Hey, I'm Sarah. I've basically just joined this site because I know how hard it can be when something is really on your mind and you just need to get it off your chest or get some advice. I respect all with no prejudice as long as this treatment is reciprocated. I don't have all the answers and I am not a professional, I am just someone who is willing to take the time to recognise and support you.
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Location: Australia
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Member Since: July 8, 2008
Answers: 20
Last Update: July 9, 2008
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im 14 and ive never used a tampon. i dont understand why i cant do it. since like i cant get in into my vagina. like it hurts so badly and it like doesnt fit? and i can never find it. i can always read the directions. but it still doesnt help me. ahh help =( (link)
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Hey,
Tampons can be tricky at first. I didn't start using them until I turned 16, after I had my period for 3 years. I remember trying to do it when I was 13 and it was the most uncomfortable and painful thing ever. When I tried to do it when I turned 16 it was strangely easy and comfortable.
I didn't even use the instructions, I did what felt right for my body. Make sure you relax your vaginal muscles and keep them relaxed as you are inserting it. If you are worried about any mess (excess blood), you may want to wear a sanitary disposable glove or toilet paper. As you insert the tampon, you may need to adjust the direction its going in until it feels right. There is a sort of thresh hold, if you will, where it actually enters the vagina. This can feel extremely weird and you will notice the difference in firmness. Make sure when you reach this stage you keep your muscles relaxed. If you feel a wall, you are going in the wrong direction.
It is usually tilted upwards slightly.
Don't hesitate in using several tampons. Just be sure that if you put it in and then pull it out, you get a fresh one when you try again.
If you can still feel the tampon once it is in, it has not gone up far enough.
Be sure to wash your hands before and after.
Persist! Don't get disheartened, tampons can be really helpful when you've got your period, but hey, pads aren't too bad either.
Good luck darl. =]
Sarah.
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I might get my eyebrows waxed soon so i would like to know if it hurts badly because i have sensitive skin? (link)
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Hey,
I'll be honest here. Personally, I think it hurts like hell. But then again my mum and sister have no problem with it. I've always been pretty week to that sort of stuff. HOWEVER, the momentary lapse of pain totally outweighs the pain of plucking. I'd rather a wax to plucking any day. I would also rather the pain of waxing to messy eyebrows any day.
Basically - it hurts, but it's worth it.
It kinda feels like a slap on your thigh.
Good luck darl! =]
Sarah.
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my brother has been picking on me for as long as i can remember.how do i stop my brother picking on me? (link)
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Hey hun,
My heart really goes out to you - I can see how much it hurts in the innocence of your question. I wish I could offer some kind of solution but honestly there isn't one. Most of the time it really isn't personal, brothers can be cruel, usually because they are so oblivious.
Hang in there hun. Sometimes it does help to retaliate, just to show that there are some levels he can't scoop too. It is best to try not to lash back until a certain point he reaches which hurts particularly bad. If you limit your anger to more specified places, he will get the point that he has gone too far. It's like swearing. If you say the 'F' word in every sentence, it has no effect if you say it while you are angry. However, if you are a person who never swears, when you do eventually swear, it has a greater affect.
Maybe try and make him feel like an idiot for being mean to him. Ignoring him really does help.
When my sister tries to be mean to be, I often use reverse psychology.
I look at her with a condescending facial expression and say "Don't say that." and walk away. This also works for your peers. It is an extremely powerful and underestimated tool. Use it wisely. ;)
Good luck darl! =]
Sarah.
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i'm babysitting these two kids on tuesday, one is a year and a half old, and the other is about 3and a half years old.
this is my first time babysitting so i don't have a rate and i'm almost 15 years old.
how much should i charge per hour?
like 5 or 6$?
thanks (link)
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Hey,
Definitely go for $6 an hour. If they think its too much then they will bargain down. Fingers crossed they will make the first offer for something more.
How exciting for you! Congratulations!
Good luck darl. =]
Sarah.
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i like a famous girl but i will never meet her and i can't get over her what do i do (link)
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Hey,
It's really hard and sucks badly when you like someone you are so far away from.
