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i pulled a chair from underneath a guy and he fell and everyone laughed and then he laughed too as he got up. and then he gets up and sits right next to someone else and he barely talked to me when i asked him if he was mad at me.
i later found out he was embarassed? WTF? i wouldn't get embarassed if that happened. whats up with guys? do they really get embarassed that easily? (link)
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Weakness embarrases us. And that little chair pull move of yours ecposed his weakness.
So he got embarrased. That's pretty much all that does embarras us, but its a big one, so, yea, we're that easy to embarras.
Why were you pullin chairs out from under people anyway? What did he ever do to you???
...Not that I care. I probably would have laughed too.
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Up until recently, I have never had anything like this happen to me, I have started hearing some voices in my head. Its always of somebody I know, I know I didn't imagine it, always of a female i know from my school, usually just an acquaintance or long time friend, nothing to do with attraction. It happens about 5 times a week and they always say something, similar to "Hey " or just my name. When it first happened I was really freaked out, but i'm still kinda freaked when it happens just not as bad. What causes this? Stress? Can it be fixed? I know I'm not imagining this. (link)
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These voices in your head are called hallucinations and are a common symptome of schizophrenia. This doesn't mean that you definitly have schizophrenia, I'm just saying there's a possibility.
One cause of schizophrenia is high levels of stress, so if you've been under a lot of pressure lately, you might want to try to get away from that environment.
Above all, you MUST see a psychiatrist. If you do have schizophrenia, it will only get worse with time as it is a degenerative disorder.
Of course, I hope you won't need that information. Good luck.
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i have a 2 hour exam on monday. I do not know ANYTHING! what do i do? is it possible to learn a 100page revision guide in 4 hours? 2 hours today, 2 tomorrow. im only spending four hours because i have other exams to revise for (link)
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It's been psychologically proven that last minute cramming does nothing to help you learn. You might be able to pass one test but not with only 4 hours of studying. Hate to say it, but you're screwed.
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okay 16/f, i have this boyfriend, and we've been going out for 7 months and he is very respectful and is in love with me and treats me right, but i've told him i wasn't comfortable going too far, with sex and he understands, but he like expects me to when we've been going out for a year..and i don't want to like dispoint him or make him wait for me, cause i dont know when i'll be ready. He is 100 percent comfortable with me, but i dont know why i'm not 100 comfortable with him, which can be the problem, im also scared to do some sexual things like head or fingering me, and i dont know whyy. so i believe that from my lack of sexuality he watches porn, but i feel like since he does, my expectations of those girls are higher and that im being compared and even if he doesn't see it like that or compare me in any way i feel like it does, but i'm just mental about the whole situation. i don't know what to do to make myself relax or feel more comfortable or do i just have to wait untill im comfortable whenever that will be. and i dont know what to do about my boyfriend because i don't want him to feel like hes gonna get something i'm not sure he will. so please give me advice thanks (link)
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Okay, first, calm down. I don't know how, but you wrote with such an intensity that I've never even dreamed of and it kind of freaked me out.
Now, as for the ACTUAL advice...
This one's not that hard: if you're not ready for sex, then you're not ready for sex. Simple as that. I mean sex is no casual subject. If either end of the relationship is not ready for it, then the other end will just have to wait. If your boyfriend really loves you, he will respect your decision and wait, which, by the way, he is, via porn.
Speaking of the porn, if he loves you, it shouldn't effect his image of you.
So just keep on waiting until the time is right. I'm sure both of you will be happy you did.
...and.... I don't know... type slower. Maybe that'll help with the intensity issue...
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I have problems holding conversations with people. I will be talking with someone and they ask me what I want to talk about and nothing pops into my mind..... im scared Im a dull person to talk to. How do people just come up with things to talk about? Im also very shy when Im talking to people face to face like I have problems looking at people in their eyes as well, any suggestions would be greatly apriciated! Thanks ahead of time! (link)
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Yes yes I'm the same way. I'm not that great at starting a conversation and I hate eye contact. I'll tell you how I deal with these problems.
First, eye contact. For me, whenever someone looks me in the eye, it feels like they're looking into my soul and feel vulnerable. This solution is actually quite simple: LET people see your soul. You see, shyness is simply the fear you feel when you think someone might notices your flaws. If you KNOW someone will see your flaws no matter what, however, you won't be as afraid anymore (trust me, it'll make sense in the long run). That's why asano says you should not only let people see your flaws, you should wear them as a badge of honor. That way people know exactly who you are the moment they meet you. This will also aliviate your 'dull person syndrome' sinse people like this seem to be more distinguished.
