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18/f, i've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. he's always telling me how much he loves me and doesn't wanna lose me, and how beautiful i am, the whole nine yards. the problem is i have severe jealously issues, and almost ALL his friends are girls, and he is a flirt! he doesn't try to be, it's just his personality. he's not like a ladies man or anything, he only had two girlfriends before me [that only lasted like a couple months], they are just his friends, but i cant shake the issue. he is ALWAYS texting girls, and will like purposely turn the phone away from me so i cant see what theyre saying. it's not like im trying to be nosy, but that would make anyone wonder, even though he used to read my msgs when we first got together, although he says he "doesnt remember". even if he comments his girl friends, he'll say stuff like he loves their profile picture, and all his comments always have the little winky flirty face ;-). it really kills me inside, even though i know it shouldnt. i know people say "just remember he's with you and not them", and i know, but for anyone who has jealousy issues, you know it still hurts and you still wonder. he's never given me a reason not to trust him; he's the only guy i've ever dated who HASN'T cheated or used me, but i still wonder. i've talked to him about it several times, and when i do he either gets upset and says he would never hurt me, or gets defensive and says stuff like "fine i wont talk to any girls ever again!", which just upsets me more. he has every right to have girl friends and i dont want him not to, but just cant help the way i feel. i dont want to control him or know EVERY thing he's doing, but i just hate when i come across those things or he's texting his girl friends when im around and it feels like i get punched in the stomach. he was texting one last night and i kept making faces and he finally was like "do you just want me to turn my phone off?" and i was like yeah. i honestly dont think he'd ever cheat on me. ALL his friends and family know about me [if they dont actually know me] and he talks about me all the time, but sometimes i wonder if there'd be a girl who would know about me, but wouldnt care, and be trying to hang all over him and stuff. guys look at me and flirt with me quite often, but i dont have many guy friends that i regularly talk to, and i tell him EVERY THING guys say to me as far as trying to get with me and stuff, and i guess it just sux to know that he has ALL these girls for friends, and i dont really get told anything. how can i fix this? i hate that im so jealous. i always have been, and it's not always so bad, but sometimes, it really is, and i NEED to fix it. what should i do? i just cant shake it.
You have every right to be feeling like you are now, especially considering you haven't had one relationship where a guy hasn't cheated on you. This might be contributing a lot to the fact that you are jealous, that you can't help wondering. If you really trust him, if you know that he wont cheat on you, then really the best thing is to just trust him. But your previous relationships are most definately making it hard for you to put trust in him, but thats what you have to do. i wouldn't bug him about it, thats only going to make things worse. But explain your position without making a huge deal, tell him how every other guy you have dated has cheated or used you, and you just want to be able to trust him, but its hard. Him hiding his text messages is not helping anything, im sure they arent bad but that is only just giving you reason to worry. because you have been hurt in the past you have to heal and learn to trust, and he needs to be able to realize your position, and stop what hes doing. i really hope this turns out well, because everyone deserves a good relationship. Trust is a big thing, and the people you have dated in the past havent helped with that. you can heal though, and hopefully everything will turn out ok.
I'm a 26 year old male would-be author who hasn't been able to find work in the year since he graduated, nor got his book that he worked on published.
I feel like a drain on my family, friends, love life and so on.
I feel like a failure in every sense of the word. And I feel as if I lost faith in so many things, mostly myself, and that my life has run its course as far as mattering goes.
How can I regain my will to try, to persist, to basically live?
you just have to make up your mind.
if you make up your mind to finish a book then it will be only that much easier to do it. If you put aside a certain amount of time a day to write, then you might eventually get done. If you are trying to write and all you are running into is brick walls, try listening to music. I mean REALLY listen to it. Music is something that has great influnce over writing. Lyrics of songs might actual tell you what happens next in your book if you look hard enough.
All you have to do is stop feeling like a drain on everyone, and really try to right. Think of how great it would be to get your work published, how happy that would make your friends and families feel. Instead of being down because you cant write anything, try rereading what you have already wrote, and really getting into your character's heads. If you have a finished work, put a lot of effort into getting it published. Send it to as many publishers as you can, and dont be upset if you get rejection letters. Even the greatest authors get rejections.
I hope this helps.
Good luck, and I look foward to maybe someday walking into a bookstore, and seeing one of your works on the shelves. =]
Does anyone know any good books that include romance with mystery or horror in it? Something like Twilight but something a little more mature but not too mature if you know what I mean. If you have any GOOD books in general don't be afraid to mention it!
