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please share the steps about how to go about the following:
A) going on birth control w/o parents knowing
B) getting the morning after pill
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Many communities have a facility called Planned Parenthood where they provide birth control and annual exams, regardless of age and the cost is based on your income. Google it and see if there's one in your area.
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On my, is it called genitals? The front area, like where your pubic hair is. I have a, pimple looking thing on it, to my far left, almost at where my leg bends (bikini edge line?).
I've gotten a 'pimple' down there before once in a while, but it's like the same colour as my skin. No big, it goes away.
But this one has become pinkish red, and it hurts really badly, and it has a black dot in the middle (I thought it was an ingrown hair at first but now, I guess not).
I want to go to the doctor but...I'm not sure. Like I'm super nervous about letting him even look down there and I'm not sure if it's because of a normal reason or if it's just because he's a guy.
I am totally pro health and if my friend was in my situation, I'd absolutely agree on going to the doctors to get it checked. But for me, I'm not sure.
Maybe it's normal and someone has a name for it? Then I'd be embarrassed to go to the doctors for it, look at it, and it turns out that it's nothing! But what if it's serious or something like herpes (I'm not even involved sexually with anything =/) or turns into a large mole when I'm older?
The secretary for my doctor has to know what I'm going there for so I don't really want to tell her either because she's always gossiping and I don't want her to give me 'that look' when she sees me because she knows what I’m going in for.
Hopefully, it's not bad and someone here knows what it is, an idea, or even had it before, but thanks in advance for the advice. (link)
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If you've never been sexually active, then it is absolutely not herpes or any other STD. I would still bet that it's just an ingrown hair or a pimple. Especially if you shave your bikini line, the hair follicles there get irritated easily. Just watch it over the next few days and if it gets worse or doesn't get better, go to the doctor.
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i am 17 and female and 5'1 and 109 lbs around.
i am obsessed with my weight- its all i think about.
i have always been on crazy diets my entire life and recently my diet got a tad crazy...
i have as much coffee as i want with half and half or regular milk , celerey, and sum chicken for dinner. THATS IT oh and gum.
i know its unhealhty and wtvr but it makes me feel so clean and skinny.
i am to scared to eat anything bc i will gain weight bc i dont eat anything...
what do i do so i can eat and loose weight without this crazy anorexic burden on me (link)
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Try to eat several healthy meals a day... ones that are low in calories and bad carbs. If you only eat once or twice a day, your metabolism will slow down and make it easier to gain weight. Try fruits or raw veggies for snacks, a salad with fat free dressing or cereal with no added sugar for lunch, chicken or lean meats for dinner. Just stay away from sweets and too much bread or starch (like potatoes or pasta) and you'll be fine. You can find alot of great healthy meal plans online too.
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Well, We have been together for 5 years and got married in November. He has been depressed since a week after the wedding.I think he is upset because I cant perform the sexual acts that he wants. He wants me to be with a girl so bad that if I dont "go out" with girls he will be silent for days.A week after the wedding it was all he talked about. I am quite a homebody. He is 45, I am 32. The fact is, I will never sleep with a girl. It was a thing of fantasy for us. He went as far as to text a girl from my phone for a coffee date yesterday behind my back and I cancelled, He is really dpressed now. And of course, everything is my fault. He downloads tons of porn,I have found 3 videocameras around my house, I know he is a sex addict,but he is in denial and wont get help. What do I do??Up until our wedding things were pretty great! He told me that he knows i am to "old" to be with a girl tonight and said young girls would do it. I think I am doomed. I am a very attractive woman I am not old, and very devoted to only him.He always makes comments that nobody wants him enough for him to cheat on me. I am so lost. HELP! (link)
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You need to tell him that you will never be sexually involved with a woman and that you married him because you wanted to be monogamous. If the monogamy of marriage isn't sacred to him, then you never should have gotten married. It is also completely unacceptable for him to imply that he would cheat on you if anybody "wanted him". Tell him that if you and this marriage are really important to him, then he will get help; otherwise, leave the selfish fool!
