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I thought that my now ex-boyfriend didn't like me any more so i broke up with him but I still really liked him. Then I went to a party and he was there and we really didn't talk to eachother untill they played the first slow song and he came up and just grabbed my hand and pulled me to the dance floor and we started slow dancing. Then when that song was over i was just like okay... but then they played Alicia Keys "if i aint got u" and so we kept dancing and he looked me in the eyes and was like i still love you and i was like i love you too... and then everyone started counting down for the new year and before it was 12:00 he kissed me and was like "last kiss of 2004" and then when it turned 12:00 he kissed me and was like "and first kiss of 2005" and i felt like it was my first kiss all over again. But later when i talked to him he was like I think we should wait a while before we go back out because I always just come back to you... but the thing is that i really really love him and i want to get him back now... what should i do to show him how much i love him and for him to ask me back out... should i just ask him out? before i broke up with him we had been dating for 5 months... i don't know what to do I'm so confused

first let me start off by saying that what he did was really sweet. and now to answer your question.. i think that if you really care about him, and it seems like you do, then i would just ask him out and im sure he will say yes! hope i helped and please rate me!
-ashley

Alright... So I just held a party which started about five hours ago and ended around 11:00 pm. 8th period today I invited one of my guy friends at the last minute. I told him that he couldn't bring anybody but himself, since there were already going to be a lot of people and my mother would flip if someone she didn't know, showed up at our house uninvited. He told me his friend whom he hasn't seen in a long time was coming to visit, but I told him that he couldn't bring him for reasons I already stated. It was basically an open invitation, if he could come alone, then he could come, but if he couldn't, then that was too bad. So, a little bit before the party after a few early people arrived, he called me and said he was in the neighborhood and was wondering if he could come a few minutes early. I said it was fine, and he came... with a friend in tow... I was a little pissed, but I let it slide for the time being. Well, a little while later after basically everyone arrived, he "pretended" to steal some of my DVD's and lots of food. Then, a few minutes later, he calls me over and says he's got a "shitload of alcohol" in his car. Now, my friends and I are not into that kind of stuff, and it made me really uncomfortable. I basically told him I thought he should leave. He got a little pissed but agreed to it. His friend was kind of just sitting there the whole time, not talking. So they got up and stood at the food table for a while and just hung out. I was really pissed and worried at the time, cuz one of my other freinds was threatening to leave (the alcohol comment made her really uncomfortable), so I said "Are you just going to loiter there?". He got really pissed then, and then left with his friend. A few minutes later he called all heated and was saying "You were really rude to me, and the alcohol thing was just a joke" which I didn't believe, because he only said it was a joke after I expressed my discontent. So then I told him again why he had to leave, and he was just like "yeah whatever, fuck you" and hung up. Now, I've thought about it over and over and my friends say that he's a jerk and I have every right to be angry. But I'm not sure... Was any of this my fault? I feel I made it very clear that he wasn't supposed to bring anyone, and that if he wanted to spend time with his friend, he should do so. We could always hang out some other time. It's not like he's doing me some huge favor by coming. I just need to know, for my own sanity, do I have the right to be angry? Thanks... Pom

you have every right to be mad at him. he brought an unknown friend to your party after being told not to and then he made a comment about having a shit load of alcohol in the car when he knows that you dont do that kind of stuff. so.. yes, i would say you have a reason to be mad..

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_ashley_

Ok, well, I got my period on Thursday, Its not the 1st time I got it cuz I have had it since I was 10. The question I have is how long do they usually last? Before, mine were about 7-9 days and this one has only been 3 and it isn’t heavy at all, like im done with it and I usually get really bad cramps and have really heavy flows ad ahad neither. Why is it so light and short this time???

No, im not pregnant and cuz Im still a virgin, im only 13… lol…

okay, your probably just not regular yet. and if u were pregnant then you would not be having your period at all.. rate me and i hope i helped!
-ashli

My friend died her hair BLACK see i think it looks good but she doesn't..so does neone know how to get hair dye outta hair like..everyday home uses and stuff..like someone told us dishsoap..that didnt work to well but if neone knows then ples give me advice to help my friend thanx

the only thing that i would say to do it just dye it again and see how it turns out... rate me please! ashli

Does anybody out there know of any good food recipe sites? I love to cook, but I need a lil help. lol If u know of any, pleeez help me Thanx!!

