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ok i need help one of my bestes friend bf dumped her and i mean he was like cheating on her and evry thing bu she still loves him and cant get over it becuse one of her best friend xbestfriend is now goin out with him be he is jut trying to make life suck for her an i dont no how i can comfort her






thx for ur advice most of i worked bu on the ingnore tht person thing no i just got in a big ass fight wit him and beat the shit out of himin fron of alot of ppl but ne fanx times like a bagilion

my first smile in about a year was a couple of days ago thx for all da help :)
Alex

Well, im sure that guy who cheated on her is an ass whole. Tell her not to worry about him because shes most likely 423084 times better than him in every way. Just tell her how he doesn't deserve her and stuff like that because its probably true. But sometimes no one but the person who broke your heart can help heal it. And im soo glad i helped you. Awwww the last thing you said made me smile cause im so happy i made your life better. ♥. So glad to help you, if u ever need anything else just come back =). keep in touch too ♥.
katiee ♥
Ps.- good job kickin' that kids ass ;). hah

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OK, well i might be able to go on a ship that wiil sail around the bahamas next summer (or the florida keys) but ill probably miss all of my friends graduation parties... but this is a once in a lifetime chance to do this... but i only graduate from 8th grade once
please help me jedi

Woweeey. soundsss supeeeerr fun, and excited. But you do have a hard choice. I think i'd do the ship thing, but i'd hate to miss all the parties. This is really hard. But im sure your friends could like move party dates and stuff. So I think i'd take the trip &hearts. Hope this one help. Love you Liana =)
♥ Kt

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thx for the advice it helped but now i have a even bigger problem in witch i need help with
and i will give you a fare warning tht this is realy long and you dont have to read i all if you dont want to

well for one my grandma and great aunt are seriusly ill in wich they might die soon but my grandma hase a thing juat like alzimers but it hapens much faster so she wont even no who i am by the summer. but with all tht going on i have had alot of humunges changes and problems in my life witch i can remeber very well. btu of these only 2 peaple know abotu tht stuff and they are my best friends i hve ever had even thoug i have only nown them for about a year but sum of the stuff has hapend to them to so they can help but now in school i have a friend i have nown mot of my life and i try to fill him in on things going on in my life but he dosent belive me he thinks i am lieing to him but then he say stuff tht realy hurts but he could never under stand he has had a great life he has never been poor he has never been homeless he is rich and he always trys to start fights with me so i fight him and he alwayys loses and he noes it becuse he has never had older sibligs to fight with but when school comes again he starts say stuff tht isnt true and says i lost bu witch any of the peaple tht have er fought me no i would win and tht he is full of bull shit but when he is nto trying to show off me and him get along great btu he ahs canged since i first met him he is trying to be mr tuff guy and have a big reputation and he hangs out with other kids tht make him feel big but i hang out with the peaple tht basicly no evry thing abotu me and they dont like him becuse ye can be anoying so he ameks fun of me for it but only in school and he will only try to put me down when he has a crowd but enogh of tht he starts sayingstuff like ur suck a pussy becuse you cant handel the pain of sum oen dieing and stuff liek tht but he would never no how it feels becuse my granma has always been there for me she wasnt liek a grandma she is like a kid like me and i could tell her almsot anything but no bit by bit i am loosing her and she will never come back so he makes fun of me for it and has his group of friends make fun of me and stuff liek tht and then other peaple who think they arent being mean say somthing ro do sumthing and so i sit by myself and think and think and making os so much worse ad this usaly hapens on a dialy basis so at night i will sit in bed lsitening to music but then other times i go out abotu midnight and walk and cry and dont come hom till about 2 or 3 and usaly feel abit better but yet i have completly lost it in school and i couldnt under stand why butthen i have had this hapen many times becuse my hole fith grade year i woul always cry in school becuse it wasabotu tht time i put together a number of things tht have hapend to me and witch then i could only figure out and i started remeber ing more and more and tht has literd me with many more problems then i woudl think one person can handle btu it was about fith grade i went into a sever depression i wouldnt eat i wouldnt talk and abotu tht time sum docter said i had deresion disorder and since abotu tht time i have one into many periods of servere depression and self destrution

sum tht u woudl never no about becuse i never show sines of being upset unless i am crying but
You gotta keep living life with ure chin up....even if that means showing every 1 ure tears

but out of all of this i realy need advice on how should i cop with all this pain and what shoudl i do abotu all those peaple tht try t bring me down and any ways you think might help me express some of my feelings and don tell me writing i write alot most ofit is poetry and rlly long but i always delete it afteri am finished with it

