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Q: ok lately i have been thinking of commiting suicide. most of the time i just get scared and dont do it. but im always depresses and crying for no reason. i need help and my mom doesnt want to take me to therapy because she doesnt want anybody to know what goes on in our house. my mom also says that if u commit suicide or cut yourself you will go to hell. thats basicly the only thing keeping me from jumping out of a window. so what are some free hotlines that i can call to help me through this or something because i dont want to feel this way. PLEASE HELP ME!!!
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Suicide is a permanant solution to a temporary problem...
don't do it...it is not wise...go to a doctor...go to a therapist...I don't give a crap what your mom says...
your life is the most valuable possesion you own...do not throw it away...go to a doctor immediately...call the police and tell them to take you into protective custody...its better than DYING...they will give you a therapist...and many other tools
its your life...given by Divine Right...it is not your time to go...instead find happiness in anything you can...be it an animal...the wind in the trees or the blueness of the sky know that there are many reasons to live...
be happy and rejoice for you are not alone...there are many who feel this way...and many overcome...don't be a statistic...do whatever you can to find happiness
here's a smiley face for starters :D
feel better please
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Q: Hi, Everyone!! :D *waves*
So, I just got a Weslow Pursuit machine. It's one of those exercise machines that's like a bike, but stays in place. I was wondering what kind of results you get out of this kind of equipment (bikes). Along with curlups and a fairly well based diet (yes, some snacking), how well does this help out with weight loss and toned body?
Thanks for any help. =)
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as little snacking as possible i would hope
I prefer the treadmill...along with a full balanced strength exercise...
heres a tidbit of info...
45 minutes of moderate exercise a day...while cutting 250 calories from your diet...will lose you 52 pounds in a year...
push ups are also wonderful....actually great try ladders it goes like this
15 curl ups
15 push ups
14 curl ups
14 push ups
13 curl ups
13 push ups
etc...
ALSO
some GREAT diet foods
please friend ignore the low carb bull...instead low calorie and low fat...with exercise
eat no more than 30g of fat a day...no more
also i would reccomend a 1600 calorie a day diet
here are some GREAT foods
Lays Lite potatoe chips...YUMMM eat a whole bag for 450 calories and 0g of fat!!!
Dannon lite n' fit yogurt...YUMMM
Ball Park fat free hot dogs....50 cals a frank with no fat
be sure to get lite bread and buns for hamburger and hot dogs too...and sandwhiches....
and if you do eat hamburger get lean meat...works great...tastes great too
.........
and that will DEFINATELY help you...especially if you stick with the 1600cal 30g of fat a day diet...and the exercise 45 min a day...you will lose and tone
I did...I lose 23 lbs....and gained 3-4 lbs of muscle...and the diet satisfies me...I dont even think I'm on a diet :D
it worked for me...itll work for you!!!
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Q: 16/f
2 months ago a friend that i liked the whole year screamed "(my name) i love you!" and i didnt really respond cause we were kinda far away. then later that night i was talking to him on AIM i told him that i loved him and if he really did like me. he didnt answer me, then signed off. then about 2 weeks later he signed on i IMed him again and he took like an 20 minutes to IM me back (he wasnt idle or anything and my friend was talking to him so i know he was there)he said "sorry i think we'd be better off as friends." i still really like him..alot =/ i dont see him that much anymore but i see him every now and then in the hallways. anyone have any ideas why he took so long? and what should i do? i would appreciate anything you say to me or any advicen you give me. thanks so much it means alot to me.
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Well my dear...things happen that are confusing...so my advice would be to talk to this man...and see how he really feels...and I don't mean on AIM :D, but face to face...it is the best way to clear up any misconceptions
and if he does not like you its not the end of the world...there are plenty of other guys out there, maybe hes shy, us guys can get like that....alot....but just confront him and talk to him and clear up any misunderstanding you might have...
and don't worry...heck your young...there will be A TON of guys in your life...alot of them probably better than him, but since he is the subject at hand just take my advice and talk to him
I CAN NOT GUARANTEE THAT HE WILL LIKE YOU, BUT I CAN GUARANTEE YOU WILL HAVE A LOAD OFF OF YOUR BACK...
:D
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Q: well im 15 and female..
i kinda like this guy that i met at a graduation party. hes funny,nice,cute, and hes not afraid to be himself. the tuff thing is; we dont go to the same school. at first, i thought he liked me, because he always called me. then we started talking more, and now we really dont talk that much.. except occassionaly online(we met august 5th) i really want to go to homecoming with him, or at least hang out with him, but i dont know much about him, and i dont want to make it seem wierd between us. i barely know him, i dont think he has a girlfriend(and i want to ask him, but i would think its wierd because i barley know him) but i want him to notice me and for HIM to start talking to ME more, instead of me keep trying to talk to him(because i think im being annoying, and i dont want that!) please.. any help at all on this would be greatly apreciated!!!