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pretty sure my dad is cheating on my mom. im 18, my brother is 21 he doesnt live at home anymore. Its just me my mom and dad. I walked in on him having a video sex thing over the computer with another women and in chat rooms when i was 15. Now im wiser... ive been seeing a lot of chat sites, porn sites, and escort sites. I told my moms best friend who is a close family friend, and dropped hints to try and blow my dads spot when he wasnt home at 1am and she was at work (she works nights) anyways. i think she kind of got the hint, but idk. Im scared. my best friends dad killed himself cause of the guilt. and its wearing me down, my anxiety is high, and i try to ignore what hes doing, and i cant tell my mom.. i cant picture this life im living being changed even for the worst, and risk one of them doing something stupid. My dad is a good man to the whole public, and everyone knows and loves him. I cant take it though, what can i do? How can i stop him.. i just need help. and ya, i know i should tell my mom.. but i know what comes with that after, and i know thats two million times worse, and i have no proof of him actually going to meet another women, just high suspicion. help me :( i already check his history on his computer... (link)
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My guess is that she is fully aware of what's going on and is just trying to "save face". If he is a respected man in the community and a good father to you, then she probably doesn't want to tarnish his reputation or disappoint you. Try talking to her best friend again and seeing if she thinks your mom already knows. If so, let her know that you know too and that you're concerned. If not, then maybe she (your mom's best friend) would be willing to talk to her.
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I used to have pretty bad acne on my face, but now its finally gone! The only problem is that i have some pretty bad scars. They aren't like the crater scars but just red spots all over my face. They make it look like I still have bad acne unless I put on a ton of make up on my face.
Is there a product that anyone has used that can help get rid of these scars? If anything I'll ask to go to the dermatologist for christmas to get them removed. Has anyone either used a product or gone to the dermatologist and it worked for them really well? Can you give me the name of the product or procedure, and how much it cost? I'm ready to shed the scars and be confident.
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Mederma is the best scar treatment I have ever used and it is available over-the-counter. It's a little expensive at $20+, but it lasts a long time and is much cheaper than going to the dermatologist.
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I've only been friends with this guy for 2 months now, but the rate at which we got close to each other was astounding. I can consider him one of my best friends, if not my actual best friend.
A month ago he had told me that he liked me. I had been developing slight feelings for him at that time but after he sat me down and told me this I found myself repulsed and kind of angry at him for ruining the natural flow of the friendship. For a while we went as close, but recently I've noticed that my feelings are growing again. We are perfect for each other, and he might very well be my soul mate. Even his dad's friend remarked that we should get married, which made me very uncomfortable at the time.
I can see myself spending my life with him. But I'm so young and not serious at all with men. I usually date guys that are attractive but we aren't friends, which leads me to separate sex from an actual friendship, so I don't see him sexually at all, so I can't imagine an actual relationship with him and sleeping with him. He's also shorter and smaller than me, which is something I've never had before because I'm not that tall and pretty thin.
He treats me so so well and I know I would be very happy with him if I can get over the sexual aspect. But i'm afraid to admit that i have feelings for him, because if I do, then there's no turning back. I also know that I will hurt him when I flirt with other guys. And in that case I will ruin something that potentially could be forever. this is something that could be very serious but i'm afraid the timing's not right. i'm afraid of myself i don't trust myself. but if i don't tell him soon i feel that he will pull away, he already is, it seems it's tormenting him immensely and he has stopped talking to me. i don't want to lose what i have now with him, but i also don't want to lose everything when there's more at stake in the future.
what do i do???? i haven't felt this strongly about anyone in a long time, but i'm also prone to changing my feelings a lot and i'm afraid. i don't want to mess this up or hurt him. i also don't want to see him with another girl, what if he finds someone else. how do i see past his physicality? (link)
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This describes my past relationship with my now-fiance to a "T"... We hung out in and after high school, hooked up once, and it changed things. I moved on and got married, then divorced... we got back in touch and tried dating, but he wasn't ready to be serious so we drifted. Then we became the best of friends again and both still had romantic feelings, but we were already in the "friend zone" and I couldn't imagine crossing that line with him again. So I dated different guys and finally realized I was wasting my time! I could have lost him due to bad timing, but didn't because he was my soul mate. It just took us alot of time and several tries to figure that out! Everything happens for a reason and eventually, what's meant to be will be!
