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Q: i have a friend and shes 16 and shes 5 6 1/2 and she thinks that shes to tall for her age i was just wondering is that a tall height for her age or is it normal?

I'm 16 and 5'7 1/2.....it's perfectly normal everybody grows at thier own rate and depends on family heights she could be taller or stay the same height for the rest of her life........hope i helped

Q: im going away soon for vacation and i never been on a plane before this will be my first time. i dont know what to expect here are some questions i would like to get answered

should i be scared
alot of people say to chew gum should i?
willl i get sick?
what should i do to keep busy?

I've been on planes plently of times, like when i was 12 i went on by myself, yeh sure i was scared it's only natural but really it is nothing to be scared of. As for the chewing of gum, it would be a godd idea due to the change of air pressure at take off and landing, the change in the air pressure trend to make your ears want to pop, you know the feeling when you all of a sudden can barely hear anything and when u open your mouth wide, yawn, or chew gum it goes back to normal. That i why many people chew gum on planes, it helps distribute the air pressure.
There is a possibilty of getting sick but i wouldn't worry to much, many people get sick form the change of air pressure and the fear of getting sick, I take gravol (travel tablets) when I go onto a plane, because it settles your stomach and helps you sleep, at least when you are asleep you are not worrying about stuff. I suggest sleeping, reading, make a friend sitting next to you on the plane, there are alot of people from alot of different places on planes, usually their pretty cool.Hope I helped, plz rate.

Q: Hi Im A 21 year old female. and im stressing. I Have a 24 year old boyfriend i have been with for the past 2years and a half. in this relationship i have bin cheated on,beaten up i have practically been abused mentally physically and emotinally. he say he love , i guess in his own ways.but i have been dealing with him and his baby mama to much. dont get me wrong i do love him. but i felt he stopped my life completly. i wanted to go to college or to the military and he didnt want me to go. but i was dumb. anyways i went away for training which i had to beg him to let me go, eventually he did. before i left i found out he cheated on me with his baby mama again. so when i went away i found someone.A 25 year old firefighter. someone who treated me like i have never been treated before, he respects me, he loves me, hes offering me the world, my mom spoke to him and she like him, so i had plan to leave my boyfriend to go to live with this guys now. i would love to be with this guy so much but my boyfriend refuses to let me go. now these days he all of a sudden want me and promises me to treat me good, but he promised that before.everytime i speak to my baby i smile he makes me feel happy something i havent been feeling in a long time, this is my story i dont know what do do, im a Virgo In Distress and i just cant figure out what to do. please help me, this is my future.

In my opinion, this guy who your with (the one with the baby's mama) is dirt. No offence but if he's going to abuse you, you don't need him, if he really did love u he wouldn't beat you, hunny that is not a relationship that is a hell for u, no woman or man deserves to be in a relationship where they are beaten up and abused. Also no man or women who beats up or abuses their partner doesn't derserve to have a relationship in my opinion. Also, I believe that if you really do love the 25 year old firefighter then you should follow your heart, don't let his abusive ways stop you, go with the firefighter and if he will not let you be, or if he trys to harm you or him, I would honestly insist getting the police invovled you do not need that in your life, do not let anyone stop you from following your dreams and improving on your life. I hop eI have helped and I'm sorry if I didn't. Plz rate.

Q: I have been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years. During that time, we have had some problems but have worked them out and have been doing very well, until lately. I don't know why I did this, but I cheated on my boyfriend with someone who is a very close friend of mine and have even developed strong feelings for...but I still honestly love my boyfriend. I didn't know it was possible for me to not only cheat, but do it for a few months while my boyfrined thought everything was fine. I also didn't know it was possible for me to love two people at the same time.

So, as much as it hurt to do this, I told my boyfriend about everything yesterday and, of course, he is beyond hurt. I knew I had to come clean with him to start setting things right. I want to be with my boyfriend and that's why I needed to tell him - to start to put the trust back in the relationship. However, I am still very confused about my feelings for the other guy, which are very valid and real (and he feels them for me as well). It killed me to hurt my boyfriend like that, and to keep something going outside the relationship for so long, but I really need advice at this point. I am lost and don't know what to do... thanks for any help!