The best thing is to eliminate anything that may prompt you to think about them.
Take down posters, pictures, writing, songs, movies, whatever, that will make you think of the girl.
Whenever you think of her, change your mind to think of someone you find attractive that you know, or simply change your thoughts to something totally different. If it helps, try to train yourself to hate her. Criticize her work, find her flaws and don't focus on what you love about her.
It will take a while, but eventually, you will get over it.
Good luck darl! =]
Sarah.
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My husband and I purchased a cabin in the mountains four years ago. Along with that, we purchased two ATVs (four-wheelers) to ride the thousands of acres of mountain trails adjacent to our cabin property.
We love to have our children and grandchildren visit and have an open door policy where they're concerned.
Recently, my married daughter asked me, in front of her husband, if we would be willing to let them use the cabin for use with her husband's family. We told her we would have to think about it. We discussed it briefly with them and never gave them an answer.
My husband and I had already talked about this situation because we knew it would come up. I had expressed to my daughter shortly after we purchased the cabin that this was a "family only" cabin and was not open to in-laws. My daughter told me at that time that she understood. I feel like she was put up to asking me by her husband.
My husband and I feel strongly that we don't want my daughter's in-laws, or any other in-laws for that matter, accessing our cabin. Our cabin is as personal as our home, and I wouldn't lend out the use of my home to just anyone.
Also, I'm worried about the liability issue concerning the use of our four-wheelers and also who would be responsible if they damaged them.
I also feel like if we open up the cabin to this set of in-laws, our other children would assume that they would be entitled to bring their in-laws and friends to the cabin, which rightfully so they should.
Am I being too possessive of "my cabin"? I don't want to alienate my son-in-law, but, again, I don't feel I have any obligation to provide his family with a weekend retreat. I'm afraid if we allow it "just this once" that it will become expected that they can use it any time.
Please advise. Thanks
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Hey,
You are completely right with this one. You bought it with the intention of it being a family home, and you made this very clear. I think it was extremely unfair of your daughter to put you in that sort of position by asking you in front of her husband. Definitely stick to your guns on this one.
Good luck darl. =]
Sarah.
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Mkkkayyy where do i start.
so my best friend maggie;
we weerre very close, i meen so close we lived at eachothers houses. we would hang out evvvveerryday and do evvveerything together.
we liked the same type of guys and the same clothes.
i meen, we were honestly the best of friends.
well. summer came.
and i havent talked to her in foorrevver.
i meen , 2 months now?
in the beginning of the summer we hung out like.. 3 times.
but, idont know. i think i stopped hanging out everyday because we fought too much.
i meen, we fought over ANYTHING and EVERYTHING.
-if i ust wanted to relax and not hang out? it pissed her off.
-if i gave her a "cocky" look; WORLD WAR3 STARTS!
ughhh it bugged me so ffreekin much..
also i have another very close friend,lindsey.
i meen im so close to lindsey that i consider her my sister, ive known her ever since the 4th grade.
well lindsey lives right across the street from me and sometimes comes over when maggie is over
now.. im totally fine with all three of us hanging out but MAGGIE. SHES... i cant even explain it! shes such a differant person with lindsey.
its like.. she sucks up? she tries soooo fcking hard to make lindsey laugh.
sure- i get jealous.
but yeah her fakeness allllwwayyys brings us into fights when lindsey is around.
like, when lindsey is around and were having a fight, she always turns to lindsey and has that cocky face like " can you believe her.." or like " lindsey what do you think about that"
im like !?!? LINDSEY ISNT IN THIS SO STOP LOOKING AT HER FOR ANSWERS.
UGh it bugs me!
but .. that was a long time ago.
shes still like that im sure.
Also the 3rd time we hung out in the summer, the most recent, she had a guy problem
like; her ex called her and started talking crap about her bloah blah, and maggie starts crying and says she hates him and i have to like comfort her for an hour and you know.. stick up for her.
well.. what do you know.
she goes back out with him the next day.