As for your topicless dilemma, that's a bit harder to solve. I generally just wait for a conversation to start and then jump in, but if you REALLY want to start a dialogue, here's what I suggest: start coming up with topics in you head BEFORE you meet up with friends. That way you're RAWRing to go when you start talking!
Well, I hope I've helped in some minute way. If not, then feel free to throw virtual rocks at me.
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ok. i'm 15 from IL. my friend has the hugest crush on my other friend. but shes so oblivious that she doesn't even realize it. should i tell her, or should i just let the chips fall where they may? (link)
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I don't think you should tell her but I also don't think you should let it be either. I mean you might as well have some fun with it! >:)
I'm thinking that you should get her interested in him as well. Maybe something like 'Oo! [Place name here] is so [Place trait here]!' After you got her good and ready, get the boy to ask her out and just see where it leads!!
....Of course, that's assuming you DO want to have some fun. If you DON'T, just let nature take its course. No use buying bait if you don't have a fishing rod.
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my boyfriend has trouble trusting me. he says he trusts me but i know he doesn't. he freaks out anytime i even talk to another guy. i used to have so many guy friends now i don't anymore. i love my boyfriend to death and will not breakup with him i just need your help with a way to make things better.
this happens a lot about different things but i'll tell you what is going on now. he is constantly scared that if i talk to another guy i'll like him. my boyfriend is always asking me who i talk to in my gym class (meaning guys). i hardly talk to any of the guys, mostly just the girls. i told him that and he was like give me all of the names of the people you've had conversations with. and he started freaking out. then i told him that there is no way i could ever remember that and i'm crying so much and he thinks i'm hiding something. he always thinks i talk to guys behind his back.
like he always looks at my phone at my texts and calls. i know he just loves me so much and never wants to lose me but idk what to do to make all of this stop and just have him trust me!
thanks so much! (link)
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Paranoia is very hard to get rid of, especially when it's someone else's. Fear is one of the strongest emotions, one that can drive humans to do many things, and it is what your boyfriend feels everytime you talk guy. This fear is, of course, of losing your love, another of the strongest emotions. I can make suggestions, but, and I am very sorry to say this, you might have to accept the fact that this is just how he is and decide what you want: love or freedom. Needless to say, I hope this is not the case.
The first thing you should do is talk to him about the situation. Tell him how you feel about his suspision and how much it hurts you that he doesn't trust you. Make sure he knows just how much you love him and how painful it is to be so suffocated.
If this doesn't work try this slightly more childish approach: show him how frustrating paranoia is. Ask him how many girls he's been talking to and treat him the same way he treats you. When he starts to complain say that's how it feels when he does ths same thing to you.
If that doesn't work or if he doesn't talk to any girls, try this next tip. Now remember that this is only to be used as a last resort as it can be the most emotionally stressful, for both you and him. Tell him you need some time away from him. Tell him that you'll come back to him when he matures and starts trusting you more. This is the most likely to work, since he is losing your love because of his fear, but, as I said, it is the most painful method for the both of you.
If none of these work, don't lose hope! Keep asking people for help and trying new things. I have a feeling that your boyfriend will change with a little help.
Good luck!
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My best friend lies to me about everything. ive confronted her about it. and novv she is continuing.. any advice on vvhat i should do?
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Then she's not you friend. Sorry to say it but friends don't lie to friends. I mean if you can't trust your friend than who can you trust?
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Recently I've had a lot of trouble trying to decide what i want to do with my life. I've always wanted to sing, but i hate to admit i've lost my love for it. It became so much about the appearance and what people think. How do i get over that, and get back to doing what i love, the music? it's been so long sense I was actually involved in any live performances, how do i get over my new found insecurities? (link)
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There's no real way to get rid of your insecurities. That's just the simple truth. But that's okay! Insecurities are generally over reactions or exagerations that your mind makes when it thinks you're being judged.
By nature, I'm a bit stage fright. But whenever focus falls on me, I'm generally quite out spoken. This is because whenever I have to perform in some way, I just ignore the fact other people are there and that helps me focus.