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i need some ideas of what to get my boyfriend for christmas/one year anniversary...i want it to be really special since its like a 2 in one gift, hence why i'm asking a month before christmas just incase it takes me awhile to save up for it or make it. he loves snowboarding and music and singing (btw he has an amazingg voice...like i want to get him a record deal haha but yea) i want to get something that kind of symbols our relationship too, so he'll never forget me, but something he'll love at the same time. so i guess something cutesy (not too corny) and then something he'll love. my main problem is the cutesy one...like if i make him something i don't want him to like it just cause its from me, i want to like melt his heart lol....so any ideas? (link)
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One year I made my boyfriend a jar of memories. I bought an inexpensive glass jar with lid and put our picture and a cute quote (I used photoshop to soften the edges and put the quote right on the picture) on the lid. Then I bought some colorful scrapbooking paper in small squares and wrote a special memory of us on each piece, then folded it up and put it in the jar. Think of some things that will make him melt and also ones to make him laugh. You could also give him something of yours that has sentimental value. Trusting him with that is like telling him that you trust him with your heart. :)
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Im a married 29yr old woman with one child. I got done my cycle on the 8th of november. I had unprotected sex on the 9th, 13th,27th and 19th of this month. My cycle runs ever 30 like clock work since I started having my period. With my first child I never paid any attention to what days are best to get pregnant. Now I guess If I could get someone to explain all of this to me a little better then all the ovulation calendars I have been reading. I would feel better. I really just want to know how high my chances are of being pregnant if the calendar said that I should be ovulating around the 20 or 21st of this month. The last 2 times that we had unprotected sex was the 17th and the 19th.. What are my chances that I will have a positive pregnancy test??? Could someone please help (link)
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My OB/GYN said that ovulation happens approximately 1 week after the end of your cycle or 2 weeks before the start of your cycle. The exact date depends on how long your cycle usually lasts. The only way to find out exactly when you ovulate is to take an ovulation test. If your period is regular and you get it on or around the same day every month, then you will ovulate at the same time every month. Stress can lead to infertility, so relax and have fun in the process! :)
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There's a guy that was once interested in me but then he kinda jumps around and is interested in everyone ,because he's not good looking so he tries to get what he can.I'm actually out of his league,but looks don't matter to me.He is a really nice kid and we talk daily for like 3 hours and hangout all the time,but I don't know if he likes me because I think he knows I like him and he hasn't asked me out obviously.My friend is like best friends with him and he told my friend that he likes girls that don't pay any attention to him,and obviously I do.How do I go about paying little attnetion to him and still showing interest? Everytime we hangout he always tries to hit on new people or my friends and it pisses me off because he always talks to me soooo much and I just don't know why he's not flirting with me.I don't really flirt with him solemnly for that fact.Yet sometimes he flirts with me on IM and one of his friends always tells me to hookup with him,so i'm getting mixed feelings everywhere.help! (link)
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If you're clearly "out of his league", my guess is that he's intimidated by you. If he has self-confidence issues, then he probably wonders what you see in him and thinks he's not good enough. Make sure he sees that you're not interested in other better-looking guys and that you think he's a great person. Rather than bending over backwards for his attention, just find ways to compliment him when the two of you hang out. Being real and genuine is the easiest way to get the guy!
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Ok so i have a crush on a guy i know from work. im pretty sure he likes me too. We talk all the time, and i feel so comforable aroung him. how do i drop hints that i like him without being totally obvious?
also- i would love to hear some opinions- there is a significant age difference. hes 17 and im a 21/f. i dont think it is illegal because of the 4 year difference, but i lways though the guy wsas supposed to be the oldest. i would love to see some opinions. thanks so much. (link)
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Age only matters if your goals are different. Couples with age gaps sometimes have problems because one is ready to settle down and the other is not. If you think you want the same things, give it a chance... just keep in mind that he is young and may not be done playing the field. Don't get your heart broken!
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Alrighty then this is really freaking me out! I have had the same dream every few nights for weeks now and it is always the same and always about the same person. Yes I have a crush on them and yes it is that kind of dream that you want to have and at the same time feel bad for having. Does this mean anything?
Am I going insane or has this happened to anyone else? (link)
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Your dreams are composed by your recent thoughts, both conscious and sub-conscious. If he/she has been on your mind lately, it is common to be having dreams about them. Nothing to worry about.