THIS JERK! she goes back out with!!
and im like. wwwttfff??
you cried for soo long because this kid was so damn mean to you..
his name is devin who is the younger brother of lindseys boyfriend.
so , lindsey john (lindseys bf) maggie and devin all started to hang out. this happened before , so im used to the ; feeling left out part.
also where i thought i needed a bf who was friends with john and devin just to see lindsey and maggie.. but im not that dumb.. i dont do that.
okay so . maggie and devin broke up because devin told his friends he was goign to cheat with maggie.
maggie starts hanging with a close friend of hers, just like we hugn out; evverryydayy.
i cant say she didnt try to call me, because i didnt.
i feeel like, i dont need to.
for some reason, i dont want to see her?
idk.
i dont want to get into fights,
i dont want her to be a fake around lindsey,
and i espicially dont want to deal with devin.
what do i do?
i meen, we havent talked in sooo long.
and if this happened two months ago,
and we didnt talk for one DAY,
it would be a problem..
i think i was too attached to her
and now i dont want to be.
how do i tell her that?
like.. im not even sure why i dont want to see her,
but when i see her on myspace or something i just get so dang fed up with her..
what do i doo???? (link)
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Hey,
The feeling you've got of not wanting to see her is quite common. It's a case of being so close to someone, you can't stand them any more. I also have a friend like this. We've known each other for 11 years, and at one point we fought ALL THE TIME. Like an old married couple. It was exhausting. Now days, we are still extremely close, but more like sisters. We talk maybe once a week, even less. We had a huge break of a few months between each other, but I know she is like family.
Maybe you just need a break from her? I find that sometimes when a friend is annoying me in every way, I need a break from them to remind me of why I loved them in the first place. I eventually find and appreciate the things that brought us to be friends and want to experience that again. The best way to maintain this is to limit closeness. Keep in touch, but only see each other in small doses. You don't want to throw away all those years you worked on developing such a lovely friendship. You don't have to officially tell her this, but I'm sure she will get the point. Considering it has been 2 months since you have talked to each other, it seems as though this kind of relationship has already begun to develop.
There's nothing wrong with keeping a friend like this, most adult relationships run on these sort of basis anyway.
Good luck darl! =]
Sarah.
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this is a question about the show supernatural.
if you havent wacthed it i recomend it, but it has a lot of violence though. but here is my question... Do you think jensen ackles(dean) is coming back to the show? there has been a lot of rumors that he is moving on to movies and that chad michael murry is going to play dean. i really hope not though. i love jensen!!! and also do you like sam or dean better? thanks-muddymidfielder (link)
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I've watched the first season, but I still can't remember who's who. Anyway, I really like the brother with the longer hair. He is drop dead gorgeous! I'm not too fond of the the shorter one. Don't understand what you people see in him!
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my bro n his wife r having trouble raising their son which most of it is lack of common sense and mainly being to selfish so i was asked by my parents if i wud move home(2 hrs away) to help them help my bro n wife..dnt want to move back to home town however there is a little boy to b concerned 4..very confused and a rollercoaster of thots running thru my head that i dnt feel im thinking with full clarity..and i have to move by end of month so the pressure of time isnt helping either...... (link)
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Hey,
This sounds like an absolutely horrible situation and it is obvious that you are feeling the pressure of it all. I know that it's your brother and you evidently care a lot about their child, however you need to try and disassociate yourself from the situation before you make yourself sick with worry.
As much as you care, I don't think you have to much such a huge commitment into helping raise a child. I don't know how old you are, but you need to enjoy and to worry about your own life before taking on such a huge burden.
If you were to move in with them, you would be most likely helping with the general housekeeping of the child, rather then any senseless decisions made by his parents. Personally, I think it is a HUGE commitment to do so and perhaps too much for one person. Moving out to a place two hour away is a big change - think carefully about the reality of the situation. Think about how much good you could do for the family and how it will affect you in the future. Put yourself first in this case.
It sounds like a horrible situation.
I wish you the best of luck darl. =]
Sarah.