Im reading a book for research called Anna Karenina, its a classic and its romance and its good buts its long.
other books that are REALLY good are:
-the pendragon series by DJ MacHale they are addicting!
-Gregor the Overlander series by Suzanne Collins
The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins
-Also if you liked twilight you might like The Host which is another one of Stephanie Meyer's books.
-Another REALLY good series is Private series by Kate Brian.
-Inkheart series by Cornelia Funke- the inkheart movie is coming out soon.
- Pretty Little Liars series by Sarah Shepard
So, I'm 15, 4'10'', and 93 lbs. We did BMI and Body Fat Percentage in health, my BMI was 19.5, and my Body Fat Percentage was 20. Is that bad, considering my size? I saw kids who were technically over weight with percentages of like, 18-29, so obviously I'm sort of curious. I mean, I've got the common girl issue of the lower stomach being kinda ehh, and I'm a 32 C. Does that make a difference?
you are DEFINATELY not fat at all. BMI doesnt measure muscle or boobs hah and being 93 pounds is nowhere near alot!
15/f
Well, the title pretty much explains it.
Last night i got really mad at my boyfriend "dan" we'll call him.
We were having a normal phone convo and having a good time and laughing.
When, he asks the question "How many boyfriends have you had baby?"
and we've talked about this so many times, and he KNOWS how many i've had.
I'm the ONLY girlfriend he's ever had, and i know it. His best friend told me, and he certainly has a number of times.
So i tell him "Four."
And he goes 'I mean, real boyfriends that you kiss and stuff, not go out for a day and dump"
and i said "well in that case its you."
and he snickers and goes "I've had nine"
Me: NINE?! you always told me i was the only one.
him: well, i didn't want to make you feel bad.
Me: but then why did you freak out when we kissed for the first time? You always told me that was the best night of you life because you got your first kiss.
Him: I meant on a date.
Me: .... so what are the girls' names?
He never even told me their names, i forget wat excuse he used but all i know is i felt like crying on the phone.
I know what you guys are thinking that he might be teling the truth.
If you know him like i know him, you would most definatley tell me hes lying. He lies to me ALL THE TIME.
And he think i wont notice, i'm not stupid, i notice and then i ask him about it and then he lies some more.
he tells me he loves me all the time but when he lies to me it just makes me think hes doing it to make me feel horrible.
for example, we'll be in the pool and my top will fall just a tiny bit down, but i'll fix it right away.
Then i'll joke around and say "You didnt see anything did you?"
and he'll say "yeah, actually i did."
and just things like tha he does to make me feel horrible?
I really don;t know, he says he loves me, and i love him.
And this may sound like B.S
but to tell you the truth i've never lied to him before.
and its just other lies here and there.
Like, ill say "Ohmygod imagine if someone did _____"
and he'll say
"Ive done that before"
and i KNOW hes lying.
It makes me feel like he doesnt care about me, and that hes going out of his way to hurt my feelings.
has anyone ever had this happen to them?
Please help.
Actually i think its the other way around.
It sounds like he is embarassed because you have gone out with other people, and he hasn't.
I know that guys say "oh yeahh i have done" or i have dated this many girls all the time because they feel embarrassed because they have less then their gf's or their friends.
with the 9 gf thing... if his friends say he has never had a gf before then that is probably the truth. and i could see if he said he had like one or two before you but NINE? thats ridiculus.
He is probably just trying to get one up on you, because he feels threatened. But i doubt he is purposely trying to hurt your feelings. Only you really know him. Maybe you are taking the things he says too literally and he is just kidding. But next time he says one of these lies, tell him that they are insulting to you. And ask him if hes kidding or not. It may help, it may not. But its better than letting him go on doing that.
i hope this helps!
I'm 21/f. I live on my own and I have two jobs. I also have a kitten to take care of and three writing-intensive courses in college. I have crohn's disease (If you don't know, it's intestinal inflammation that can be maintained with various medications, sometimes medicinal steroids, and apparently marijuana (which I'd rather not get into, because I'm a singer, and I refuse to do that to my lungs or throat)). Crohn's can also be triggered by stress.