There's an old irish proverb that says it best: 'dance like no one is watching, sing like no one is listening, and live each day to its fullest.'
I hope I've helped.
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so im doing a project and i have to find songs that someone in the past would listen to now
Im doing Amelia Earhart
and I have songs like paper planes and im like a bird
bu i need lots more so any suggestions???? (link)
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Fly away by Lenny Kravitz
I can see for miles by the who
I'll try to find more but... couldn't you have picked an easier person?
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Ok, I always get really horny and I masturbate but it just doesn't do the trick..I've tried thinking about ppl i know and i watch porn, but it just doesn't seem to help...any ideas?
I think if i saw someone i knew naked it would help, but i doubt that will ever happen.... (link)
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Sorry man but its our burden to be constantly horny.
me, I masterbate almost nightly and still I'm rawrin to go in the mornin. and the evenin.
Nothin you can do. Nothin WE can do.
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Ive been having sex recently, and the first time was REALLY sore, as you ALL know and I did bleed a little. My vagina was also a tad bit sore, but the pain went away after sometime, and so did the bleeding. I had sex for the second time and I bled AGAIN, and my vagina is STILL sore! Its been like about 2 hours now.
And Ive been having a discharge, from before I became sexually active. And it doesnt smell to great, should I bee worried, or is it natural???
Thanks.... :D (link)
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Worried.
Find a doctor now.
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I always love the look ... mixing opposites.
does anyone know where i can get a soft pink (baby pink) maybe tulle girly dress, length near the knees ( a little above is okay. a little below is too) and a black leather jacket that look good together?
14/F, 5"5, flat chest ;)
thanks so much!!
or any ideas including opposites. thanks a million,
links r appreciated! (link)
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I don't think that kind of technology exists yet.
Maybe get some black fingerless gloves or some black boots that go to the shin. Wear either with a pink shirt and some sort of skirt.
If your hair is short, spike it
if its semilong, dye it bleach blonde with a small bit in the front pink
if its long go with a hat any hat besides cowboy (blegh)
Maybe wear a tie too
All these generally look good.
....Of course, I've never seen them on a flat chested girl before XD
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What are some good songs about a best friends, who like each other, and they want it to be more?
I really like any type of music. But acoustic or anything soft is preferable.
Thanks! (link)
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I don't know if it fits but We're going to be friends by the white stripes. If you've ever seen Napoleon Dynamite, it's the openning song.
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I am so, so sick of everything relating to relationships. All that ever happens to me is: I like a guy, he's really cool, and then he gets a girlfriend. That's happened to me MULTIPLE times now. And it's either that, or the guy isn't as great as he seemed to be. It seems like everyone has SOMEBODY who completely amazes them, except for me. I've liked guys before, but none of them have truly amazed me (meaning, I have never been in love).
I'm not incredibly skinny, but I'm not "fat." I'm not drop-dead gorgeous, but I'm not ugly. I'm just your average sixteen year old girl, really, but unlike the stereotype portrays, I care about more than gossip and the way my hair looks.
I apologize for the length of this question, but I just need to know: Is it even worth trying anymore? Because whenever I find a nice guy, he either doesn't like me, has someone, or just wants to do stuff. (link)
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I know what you're talkin about; I'm the same way (only with a different set of organs XD). I've liked girls before but never really loved.
What I've decided is that if there is someone for me, we'll just somehow meet. No networking, no 'looking for...' It would just... happen.
...Of course, that's just me. Maybe you're more impatient, and that'd be okay. Takes different strokes, and all that cal. Or maybe I completely missed the point, in which case you could email me at asanoisshweet@gmail.com and explain it to me
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My friend Irena; is 5'5 and weighs approx. 120. she is 15 in 9th grade and she thinks she is fat. i told her she just needs to tone up. but she doesnt want to get muscle because it will make the scales go up..we told her to just eat healthier.. aany one else have anymore advice we could give to her. (link)
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I would suggest telling someone who might be able to do something about it (ie parents, school therapist, etc.). If your friend continues, she might develop anorexia nervosa. Symptomes for this eating disorder include skipping meals, excessive exercise, extreme wait loss, mood swings, and hostility. If she is already exibiting such symptomes, tell someone imeadiatly, because this desease can only get worse if left alone.
Above all, you MUST be supportive of her while still discouraging this behavior. Being hostile in any way to her will only make the condition worse.
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