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okay so i have been having diarrhea on and off for like the past month and dont know what to do about it...i will not poop for a couple days or so and then have diarrhea... i am going on a road trip this friday and will be in the car for long periods of time, and i am really worried that i will make my family stop alot... i also dont want to tell my mom about this, if possible
thanks- muddymidfielder (link)
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Hey,
There could be a number of reasons that you've been having Diarrhea. The fact that it has been happening for a while is much more alarming. Chronic Diarrhea can kill if not treated, and is quite a simple treatment. It is the leading killer in non-western countries. It can be cured by a simple saline solution. However this may not be the case, but please understand that this may or may not be very serious.
I would recommend eating foods with high fiber and that go easy on the stomach. Take a look at this for a list of foods with high fiber - http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/high-fiber-foods/NU00582
It is also very important that you drink a lot of water to replace the water lost.
There are not many over the counter drugs you can take for diarrhea, however it is not always a good idea to take them anyway.
If it is not a virus, and is a bacterial infection or a parasite, the organism could get trapped in the intestines, prolonging the problem.
The best idea is definitely to go to the doctor. There is nothing embarrassing about diarrhea, everyone gets sick, and I'm sure your mum will understand. You really won't be comfortable or be able to enjoy yourself if you have to stop all the time in the car. It will be more embarrassing if they start to wonder why you need to go to the toilet so often and you haven't told them.
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I'd really appreciate answers from people who have actually BEEN pregnant, or are a nurse or something along those lines.
I'm not trying to say that other people don't know what they're talking about. I just need a REAL straightfoward answer, that isn't a bunch of myths.
Okay, I don't want to hear 'OMG YOUR SO STUPID!' Or any kind of lecturing. I know what I did was stupid, and irresposible. But, my and my boyfriend of 3 years recently had sex, it wasn't out first time together but it was our first time without a condom, and I'm scared I may have gotten pregnant. What I'm asking is simple:
What are the first signs of pregnancy, and when do they start? I can't rely on my period as one of them, bc that's irregular as it is. (link)
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Hey,
Not wanting to state the obvious - but the best way to determine if you are pregnant of not if of course a home pregnancy test (I suppose the doctor would be better).
Any other symptoms (especially if you're ruling out ovulation as one of them) are particularly unreliable and could be caused by stress or simply all be in your head due to the thought of being pregnant. Either way, here are some signs -
1. Darkening of your areolas (the skin around your nipples)
2. Tender, swollen breats
3. Fatigue
4. Altered sense of taste (Sometimes a metallic taste in your mouth or disliking things you normally like the taste of such as tea of coffee)
5. Cravings (not very reliant)
6. Morning sickness (Although it is usually common a few weeks after conception, it can sometimes happen within a couple of days. It also does not necessarily have to happen in the morning.)
Most of these can start anywhere between a couple of days to a couple of weeks after conception. I would really recommend finding a way to get a home pregnancy test before you stress yourself out and jump to any conclusions. My friend also thought she would be pregnant as she had missed a period, had cravings, sore breasts and "morning sickness". It turned out her period was just running late and a lot of it was in her head, she was getting sick from the stress of the possibility of pregnancy.
Take it easy and try not to regret what you did too much. We all make mistakes and there is no point in dwelling in the past. Take what life gives you and be strong.
Good luck darl. =]
Sarah.
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15/f
i'm 5'6" about 120 pounds, i'm not really fat but i want to tone my body, maybe lose a few pounds. can anyone tell me exactly what i should do everyday?
like to tone my stomach, arms, and thighs?
like what exercise and how much i should do. thank you so much! (link)
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Hey,
The best way to tone your stomach would be sit ups (or crunches).Depending on your level of fitness, you may want to start with 30 a night for a week. Then progress to 60 for another week, then to 100 and so on. Do this at your own place, but defiantly set goals for yourself. For your arms, various weight lifting techniques would be most suitable. Usually it is not recommended that you do weight lifting until you are 16 so use your discretion.
For toning your thighs, you may want to do leg lifts. A good all round toner is a jog, which will also keep you fit.
