Question Posted Thursday November 12 2009, 2:43 am
To sum it up my whole high school career I experienced love. My first love and then the one who stole it.I was with both guys for roughly a year and a half each. The 2nd guy and I ended a little over a year ago and that was still the last time I had real feelings for someone. I've never experienced such a harsh and hurtful breakup as I did with him, not even when I had to break the heart of my very first love. Now this 2nd guy still crosses my mind especially on my lonely days. He hasn't spoken to me since we broke up a year ago. Sometimes I get scared that I won't be able to find someone to fill this hole. I'm 19 and finally living the single life which I haven't really gotten to experience growing up. There has been hopefuls, people who start falling for me, but I just can't. I can't find the right person to fall for. Recently I've been more into checking girls out rather than guys and its making me so confused. I think I've just been feeling so alone this past year and getting so sick of these boys that I want to be open minded over who I fall in love with. I've been feeling more spark in me over girls then I do in boys. I don't know whats going on with me.
AskNikB answered Thursday November 12 2009, 10:49 am: Well I don't believe you can "consider" being a lesbian or bisexual... you are who you are. It sounds like you may not know who that is yet, but in time you will figure it out. Many girls your age are curious about their sexuality. Just be open minded and experiment if you feel the desire to. You will know if it feels right or not. In the meantime, don't dwell on finding the love of your life; you have plenty of time and he/she will find YOU! [ AskNikB's advice column | Ask AskNikB A Question ]
Kindrd answered Thursday November 12 2009, 9:50 am: Well if you find that you can be happier with women, then I recommend being a lesbian or bisexual. I cannot say that I feel your pain but, I'm sure that you will find someone soon. Keep your head up and don't lower your standards too low. I made that mistake and now i'm stuck in it. Seriously, just enjoy the single life and when someone comes along, snatch them up and never let go. [ Kindrd's advice column | Ask Kindrd A Question ]
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