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There's this girl I really like. We'll call her "B." I know some people said "true" love isn't real for teens, but I can feel that I love her. I have since I met her.

Well, she's a few years older than me, and she's dating this guy I haven't really enjoyed being around in the past. I wrote B a letter, but I signed it "Your Secret Admirer." It basically says stuff about how I love her, and things like that. But, I haven't had a chance to sneak it into her backpack or whatever.

The thing is, I think she might sorta like me, but I'm not sure. Should I sneak the letter into her backpack?

Thanks,

-Fyce

first of all i would like to say that is so sweet there needs to be more guys like you in the world

but yeah you should because girls are so into that getting letters from secret admirer's but you might want to make it very clear that its not from her boyfriend cuz that would not be good for you if she just thinks its the guy she is with but yeah you should totally give it to her and what you should start giving hints that its you like saying stuff about yourself like what you like....and stuff like how you know her and if she doesn't figure out its you, you should just straight up tell her that its you and most likely it will all turn out good for you......

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ok i wana kno wuts the diffrence between flirting and regular talking..i mean how do u kno when i guys talking normally to you or if hes flirting?? crazy question but i just got to kno its so confusing i never know if im being flirted with or not...thanks

wow you and me are having the same problem but this is what i have found out about flirting....flirting is when the guy gives you his undivided attention, when ya'll are always laughing together, he winks at you, always smiles at you when he sees you, and calls you cute names,and most of all he spends time with you.....hope i helped

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ok i started dateing this guy and i thought we should just be friends ( because we just met like a week before that ) anyway he was fine with it.at school he still try's to hold my hand and stuff and he grabbed my ass too. i dont mind it but do you think me letting him do all this makes him think we are dateing again?? we went out the other night and someone asked me if he was my boyfriend and i didnt know what to say....is it stupid to ask him to be just friends with benefits because i would do stuff with him but i dont want a boyfriend???? ill rate high

well first of all i would sit him down and explain to him that you don't mind him doing all that unless you really really do but him doing all that doesn't mean that we're together again and tell him that you just want to be friends for now because your in a new place and don't know many people so you want to work things out to where you understand what you want if that makes any sense but just sit him down and tell him you just want to be friends but only for now unless you don't want to get back with him then tell him you just want to be friends.......hope i helped

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for half a year and I gave my virginity to him. He said that he was a virgin also. I feel that he was lying to me about being a virgin. I don't know what I should do to confront him with my thoughts. He seems to know too much about Sex to be a virgin.. I think he lied to me so I would sleep with him. How can I ask him about it without hurting his feelings?

well this is one way you could know most guy take their whole virginity thingy as seriously as girls do but if he's stays with you for a long period of time after the whole ordeal then it means he was a virgin but if he dumps you right afterwards then he wasn't he just wanted to get in your pants........hope i helped

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im a 21/f and have been married for a year but with him for 7years. how do i ask if another women can come in the bedroom?

Wow....I would say that some guys like that and some don't i would just sit him down and tell him that i just want to spice things up a bit and thats all.....thats the only thing i can really think of how to tell him....

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My best friend & her boyfriend just broke up last night and she needs some help with trying to get him jealous. It wasnt even her fault that they broke up it was his. So if you can please give me some advice to tell her to get him jealous that would be great.

and please dont use, flirting with other guys and stuff.

Thanks in advance

the first thing i would like to say is does she want him back is that why she wants to make him jealous?

but one reason to make him jealous is obviously get another guy but you don't want that answer....but another way to make him jealous is just to leave him alone for good and once he sees that she doesn't care or atleast care in his eye if you know what i'm saying.....but one point he'll realize what he's missing and he'll want her back but thats only if she wants him back.....

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well I've liked this guy for a while and I still do but he's my ex and he has a new girlfriend now and well he still have a little bit of feelings left for me too well we got a little physical and lets just say he definatly cheated on her and I want him but I don't want her to find out but I don't want to keep it in secret forever (which will probebly happen)what should I do ????

first of all just think if he ever dumps the other girl for you don't you think he might do the same thing to you and cheat on you and for one thing you should put yourself in the other girls shoes would you like it if your boyfriend cheated on you just think about that.........

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well I'm helping someone cheat on their girlfriend and I like him and he still likes me but I don't want to keep this a secret forever but I still wanna do things with him

first of all if he still likes you he should of dumped the other girl along time ago so that should tell you something right there..........and plus if hes doing this with this girl he'd probably do it to you so i wouldn't take the chance of dating him............