Oh my god, I've been there me and my boyfriend have been together for over 3 1/2 years and it was love at first site, when I told him about the other guy, he totally rejected me, but in a couple days he called me back and wanted to meet up. We are going strong again now, and it was because I told him, as you told your boyfriend, I honestly think that they would rather hear it from your then from someone else so you did the right thing by telling him...... the other guy needs to know that you really do love your boyfriend and that this can't go on....if you think you love the other guy more then maybe it's time to ask for a break try something different.... if your really miserable with this other guy then you know your boyfriend was the one true guy.... but if your happy with the other man then you know what your heart wants. That or ask for a break and be single for a while....just to be able to think about what you need and what you want.......I know that it will be hard but maybe it's the best way to go because being with him constantly is going to make it even harder, time apart could be what you really need....it could show you just how much you really do love him...... I hope that I helped and sorry if I never....plz rate...

-BabyShammy-

Q: Just wondering, but why does the majority of this site use horrible spelling and grammar when they ask questions? True, I understand it may be faster, but when you have a serious question such as when a friend might die, wouldn't you want others to understand what you're talking about? Also, why are there so many questions on people wanting to kill themselves, cutting themselves, and being just downers in life? Life can be so wonderful, and people make it seem so horrible when they cut themselves because their parents don't let them out past 9 or don't buy them a car, when they should feel lucky that they even have caring parents, or even food on the table. I dunno, just... why?

Thanks in advance.

I think that the grammer thing doesn't matter. As for the teens I think that things can get really depressing and if they need someone to talk to, they should come to us, and let us know what's wrong and help give them advice. If talking to someone about killing yourself helps get it off your chest, and someone's advice can change your mind, I think it's worth us helping them out, because I know that I wouldn't want to be responsible for someone killing themselves because I thought that them talking about cutting themselves, and killing themselves is being a downer. Some people just really need people to listen and need someone to talk back. Alot of kids don't feel comfortable talking to parents, that's why they find site's like these to help them make the right choices in life or the choice to save a life.

Q: I hope this isn't inappropriate but I have heard guys talk about good "dirty word for vagina".. no they don't really say that but just think of what that word is. Sorry I'm trying to make this sound half-way decent. But what is that, good P-word? What makes it good.. what makes sex good? lol sorry I'm just curious I'll rate good for anyone who's nice

alot of people refer to this p-word your talking about as pussy......well aleast where i'm from....... theres nothing wrong with it. Some girls find this offencive (sorry if I mispelt that) but it all depends on what you think of it. As for sex it can be bejoyable depending on who it's with and if youre ready, I mean if its a guy you want to have sex with or if you love this person, it can be enjoyeable.............. I hope that I helped.....plz rate
-baby shammy

Q: I've never had an orgasm. I mastubate and am with a steady bf. He's my 4th bf. I reckon if reaching orgasm is 10 then I can probably get to a 9 but never reach a 10! Its very anoyying. I don't like vibrators, they don't turn me on, I usually use a pillow, that is the most effective. I love my clitoris to be stimulated! But I never come! Why not? I'm mature enough, and feel safe in my relationship. What can I do?

Hunny, sorry to tell you but some people just can't get to that point and it's ok, it's not like theres something wrong, many people think that they are mature enough but some peoples body are just not ready for that 10 yet, it may feel like you are but the body knows best and when u are ready your body will let you know, one of these days it will just happen. Everybody's body matures at a different rate and urs might be maturing slower than others. Just think of it this way, if your body is maturing slowler than others it will be amizing the first time because you've come so close to it before.

Another solution is to get your man to try soemthing different maybe what hes doing is just not working for you........maybe you need a bit more stimulation.......

