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im 17 and recently my bf and i went to have sex
and he couldn't get his penis in weve tried a couple of times but nothing happens could i be too tight for his penis its big not real big
what can we do?

Hmm...well first off are you using a condom? That helps it glide in better. If it still doesn't work use a lube or some vaseline. If you're a virgin it's gonna be hard to get it in the first few times because the opening isn't very big. Hope this helps!

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k, i have ALOT of questions about shaving - 1) which way do you shave? (up towards bellybutton, down, side to side?) 2) what shaving cream/gel do you use? 3) does it hurt/bleed alot when you cut yourself (and how likely is it that you will cut yourself)? 4) how often should i do it? 5) do guys really like it better? THANK YOU SOOOOOOOO MUCH! :) :) :)

Well i'll assume you're talking about shaving "down there" and not just your legs.
1) You shave WITH the hair growth
2) I use something w/ Aloe and Skin Conditioners to make it smooth
3) If you're careful you shouldn't cut yourself but if you do, it doesn't bleed for long and it only hurts as much as cutting yourself on your leg.
4) As often as you'd like
5) Oh yes...guys like it MUCH more

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I luve my boyfriend Jason and I know he is the one for me we have been together for 1 year and 2 months and we have been talking about having sex but my parents are very strict and I can't talk to them about it so I need some help pleaze help luve ya!

Any questions you have at all, feel free to ask me!

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I'm searching for a good birth control method to use. I have taken Ortho Tri-Cyclen, and Depro Vera before, and would not be incredubly unwilling to try them again. The problem is that I have a very hard time remembering the pill each day, and I have heard bad things about the shot. Such as: weight gain, increase in discharge... and I find it hard to believe that it is healthy to go through your life without having your period.

I know that this should be a question for my gynocologist, but I could not get an appointment for another month or so. I was wondering if anyone could give me some pointers on a good method of birth control. Perhaps some good and bad experiences you have had?
Of course, older columnists prefered.

When I was 15 i went on the pill and, like you, i couldn't remember to take it each day. It was such a hassle. When i turned 16 i decided to go on Depo-Porvera and i've been on it for the past 3 years.

I personaly love it and find no disadvantages at all. I had gained about 1O lbs since then (in 3 years) but by dieting and excercising i lost about 7 pounds. I haven't had an increase in discharge either. I really haven't had a bad experience w/ it.

I also have faith that it's completely healthy. I mean...if not...why would so many people use it? Like, nothing pills up in there because you just don't ovulate. It's just kind of like you're body is on PAUSE and then once you get off of it it'll get back into motion.

I always recommend depo-provera to anyone who asks because it's a really good method of birth control and what's better than not getting your period?

Hope i helped and if you have any more questions feel free to ask!

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do you think mixing races in sex is wrong for instances a white girl having sex with a black guy

Personaly i DON'T think it's wrong.

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i dont see my b/f very often so its like every time at home at school any where im always thinkin about s*x i have this very intense s*x dreams as well as fantasies its like i want have s*x every day im a freak not a h*e i had only 2 s*x partners my first and my b/f i have now its like my first turn me out is it normal 2 feel this way i'm 16 female and he's 16 both juniors in high school

So you've got a high sex drive...i'd consider myself lucky if i was you! Then you can keep up w/ your boyfriend! You're not a freak either...alot of girls are obsessed w/ sex but society in general thinks it's just guys who always think about sex. There's totaly nothing wrong w/ it at all! To prove that you're normal, just watch an episode of Sex in the City! Hope i helped and thanks for the question!

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Okay, im thirteen and i have a boyfriend who is the greatest thing in my life right now, hes so suportive towards me..and i really would like to spend the rest of my life with him and i know alot of people are gunna tell me that im 13 and alot of things are gunna go on in my life that might change and i dont even know what love is, but trust me i do i know exactly what it is thanks too him, but anyways...we both wanna go further..cause we both have the same feelings for eachother, and i wanna go further but i dont know how far..i mean we have made out alot...and like fingered..whats next? help me and ill rate you

Alright; i know you don't wanna hear it but you ARE too young. Trust me, I KNOW.

First off i'm super happy that you've found someone who shares the same feelings as you and that you guys really care for each other.

It's 1OO% true that you're gonna go through things in the next few years that will really change everything about you. I have changed dramaticaly from the age of 13 and the decisions i made then seem so stupid now (and i was quite a mature 13 year old).

Just because you guys have really deep feelings for each other doesn't mean you have to express it w/ sexual activities. Why can't you just enjoy being w/ each other and enjoy being young? You definitly don't want to rush into having sex and dealing w/ all the complications and stress that it can bring.

IF you DO want to go furthur sexually, i really want you to consider educating you on everything involved. Check up on some really good websites that will inform you and answer your questions or ask someone (i'm willing to answer any questions you have). If you already think you know enough, don't jump right into sex. Experiment w/ other stuff and leave sex alone for awhile to make it more special.