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Well dear, may I first say "Hello!" I am Justin T. 18/m here to help you in your pickle!
Sounds to me like this guy really could care less...here is what I would do, the guy always likes it when the girl tries first to start a relationship...so what I want you to do is just stop talking to him...stop...see if he calls/IMs/emails you, and ask questions about him every once in a while to get to know him better...just throw a question into the conversation you know? Eventually you will get to know him...and hopefully go to Homecoming with him! (yay) but if he doesn't call, then why bother worrying about someone that doesn't care for you? Instead find some new boy toys lol.
:D I do indeed wish you the best of luck!
-JT
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Q: i'm going to homecoming in a group with all my friends, and the guy i want to notice me is going too. he doesn't have a date, but i don't know how to get him to ask me to dance. and i also don't know what to do during slow dances. i'm going to their homecoming even though i don't go to their school, so i don't know any of the other guys so they won't ask me. but i don't want to look stupid and just standing there during the slow dances. and i don't want to ask him to dance. so that's not an option. what do i do during it? dancing with girls is funny for a minute or two but after that i think it gets old.
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I can tell you to slow dance, the guy you like most likely knows how to, but you just put your arms around his shoulders, and he around your waist...and you go with the flow, or so to speak...it comes natural for most I really don't think youll have to worry about that...
As for getting him to ask you, go up to him and bring up the topic of the dance...just talk about it...maybe that will work...also, don't come off as nervous, be casual...its all cool...nonchalant...collect, hopefully he'll get the hint and ask you to the dance! I hope he does!
Best wishes,
JT
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Q: i've been depressed for awhile and about 4 days ago i have barely eaten and i've started cutting myself any ideas to help me stop and eat without telling ANY one?
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My friend I'm determined to help you, but your going to have to give more information than that, so IM me, my IM is on my advice column, or if you don't have AIM email me...and if that email doesn't work email me at
bite_the_bullet_13@yahoo.com
ok?
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Q: okay im 16 5-4 and i weigh 150. i dont look really fat tho you kno what im saying? but anyways i have some fat on my stomach i want to get rid of and im caplable of getin ready of if i just stick with my diet the problem is i always stop my diet for stupid reasons. i guess you can call me a very bad dieter. do you guys have any ideas to keep my focus on my diet more?
i rate fives.
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Listen my friend
I earn my fives....you rate me as you see fit, now here is what you do
at Subway...yes Subway...I found that great food, with low fat and calories was possible!!
also, some Lays Lite chips...are wonderous
also Dannon lightnfit yogurt! Vanilla...yum
now...150lbs, the ideal weight for you
would be 120 due to ur height...NOT TO WORRY THOUGH this can be lost in a matter of 3-4 months with exercise and proper diet...
It has been statistically proven...that if you cut 250 calories off of your diet...and exercise everyday moderatly for 45 minutes
you can lose 40lbs in a year...so walk/run everyday keep your calories below 1500 and your fat below 30grams...and you will do brilliantly, also you want to know the secret to keeping on your diet....your 16, and if u maintain this lifestyle...your going to gain more...and more...and more...until its too late...I dont want that for you...so give it a year....one year.....just one....and ull be living the life of Riley, YOU CAN DO IT!!!
I wish you all the best!
JT
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Q: okay it seems my problem is i can get guys.
ill like some guy alot intil he starts liking me. then it seems like i dont like him anymore? which i know doesnt make a bit of sense. for instance i liked this guy justin but he had the same last name as me but we arent related or anything.. and he started liking me and for some reason i just didnt like him anymore. but recently we work togather now and i like him again and i do this time for sure hes sooo adorable but idk how to get to start talking to him again cuz im sure he doesnt like me anymore. but thats not only it, hes the ONLY guy everytime i go to say something to him i say something stupid and make a complete fool out of my self and for some reason he makes me feel stupid when i talk to him sometimes. but at work its different we just talk like were friends. but i want to be more then that.
help me please..
i rate fives.
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Listen, I want to earn my fives girl...and the only way your going to find out whether or not he likes you is by telling him!!! So that is your homework from JT *hehe thats me* is to go and tell him...
ironically my name is Justin...*blinks*
anyway, the thing about you saying something stupid everytime you walk up to him, there is a word for that dear, and its called love :D
I wish you the best
JT
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Q: i play girls basketball for my school. the season is starting in about a month and a half and i really want to get into shape but i can't do it. i'll tell myself over and over again that i'll stop eating bad and stuff but it never works. i need to lose weight not just for basketball but to feel better about myself. what can i do that will get me in shape and make me stick to it?
