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hey im kind of a shy person and i want to be loud and outgoing.
i really want a bf and i dont have many guy friends in or out of school.
(only one close guy friend who is like one of my best friends, i like him but hes 3 years younger then me so thats out of the question.)
i dont know how to become close to guys in school and find guy friends out of school.
also im not very good a flirting and being myself around guys what can i do to fix that?
thanx in advance (link)
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Yeah i can definetely relate to this. Personally im pretty shy too and i know firsthand how hard it can be to talk to new people and especially guys.
I know its hard but sometimes you have to step out of your comfort zone while still being yourself. Maybe you could find like a group of people that have similar interests as you or are shy like you. I've found that since im shy too, if you talk to another shy person it doesnt feel as awkward.
Anyway, maybe you could join a club at your school. Thats an easy way to meet just people in general.
And how did you meet your friend who is three years younger than you? Maybe you could start hanging out with him and his friends and see what happens. hope this helps kayla
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ok so thers this boy in my class i really like him, ive liked him since last year rite and we talk sometimes jus not all the time
we dont have like lonngg conversations its jus normal ones,but this year i dont want it to be like that i want to get close to him and talk to him alot, i just dont know how to ,
wer in the same class,but he has hhis friends he talks to and i have mine, i do catch him lookin at me and he catches me aswell,but im not sure if he likes me,, but in my school its like if u try to talk/flirt With a guy they think you like him all of the sudden.,so what should i talk to him about? i jus need some help
Thanks to anyone who cares to answerr. (link)
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hey im kayla. Ok so if you like this guy, you need to let him know. And it kinda seems like he already knows and might possibly like you too.
But what you dont wanna do is jump into it too quick. Trust me that doesnt work. Since your at the level of just being friends you also want to make sure that if you do end up dating him and something goes wrong, then it wont ruin the friendship youve already started.
So you dont wanna go for him too quickly, but you also dont wanna be too slow either. You could start by giving him your number which is subtle flirting but not too much. Then when you start tlaking on the phone, maybe you could invite him to the movies just as friends for now.
As for the people your worried about saying stuff, let them. i mean in the end, those people arent gonna make a difference then before anything even happened. And thats how you know who your true friends are. Your always gonna have haters but what would life be without a challenge. So yeah, just do what you do and dont worry about them.
when you read this, be sure to give me some feedback and tell me what happens with this guy. If you want, you can email me at kay_boom13@yahoo.com
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my bestfriend and her boyfriend just broke up about a month and a half ago
she kinda plays guys. like she will get what she wants out of relationships and then leave me and go with a different guy so i wasnt suprised the breakup happened.
but he was really heartbroken and he gets all depressed and like talks about killing himself and stuff.
but lately we started talking abut and texting and stuff. and im falling for him. i told myself i would never like a guy that went out with my bestfirend becuase thats just wrong and you just cant do that haha
but idk. lately ie been having stronger and stronger feelings for him. we flirt and he calls me babe and baby and stufff. and idk what to do
thers anothe story behind this too. my bestfriend told her parents she was sleeping at my house but really she went and slept at her new mans house and they had sex and stuff. and somehow her ex found out and i guess to like get back at her for stuff he told her parents and now she is is hugeeeeee trouble and is grounded till shes 18 and stuff. so my friend and her ex dont talk anymore and all my friends hated him for that and i was the only one who didnt because yes she is my bestfriend, but the problem is between him and her and its non of my business or problem so i cant hate him for that.
and he asked me out yesterday but i said not right now.
and i know if i do go out with him im gonna get alot of crap for it and i may not have any friends left. i love my friends to death
but im realllyreally crushing on him.
someone help me!
sorry that i was long
and probably confusing haha (link)
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ok ive been in this situation way too many times not to give you the answer ive always stuck with, but theirs a twist which i'll ge tto ina little bit.
first of all, its never ok to go out with someone your best friend liked first. I had a best friend and she went out with one of my exes. I was so hurt by this, becuase i trusted her with everything.
Their have also been other situations where the guy wasnt my ex but i liked him and she knew it and she ended up going out with him which hurts all the same.
Now for the twist..you might call me a hypercrit and depending on how you look at it, you might be right. The thing is this yera i started goign out with one of my friends i consdered my sisters ex.