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Ive been with the same guy for what soon will be 5 years, and i love him with all my heart, he is my first love and i think im his first love too, ive given my all to him, but sometimes i feel he takes me for granted..theirs points were i cant stop crying, cuz its so hard, but truly hes the only one i have, im so in love and so scared to let go yet being with him is driving me crazy and i just dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!! i feel stuck because im so scared of being without him yet it hurts at the same time being with someone who wont commit with me and who will ignore me at times...AHHHH (im 22)

girl i am 14 and i know this it does not take a man to run you life you should never have to rely on a man because that just lowers you, you don't have to have him in you life and if hes taking you for granted then he doesn't deserve you anyway....................

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Well,this guy i really like asked me out and i like him soo much no one will ever understand but hes dating one of my friends and i don't want her mad at me ! and my BEST friends older sister dated him too and now my best friends whole family is going to hate me !! And my best friends older sister is gonna wanna beat me up !! im soo scared please help !! i really like this guy and i need to get over my ex so what do i do ?
THANKS

you should sit all the people that use to go out with him and one point and should tell them that you like him alot and that you really want to go out with him and if they don't understand that they we're never your friends anyway becuz your friends should understand if a miracle should happen that you should go along with it...............

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I have a date with a guy tonight. He's somewhat shy. I am a fairly outgoing person. I'm actualy the one who asked him to go on a date with me. I want to kiss him, but would it be alright for me to make the first move? Would that be too forward of me? Should I just wait for him to make a move on me?

first of all send hints to him like try to hold hands and then lean in closer and if he doesn't catch the drift you will just have to be usertive(not sure if it is spelt right) and take action and just go ahead and kiss him..................

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me and this one guy were like such good friends ;) now hes changed and now he always ignores me its so wrong

first of all never let a guy ignore you you need to confront him about your feelings and tell him that if hes going to ignore you that you and him just can't be friends any more

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This is advice for you! don't be such a slut, and get a life

who ever this is don't be such an a$$

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I'm gay and just had anel sex with a gay. but i later found out it was a girl and i kinda like it. wat should i tell my boyfriend... i'm 64 and a male

uh for one thing you are to old to be doing that kind of thing so thats all i have to say............

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this is a stupid question but i'll ask it anyway. What should you tell a guy if he ask you if you're a virgin? Evereyone is telling me different. some of my male friends tell me that you should defenetly tell them that your a virgin because all guys like the girls to be like pure and clean and stuff (i dont know, thats what they tell me) and that if your a virgin they will like you more because it will be like a big deal for them..you know, to get a virgin to lose her virginity is big, it will make them proud of them selves or something. And some of my friends tell me that they always go for girls that lost their virginity already because that would make them more experienced and stuff.And it will make the sex better.. And that it wont be as gross as having sex with a virgin..I dont know im soo confused! I dont want the guy to think that im a slut! but should i tell him that ive already done it so he likes me more? please don tell me to tell him the truth! tell me the truth, what do most guys like? Thank you! (K)

well you should tell them the truth.............

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I hae to close friends that are pregnant. Unfortunantly one was raped and the other one was by her boyfriend. They are both considering abortion. Why is it that people think it is all right for my friend who was raped to get an abotion and the other one isn't. Both are still killing and innocent child...Please help me understand the difference!!

well this is what i think if you got raped would you want to have a child that might come out looking like your rapiest i mean i wouldn't but i also think its wrong killing the baby so i think that your friend should have it and then put it up for adoption.................

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how do i get a guy to like me enough to ask me out on a date...what kinds of things should i do or say...i'll rate really high to anyone who gives a good answer.

first flirt with him alot show that you might have feeling for him get one of your friends to actidently mention that you might like them then when the guy knows that you might like them then they'll go for you just got to give them hints guys are slow when it comes to that kind of thing......

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ok I JUST broke up with my boyfriend..... like not long ago at all and my excuse was i need 2 be single 4 a while..... but i wanna be with someone else.... so do i go ahead with the other guy? or do i wait it out until enough time has passed so my ex won't get mad......

~Manda Panda

well this is wat i would do wait for about a week and if you feel that your feeling are coming back try to get him back but if they don't go for the new guy

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what do you do when one of your best friends always make you feel like your not good enough for her? its really hard to deal with and i don't want to lose a friend..please help!

ok if she doesn't make you feel good enough then shes not worth being friends with her but if you really want to stay friends with her i would sit her down and tell her if shes not going to treat you like a friend should that she just going to have to lose you as her friend........

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Brittany,
I feel like one of my friends now dislikes me. We used to be good friends last semester, but now we have no classes together and only pass each other in the halls, and I just don't feel the same connection like I used to. We don't talk much anymore, so I was just wondering if I should feel the sense of loss I do or if I should forget about it and move on. What do you suggest?
-Anonymous

well i feel you should try to recconect with that person if you still want to be friends ask he/she if she wants to hang out try to become friends again if you don't want to be friends with he/she just move on......................

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