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Girl, listen to me
listen hard...only you, can get yourself in shape...only you can motivate you...ask yourself when you see the obese man or woman walking into a McDonalds...ask yourself
"DO I WANT TO BE THAT PERSON IN MY DISTANT FUTURE?!"
No you don't...you don't...so here is what your going to do, your going to go out everyday, your going to run, if you get tired, your going to walk but either way your going to exercise cardio for 45 minutes 5 days a week
Consult your doctor or fitness expert...about a set caloric and fat intake...YOU CAN DO IT!!! I lost 30lbs by exercising and eating right, because obesity, IS NOT A FACTOR IN MY FUTURE!! and it wont be in yours...
my reccomendation for a girl...
1400 cals a day and 30g of fat no more...NO MORE
here are some things that may save your life
they did me, Lays Lite Potato chips...Dannon Lite n Fit yogurt and smoothies, tons of fruit n veggies...and of course SUBWAY sandwhiches...no mayo or cheese either
I know that the first two weeks of exercising your gonna want to quit, girl please dont! you can do it...trust me I have faith in you...and once you start seeing those results...youll want to keep them...so start reading the food labels exercise 45 minutes a day of cardio 5 days a week...also some sit ups/push ups wouldnt hurt either...
1400 cals, 30g of fat a day...no more...remember only you can change you...I wish you the best of luck!
-JT
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Q: My mother has a problem sleeping. For these past few days, she has been getting the lack of sleep.
Do you have the same problem? What can I tell my mom without useing any sleeping medicine to let her fall alseep.
Anything can help. PLEASE HELP ME!
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Im sorry my friend, but I do in fact reccomend proper medication for insomnia, but there are alternatives,
here are some causes for insomnia
stress...
restless mind...
pain
nausea
check to see if your mom has any of these things...also some other things might help too for sleeping aids besides for medication
one, warm milk helps some
another is a masage of sorts before bed, of course you would probably have to administer them...
If none of those things work, I reccomend consulting your family doctor of possible prescription choices...I reccomend Remeron myself...but I do wish your mother the best, and I hope she gets a good nights sleep real soon!
Best Wishes
-JT
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Q: Hey, how are you?
Have you ever dated a guy? When you have a crush, did the guy you like, like you back?
If so, maybe you can help me.
I'm 14/F and never dated or even got told a guy likes me. Currently, I have a huge crush on this super cute boy. (He's one of those guy aren't like from a bunch of girls, I think. My friends say that he isnt ugly, but isn't hot) Is there any hints that I can know he likes me? I want him to like me...he's a year older than me and when my friend and I talk to him, he replies. He doesn't say much but only answers the question...does that mean he is shy or just doesn't want to talk?
HELP!!!!!!!!
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Hehehe, I am a man, and yes guys are rather shy towards girls they like, that is unless the isnt a cocky over-confident *insert insulting word here* that will take advantage of you at any time...
My advice is to work what you girls work, flirt with him, pass him hints...etc...
but the best way to do it is just to tell him you like him...that is the best and fastest way! Yes it is hard, but muster up the strength in you!! I know you can do it if you really really try...I wish you all the luck in the world
best wishes
-JT
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Q: well.. my friends and i are cool now. but then theres one problem.. the guy im going out wit' now... was 2 of my bestfriends ex's. and i asked 'em first if it was okay if i go out wit' him, and they said yeahh of course it was okay. cause my bestfriend number 1 went out him after my bestfriend number 2. and number 2 didn't have a problem wit it at all.. so i went out wit' him and then my number 2 gets mad at me saying that i didn't tell her before hand which i did. and we're in a fight right now. but then my other friend in his profile says "hate day 082706" which is mine and my boyfriends date when we went out. and thenn my ex boyfriend when i had a problem wit' before, keeps looking at me or something. so idk what to do. HELP ME PLEASE !
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Ahhh...
a bit of a pickle eh dear?
Well don't worry there is a quite simple answer! Do what your heart tells you to do, and NOTHING else!
Which is more important to you dear, your friends or this man?
Friends............Man
You have to decide...and once you do know that there will be know regrets, because you are doing what your heart is telling you to do...and there is no shame or regret in that!
I wish you the best!
-JT
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Q: i like a guy so so so so so much but im afraid to go out with him because ive never kissed a guy before and im really freacked out by it and dont know what to do please help! thanks
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Hahaha, how cute, listen kissing is not a gross thing at all...in fact it is truly a magical experience...don't be afraid dear!!! GO OUT WITH HIM!!!
I wish you the best!