sincerly Alex 13/M

Well, 1st thing is if you write poems and stuff don't throw them away! I'd love to hear them, and im sure there frickin terriffic =). I got kind of confused reading this but you cleared it up in the end, and you just need to know how to put up with all this pain right? Well i don't think i've ever came close to being super depressed like it sounds like you are, because I've never had anyone close to me or in my family die, or become sick so i'll try to view what your going though. I know its hard to ingore someone like that kid, but just try to not care what he thinks. I know that might not work but hes just an ass hole who probably has problems with himself so he decides to be a jerk. So just try to ignore what he says to you. Here's just a though... maybe get a punching bag? I know i have one but never use it lol, but im sure it releaves stress? And if you get mad at this kid then you can just take it out on your punching bag in a healthy way. Or just excerise. I know what its like to be in pain and it does hurt like hell, and its hard to get rid of. I couldn't and still can't find a way to get rid of hurting and be "truly" happy. You can try just talking to your best friends who understand you because friends really help. By giving you advice like im trying to now lol, or just listening to you. Im so sorry whats happening to you and i really do hope everything gets better, and i hope my advice helps you. I know its not the best advice but i tried to see from your point of view. You can always come back and ask me anything anytime. ♥
Katie ♥

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ok i have a problem there is alot going on in my family right now and tht is making me kinda depressed. but then when i a already fealing realy bad. alot of ppl tht are my so caled friends
start saying stuff to me wich makes it way worse so i feel even worse. but then i try o go to sum of my clese friends to make me feel better and only a few can help but this problem keeps on hapening daily. and i feel like no one i no can realy help me and i cant talk to any one in my family about this becuse they could never understand all of this

any advice u can give me with this i would be much abloged

Hmm.. well, if those people say shit behind your back there obivously asses and not really your friends. But in some cases friends do that because they can be jealous or pissed off. No one needs like 10 friends, you can always just have 3 good friends. And I think sometimes its better to have a couple best friends instead of lot of normal friends, because then it's alot easier to be feeling let out and shit happens easier too. So don't worry about having tons of friends cause all you need are a few that will always be there for you no matter what. And even though i might know you, or might not know you... you can always ask me anything and i'd loveee to help. Hope everything works out ♥
Katiee ♥

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O.k. There is this girl,and there is me. We both like the same guy. Im going out with the guy, but, sometimes its like he likes her more. She always flirts with him, and when me and this girl talk its like i want to strangle her sometimes.

I would think that if you told the guy it bothered you, and he really cared about you, then he would stop. You should just ask him if he likes her at all. Maybe there just good friends and he doesn't relize what he's doing to you because that could be the case. Or maybe shes just a flirt. The main thing i would do would be to ask him about it. Hope this helped ♥
jedikt ♥

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SO..
im 15/f

me and my cousin always hang out together! she's awesome lOl. but anyways she used to like this one guy and i thought he was cute. well she didnt exactly like him anymore she moved on..but she still thought the kid was hott! and my littler cousin (her brother) is like 13? and he talks to this kid. the kid is in 9th grade and my cuzin is also but im in 10th grade. well i was like OH MY GOSH that kid is really hott! i said that to my cousins. and then my 13 yr old cousin was talking to him on the computer and was like yeah my cousin likes you. and i was like NOO how can i like him? i dont even know him! and then he is like just kidding she just thinks your hott. and he is like who is she? and my cousin told him..but of course he doesnt know me since we go to different schools.. and the kid is like dont know her..never seen her..never heard of her. well this made me feel GREAT. even tho i knew he didnt know who i was. but then anyways this kid is like well next time that she sees me tell her to come up to me and tell her who she is. SO next time i see him what am i suppose to say? hi im the girl that thinks your hott. it will be soo embarassing! and im pretty shy.so that doesnt help. and then later that night my 13 year old cousin was still talking to him and was like yeah my sister (his sister my cousin)thinks your really hott and he is like man whats up with your family..first your cousin and now your sister? whats next your grandpa??! so then i felT SOOOO unblievebly stupid!! now i for sure dont wanna go up to him next time i see him..i will feel so stupid! but then again maybe he will think im cute or something? I DONT KNOW!! i mean i wanna hang out with him or something..or at least try and talk to him..let him know i exist!! but then i only see him at their schools hockey games..and there isnt any going on over break! and my cousin that goes to school with him is really shy too and wont ask to hang out with him..because she doesnt really talk to him either..and i dont wanna talk to him on AIM because im not good with talking on the computer..so please dont suggest that..but yeah so i cant throw a party or anything! ugh this is soo horrible and confusing :( you dont even know..this kid is the funniest..the cutest! and he doesnt even know i exist..all the girls are over him and i guess he is goin to this party that a girl is throwin from his schoool. what do you think i should do!?

SORRY SO LONG!! i really am!
but thanks for answering sweetie
i really appreciate it!