-Janine-*

you could try going to WWW.RECIPES.COM. they have some good ideas!

-rate me and i hope i helped-
-ashli-

OK I like this guy Named Chris But I used to Like this guy Named Matthew But the Day I met Chris was the Day I met Matthew In person And It was kinda Awkward Because I like Chris more and I dont want to hurt Matthews feelings So I didnt tell Matthew that Chris spent the night with Me But he found out by a friend But its ok I didnt tell her she couldnt tell!! so anywayz that night me and chris were laying down next to eachother and we started kissing ever since then We have had this big huge crush on eachother so But ok
Chris is really sweet, nice, comments me on stuff and kisses alot and hugs alot a cuddles alot And likes me for me which is really kewl
on the other hand
Matthew- Cocky, kinda mean, nice sometimes
comments on how Hott I am doesnt give me hugs, tells my friends there hott all the time in front of me talks about my friends 24/7 and U see why I dont like him
I just need to know How to tell HIm I dont like him but IN a nice way!!

just straight up tell him that you dont like the way he acts around you and that you met someone that you really like and want to go out with the guy that you like because he treats you in the way that you want to be treated!

-rate me and i hope i helped-
-ashli-

Sorry this is long, ill rate high..

Theres a big football game tonight and i really wanna go watch, problem is my best friend is sick and im not really huge with having a bunch of girls who are friends cuz they run their mouths too much. But my boyfriend is a soccer player and his game isnt gonna get back until like the second half of the game. I was thinking about asking a couple of my guy friends but i dont know if thatd look right because they dont have girls and i know that one of them whos available tonight likes me in a more than friends sort of way. So do you guys think its ok that i go to the game with my guy friends or should i just wait for my boyfriend to get back from his soccer game and then go?

wait for your boyfriend to get back from his game...

-ashli-

Hey..I'm only 14, and a girl. Lol. Well, I have a lot going on in mii life, I have had three boyfriends, and I am pretty good in school, but when it comes to makeup, I need help. I know that I look fine and everything, but when I do make up, I hate the results..does anyone have any good tips? I mean mii make-up doesn't look horrible, I just want to look better, but I don't seem to be any more pretty. Thanks! ;-) Katie

well.. my favorite thing to do is put black eye liner in the bottom inside of my eyes then i put on black waterproof mascara then i put on silver eye shadow and it really brings out my eyes. you should try it and let me know what you think! hope i helped!

I have blotchy skin like pimples and its kinda red should i go to the dermatologist? Also what kind of face wash should i get? Thanks

i had the same problem but then i went to clinqiue and they helped me. i bought a mild soap, clarifying lotion, a pimple lotion and moutuzier. and what you do is first wash your face with the soap (without a wash cloth cause they irritate your skin). then with you get a cotten ball and put the clarifyin lotion on the cotten ball and rub it all around your face till you feel like all your pours are open. then you put the mouturizer in the dryest spots and your pimples should be vansihed in a few days but continue the use of the clinque stuff it thats what you decide to go with! hope i helped! rate me!

about how much does contacts cost?! and how easy are they to use?! i rate high!

well.. i have acuve contacts and a year supply costs me about $150.00. their really easy to put in you eye but make sure that they are not too wet from the solution because they will slide out of you eye.. hope i helped! rate me!