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Heyyy. Okay so my boyfriend is fifteen (sixteen in a month) and is a sophomore. I am fourteen and a freshman. We haven't been dating long. Like, about a month and a half I think and almost everything is perfect. He's adorably cute and totally awesome. The one problem is he gets really protective of me around his friends. I guess you could say his friends are... bad? Hahah, I don't know... My bf isn't bad but his buddies are all sophomore boys and they you know, I guess, don't really respect me? Like one of them hits on me all the time and one like smacks my butt. They mean it jokingly and I know they don't actually like me, I think they just do it to make my boyfriend mad. And he gets mad... But he loves his friends and they really are nice but this is just how they pick on him. He like actually gets pissed at them and won't let me out of his sight if we're at like a party that they're at too. And I don't know, I feel bad for him. I don't know if there is anything I can do to help... Like is there any way I can help and make the situation better??? Just wondering. Thanks! (link)
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If their behavior makes your boyfriend uncomfortable, then he needs to explain that to them. You probably don't want to risk causing a conflict by bringing it up yourself, and it's not your responsibility to. They are your boyfriend's friends, and he should ask them to respect you both. If they don't, then maybe they're not such good friends afterall.
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To sum it up my whole high school career I experienced love. My first love and then the one who stole it.I was with both guys for roughly a year and a half each. The 2nd guy and I ended a little over a year ago and that was still the last time I had real feelings for someone. I've never experienced such a harsh and hurtful breakup as I did with him, not even when I had to break the heart of my very first love. Now this 2nd guy still crosses my mind especially on my lonely days. He hasn't spoken to me since we broke up a year ago. Sometimes I get scared that I won't be able to find someone to fill this hole. I'm 19 and finally living the single life which I haven't really gotten to experience growing up. There has been hopefuls, people who start falling for me, but I just can't. I can't find the right person to fall for. Recently I've been more into checking girls out rather than guys and its making me so confused. I think I've just been feeling so alone this past year and getting so sick of these boys that I want to be open minded over who I fall in love with. I've been feeling more spark in me over girls then I do in boys. I don't know whats going on with me. (link)
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Well I don't believe you can "consider" being a lesbian or bisexual... you are who you are. It sounds like you may not know who that is yet, but in time you will figure it out. Many girls your age are curious about their sexuality. Just be open minded and experiment if you feel the desire to. You will know if it feels right or not. In the meantime, don't dwell on finding the love of your life; you have plenty of time and he/she will find YOU!
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I am doing a really complex study for a class I am taking. I chose happiness as my topic it is something I've always wanted to study, and I would like to hear some opinions here. I need to see as many views as possible as this is all for research. I VERY much appreciate anyone taking the time to respond.
Here are the questions:
1. Are you happy?
2. What do you think would make you a happy person?
3. Do you believe money brings happiness?
4. What do you believe makes people happy/unhappy?
5. Any other interesting theories about happiness you'd like to share?
Even if you have a completely twisted view on this it would be very helpful to hear it, and this will all stay anonymous of course. THANK YOU! (link)
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1. I am the happiest I've ever been!
2. Realizing that as long as I have my son, we have our health, and I am able to provide for him, I am happy. That makes all the little things that we normally take for granted seem like icing on the cake! I think that if you put your problem into perspective instead of pitying yourself, you see that it could always be worse and most often won't bring an end to your world. Relish your blessings!
3. I believe that money brings temporary happiness to unhappy people. People sometimes think that if they buy themselves something nice or don't have to worry about money, then it takes their mind off of everything else... but the real issue will underlie. When it resurfaces, they will go shopping for a quick fix, and then the issue resurfaces again. Money is always nice to have and may assist in your happiness, but will not MAKE you happy.
4. As stated above, truly happy people cherish the small things that most of us take for granted. If you make your world a happy place, good things seem to gravitate to you. Unhappy people are usually that way because they dwell on the past and/or every little thing that doesn't quite go their way.
5. I have been on both ends of the spectrum, and have learned "the key to happiness" from my own experience. I realized that if I continued to be upset about things that didn't go my way, then they never would. I also realized that if I really wanted something, I had to go after it, rather than thinking it should come to me. When you work hard towards a goal, you take pride in your accomplishment. The result = happiness!
