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Me n my friend have been best friends for a few years now but then she met this girl and shes a really bad influence on her-drinking smoking and cutting herself. now me n my friend arent really best friends nemore and shes lost a lot of her friends because no1 really likes the other girl and she's really mean to me. My friend's been cutting herself fer about a year and i don't know what to do to get her to stop but she's going to start drinking too cuz she thinks it will help and she wont really listen to anyone. she told me she's turning into a person she never wanted to be-doing the things she does and ruining her life b4 she's even 13 but she still doesnt stop. theres a lot of crap going on in her life right now but still.. i dont know what to do anymore please help me!
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Someone who has some influence on her HAS to be told. One of those (cutting, drinking, smoking) can be dealt with easier, but all three needs adult intervention, and soon. Really, I think both girls should see someone, and possibly be kept apart (yes, it sounds mean), but perhaps if you can get your friend away from this other girl, then the infulence might drop. There is the possiblility of the fact that your friend may be scared of this other girl, or may want to be like her, and so she feels compelled to copy her, no matter what.
Also, see if you can help out with whatever's going on other than this.
If you tell an adult, your friend may or may not come running to you later to say thank you. She may call your friendship off, but it's a risk you may have to take.
Best of luck.
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Tell sumone, if this keeps happening she could really hurt herself, i don't mean to scare you but if she keeps cutting herself she could even die. Tell a parent, a guardina , adoctor, get her help, not only her but the girk shes hanging around with. If they both get help together they will be able to help each other through it.If they won't get help on their own u need to get help to go to them, get the authorities envolved. I knwo u don't want to rat out ur friend, but if don't she might end up dead. This is the best advice I can give. I hope that everything works out!
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omg i'm in the same situation! you need to just maybe have her over to your house one day and talk to her, let her know your always there to help. maybe ask her why she's doing some of this stuff and then offer all the advice you have. sometimes all they need is a friend, and maybe since you guys were such good friends, she'll really take comfort in talking to you! hope that helps <333
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well first of all tell someone that you know really good and tell them what she is going threw and tell them not to tell you friend that you were the one who told on her.
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Hmm.. VERYY familiar. She needs a councilor. I know u'll prolly be scared to tell an adult or ur school councilor, or even another friend that may be able to help.. you may think she'll get mad and start to hate you... but she can kill herself, or worse, lose every loving person she has. Don't let her do that to herself. She will end up thanking you. Trust me, it's happened to my best friend b4, but I'm sooo proud of u not backing down. Keep on being a good friend, and send me news on wat happened!
*Mayya
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You should check her into a helping place ( forgot the name sry.)Does her parents know what's going on? You should tell them what's been going on with your friends life and whose' she's been hanging out with and that this person has caused her not to be herself and to be someone who she never wanted to be and how her life is being destroyed! I'm sorry!
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