not enough time in a day and i have very little energy after work. would eating more fiber (fiber one cereal would be added to my diet bc it has about 15g of fiber per serving) help me lose weight? (link)
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1) you are not overweight at all. you are normal. overweight for someone who is 5'1 is 132 lbs and you are 2 inches taller, so you are cetainly not overweight.
2) Fiber itself does not make you lose weight, however, it does decrease your apetite, so you will end up eating less. Just watch how many calories you take in and you should be good to go. try anywhere between 1000 and 1300 calories a day for optimum weightloss of someone who is around 5'3 and can't workout very often. Try also eating 3-5 small meals as opposed to 3 big meals. Eating more frequently will speed up your metabolism and help you lose weight faster.
Good Luck and Don't worry so much about your weight. I'm sure you look fine! :)
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Heyy. Well, my 15th bithday is comming up and i really want a tattoo on my foot. Nothing big but something simple and cute. Any ideas?! Ohh, and how can i convince my mom cause my dad is cool with it. Thanks! Oh and im a girl :) (link)
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I am going to warn you that this is permanet, so make sure whatever you pick that its something you can live with for the rest of your life and something you wont mind having on your foot when you're 80 years old. Tattoos can be removed, but not always completely and the process is very painful, costly, and long. you don't just go in and come out and its gone. it takes a lot of painful sessions. just make sure this is what you want.
Make sure that its something that won't change as you age such as favorite bands, colors, anything like that changes. I'd suggest a flower, star, heart, sun, moon, or anything along those lines. you could get your initials, but when you get married your last name may change. but if i were you the best kind of tattoo is something that has very deep meaning such as something in remembrance of a lost relative or friend or something that reminds you of something or someone you will and always love.
you can convince your mom by picking out a design and explaining to her why you want that design in particular and what it means to you. if the thought behind the tattoo is deep then your mother will most likely comply. you could also explain that it is not somewhere provocative and can be easily hidden if need be. do NOT say that everyone else has one because then they'll think you're just doing it to fit in. if you sit them down and have a good list of reasons as to why you want one them it will be easier for them to say "yes"
i hope this helped! and good luck :D
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I need help decoding inseams for jeans. I don't have a tape measurer or ruler handy, so I dont know for sure what my inseam size would be. I'm 5'2 and weigh 128 pounds, which is adverage. Can anyone compare and tell me what a normal inseam size would be? Also, when picking a size online the sizes say, for example, 5 32". Is the 5 the wasit part, and the 32" the inseam part?
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I'm practically the exact same weight and height as you and what i can say though is there there is no 'normal' inseam size because it really depends on where you gain weight. people could be the same height and weight and be completely different sizes in pants because people gain weight differently. All i can tell you is that you should go to a store and try on different pants until you find a size that fits you. you should never order pants or anything until you have tried on your size at a store and know taht it fits (if you were planning on ordering).
No 5 is not the waist. No ones waist is that tiny. I'm pretty sure that's the pant size and the 32" is the inseam.
Here's a sizing chart:
http://www.americanapparel.net/sizing/default.asp?chart=womens.pants
Measure your own inseam and waist or just go and try on pants.
I hope this was atleast slightly helpful :)
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