Ok, I need to buy another pair of shoes for school but I don't know what to get. I already have the new Nike shoes that have the number "20" on the side but I forget what you call them. Can you please help me out? I just can't seem to think of what to get and school is starting this Thursday. Thanks

you could get either vans, pumas or the really cute new balance with the "N" on the side.. hope i helped

i was thinking of babysitting for people..(most likely people i dont know) with a friend of mine..this way the job is easier. Is this a good idea? Do you think i`ll be successful? How should i get perfect strangers to trust me to babysit their kids...any tips? thank you :)

i think its a great idea but just think that you and friend will probably have to share the money that the people pay you. yes, i do think you will be successful. an idea to get customers is you could put out flyers on people doors and have your parents ask people that work with if they need a sitter sometime.

ok i know i had this questions earlier but i didnt ge tot see the answer to it... is getting your belly button peirced dangerous at all? and also is there an age where you to be old enough to get them peirced. thanx cuz i really want to get them done!!!!

gettin your belly button peirced is not dangerous at at. i got mine done when i was 14. the only risk that you have is an infection. to get it done by your self you have to be 18 but other then that you have to have a parent or legal gardiun with you...

ok.. one of my best friends uncle died last nite we were all really close with him but they were like really close n shes talkin about killing herself wut do i say to her to help her try n stop trying to kill herself? help i rate high

this is a very normal thing. my very best friend was goin to do the same thing. just try to ocmfort your friend and help her thru her hard time.. SHE WILL GET OVER IT.

i am in 8th grade and i never had a b/f and no one has ever asked me out!!! is that normal or am i like idk weird or sumtin

that is perfectly normal. my best friend didnt have a b/f until so was a freshmen. so dont stress...

are they worth the pain and money for the sake of nice straight teeth?

yea. i would say yes because i had braces for four and a half years and when i got them off my teeth were soo pretty!!!

i just got contacts on saturday and i like them alot and everything but the thing is i can't really see that good with them on. i don't know if i put them on wrong or my eye doctor gave me the wrong prescription. is it normal not to be able to see for the first couple of days you get contacts? or did i do something wrong?

p.s.- i always put the right contact in the correct eye... i have it in an order so i know that they are going in the right eye.

i got contacts too. the first couple of days i couldnt really see that great with them in the my eyes either. my docter told me that i was just like that because your eyes are trying to adjust to having something in them. and if it doesnt get any better then call you docter. but thats all i can tell u!

ok i wrote this like b4 but i was wondering..

see i have a bf namd chris.. who i love with everything i can love someone with.. ive been with him for 9 months (i knew him for 3 years prior to that) and im still CRAZY about him. I want to be with him forever. I love him so much. and im 15. i would die for him and theres like 3 other ppl i can say that about. i lost my virginity to him bc i wanted to always remember him no matter where in life we went. i think about marring him and having his kids. (not now of course!) and like when i think of him ever moving away i cry! like it upsets me that much! or like if something bad would ever happen to him like say he dies.. i cry! i mean i hear ppl on here talk about love.. but i kno im in love. and with the things with my mom and how she doesnt want me to be with him cause he is black (im white) well it just makes me want to stay with him more and it makes me fall more in love with him! its like i dont care what ANYONE has to say about me and him.. i love him and i cant help it. i would do anything for him! and for me to be 15 and think like this.. well when i told my cousin about it she thought i was dumb and that i shouldnt be tied down like that. but i tried to tell her i dont want to be with no one else besides him! i want to be with him forever. and dont think im some 15 yr old girl thats talkin outta her a$$ here.. i never said this about no one and probally wont for a long long loooooong time. but im dead serious. is it ok for me to feel this way? i just want ur opinions. its not like gonna change the way i feel for him if u guys say no its not normal. but i just want to hear from you all.

thanks a bunch
Manda

manda-
if i were in your position that i would love him and be with him regardless of what anyone else in your family says. he is the one that you love and nothing should change that!
-ashli

I have a bff, and a really good friend. My bff and I are EXTREMELY close. My really good friend gets all mad and jealous. What should i do?

i went thru the same thing. what helped me out was that i spend time with each of the serperatly on different days! it seemed to work for me!

Does anyone know a good place to get your own website on the net....FOR FREE? I found a whole bunch of cool little knick knacks and I want to show them off on my website! But I can't find a website that is good like that! The website is either dumb or it isn't free. Please help me!

a site that i use is freeservers.com. i think its pretty good cuz you can add anything that you want to your personal site!

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