Hope i helped and much

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Okay, this is a weird question, I'm sure...but I figure I may as well see what y'all say.
Okay...my boyfriend kind of has a thing for "dirty talk" and I think it's totally ridiculous. I start laughing whenever he says something and expects me to respond. I think it bothers him that I keep giggling, but I can't help it! To me, it just seems so totally fake and stupid...
I mean, I've tried playing along, but I just feel so awkward and stupid, saying things like...that...
Should I try to do something about my giggling problem (lol)? Should I tell him I just can't do it? What do you guys think?

I'm just the same way...not that my boyfriend talks dirty...but i just find it's incredibly stupid and lame. Don't do anything that makes you uncormfortable or you won't enjoy yourself. If he loves you he'll understand why you don't want to do something so dumb.

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Hi,
Maybe u guys might think i am stupid or ignorant but right now i am really worried.
I never have had sex, but did indulge into foreplay with my bf.
Yesterday though, my bf rubbed his penis on the surface of my vagina (till he could ejaculate)but he didnt ejaculate near my vagina, could this cause me to be pregnant?
Need some advice....

In my opinion: no.
But i could be wrong. It all has to do if he pre-came and if pre-cum holds sperm. There are so many different logics that people have and it's really confusing. But personaly i don't think that you could be pregnant if he didn't ENTER your vagina and he didn't ejaculate NEAR your vagina, you should be all set. And thanks to a little thing called ovulation, you have even less chance of being pregnant because you only ovulate a few days a month.

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okay well i've always told myself that i'm going to wait until marriage before i have sex... but now that i'm older and in highschool i've faced reality. and i'm not gonna kid myself. if i'm ready to have sex, i'm going to. of course i'm gonna wait for the guy i love, but still. everyone always says "wait til marriage" but in reality WHO REALLY DOES? and even if i have sex with a guy and we break up and regret it, that doesnt mean i'm gonna be depressed for the rest of my life would it? so whats the big deal? who agrees.

I totaly agree w/ you. I never told myself i was going to wait till marriage...but i did tell myself I was going to wait till LOVE. I lost my virginity when i was 16 to my boyfriend and almost 2.5 years later...we're still together and as happy as ever. Even if we would have broken up shortly after having sex...i would have been heartbroken but i wouldn't have regretted it one bit.

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ok like all my friends ave done something wit a guy like sexual n i really havent lke sometimes i really want to do something more wit a guy but my longest relationship was like a month so i ddint do anyuhting like i odnt like this kid too much but hes really sexually active and i wanna like do something wit him but i dunno how to do anhting and i dont wanna embarress myself im only 15 but time is running out and im still here wihtout sex lol

First off...it's okay to not have done anything sexual w/ a guy at 15. Time isn't running out...you've still got years and years ahead of you for stuff like that. I personaly only started being sexualy active when i was 16...and i think that was early. Altho at the time i thought i was such a loser but now i see that it was just normal.

If you don't really like the guy, why would you do stuff w/ him? Sorry but that's dumb. You'll be labeled a slut. Save yourself for someone you really love...you'll be happy you did.

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I'm really attracted to my friend. Hes 17 years old and is a total hottie. I really would love to spend the rest of my life with him. He gives me chills down my spine to see him happy and when hes sad it kills me ... literaly. The only thing is, that is stopping me from being with him, is my religion. In my religion it is against my code to have sex with another male. What do you think i should do? I really want to be with him and have sex with him but when i do i feel bad... help please. im an 18 year old male. Weve known each other for 5 years now. please help.

Hmm this is tough. It all depends on weither you want to choose religion or happiness. Personaly, i`m not a religious person so i`d go w/ happiness but it all depends on where you stand.

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Ive been goin out wit muh b/f for almost 2 weeks now but we knew eachother like 3 weeks before that and we were kinda close before he asked me out. Well a couple nights ago muh friend talked to him on the phone and they got on the subject of sex n all that. Now I am 15 goin on 16 in 3 months and hes 17(senior) goin on 18 at the end of sept.Well they were talkin and now hes really into wantin to do shit. Before we juss chilled n all we did was makeout and still do.I mean hes not pushin me to do anything I dont wanna but I did tell him I would have sex wit him but not now ya know?! But yeah I wanna but I dont know if Im ready or not. I like him alot and I can see my self bein wit him for sometime now. I have talked to some of my friends that arent virgins and about like when its ur first time n all that. Im juss scared about like the consequences and of it hurtin or somethin??.. Can someone PLEASEEE gimmie advice worth taking..Thankyou:)

DOn't do it. Obviously you're not ready. If you say : "But yeah I wanna but I dont know if Im ready or not." or "Im juss scared about like the consequences and of it hurtin or somethin?" you're NOT READY!

You haven't known this guy long enough either. I mean, you should at least get to know him more before you do something this serious.

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If a guy wanted to go down on me should I let him? I mean girls say it feels good n everything but I dunno. I mean I know im clean down there but DOWN THERE isnt the best lookin and juss yeah down there. I mean u cum and what if it starts to smell or somethin or I dunno.. Juss thinkin bout a guy doin that..Doesnt it taste BADD I mean why would a guy wanna..??

Most guys actualy love going down on a girl...even tho it's not that pritty and might not taste the greatest. If your guy wants to do it...let him go right ahead cause it rocks!

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