Now here's my problem: My crohn's was under control until about halfway through the semester. I admit, I missed a couple days of medications, but one DAY doesn't make much of a difference, as long as it isn't days in a row. Now I'm having problems with it in a big way. I'm at the highest doses of all of the medications I can take together (for crohn's), and my only other option is an IV "miracle drug" that causes multiple sclerosis later in life. Since that runs in my family, I'm not so keen on that. Nor am I willing to put myself on steroids, as they can cause glaucoma. So I'm running out of solutions.
My friend accidentally triggered something that upset me the other day, I wound up in tears, and couldn't figure out why. Later, I realized that I'm starting to suppress what I feel are "negative" emotions, like stress, sadness, etc. This is a terrible habit, and I thought I broke it a year or two ago.
I didn't even notice how stressed I was until last month when I skipped my period. I took a pregnancy test and it came out negative, so I assumed it must be stress, since I haven't changed my diet or my weight.
I don't know why my body is reacting so badly to this stress. I've put it under much more in the past and never triggered my crohn's or missed my period. I'm on birth control, too.
I thought it might be because I don't really have an outlet at the moment. I've pretty much stopped singing, my creative writing is now for school...I go to the gym every day, but that doesn't seem to help much.
I guess I'm just looking for some feedback. Does anyone know any good ways to reduce stress?
Help =(
this might sound really stupid but its worth a try....
get an ipod and or put on a stero and listen to your favorite music and start dancing. its more fun if you turn off the lights. its a great way to get some of the just dance the stress stress off i have realized over the past year. and it helps you stay in shape. also if you go for a run in the cold and come back in and drink hot chocolate, coffee, or tea. it helps you relax so much. also if you try to cut down some hours or just take a day off from watever your doing and just do watever you love doing, like singing or reading or writing.
good luck, and i hope you get better. you are really strong to be living with that disease plus the stress of school and jobs. i really hope you dont have to get an IV or any of those other options.
i really hope this helps.
16/f. I have a huge crush on this kid. I met him at a music honor society meeting at my school. We talked alot and found out that we actually play the same instrument and have alot in common. He knew who I was right away though because he knows my brother. Well, last night, we ended up at the same get-together of a mutual friends and we hung out the whole time even though we barely knew eachother. He is so sweet and cute and now I really like him. I flirted with him, and I got the feeling that he kinda liked me too because he would stand really close to me when talking to me and make any excuse to touch me. Example: he says: "I make all my new friends shake hands with me for 15 minutes." I say: "okay!" Result: Us holding hands for a long time.. haha. Also, putting his hand on my shoulder when saying somthing important, ect. So heres the problem: I have no classes with him, we're never at the same social gatherings (this was the first time), and I am not comfortable enough with our mutual friend to ask him to set us up. Music honor society meets like every 2 weeks only, so I'll see him this wednesday, what should I do to make sure he remembers me or asks me to hang out or somthing? I really like him, but I have to make every meeting with him count!
it seems like he likes you to but dont try to rush anything.
maybe get his number and text him. that would be the smart thing to do. hang out wiht him at the meeting as much as you can and try to subtly hint that you like him.
if he likes you too, im sure he will continue flirting with you and such. go with it and maybe if he doesnt say anything, at the end of the meeting say something like "we should hang out sometime." hope everything works out!
well i want to get a new pghone and i want the coolest phone verizon has so can anyone tell me what the coolest phone they have is? the LG Dare seems pretty cool. my 2nd qauestion: can anyone tell me about the LG Dare? is it worth it? is it a good phone? does it do a lot? and does it have games and apps like the iphone? cause i really wanted the iphone but we have a family plan for verizon and i dont want to pay for a plan on my own. thanks!!!
hey the samsung glyde is pretty sweet.
my friend has it and when my contact is up in a couple months im getting it.
it has a full qwerty keyboard and touch screen.
ALSO i was just on the verizon site and if you buy it now it comes with unlimiting texting i think. the juke and some other flip phone do too.
hope this helpsss!
=]
I really like iceskating and i want to buy my own pair of skates. i really like using hockey skates cuase i think they are alot easier (without the toepick adn all) but im a girl and i really want prettier skates cause the boy ones are big and green/blue and just boyish haha so i was wondering if it was possible to put hockey blades on a figure skate?
i have a friend who has skates that r half hockey and half figure.
this would probably work easier.
i think you can find them at any store that sells ice skates.
hope this helps!
x3 kaylee
Hey i was on iconator.com and i was trying to make my own icon but i dont know how. Can anyone help me!? I need to figure out how to write my own sayings and then put them on like as a picture. Can someone pleeease help me!!! Thank so much! ;)
yes i can help.
if you dont already, sign up for a username on iconator.
there are a couple ways to make icons-
if you are willing to download a software download jasc paint shop 3
you can find a free trial of it for like 30 days.