JT
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Q: so, i have this geometry homework thingy... and you have to write what property you use for each step... the question is 5(x - 1) = 4x + 13.... and so the properties i used are distrobution, subtraction and addition.. but i don't know if it's right or not... i got the answer 18... so if any one could i help i would really appriciate it... thanx
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Well.............................
guess what???
YOUR RIGHT!!!!
:D :D :D
you don't need advice for this smartie :D
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Q: Hi. My boyfriend just recently left for college.. It's 2 hours away and I don't know whats going to happen. I don't know what to think. I am just really confused about everything. Please help me out if you have been to college and know what i am talking about. or if your in the same situation.
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I know this is hard, but statistically long distance does not work...but, screw statistics, if you love this man, if you WANT to be with him, and are WILLING to MAKE it work, then darn it you do it...I know what your going through, and it is hard, some relationships work, some don't it just depends on how much the couple is in love...and if you have a strong love between you, all will be well...
I wish you the best!
-JT
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Q: Hi...im 17 female to begin with so i no im still young. but i have some real issues went i get intimate with a guy, if im friends with a guy i can talk to them easily and be totaly relaxed and myself but as soon as i start being in a relationship then thats when i become quiter and my personality does not shine through whatsoever. my mind also seems to go blank when im with them like i have to think of conversation and nothing comes out so then they think this is the real me even though i know im a fun girl and really friendly. i hate this and because i live in a fairly small town im worried that this has/will spread throughout the scene of people i want or do accosiate myself with. HHHEEELLLPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Greetings!!!
My name is Justin Taylor, I'm 18 years old, and I will be advising you today, I understand you completely dear, and it's not your fault, what you need to do is quite simple actually, be yourself, I know that is rather unoriginal, but if you say your a fun and friendly girl then well darn it BE A FUN AND FRIENDLY GIRL! I have a feeling that your mind goes blank because you don't want to say anything, "offensive or stupid" to damage the relationship, well my dear you took a risk getting into a relationship, time to take another by communicating! That is the only way you can tell if a relationship is going to work! COMMUNICATION! So the next time you get into a relationship, I want u to talk! just talk, about anything...don't be afraid, if the guy likes you, he will listen, and he most definatly wont find you stupid or whatever...I do wish you the best my dear!
-JT
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Q: so i really like this guy. and last semester he kinda said that he will go to a different school and then the other day he said that he have to stay. so school startet three days ago and the first day he was there. but the next two days he was'nt. and i dont know if he's coming back now or not cause next week my class is going to a camp for 1 week. and i'm really worried he's going to a different school now cause i really like him and the school is not the same without him. so what should i do? what do you think????
thx alot
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Greetings!!!
I've been through the whole moving process while I was in a relationship or in the process of getting a relationship...I know...its hard, but I only have one peice of advice for you my dear, and I hope I don't come off as harsh, the best thing to do if he moves, is to move on...yes you liked him, but due to circumstances beyond your control he moved...and yeah, it does indeed suck, but all you can do is to move about your life as happily as possible :D, but let us go to the other scenario, the one where he doesn't move (YAY) I wan't you to go up to him and tell him ur feelings!!! Tell him fast so he won't have a chance to move! You dig me? :D I wish you all the best dear!
-JT
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Q: There's this boy that I am on and off with. I mean I really like him but I have a tendency to find the tiny bad things in people and trip over it completely and normally that's why I have dumped him a lot. I don't know if I should give him a longer chance and stick with him or move on... But I do really like him and I always will and I know that I get jealous when girls flirt with him. What should I do?
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Greetings! I am an 18/m, and let me tell you something, no guy is perfect, I have a friend like you that finds the tiniest things wrong with her men haha, but you must not concentrate on that! As for the question of whether or not to stay with him, I don't know, I've never met him, but what I can tell you is some questions that might help you in your decision...
Has he been good to me?
Is he sweet?
Do I think he cares for me?
What is the evidence that he cares?
Does he remember key events in our relationship?
ask questions to yourself like that to aid you in your decision...relationships are magical things indeed...as for your issue of jealousy, don't get jealous my dear, if he is true to you, than that is all that matters...
I wish you the best!
-JT
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Greetings users! My name is Justin Taylor and hopefully I will help some souls in need of dire assistance, I analyze alot and hopefully on this site that "skill" is a good thing, so ask me any sort of question and I will try to answer to the best of my ability!! I love to help people and hope you will find my advice comforting if not re-assuring!
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Website: E-mail: Gender: Male Location: South Carolina Occupation: Student Age: 18 AIM: Member Since: September 3, 2006 Answers: 18 Last Update: January 7, 2007 Visitors: 3114
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