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When I was a kid my parents always wanted me home RIGHT after school, I wasnt allowed to join sports teams because my parents(mom was too over protective. In highschool I went to a school almost an hour away because my sis went there and becasue all the students from my elementary school took over the options I had for schools in my neighborhood and I didnt want to go to school with them because I was a "loser" in elementary school and I wanted to start fresh. highschool was great! I made great friends I experimented I went out...Sometimes....and I found my soul mate! Now i do not go out with my highschool friends becasue they are too far, they were still experimenting when i left school and I was over that, and I was so fresh with my bf I wanted all the time w/him. Now our friendship is holding on by a thread, we havnt had a conversation in almost 3yrs and I don't know if i want to continue to expand a friendship with them. i am scared that they have changed and I have changed, we wont have anything in common, they are still single and enjoying their 20's and I hvan't even begun to enjoy mine. My bf wants me to get out and enjoy but I don't know how. Now i am in schoool and i have made new friends, most of them are underage and we cant go out but they are all in relationships and we have alot in common. they live far from me and its hard to plan to go out. I am afraid that I will be left with no friends EVER because my mom never let me live as a child, the only time I expressed myself was when I was an hour away from home. I blame my mom because I feel I never learned how to keep friends. I am great at making friends, i am outgoing ant caring but i have a real hard time keeping them, going out, planning to go out, HAVING A GOOD TIME! I don't want to loose my 20's and than regret it. PLS I want some HELP! I am debating on dropping out of school because I don't feel happy doing what i do, i enjoy going to class because i am with friends and that is the only place where I know we can meet up and have a good time! I love my bf so much and I don't want to blame him in the future, that is his fear. My fear is that I will be left alone my whole life and blame my mom who is alone, doesnt go out and says its becasue of me, she also tells me that my father never loved or cared about me. I want to enjoy life. i feel like the only reason I am still in school is because of my friends but I want to be able to go to school because of my career. i want to know if i actually enjoy the feild or if the stress from my friendships are impairing my judgement of weather or not I want to do what I am studying...My main goal here is to go out and build LONG & LASTING friendships. With my friends now or my frineds befor. i don't care, I just want to learn how to build that relationship. My friends now I don't knwo much about them, but they don't seem wild. My friends befor go out to clubs, drink (i don't drink too much) and hey already have a set group they have always hung out with since highschool. I don't want to get in the way of that. but I want that too, i want to have a friend or friends that when i am in my thirties and have kids they will be there. My bf has friends from his neighborhood who he can always count on and i envy him for that. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE tell me what i should do or plan to build on my friendships. PLEASE!!!!! (link)
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Start with getting to know your new friends better and creating a bond... invite them to lunch between classes, host a jewelry or purse party, or bring up the idea of a girls night out since most of you are in relationships. Also try to find some one-on-one time with each of them so you can develop a lasting bond (go shopping, watch you favorite show together every week, talk about boys, etc.). Then you can work on re-establishing your relationships with your old friends. Since they don't live close to you, try to plan a visit on a weekend, once a month or a few times a year. If you don't want to hang out in the bars, then suggest going to an amusement park or a spa... there are many things you can do besides drinking that everyone will enjoy. Just keep in touch and let them know that you want them in your life!
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My relationship with my ex was incredibly stressful and destructive. We argued constantly and even though we loved and cared about each other, we couldn't make it work. We were together for about a year but split up at least twice during that period. Eventually, I ended the relationship. He claimed to be heartbroken and kept calling and texting me with angry and hurtful messages.
About a week later, it turned out he was seeing a girl I'd always been suspicious of. He is now having a relationship with her. Although he admitted he was still in love with me, he said he had moved on and refused to discuss it with me. Now he won't talk to me at all.
I know I broke up with him and he has every right to do what he wants but I can't help being hurt and upset. It feels like a betrayal. Although it could just be a rebound thing, it's like he's chosen the one girl he knew would hurt me the most. I can't help but think he didn't really love or care about me if he can move on that quickly. I assumed we had mutual respect for each other and after he tried so hard to guilt trip me and upset me when we split up, I'm surprised that he immediately got into a new relationship.
I want to just forget about it, but I can't stop thinking about the fact that he's with her. I've avoided going out because in case I bump into them and because the girl lives just round the corner from me, I'm scared I'll see her. My ex also goes to my college and is in one of my classes, so I can't avoid him. How can I forget about this? It's making me angry and upset and affecting everything in my life. (link)
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While it hurts that he so easily moved on, the best thing you can do is act like it doesn't. Either he really didn't love you, or he wants you to believe that he's fine without you. He wants to make you jealous and think you made a mistake by leaving him. Don't give him the satisfaction of "winning"... Show him that you could care less who he's with now, or rather, that you feel sorry for his new girlfriend and you're better off without him (even if you don't feel this way yet, you soon will realize that you are!). Good riddance!
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