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wtttfff? how long has it beeenn??(long but worth advice)
Mkkkayyy where do i start.
so my best friend maggie;
we weerre very close, i meen so close we lived at eachothers houses. we would hang out evvvveerryday and do evvveerything together.
we liked the same type of guys and the same clothes.
i meen, we were honestly the best of friends.
well. summer came.
and i havent talked to her in foorrevver.
i meen , 2 months now?
in the beginning of the summer we hung out like.. 3 times.
but, idont know. i think i stopped hanging out everyday because we fought too much.
i meen, we fought over ANYTHING and EVERYTHING.
-if i ust wanted to relax and not hang out? it pissed her off.
-if i gave her a "cocky" look; WORLD WAR3 STARTS!
ughhh it bugged me so ffreekin much..
also i have another very close friend,lindsey.
i meen im so close to lindsey that i consider her my sister, ive known her ever since the 4th grade.
well lindsey lives right across the street from me and sometimes comes over when maggie is over
now.. im totally fine with all three of us hanging out but MAGGIE. SHES... i cant even explain it! shes such a differant person with lindsey.
its like.. she sucks up? she tries soooo fcking hard to make lindsey laugh.
sure- i get jealous.
but yeah her fakeness allllwwayyys brings us into fights when lindsey is around.
like, when lindsey is around and were having a fight, she always turns to lindsey and has that cocky face like " can you believe her.." or like " lindsey what do you think about that"
im like !?!? LINDSEY ISNT IN THIS SO STOP LOOKING AT HER FOR ANSWERS.
UGh it bugs me!
but .. that was a long time ago.
shes still like that im sure.
Also the 3rd time we hung out in the summer, the most recent, she had a guy problem
like; her ex called her and started talking crap about her bloah blah, and maggie starts crying and says she hates him and i have to like comfort her for an hour and you know.. stick up for her.
well.. what do you know.
she goes back out with him the next day.
THIS JERK! she goes back out with!!
and im like. wwwttfff??
you cried for soo long because this kid was so damn mean to you..
his name is devin who is the younger brother of lindseys boyfriend.
so , lindsey john (lindseys bf) maggie and devin all started to hang out. this happened before , so im used to the ; feeling left out part.
also where i thought i needed a bf who was friends with john and devin just to see lindsey and maggie.. but im not that dumb.. i dont do that.
okay so . maggie and devin broke up because devin told his friends he was goign to cheat with maggie.
maggie starts hanging with a close friend of hers, just like we hugn out; evverryydayy.
i cant say she didnt try to call me, because i didnt.
i feeel like, i dont need to.
for some reason, i dont want to see her?
idk.
i dont want to get into fights,
i dont want her to be a fake around lindsey,
and i espicially dont want to deal with devin.
what do i do?
i meen, we havent talked in sooo long.
and if this happened two months ago,
and we didnt talk for one DAY,
it would be a problem..
i think i was too attached to her
and now i dont want to be.
how do i tell her that?
like.. im not even sure why i dont want to see her,
but when i see her on myspace or something i just get so dang fed up with her..
what do i doo????
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Hey,
The feeling you've got of not wanting to see her is quite common. It's a case of being so close to someone, you can't stand them any more. I also have a friend like this. We've known each other for 11 years, and at one point we fought ALL THE TIME. Like an old married couple. It was exhausting. Now days, we are still extremely close, but more like sisters. We talk maybe once a week, even less. We had a huge break of a few months between each other, but I know she is like family.
Maybe you just need a break from her? I find that sometimes when a friend is annoying me in every way, I need a break from them to remind me of why I loved them in the first place. I eventually find and appreciate the things that brought us to be friends and want to experience that again. The best way to maintain this is to limit closeness. Keep in touch, but only see each other in small doses. You don't want to throw away all those years you worked on developing such a lovely friendship. You don't have to officially tell her this, but I'm sure she will get the point. Considering it has been 2 months since you have talked to each other, it seems as though this kind of relationship has already begun to develop.
There's nothing wrong with keeping a friend like this, most adult relationships run on these sort of basis anyway.
Good luck darl! =]
Sarah.
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Stop hanging out with her, to put it bluntly.
People change, and theres not much anyone can do about that. I think shes taking you for granted, because you are always there, so she feels like no matter what she does to you, you'll still be there.
She feeds off of your loyal personality, and doesnt even care if she hurts you. Shes fake. There are better friends for you out there
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