hey everyone! I love to give advice and have been told that, when asked, I give good advice! You can come to me with anything, which is a good thing since NOTHING on the face of this earth embarasses me whatsoever... anyway... I'm hoping to be a moderator one of these days... well drop me a note or ask me a question and I'll be glad to help!
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panther_grl03
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Okay, this may sound really stupid, but I'm serious about asking this question. I'm a girl, I'm thirteen, weigh 105 pounds and I'm 5 foot seven. I'm so tall, and I HATE it! I wish I could stop growing! No offense to tall females, but I think that tall isn't really that flattering for me. My mom is always complimenting me on how tall I am, and I hate it so much! I don't want to be tall! She won't even let me drink coffee to stunt my growth! My doctor said that I might even grow to six feet! I don't want to be that tall! I hate my height already! I'd be happy to be 5 foot four! ARGHH please, is there anything I could do to 'appear shorter' or to stop growing?? (link)
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well i am from the other extreme. i am 15 and am only 4 foot 8.5 inches. that's short! people come in all different sizes. and guys will like you no matter how tall you are. appearing shorter will only show people that you are insecure about your height. and trying to make yourself stop growing will only put unnecessary stress on your bones and muscles. so just get comfortable with your hieght... there's really nothing you can do to change it
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This may seem like a random and completely dumb question to some, but I'm actually quite serious in asking this. My question is that why is it that young girls ages 12-14 and some even younger, feel that they NEED to have a boyfriend just to fit in? You girls don't understand, when your time comes to have a boyfriend, you'll find someone who will like you for you. Also, my other question is why do you feel the need to dress provocitavely, exposing your breasts, butt, and stomach just to look "sexy"? You don't need to be showing all of that to look sexy. You can be completely covered up and still look gorgeous as ever! That was just my random question for today. Any young girl that feels that way, you can feel free to answer.Thanks. (link)
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well i am going on 16. i feel sort of the same way. I dont think i need a boyfriend to fit in. I don't think girls should depend on a person, they should depend on themselves. boyfriends are just nice things to have. Dressing provocatively is just something common to the age group. Experimenting with what they can get away with. Trying to figure out what makes guys 'tick', how to get them to like you. clearly, dressing that way is NOT the way, that only attracts the type of guys you DONT want, they just have to figure it out themselves.
... hope i helped!
KaJabbers
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I have hair that is a little longer than shoulder length, layered, and stick straight. I would really like to do shiny mermaid waves in my hair---you know, those waves that are very un-frizzed and soft looking...does anyone know how to do these? (link)
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in the morning dampen your hair and dry it a little with a blow dryer. then put styling mousse in it and scrunch it! you can also use a scrunching spray made just for that. it looks really pretty! then finish with a little bit of hair spray
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OK I have N64 (I know really old school), but I love it. Anyway I have the game James Bond Goldeneye. I am on the 16th level which is the "control." I am an agent, which is the first level. OK so the instructions say to "destroy armored mainframe" but I have no idea even what that is nonetheless how to go about doing so. Does anyone have any idea that owns Goldeneye on Nintendo 64? Any help would be greatly appriceated. (link)
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OMG i LOVE that game! i was so sad when we sold our N84 but anyway. you have to go to the side of the huge room at the end of the level and find the huge columns... on one of them will be a black box that you have to shoot, and then explode all of the other columns, easiest done with a grendade. Then get your butt out of there! WOOO
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I'm am in the seventh grade and I'm not interested in guys. I am not the girly type of person but for some reson, guys are attracted to me. I want to turn them off but then again, I don't want to. What should I do??? (link)
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hey! maybe guys are attracted to the real you! let's face it, true beauty is better than makeup and clothes. I say right on! they must like you for who you really are, and thats something you should be happy about. If you're not interested in them, just don't flirt with them, but if you are, go ahead and flirt back, have some fun! enjoy your seventh grade year. LUCK
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I am 5 Feet tall and about 97 pounds. Pretty thin, right? Well, when I look in the mirror from the side, I am skinny as a rail. Fine. I'm short, so it works. But when I look from the front, my waist area and below till my thighs, like my stomach area, is wide. I know I'm not being paranoid 'cause when I stand in the mirror next to my tall friends, they're way narrower than me, and I'm the really skinny one. This may be partly because I have minor scoliosis, so my right hip sticks out. Is there any way I can minimize this? Are there any excercises? Are there any styles of clothes, like shirts and pants, that will make me look narrower in that area? (link)
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try wearing flared pants to de-emphasize your hips and thighs... and shirts that fit looser around the midsection, tighter clothes make you look bigger. wear wide leg pants and a high waist for control. you could also try pants without pockets! good luck!