It's so good to want to get in shape while accepting that you aren't overweight. Good on you, girl!
Good luck darl! =]
Sarah.
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16 f
so my friend thought itd be a good idea to hook me up with one of her best guy friends. She introduced us and we started talking over AIM and soon on the phone and then finally we met in person . Well everything was going so good for the first 2 weeks that we were talking he'd call me everyday in the morning and just before he'd go to sleep until the third week comes around and he starts acting a little weird...he'd call me less or sometimes not even call me at all.....wed barely see each other because he'd make up excuses not 2. And so I got the courage to ask him why all the changes I even poured my feelings out to him and all he said to me was "I don't know I like you but I don't know" can anyone tell me why any boy would say that? I'm just confused as to what hes not sure about? I just want things to go back to the way they were in the beginning. (link)
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Hey,
Sometimes a new relationship requires a bit of extra effort from both sides. It sounds like he was putting a lot of his heart into it in the beginning and then back off for some reason. Maybe he didn't feel as though his feelings were being reciprocated? Perhaps you need to do some of the "chasing" now, rather then him chasing you. Call him up in the morning and evening and put some more effort into hanging out with him. If after a couple of weeks you still get the same non responsive behavior, hey may simply not be interested anymore. Sometimes that's just the way things work out. Good luck Darl! =]
Sarah.
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16 f
How do you keep a conversation going with a boy when you've already talked about everything there is to talk about? Like me and him will be talking about something random but then after 5 minutes it'll get really quiet or we'll just stopp talking and I'm really interested in him but sometimes its so hard to keep the conversation from getting akward what are some things I could do to keep us talking? (link)
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Hey,
Try talking about yourself for a bit. A great way to have a conversation is to find a common dislike. A good one is a particular person or TV show you don't like. Even if it is as something as simple as your parents saying something annoying.
Also try getting into 'story telling mode'. This is where you share funny stories from the past, back and forth. This is called an analogue.
Just try and break the ice. Even by stating the obvious by saying "Don't you hate awkward silences?" and then every time an awkward silence comes up, say it again - "Oh! There's that damn awkward silence again!"
It will get easier in time, own the conversation!
Good Luck Darl! =]
Sarah.
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is it possible for a 14 year old to support herself?
i could take trax to school and my grandpa said he would pay for my books, etc.
if i got parental consent i can work at a library, or coldstone, or lagoon or something when i turn 14..
i just fight with my mom too much and my dad cant really support me so yeah..
dont tell me to get counselors. we have 3.
but anyways, if your emmancipated do you have to pay for insurance or do ur parents have to until you are 18?
and if its possible, who do i talk to about getting emmancipated and how do i do it? (link)
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Hey,
Emancipation is only allowed under extenuating circumstances. It is often in cases of severe abuse (physical, emotional, sexual, financial, neglect, etc) and where the court is confident that the child is capable of supporting oneself.
Usually, the minor is placed in a foster care facility. You must be aware the emancipation is extremely uncommon and from what you have stated (please keep in mind that this is only based on what you've said, I do not know the full story), it seems as though there is no grounds for an emancipation to be eligible. In regards to your question, if you are emancipated, you are legal considered an adult with your parents having no legal control over you. This means there would be no financial support. Insurance is not a legal requirement, you choose to pay it. If things are tough, why don't you try staying with your grandfather for a week or two? This will allow you and your parents a break from each other to cool down and think things over. Things can be tough with your parents, don't worry Hun, it does get better - hang in there.
Good luck! =]
Sarah.
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K, so. I have the best boyfriend i could ever want. the only problem is that i hardly ever get to see him because he has baseball so much and his parents are all strict and crap. I really dont want to break up with him but its really kind of pointless if im missing him 75% of the time and seeing him 25% of the time. what should i do? (link)
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Hey,
You're going to have to plan ahead if you want to get some time with your boyfriend. Talk to him, organise a time and date when he doesn't have baseball, and then get him to check with his parents. If I were you, I would negotiate in great favor to the parents - anything is better than nothing! See if there is a way you can meet him after school, perhaps a day you get off early or you have some spare time. You could also try and attend some of his baseball practice sessions and hang out for a bit after woods, even if it only for a few minutes. A relationship like this takes a lot of effort, but if you think he is worth it then good luck darl! =]
Sarah.