OR the easiest way or doing it without downloading anything is to go on paint.
your computer should have paint.
go to start, programs, accessories, paint.
once you have paint open, press ctrl-e.
a box should pop up with a width and height box.
in the width box type in 48 and the height box type in 48.
this is the size of a official icon.
then you can put text on the icon using the little A button and drawing a text dialog box.
once you have the right color background you would like the next step is to animate.
this website explains how to animate. which is simpley saving seperate frames and moving the colors to each letter.
i use this method and have made various icons that have been in top icons.
to check out some of my icons here is my iconator page.
http://www.iconator.com/profile.php?UserID=886614
if you need further help then c above website.
hope this helps!!!
kayleex3
well, i've been having my period since i was 11 (i'm now 14) and i've skipped a month or two every now and then. But i haven't had a period in 4 or 5 months now. Any idea why that might be? I'm not sexually active at all, so that can't have anything to do with it.
suggestions??
i had the same problem when i was younger. dont worry about it. just make sure your eating correctly and not excessively excersing.
hope this helps
x3 kaylee
Over the past couple of days I've been feeling rather dizzy/woozy on occasion. It's pretty random and I'm not sure why.
I'm a bit tired even though I've been having plenty of sleep, any reasons why I might be feeling dizzy?
Its likey you are dehydrated. Make sure you drink a lot of water or drink gatorade that helps. If it continues then seek medical help.
hope this helps!
x3 kaylee
okay this is going to sound sort of weird, but i have always used Secret non scented deodorant. i decided to try Dove because i was unhappy with the white marks Secret leaves. i bought a scented one (the scent is called "fresh"). is using a scented deodorant stupid? i always wear either perfume or body spray, so will the scents mix & smell bad? was it a bad idea to get a scented deodorant? can other people actually smell it? i don't know if i should have gotten unscented...
psh no i do that all the time. You usually cant even smell scented deotarant. But if really feel the smells clash (which the shouldnt) then bu unscented
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ok im 14/f and there this guy.
Me and him (CALLING HIM BOO) used to be really good friends ONLINE. He goes to my school but just the way he acts at school is so different from how he acted online and it bugged the hell out of me. and last summer, me and him were really close online and i liked him a lot. but since then, hes changed a lot and EVERY time i talk to him, i cant stand him. So he LOVES ME. and when i say love, i seriously mean it. he tells me this all the time. And after i got so fed up with him about a month ago, i put him on ignore. soon after, i started going out with this guy (CALLING HIM JOOPIE) that id liked for a really long time. hes really sweet and adorable and he moves at a good pace and i really really like him. but BOO really really dosent like him (mostly because i like him..) and hes always trying to make JOOPIE look bad. JOOPIE AND BOO HATE EACHOTHER AND I HATE BOO TOO.
so the other day, i unblocked BOO just to give him one more chance to fix things but he ended up ruining his chance by continuously calling me hot and sexy and all sorts of stuff and then he just started bashing on joopie!.
i cant stand to talk to him, but i cant seem to keep him on ignore. what can i do that will make me stop letting him back into my life??!?!
just ignore him or tell him off. be like i dont like you stop bothering me seriously. Just block him online and dont talk to him in school. i had the same prob once. there was this weird kid and i had to say get lost and get a life to him and it actually worked or you could just let him talk to you can completely ignore what he says. you can try telling him to get lost in a nice way and if that doesnt work just tell him the truth that you hate him get lost or something. lol
hope this helps
So im trying to make a new SN for aim and i need some ideas.
I wanted something that reflected on how my life changed. one of my i deas were xxTimesxChangexx
But i want something more special.
I used to be really depressed and suucidle and now i am finnaly happy and free of the problems of the past. i have a wonder ful boyfriend and i am living life to the fulkest.
Any one have any ideas
AsTimesCHanGex3
LiVexYOuRxLiFex3
xTiMeSxOxCHanGex
TiMeSxDOxCHanGe
hope this helps!!
x3 kaylee
I have this best friend, well she used to be my best friend. we haven't been friends for a couple of weeks. but we were friends since first grade, now in 10th. ever since her family came into money she's been acting like a snob, like she's better than everyone. and she's been really spoiled and bitchy. she doesn't even know the words please, thank you, or sorry and she thinks that everything is always someone elses fault. It got on my nerves to the point where I don't sit with her at lunch and don't talk to her. But we've been friends for 10 years and I don't want that to get ruined... by bitchyness. what should I do???