But the other side to this is that my now boyfriend went out with one of her friends after goign out with her and she didnt seem to care. And also when he broke up with her friend, it was the same day he started dating me so its pretty messed up but if you look at the other side, you can kinda understand.
Wow ok sorry that this is so long but i really can relate to this, so i suppose you could learn from me in a way. But like that other girl said, you have to think of who comes first here and that should be your best friend. Even though she might and probably will forgive you eventually the hurt and memory will always be there.
Anyway, when you finally do read all of this, be sure to give me some feedback and tell me what happens. If you want, you can email me at kay_boom13@yahoo.com
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This is a really weird question but I figured I would give it a shot.
So lately (and by lately I mean the past year or so) I have been crying at the drop of a hat and I don't know why.
Whether I'm happy, sad, angry, annoyed or whatever, I cry. I used to be able to sit through a chick flick without shedding a single tear and now, even if it's some goofy romantic comedy, I'm practically bawling from the sickeningly happy ending.
It's just weird because I never used to have this problem and frankly it's kind of embarrassing sometimes. I can't even watch certain commercials now without losing it.
Does anyone else have this problem? Is there any way I could possibly fix this or is it just my hormones being wacky?
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hey im kayla. so i was reading your question and i have to say ive never really heard anything like this before. To start out with, think back to something that could possibly be making this happen whether it be an extreme hurt or breakup.
But it doesnt always have to be somehting bad. I've known people that just need a good cry once in awhile but i think with you their might possibly be a past hurt that you just cant seem to forget/get rid of.
Like you said, it could very well be just your hormones acting up depending on how old you are. But if your crying alot more than you used to, thier is most likely a reason. But anyway, when you read this, be sure to give me some feedback.
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I am thirteen
I am a girl
so there is this EXTREMELY cute boy who is right next to me in the locker bay. I have a crush on him and i don't know, but I think he might like me too. I talk to him a lot on IM but when it comes to talking in person,
1. he is really shy
2. there is not much time to talk at school
3. Ibecome overwhelmed by his cuteness (yes he is that cute
so they are pretty short conversations. Also i think his friends make fun of him saying stuff like "ohhh you like her" when he talks to me which i am sure doesn't make it any easier for him.
what are some ways to make talking in person easier? (link)
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Yea i know how it is to feel awkward when tlking to someone especially you or they is shy.
Personally, im a pretty shy person too and certain people i just click with but others its hard for me to even keep the conversation going.
But since you like this guy and you really only talk on im,next time you see him just act like your talking on im minus the lol and omg. If you can find something to talk about over the internet, you can talk in person.
I can definetely see what your tlkaing about. Just last year, i met this guy in my us history a class and he ended up saying i was cute and eventually he started texting me. And basically the same situation was happening. We'd talk and everything through texting but as soon as we got to school it just became awkward and now im wishing i wouldve taken the time to just get to know him personally.
Anyway, find out what he likes to do, what kind of music he likes, or tv shows he watches. Just soemthing like that and just go from there. You might have to step out of your comfort zone at first but eventually it will just get better and it will be like talking to one of your friends.
When you read this, be sure to give me some feedback. thanks
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Hey, crazyone34! You answered a question a while ago about a girl who was being extremely rude to me and my friends. I had to spend a full two weeks with her at camp, and it did not go well at all. The only way I got by because I told her that my boyfriend and I weren't together anymore, which made her REALLY happy. Well, I'm afraid that all heck is going to break loose when school starts. She's already been spreading rumors about me, and she's called me a few 'choice' names online many times. I'm really ready to tell her to hit the road and stop hurting me and my friends. I've tried to repair the friendship at camp, but she basically told me that I wasn't worth it. What should I do now that I know there's no way she'd ever work this out peacefullly? (link)
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yep i remember this situation. Ok i'd say you need to remember who your true friends are. And it doesnt seem like shes one of them if shes constantly putting you down even when you try to patch things up.
Believe me, i know how hard and frustrating it can be to be at a lose-lose situation when it comes to people who dont seem to understand how their behavior is affecting you. I mean your trying to be the mature one and its not fair for you to have to keep trying and get nothing back in return.
I think youve tried enough here, and obviously she just doesnt respect you so as much as you might care abotu her you might have to end the friendship with her.
As for the rumors, just ignore them. When she sees that she isnt getting the satisfaction of hurting you she'll just quit and then she'll feel stupid. And if these other girls are your true friends, they wont pay attention or believe her. I know its hard but hold out, things will get better. And dont let her ruin your relationships. Date who you want.
