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I'm developing feelings for my best friend but I'm scared
I've only been friends with this guy for 2 months now, but the rate at which we got close to each other was astounding. I can consider him one of my best friends, if not my actual best friend.
A month ago he had told me that he liked me. I had been developing slight feelings for him at that time but after he sat me down and told me this I found myself repulsed and kind of angry at him for ruining the natural flow of the friendship. For a while we went as close, but recently I've noticed that my feelings are growing again. We are perfect for each other, and he might very well be my soul mate. Even his dad's friend remarked that we should get married, which made me very uncomfortable at the time.
I can see myself spending my life with him. But I'm so young and not serious at all with men. I usually date guys that are attractive but we aren't friends, which leads me to separate sex from an actual friendship, so I don't see him sexually at all, so I can't imagine an actual relationship with him and sleeping with him. He's also shorter and smaller than me, which is something I've never had before because I'm not that tall and pretty thin.
He treats me so so well and I know I would be very happy with him if I can get over the sexual aspect. But i'm afraid to admit that i have feelings for him, because if I do, then there's no turning back. I also know that I will hurt him when I flirt with other guys. And in that case I will ruin something that potentially could be forever. this is something that could be very serious but i'm afraid the timing's not right. i'm afraid of myself i don't trust myself. but if i don't tell him soon i feel that he will pull away, he already is, it seems it's tormenting him immensely and he has stopped talking to me. i don't want to lose what i have now with him, but i also don't want to lose everything when there's more at stake in the future.
what do i do???? i haven't felt this strongly about anyone in a long time, but i'm also prone to changing my feelings a lot and i'm afraid. i don't want to mess this up or hurt him. i also don't want to see him with another girl, what if he finds someone else. how do i see past his physicality?
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This is what is happening to me right now.
my best guy friend told me he liked me and then asked me out i said no cause i didnt want to ruin anything. i never told him i had feelings for me
and just this past week he got a girlfriend which sucks cause i have to act like im happy for him and what not but really its torture!
go for it cause if you dont you'll lose him cause he wont wait forever. just tell him that if anything doesnt turn out you want to be friends still and not the kind of friends who dont talk and just say they are friends, tell him you want things to be the same.
i say go for it, you dont want to wonder later in life what if? you know what i mean??
Hope i helped
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I've experienced something like that before. I met this girl, who is my cousin's cousin from her mom side. I was not close to her in the beginning but as the days past, we became friends and not only that but we became so close that I could see us together in the future. I actually developed real feelings for her than any other girl I've been with before. It happened when I took her on the Ferris wheel and it was her first time. She held me tight because she was afraid. I've never experienced something like that with a girl I just met. That's where I felt the connection with her. I was going to tell her but I second guessed everything. I was thinking that maybe if I do tell her, it could ruin our friendship and everything could go the other way around. That's why I did not tell her. I had a feeling too that she had feelings for me but I did not have the mind to ask her.
It's natural to have feelings for your best friend. When you feel the time is right go for it. Spending more quality time with him will give you answers to whether your feelings for him are correct or you guys are just meant to be friends. It will bring you too closer to each other.
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This describes my past relationship with my now-fiance to a "T"... We hung out in and after high school, hooked up once, and it changed things. I moved on and got married, then divorced... we got back in touch and tried dating, but he wasn't ready to be serious so we drifted. Then we became the best of friends again and both still had romantic feelings, but we were already in the "friend zone" and I couldn't imagine crossing that line with him again. So I dated different guys and finally realized I was wasting my time! I could have lost him due to bad timing, but didn't because he was my soul mate. It just took us alot of time and several tries to figure that out! Everything happens for a reason and eventually, what's meant to be will be!
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