Thanks in advance ;)
you should tell her how she has been acting because maybe she doesnt even realize it. She probably started to get the message when you didnt sit with her at lunch or even talk to her. When you talk to her, if she acts all bitchy about it then its her loss. At least you tried to do the right thing. Most likely if your as good friends as it seems you are, she will realize what she has been doing. If she doesnt then it aint your fault and you shouldn't worry about it. But hopefully she will realize what she has been doing.
hope this helps!!
x3 kaylee
ok, theres this girl im pretty good frineds with in my health class, i like her and im crazy about her. well we talk all the time on aim nd lately i hadnt been myself and i told her about wut was goin on and she told me i jsut neeed faith in god and cuz of her ive been gettign alot better. then she invited me to see her play at her church and told me to find her afterwards so we could talk, bt i coudnt find her till rite before my dad pulled up. shes apparently looking for a b/f that willb e a best friend for her and stuff nd ive always jsut been a rele good frineds with most the girls i know. does it soudn liek she likes me? any other advice please? thanx
get one of your friends to ask her if she likes you. OR tell one of her friends about it and im sure they will tell her and you guys will get together. or if you have a lot of guts ask her out!
x3 kaylee
Hi. 14/f
Sort of fair to medium skin color
I'm going to FL for spring break and have some questions about getting a great tan.
-- Does tanning oil work?
-- I heard that when you shave your legs, you shave off the tan ;; is that true?
-- If so what is an alternative that will keep your tan?
-- What is the best way to get an GREAT tan that will just wow people when you come back?
-- Where do you get those heart and star stickers for your stomach for when you tan?
Thanks in advance!
heyy girl
ok first of all tanning oil works great ! if you get burned easy then you are going to get fried though =P
no you cant shave off a tan =P even if you could its not like you could stop shaving your legs.....haha but dont worry you cant shave it off
to keep your tan just stay out in the sun. Tans fade when you don't recieve enough sun so once you have a tan stay out in the sun girl !
the best way to get a tan is to lay out on the beach...yup....but if your skin is some what fair you should try to get a base tan first....dont just go out in the sun really pale LoL
your last question is about stickers and you can get them from most tanning salons ( few would not have them )
have fun on your vacation and get an AWESOME tan !
hope this helps
x3 kaylee
i was just wondering a idea for my screen name
i hate screen names with my name but i guess it would be okay (( Kayla ))
i dont like numbers in my screen names either
i am a prep not a emo kid or anyof that that so nothing with like black and die. i am usally happy for something cute and happy. & not a lot of x's. thanks !!!!
kayla x3 cutie
HeyiTsKayLa x3
dammnn its kayla
Xo KkAaYyLlAa oX
XoX KayLa XoX
I'm a quadroplet (I have 3 other sisters that were born at the same time as me) The only difference between us is our eyes my sisters have grey, green, and hazel and I have light blue. I'm mixed with White, Puerto Rican, and Black. I'm about 5'4, carmel complection, wavy hair. So Most people would say that my life is wonderful. BUT I HATE IT! I feel like I don't even have my own identity. I guess it would be easier if I was a twin or triplet but I'm not. Everyday I wake up and I have to look at 3 other girls that have the same face as me! I feel like nobody sees WHO I AM INSIDE, all they care about are my looks and my sisters. I dont like to talk about it because it seems like nobody understand because I don't any other quadroplets. Please help me. I just want to know how I can feel better, etc. And I am very serious about my situation so If you just want to critisize me instead of helping me, please don't bother to answer.
well...
at least you are not ugly. many people would die to be you!!! second of all be glad your sisters are not ugly because i have a friend that is really pretty and her twin brother is really ugly.(so people bother her all the time) Also i am friends with a lot of twins. Although they might look the same they all have different personalites and even if they are identical they have differences. And if you look closer at each of your sisters im sure you can find tiny differences (other than the eyes). if people are just judging you by the way you look then they are not looking hard enough. But remember DONT try to change to be different!! You are who you are and nothing can change that. Just find that difference between you and your sisters and make it bold!!(you could be more athletic, a better singer, smarter etc.)BUT REMEMBER always be yourself and dont try to change who you are.
hope this helps!!
x3 kaylee