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I have a problem: some part of me wants my older sister's approval so much, yet I am nothing like her. She is a good and decent person, if not a little conservative and practical. She is a good role model, but I am not her. I am intellectual, studious and questioning. When I ask her the big questions, she thinks I make a big deal out of little things. But I think she never asks herself the big questions in life or is afraid to.
Why do I want her approval so much? She is a good person and I love her, but why don't I have the fortitude to be my own person? (link)
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i too have an older brother. he is nine years older than me, and i am constantly looking for his approval! I think there is a special bond between older siblings... there is nothing wrong with wanting her approval, and it makes sense that you two are different. and in the end it will work out that you are different people, you will have an experience and knowledge of life that others won't! anyway, being your own person is also good, try to have a little more confidence in yourself and forge your own path! LUCK
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I've been going out with my boyfriend for 4 days now, and before that we were really close. Well, he's living with me now, and he's taking up the majority of my time. My parents are not okay with him staying here, and I'm grounded for them catching my boyfriend here a few times. So, I don't have much time for my friends, the only time I really have, is with my boyfriend, but that's only because he lives with me. I've tried talking to my friends, but it doesn't get anywhere. What should I do? Please help, I'll rate. (link)
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well, four days sounds like a little too soon for him to be living with you! i mean four days isn't even enough to get to know a person that well... however if you insist upon having him live with you, talk to your parents about it... and about your friends, try telling them that you're still committed to them and that you can be committed equally to him and them.
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Hi, my name is Lacey, and I just moved from Washington to Wisconsin, and i HATE IT!!! everyone is against me, what my so called my friends did to me is writed me a note and told me that i am a slut face hore. How should i tell my parents that i want to move out of this hell hole? (link)
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well... odds are that you won't convince your parents to move all the way back to Washington. Remember that it takes a while to make new friends, and the best way to make those new friends is to be a friend! no matter what happens, be nice to everyone, but don't let them walk all over you... I'm sure with a little time that you won't want to leave at all.
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I have a rat and my brother gave me another one and put them in the same cage and they started fighting and one of them has cuts under his chin so I was wondering if I should just let them heal or do something about it.Thanks (link)
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I had two hamsters, mother and daughter. It seems that they got territorial, and although it is very sad, one ended up killing the other... my advice is to separate them before anything bad like that happens. LUCK!
KaJabbers
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i use nyc eyeliner and everytime i use it it comes off easily so i have to bring my eyeliner to school and put it on there. my friends thinks its annoying cause i need to go to the bathroom or use their mirror in their lockers to put it on. whenever my friends put the eyeliner i use on, it stays on for them but it doesnt for me. i tried many kinds of eyeliner but i still cant find one that will stay on, someone please help!
p.s i dont want to use liquid eyeliner or very expenisive eyeliners (link)
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some people's skin just produces more oils than others, and that includes on your eyelids. These excess oils are causing the eyliner to wear off. Make sure that your skin is clean before applying the eyeliner, and put on a thin layer of powder before the eyeliner, this absorbs the oils your skin puts out, and doesn't affect the eyeliner at all. You could also try black eyeshadow in a thin line instead of eyeliner, it looks the same and stays on better. LUCK!
KaJabbers
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OK... I just wanted to see if anyone else has heard of this or knows what it is...
On my upper inner left thigh ther are these really strange marks. They look liek branches and kind of like scars. they are indented into my leg and pruple-ish. I never scarped my leg there or cut it but they look a lot like scars. By indented I mean if you run your finger along it it's like carved into my skin. Does anyone knows what they are, or how they might have got there? They just came up this past 3 months. thanks for ANY comments (link)
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yes, i have those too! i think almost every teenager or adult has them... its just where you're growing fast and the skin cant stretch fast enough.. kind of like when you stretch a rubber band too far and it gets all thin and weak. don't worry about it... they'll fade after your growing starts to slow down, but probably wont go away forever, theres no need to be embarassed because yes, everyone has them. LUK!
KaJabbers
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14/female Okay well this is going to be long, so I'm just going to warn you ahead of time, but please help. Well, a friend of mines mother has tumors in her head. Well about a month ago they were removed and there was this tube thing that the doctors put in her. Well less than a week ago the tumors came back and she had to go to the hospital for surgeory. I was pretty close w/ my friends mom and it's hard for me and one of my other friends to deal with it, and so were thinking about how our friend who's going through it is feeling. Well the girl who's mother is in the hostpital (Brittany) is being checked for tumors, and we just found out that she has one and will be getting her head shaved. Well a few of us girls (about 5) and a few close guy friends (about 10) were thinking of shaving our heads/cutting our hair really short. If you were the girl Brittany, how would you react to that? Would you think it's kind of mean/too hard to handle, or do you think it's a good gesture? I am so willing to do it because it's such a great friend, but I want some other opinions, the guys are defninitley doing it, and I got her a bunch of x-mas gifts and we've talked a lot. Brittany is very sensative when it come to her mom and her own problems and we think she'll either be sooo happy that she'll shed some tears of joy, or sooo sad that she won't be able to face us 'bald'. I know you guys don't know her, but if it were you, how do you think you'd respond. Again, I apologize for the lenght, I just wanted to add some detail, and sorry if it's confusing I tried to make it not confusing, but it still sounds that way to me. Thanks in advance for any help. (link)
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I think it is a very sweet and noble idea of you guys. I would be honored and very proud that i had such great friends, I really would. I hope that one day my friends would do that for me if I were in that situation. Go for it!