Wowy. Its okay if its long... i got all excited like woahh yess a long one, how fun =)! Well, if your nervous to meet him then maybe go with a best friend, your cousin, etc. Because if im alone with a guy(depending on who) I get really like shy and nontalkative, but when im with a good friend im all normal because I can talk to her too and don't have to be all akward around the guy and be like... sooo(if you know what I mean). When you meet him you dont have to say "I'm the girl you thinks your hott". Just say.."I'm so and so's(your cousins name) cousin/friend". I guess I understand how you feel... I get really nervous if I talk to people online that i've never meet in person before, and then I'm suppost to meet them. And even though you said you didn't want me to tell you to talk to him online... AIM really helps. Its always like 1379 times easier talk to them, tell them something, or say something to someone online rather in person. So you should give it a try because you could probably talk to him eaiser and get to know him better so when you meet in person again or for the 1st time things aren't so werid. I'm sorry if my advice wasn't the answer you were looking for, i tried to understand your question as easy as possible. If you need something more spasific then just ask =). Hope this helps and good luck &hearts.
Kathleen ♥ (jedikt)

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Your AIM s/n is really really cute. I'm horrible and thinking up screen names, and really need a new one. Help?

Aw thankk you =) . Well its kind of hard to think of sns- i got mine from a old song. But if you want me to make you one just i.m me so I can ask what your into and such so I dont just name off bunches of crazy ideas. So i.m me at Tainted X0 Lovee and i'll be sure to help you.
Kathleen ♥

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hi, im 15 years old and im female. I went out with this guy for over 3 months and then he broke up with me because we didnt hang out "enough". i was devastated. like a couple months past and we went out again, but for like 4 days then he broke up with me again(personal reasons).. its been over like 6 months now and i still cant get over him. i was in love with him, he was definalty my first love. and he has another girlfriend now and he seys hes in love with her, but he sed he still loves me and always will. He's lied to me many of times and hes kind of a jerk, but theres just something holding me back from moving on. I don't know if i should move on or wait for himm??, even if it doesn't work out. I would do anything to get him back.

If you think he's worth waiting on then wait. He might be that kid of guy you'll always be inlove with.. no matter who you're with you always want him, cause I know myself and other people I know have a boy like that. It sounds to me like this guy means a whole lot to you, and your having trouble getting over him. It might not be the best thing, but if I was in this situation I think i would let myself try to love someone new, and just see how it works, but always keep this guy inmind incase he wants you back. Sorry, if that doesn't help or anything. But just try to do what you think is best. Hope this helps and good luck.
♥ Kathleen(jedi)

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Hi im Julie. I am 15, and my boyfriend is 18 hee got me pregnent and now im going to have twins , what should I do?

Thats up to you. If you want to have the kids then have them, if not, maybe give them up for apodtion, or get an abortion? I really can't do anything because this is your choice.

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I get the whole move your tougue spell your name part. But, how do I start it?

Hmmm... well you have to go in for it I guess? Like a normal kiss at 1st then start to do the whole open mouth thing (you don't "have" to spell your name, just move your tounge around). Or you can just start with open mouthes. Sorry, making out is kind of hard to explain. After you do it more you'll get the hang of it. Hope this helpsss ♥

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my boyfriend came over tonight.
my boyfriend is coming tomarow at 7.
he said were going to make out
but hes my first boyfriend
so i ask you what do i do?
i really want to make out with him

that was my question.. but. now i ask . what do i do to make out. where should i put my hands and like i just dont get what to do

For making out... if your standing up, usually you would put your arms over his shoulds & his hands on your waist. Kind of like slow-dancing but you don't have to do it like that. I think if you make out its easier to stand up then be siting down & have to turn your body & neck ... you get the picture. And when you make out you just move your tounge around haha ;` try spelling your name =). I don't blame you for being nervous or worried because theres a 1st for everything. If you do it once its a lot easier the next times because you'll become experianced & get used to it. Good Luck & hope this helped ♥ ♥

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my boyfriend came over tonight.
my boyfriend is coming tomarow at 7.
he said were going to make out
but hes my first boyfriend
so i ask you what do i do?
i really want to make out with him

If you like him then go for it. I see how you can be nervous and stuff. If you don't want to makeout then tell him... he should understand. But don't worry- if its your 1st time than you probably should be nervous. Good Luck ♥ ♥ ♥

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Theres this boy.. I really like him. Like a lot. He always tells me he likes me, which makes me feel better, but then hes like but i rly rly like her.. meaning another girl :( what could i do to get him to like me more ?