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well i like my best friend and i dont know what to do. i only like him a little but the thing is i really want him to like me. but i dont know if he even sees me as a possibility. what should i do? and how do i flirt with him but not make things weird because i dont want to make things weird between us and what if he doesnt like me? please help!! and what signs would give off if he was interested in me or at least saw me as a possibility? i will take all the advice i can get or any of these questions!! please help!!!!! :) (link)
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Hey,
These are ALWAYS sticky situations to be in – never any fun.
I think the best plan would be to try and get onto the subject. Personally, I’d rather someone is upfront about it, but I know that it is an extremely hard thing to do, so let’s be realistic here. Get on to the conversation about whom each of you “like”. Then try and talk about the possibility of you liking each other. If you sense a negative vibe from it all, then it is probably a no. Use your discretion. If you are sensing a mutual feeling, then you are just going to have to take the plunge and put yourself out there to get things moving. The worst feeling is that of wondering and waiting – don’t get caught up with beating around the bush! Just remember that once you commit to a relationship with a friend, it is often hard to get back that same friendship once your relationship has diminished.
Good luck darl! =]
Sarah.
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i need to find more information about high schools that are all about the performing arts such as acting and so forth can u give me any ideas? (link)
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Hey,
I’d recommend your first stop being ‘Google’ (or another familiar search engine).
Just type in your city along with ‘Performing Arts School’ and have a look what there is to offer! Also, keep an eye out in your local newspapers and make a few calls.
But the best place to start would have to be the internet.
If you are already a part of a performing arts school (outside of school drama class), ask them about it, I’m sure they would know of somewhere.
Good luck Darl! =]
Sarah.
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Alright, So i'm a 16 year old female.
I have to pee ALL the time. atlesat once an hour, i can pee once, then have to go a few minutes later..
it's getting worse too.
i dont know what's wrong with me, i know i should go see a doctor & my dad agrees too but i dont know if my mo will take me- i dont think she thinks its a problem.
what will they do if i do go?
also, i've been getting stomach aches arndomly
and if i dont eat every so often, i get sorda dizy & weak & i dont want to eat then at all, even though onc ei do i feel MUCH better..
that could be something diffrent though, like the summer heet or anything.
i'd just like some ideas, if you've gone througha nything like this or if you know someone who has
(its not recenteither- its been happening for years, it WAS NEVER THIS BAD THOUGH, ITS GETTING WORSE)
btw- im not sexually active & im a virgin. (link)
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Hey,
I'd really recommend you see a doctor. Some of your symptoms seem to reflect that of Diabetes. Do they run in your family?
You may also have a problem with your kidneys.
I also find it strange that you only defecate weekly, although if you have been doing that all your life then I wouldn't be too worried - you may just have a slow digestive process.
I am no doctor, so don't take my word for it.
I would suggest you just go with your dad, and persist with your mum to take you. If not, try and go on your own, you should be old enough.
Meanwhile, keep up your fluids and eat as healthy as you can. Try and keep a notice on how your body reacts to certain types of food (e.g. sugar, glucose etc).
Good Luck darl'. =]
Sarah.
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Whenever i wear leggings, and i go to school [it seemed that was the only place that it happened] i would get a rash on my bum. it would make it uncomfortable to sit, it would feel like i had tourettes. What is it? and how can i avoid it? (link)
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Hey, these can be pretty painful. It may be caused my chafing or you may be having an allergic reaction to the material. You might want to consider investing in a rash powder that is designed specifically for those types of rashes, rather than baby powder. There are also creams available for chafing. However, you shouldn't have to put up with this in the first place. I'd reccomend talking to your mum or school about it and see if you can simply wear socks (leggings don't keep you that warm anyway, and hey, it's either be cold or have an annoying rash).
Good luck! =]
Sarah.
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