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my family fights alot. there is never a night that goes by without all of us screaming at each other. it takes everything i me to stay strong for not just my family, but my friends too. things aren't the best with them right now, and i just don't know what to do? i want to be strong for everyone, i want to be the rock, but it's just so hard to hold it all in. sometimes it seems like it would help if i just had someone to talk to. i really don't know. any suggestions to help me be there like i want to be? (link)
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you know, it might sound too ironic, but my family is alot like yours. I mean family time always ends up as yelling-at-each-other time, and everyone in my family is always arguing about something. We all want to be the rock that's strong and stable for everyone, but sometimes even a rock needs to crumble once in a while lol. I mean you cant always expect to be strong! talk to one of your friends, another adult, or a random person online! I bet it will make you feel alot better... before i knew better, i kept things from my friends thinking that they didnt want to be bothered by my problems, but then i found out that they did! they wanted to be there for me as much as i wanted to be there for them... so now i know i have people i can talk to during the tough times, and they will always be there for me. I bet that will work for you too if you give it a chance! thnx for sending me your question, and i hope things work out! best of luck
brie
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There is this guy i have liked for awhile. Im pretty good friends with him. And everytime i see him i just want to run up and tell him how i feel. And i just want to be with him every second of the day because he is such a great guy! He is single too!!! I don't know what to do. Im way to shy to just come out and say it to him...but i just wish he would know. How do i go about doing this besides being straight forward about it? (link)
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well... i wouldn't want my friends to do it because then the guy will just see you as sort of a wimp, you know? Try writing him a note, or talking on icq or msn messenger. That way you don't have to be face-to-face with him. Besides, your friends can get the wrong impression, or the wrong information, etc.
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what would you consider as a slut?? me and my friends act like complete sluts but then they get really pissed off at anyone who calls any of us a slut. ive stopped taking it as an insult when people call me a slut. i don't know what to think! plz help. (link)
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well... i think you're right not to take it as an insult, if it truly is the way you act. If the shoe fits! LOL. anyway, if your friends act like sluts too, then they shouldn't get offended when people call them that! unless of course, they are being totally mean and insensitive about it. In all i would disregard what people are saying and do what you want. LUCK
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when people say "Christ is not a fasion" what are they implying? (link)
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I think they might be implying that being a Christian is more of a fashion than a religion. Like you aren't cool unless you do it, or someone won't be friends with you unless you are... well i hope that made sense!
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for dark/ medium dark brown hair owuld leik a blonde and cinnamon color highlights look good? (link)
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it would look awesome!
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I'm taking fencing right now and at the begining of each practice we have to run 10 laps around the gym, forwards, backwards, cross overs, knees up, feet up. I have physical induced asthma and I'm having trouble breathing while I'm running. My mom is going to my doctor to get my inhaler but that's on Wednesday. I have practice on Monday- Friday so on Monday and Tuesday and maybe on Wednesday I won't have my inhaler. I'm confused as to whether I should tell my coach about it and sit out when we run or just suck it up and run. We've had two practices so far and I've had to suck it up and run but I felt like I was going to pass out. I was lightheaded, nautious and breathing really heavy. Should I talk to my coach and see if he lets me sit it out just for these couple of days until I get my inhaler? I don't want people to think I'm a lazy bitch and not want to run though. Can anyone help? (link)
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you should definitely talk to your coach. You shouldn't have to feel like that! Wait until you get your inhaler. Even though you feel better after a while, inducing asthma by activity can harm your heart and lungs. I don't think anyone will think you're lazy, and if so, who cares!
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Okay this a very weird question. When I woke up this morning, i couldn't find my glasses. Thinking I went to bed with my contacts on, I touched my eyes looking for the edge of the contacts. In one eye I felt it and in the other I didn't. When I checked my contact case, both contacts were sitting in the solution. Is it normal to be able to feel your eye lens? Because that's starting to freak me out. (link)
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ive TOTALLY done that before. It happened to me when my eyes were super dry from just waking up. Don't worry about it, as long as your eyes dont hurt, and your vision doesn't change, it'll be fine.
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