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How do i get over him?5 years almost
Ive been with the same guy for what soon will be 5 years, and i love him with all my heart, he is my first love and i think im his first love too, ive given my all to him, but sometimes i feel he takes me for granted..theirs points were i cant stop crying, cuz its so hard, but truly hes the only one i have, im so in love and so scared to let go yet being with him is driving me crazy and i just dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!! i feel stuck because im so scared of being without him yet it hurts at the same time being with someone who wont commit with me and who will ignore me at times...AHHHH (im 22)
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im so sorry to hear that. =(
it sounds to me that you need to leave this love relationship far far behind. send this man a letter stating that you need a real love in your life and someone who can commit to you. being without him in the end will possibly work out better than being with him. try staying friends and keep in touch.
hope i helped. =S
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How do i get over him,
OK i have been in this problem before so i no how you feel. Just tell him on a note that you don't really think that its working anymore but you just want to be friends and you think it will be much easier to be in a friend relationship with him then a love relationship. Try that
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Tell him you need some time apart, but don't burn your bridges. Let time clear your head some, then consider the relationship. If it is worthwhile, then get back together. If it was a waste of time, be glad you found out.
But more likely than not, it sounds like you should really consider leaving this relationship behind for good.
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girl i am 14 and i know this it does not take a man to run you life you should never have to rely on a man because that just lowers you, you don't have to have him in you life and if hes taking you for granted then he doesn't deserve you anyway....................
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Aw, Sweetie. I've been in the same boat as you... I was with a guy for 3 years, and I thought I really did love him. During those three years he was harming me in ways I didn't even know... controlling and possessive. During the last few months between the two of us, he was choosing his druggie friends over me(though I don't think he was using drugs). He was not at all concerned about my depression and suicide attempt but more worried about his sexual needs.
I cried and cried... and then it was my last straw. I told him he needed to choose between me or his friends. He chose his friends over me. I wont tell you it didn't hurt. I wont tell you that I didn't want him back. But I will tell you it was the best thing I ever did.
By the sounds of it, your boyfriend is not for you. You're crying all the time, he's taking you for granted. If he truely loves you, and you truely love him, I suggest talking about the problems you are having. Try working through them. If he's not interested, or if he doesnt' try, then it seriously would be best for you to leave him. It's difficult to leave someone you've been with for so long. You're used to it, it's the norm now... you wouldn't really know how to get back into the dating scene, or how to be single again. There is so many things that could easily scare someone into staying with someone who's not good for them.
But you just have to grit your teeth and do it. After I broke up with my ex, I was a little distraught for perhaps a month. I slowly got over him, started to take better care of myself. And then 6 months later I met another guy, who is now my husband. Please remember that you need to do what you need to do to take care of YOU. Everything happens for a reason, you might not see the reasons, but one day you'll look back and be thankful you made the choice you did.
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