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where im super stressed out and every little thing is setting me off. i have my drive test coming up and all my dad says is, "the very first thing your going to is crash! girls are terrible drivers" and on and on about how im a suck ass driver and my brother isnt around he is like my best friend i havent seen any of my friends and im worried they're trying to avoid me i just want to go cry but thats just not a good idea. i know im probably making up all these feelings in my head but i need some way to let them out. i just need someone to talk to or some way to calm myself down.. (link)
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Well ive definetely had these days where i feel like everyone is against me. But ive learned that if you just take it day by day, thier is always someoen willing to help you or at least talk to u.
As for your dad, i think hes just nervous and is letting it get the best of him. Its prolly just his parental instinct coming out.
I personally have a problem with paranoia and if you let it overtake you, it just ends in chaos. But thats just me.
And it seems liek you need a confidence boost.Maybe you could go and buy some cute clothes that make you feel good about yourself. It sounds stupid but it really can raise your confidence and the way people see you. But yea, if you need anything else or someone to talk to, my screen name on here is crazyone34.
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Hello. My best friend is looking for a phone that works with AT&T. She wants a phone with a FULL keyboard, either that flips open or slides out. Not a Blackberry, Blackjack, etc.
Thanks =] (link)
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Well thier are phones similar to that like iphone,envy,rumor, and such. I dont know if those work with AT&T, but i do know they have full keyboards on them.
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my legs are so dry and when i put lotion on them it hurts, is this normal? how do i make it so it wont hurt ? any advice? thanks (link)
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Its prolly because your legs are so dry. I know sometimes when i dont use lotion for a couple days, it itches. but yea if you get olay quench and use that, its really good.
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does anyone know the commercical for acne that is like "chocolate is bad for you" myth. and everythind do you know the actual website? (link)
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Yea if your trying to figure out what product they are selling, it is differin like the other person said.By the way, i have it, and its amazing but expensive. Totally worth it though.
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Hi everyone.
I just need some help because I think my friend might have this Disorder, and I don't know how to help her.
She suffers nearly all of the symptoms. Today she told me she thinks she might have it, and when I suggested she goes to the doctors she said no.
I need help on how I can help to influence her to seek help.
PS. Here is a link about it, or you could just google the disorder:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dysmorphic_disorder (link)
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You need to get her to somehow see what this is doing to your friendship.Tell her you are very concerned,but dont push it.
I've learned that you cant make someone want to do something because then it just makes them more reluctant. But idk like the best you can do is tell her how you feel about the situation and then just leave it at that.And then hopefully, she will see that she might possibly need help.
Anyway, write back
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Ok, this is really weird!... So I was reading on of the questions on this website, and then I clicked on a picture link. Then it opened something, and then my picture viewer popped up with A LOT of pictures. The thing is, I never saved any of those pictures on my computer!!! What's going on? I'm soo sure no one else saved them. I think they're just pictures or things I've seen on the internet. I'm really get freaked out cause I'm thinking this is like a virus. I also tried to search one o the file names so I can see where everything is located, but nothing came up! Even though I typed and searched the exact same name as one of the pictures. Now I'm having to delete these pictures, even though I never saved them D: and I don't know where any of them are coming from, so this might happen again later. Does anyone know what's going on, or what I should do?! (link)
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umm well a similar thing just happened to my cousin with pop ups that ultimately destroyed her computer but dont freak out yet. But yea, they are prolly just random pictures from the internet that you just so happened to stumble on that went crazy when you clicked them.
The best thing i can say is be careful what websites you visit becuase their are alot of viruses out there waiting to eat your computer up.Just pay attention to what all they have on them.
As for the unknown pictures before you try to delete them yourself, i would call a computer specialist that can maybe fix your problem.
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I am a virgin. My boyfriend played with me "down there" and he ate me out last night. When I got home and went to the bathroom, not only did it burn, but when I wiped myself, there was a lot of blood. (It's not period blood.)
I told him about it and he mentioned that maybe my cherry popped?
Could you tell me what it really means to have your cherry popped and like what happens. I just need information.
Thank you!
17/f (link)
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Ok usually when you have sex, the only way to really lose your virginity is to have actual intercourse but if he fingered you he might have broken your hymen which is popping your cherry.