I hope that I helped and if you need anything else just ask....... lots of love.....Baby Shammy

Q: Im a wild girl, but when it comes to makin the 'first moves' i get kinda shy. My boyfriend isnt that experienced so he's not really into making the first move either. So heres the problem: How can we get stuff one if were both like that bc its not like i dont want to make the first move its just more so that i dont want to get rejected or anything. Like im sure that he wouldnt or anything but still. Plus i HATE it when girls throw themselves on guys and that is how i would feel if i did that. So i guess that i just dont want to come off as that kinda person. Please give me advice!

Just make the first move. Do anything a little kiss on the cheek start kissing his neck, eventually he'll get the idea. Alot of the time the guys just need a little push to get started. Hope that I helped. If u need to ask nething else please drop offf ur question in my inbox. Thanx, lots a love.

Q: theres this guy that wants to go out with me...i havent said yes or no yet. i sit right next to him in one of my classes too and ive talked to him and stuff b4 but hes not like a good guy friend of mine or n e thing and idk if i even really like him. and i sorta like this other guy and want to find out if he likes me and if so wants to go out..would it be mean of me to do that??

Ask him if he would mind if u too got to know each other alittle better first. Say sumthing like " I usually don't rush into relationships, I'd rather get to know the person first then gradually turn it into a relationship." I think he would understand. IF he doesn't hes not worth ur time!

Q: Hi im a 16 year old girl and I have been dating this girl for 3 months now but we dont really talk, and i can tell my friends think i should break up with her, but i really like her and i want to go out with her but i want us to talk more what should i do?

Talk to her, tell her u need to comunicate more or the relationship just won't work. Ask her if she feels the same way, if u both agree work a time schedule that way u know when shes gonna call or u know when ur supposed to call.If u have sumthing to do call her and change the time to later. Try that and if it doesn't work find another way to communicate latters,email, something simple.

Q: How can i make a website that is for free?? I use 2 have aol but i don't have aol anymore so i wanted to make a new website...anybody kno what i can do??

www.envy.nu is a good site try it or try www.piczo.com

Q: You see, whenever I fly on airplanes, I usually get airsick, and I begin to throw up. But just a few months ago, I didn't throw up, so I was pretty happy. But last week, I just found out that my bf's mom invited me to Las Vegas, so we're taking a plane. I'm really scared that I'll throw up. AND I don't wanna be ashamed. What should I do to keep me from puiking? It seems so uncool typing this on an advice column but no one knows who I am anyways.

My answer to u is take Gravol thats what i take beforre i get on aplane cuz i always used t get sick but u won't if u take gravol.It keeps ur stomach from getting upset which usually makes u throw up.Try Gravol, n just relax don't think about throing up cuz that can usually trigger it too.Hope everythin works out.

Q: Me n my friend have been best friends for a few years now but then she met this girl and shes a really bad influence on her-drinking smoking and cutting herself. now me n my friend arent really best friends nemore and shes lost a lot of her friends because no1 really likes the other girl and she's really mean to me. My friend's been cutting herself fer about a year and i don't know what to do to get her to stop but she's going to start drinking too cuz she thinks it will help and she wont really listen to anyone. she told me she's turning into a person she never wanted to be-doing the things she does and ruining her life b4 she's even 13 but she still doesnt stop. theres a lot of crap going on in her life right now but still.. i dont know what to do anymore please help me!

Tell sumone, if this keeps happening she could really hurt herself, i don't mean to scare you but if she keeps cutting herself she could even die. Tell a parent, a guardina , adoctor, get her help, not only her but the girk shes hanging around with. If they both get help together they will be able to help each other through it.If they won't get help on their own u need to get help to go to them, get the authorities envolved. I knwo u don't want to rat out ur friend, but if don't she might end up dead. This is the best advice I can give. I hope that everything works out!

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If you need any help, come to me, i've been through so much and have given myself so much advice.I know what I am talking about because I helped myself through my mom having Cancer.I helped myself through a friends death. I helped myself through all family members deaths. If you need help with anything, just ask, i'm always hear to help, I'll try to answer your questions as soon as possible (2 or 3 days). Thank you! I hope that I can help with any questions that I get!