Talk to him a lot & try to hang out. Get to know him better even if you know him already well. Let him see how effing great you can be =). You cant force love but you can become really good friends & hopefully he'll start to like you more than the other girl. The thing i would suggest the most is just be yourself around him ♥ Hope this helps ;` ♥

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i feel as if my friends hate mee.. i feel like i shouldnt even have friends sometimes.. they just put me down.. they make me seem as if i cant do what i really want to do.. they make me just want to.. i dont know.. i just wish i could be differnt.. i always feel like the one who doesnt fit in oh my god.. i dont know what to do!

Have your friends been doing this for a long time or just lately? Ask them if there is something wrong or what not. You shouldn't have to change yourself for anyone, espically your friends. You could try to change, but if your happy with who you are then stay yourself. It always feels horrible when you get left out... so just try if you want to... maybe to get into the stuff they like? Hope this helps you ♥ ♥ ♥

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im 14 years old and there are like no guys that like me i try everything and my friends think i am pretty but gus think im ungly my fireinds are the only one who are nice to me, and there has always been like this tiny tiny spot for one of them in my heart. do u think i should go lesbian? plz give me some help

Wow. Well are your friends lesbians? Because if you start liking girls & you like one of your friends & they're straight they might get creeped out, because I know i would. I don't think i would give up. You don't have to be loved to be straight. It ones more up to you. If it were me then I wouldn't go gay because I just wouldnt & im intrested in men =). So I can just tell you to that you'll really have to think this one over youself. Hope this helps you
Jedi Kt ♥ ♥

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Well, a girl, who used to be my friend doesn't seem to be the same any more.She was one of my good friends for a while,but then she just kind of changed. I used to be able to tell her anything. Now i just cant trust her i dont know if I should say something because knowing her she'll get all offensive. Well, I really wish she was still the same person, well I know she is still the same person , but I miss her old personality. She changed like a lot shes more like not liking us and only wanting to be with guys and that kind of stuff. I really miss her being on my good friend side of me.

Maybe try hanging out with her & trying to get the "good" her back... like bring up how many good times or laughs you guys had & inside jokes. She might just be acting different maybe to show off or get someones attention like a guy. Or shes just being fake. If this happened to me i think i would be like "you seem really different" or stuff about her changing. If you were best best friends then you should be able to get in stupid fights... me & my best friend get in plenty of little fights but were always laughing the next minute. So just try telling her & saying how you miss your old times. Hope this helps
♥ Jedi

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Lets see...i really like this guy..and i think he likes me.. hes having this party friday night (tomaorw) and he like wants to make out with me there but like i dont know how and im scared if i dont he'll brake upp with me..hes telling all of his friends too soo. if i dont il be embarressed to be by his friends too.. what do i do ?

Well you probably feel preasured to makeout right? It doesn't matter what other people think- if he cared about you then it wouldn't matter. But if you do want to really makeout & just are scared- then its up to you. Theres a first for everything. Maybe tell him that you've never done it before. But don't do it if you don't want to. Hope this helps ♥ ♥

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ok so i think i am getting kinda fat. and my heart is really telling me to be beliemic or anixic. like should i go get help or something? at lunch sometimes i dont bring a lunch, and my friends are like your anixic eat eat, and i cant do it. i weight like 120 something, and i hate it. i mean im 13 years old, and im not pretty, no guys like me.. and it sucks. help me out.

I'm pretty sure thats not fat. Don't be come anorexic or belemic- if you want to loose weight then try eating healthy! Go here if you want :`

http://www.am-i-fat.com/
http://www.diet-i.com/
http://www.nutritionsupport.com.au/

Theres some. You can always google sites too. But its not healthy to become anorexic or belemic. Besides being belemic seems nasty. And i'm sure your being modest... your probably pretty =). Don't worry about guys, there stupid. Well hope this helps ♥

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okay, well i moved from like my old town to a place like 15 minutes away (if u drive there) and like u would think my friends would call to hang out or something they havent called once, at all except for 1 friend. and i really miss hanging out with them, so what should i do? cause sometimes i call them but they never want to hang out n e more, should i just stop calling and move on with my life? cause they made me feel like shit. what should i do??

Aw Im sorry. Sometimes friends do that, maybe they moved on. I'm sure they miss you though. If they make you feel like shit than there not good friends. Maybe there just lazy & dont bother calling... but I bet they didnt forget about you. I think its almost impossible to forget about friends. Try talking to them online/calling if you still want to be friends. Sorry this happened to you.
♥ Jedi

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no guys will go out with me because they think im prude, and they all say im pretty, and another reason they wont go out with me is because there always like shes flat! who would go out with her..
can you help with this at all ?

I'm not sure if I can, but thats so shallow. Not going out with someone because they think your prude & flat. Guys are retards... it will never change. Just think- boobs are overrated =). Try letting them know that your not prude, & being flat is okay. Only stupid guys care about it. Sorry this happens to you. Hope this helps
♥ Jedi Kt

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