But if he just ate you out and stimulated you, chances are you didnt lose your virginity because ive never heard of someone losing it that way but idk it could happen given the right circumstances i guess. So yea, i do think that somehow he might have broke your hymen but either way your still a virgin.
Anyhow, rate my answer please an dif you need anything else my name on here is crazyone34
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There is this girl who was a semi-close friend for about a year who went to my school. Ever since I started dating my boyfriend, she has started acting like a total psychopath. First, she has kept flirting with him and touching him inappropriately (a.k.a, too much hugging and stuff.), although he makes it perfectly clear that he does not like her at all. Next, she began telling my mother that we were making out in between play rehearsals in front of the little kids. Also, when she spent the night over at my best friend’s house, she started talking about ‘how much of a slut I was’, ‘how I totally sucked at acting’, and how my boyfriend wanted her more. It’s kind of obvious that he doesn’t like her, but she always tells me that they are ‘just friends’. Anyways, I have to spend two weeks with her at a boarding school this summer. How am I going to tell her that I don’t want her anywhere around us anymore? HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS PSYCHO? (link)
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Wow...you need to get the truth out here. It kinda seems like this girl is trying to sabotage your budding relationship. I think its nothing more than jealousy and it needs to be stopped before it gets out of control. You should tell her that the lies are really ruining your friendship and if it doesnt stop thats the end.
If your boyfriend trusts you, he wont let her ruin your your relationship. But i think you guys need to sit down and talk about this.Tell both of them how you feel,what youve heard, but dont accuse until you have the facts but merely question her on the subject and if you need to, ask the people shes been around when you started dating this guy.
Then again, your friend could be trying to get your attention. I know theirs been times where i didnt particularly like who my friend was dating because i liked him myself or whatever the reason, so i would try to lure her away from him.
But ive learned that just throws your friendship to hell when you do that, especially when youve known her the longest which i dont know if thats the case with you or not.People can go to extreme lengths for attention and maybe now that hes come into the picture she feels like a third wheel or suddenly less important than him.
If you need anything else, i'll be more than happy to answer anything other questions you might have. I have alot of relationship experienceso i hope my advice has helped you in some way.My name on here is crazyone34 so be sure to rate my advice.
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Can birth control pills act as ECPs? For instance, if I were to have sex and I just started the pill about 8 days ago then had unprotected sex, does taking the pill mean I'm still safe? Or if there was a problem with the condom like it slipped off during say the 3rd day on the pill? Does the BCPs work that way? (link)
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I would wait at least 3 weeks before you have sex while on the pill. i mean if youve been on it for a week already,its prolly not fully into your system yet.
But if the condom slipped off during the thrid day on the pill, it prolly wouldnt protect you obviously. I'm just saying its different for everyone in a way it seems like but i dont think 3 days or even 8 would do any good.
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I need to find the lyrics for the song "all i need" by cupid..its from the nancy drew soundtrack. ive looked online everywhere and cant find it...any help? (link)
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I usually go to limewire for music downloads which im sure youve heard of.Or you could just like wait until her dvd is out,if its not already.Idk they will prolly put out a soundtrack that you can just go and buy.
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okay so me and this guy have been bestfriends since 7th grade (we are now going into sophmore year of highschool ) we went out in 7th grade for 3 months and then became bestfriends
well this summer weve hungout almost everyday and text everynight or talk on the fone for hours, im the only girl in his top 5 on his fone besides his sister and ugh i cant tell if he likes me too everyone says i should tell him but im way to afraid, i kno he thinks im good looking cause he wants to hook up with me.. so am i just a hookup or is there something else? please help!
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ok first of all ive heard this story a hundred times and have been through similar situations where i was too shy or scared to tell the guy i liked him. if hes your best friend and youve already dated i think he'd either be really thrilled to date you again or worse case scenario hes moved on. But i dont think thats the case here. If your texting eahcother and talking for hours on end almsot every day, then i'd say their is something there. Now maybe he will get back to school and be like well i like this girl, but if he really does like you enough which i think he might if you dont make the first move he prolly will.And seriously if your in love with him and want him back dont jump into it right away but kinda side step it at first and see if he likes you and then take the plunge.
Anyhow, if you need anything else please come to me. oh and tell me what you think of the advice i gave you. but yea, my username is crazyone34 so come find me if you need anyhting else. you'll be like my first client so i'll be super excited. peace
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