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Can white oderless stains on my panties be a sign of pregancy?
No. That's almost definitely discharge, which is normal. However, just because this is unrelated to pregnancy doesn't mean you're necessarily pregnant or not pregnant. The only way to know for sure is a pregnancy test; all other "signs" could be attributed to something else (late periods could be stress, morning sickness could be food poisoning, etc.)
Here is something I made with more information about pregnancy if you want to know more:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=574106
I'm really sorry to hear about your what happened to you; my good friend was raped in the process of trying to break up, and it's a horrible thing (well all rape is horrible). If you have any more questions feel free to ask me. I hope things work out for you.
My boyfriend and I were having sex last night and he kind went too hard and accidentally went a little bit in my rear and now it's bleeding a little bit and hurts quite a bit. Is this normal?
Thanks for the help!
If you have anal sex and there isn't enough lubricant or you haven't properly stretched it out (starting with a finger and moving up), then you could tear the walls of your anus and that would be the reason for the bleeding.
I'm ___ age and I'm thinking about having sex for the first time with my (boyfriend, girlfriend, random person I just met). I think I'm ready but I'm not sure. What should I do?
I'm gonna play devil's advocate and say that sex is as big a deal as you make it. It can either be not a big deal or it could be the hugest deal. The important thing is to remember that whatever you do, it's the right decision for you.
There's no such thing as too young (within reason, you probably shouldn't have sex before puberty), and I disagree with people that say things like "losing your virginity is the most important decision in the world and if you wonder if you're ready or not, you're not ready". That's sorta a bad attitude in my opinion, because it makes sex into something negative, and it antagonizes you for not being completely sure.
People will almost never be COMPLETELY sure about anything, the important thing is to do whatever feels right for you.
18/f
i really need advice/support/someone to talk to..
i really feel like my life is getting out of control. i hate who i've become. i used to be this really nice shy girl who cares about everybody's feelings and i was just overall a nice person. a lot of people liked me because i was so nice. but now i just feel like i'm losing control of my life. i'm not influence with drugs or alcohol. (i'm not that stupid) but i feel like lately i've been so unfair and un-loyal to people. i've lost about 20 people in my life. they walked out of my life because they said i was too much drama and they couldn't handle me in their lives and they were better off without me there.
the first few times people left me were hard.. i didnt know what i did wrong and i was devastated. but then after about 10-15 people left i got used to it and realized they were being stupid. but then something major happened this past week.. my ex boyfriend wanted to get back with me (while i was still with my current bf) and a huge drama fest broke out. they fought over me and made me pick in between them. for a few days i kept switching my mind and i know that was a bad mistake. finally today i made my decision to stick with my current bf. my ex was devastated and started to tell me that karma will kick my ass one day and that i'm a hurtful person. he said i dragged his heart and ran over it with a tank. that made me cry and i realized that its not just a coincidence.. so many people have walked out on my life and i realize its all because of me and how i treated them. my boyfriends friends hate me because they heard how unfair i was treating my bf (by comparing him to my ex and not deciding who i wanted). my bff told me that i was a horrible person because i treat people badly and dont think about how others feel. and just so many other things happened in my life that makes me realize how horrible i am.. like for example- i lost a good girl friend because i thought she was just using me and didnt really care about me. another time i lost a guy friend because i told him i really cared about him but he wanted more and it just fell apart because we wanted different things.
my parents tell me i'm such a good kid but i honestly dont see how they and other friends can look at me and think i'm a great person... i admit it- i treat people like crap. i'm unfair towards people and say things i dont really mean. i've been crying for the past 2 hours because i feel like i'm literally losing control of my life. i wish i could just start everything over and forget about all of my mistakes.
i just really need advice on what to do. i've tried talking to close people about how i feel but they keep getting mad at me because i "dont realize how important i am" but i honestly dont think i'm that important. i feel like if i was gone tomorrow, nothing would change in life. yeah my parents would be sad (which is why i promised myself i wouldn't commit suicide) but i feel like all of my other friends wouldnt even notice me gone.. they would probably be happy to have me gone because i cause so much drama. but the thing is.. i dont purposely try to cause drama... it just happens...
another thing- sometimes i realize that i cause drama, and i back off. i try to fix it by backing off and just letting things happen naturally. but everytime i do that i get b*tched at by other people because i'm not "giving effort in life". its like- if i try in life, everything just gets worse. but if i dont try- people think i'm lazy and dont care.
i really dont know what to do anymore.. i'm losing control of my life and i'm hurting people that mean so much to me (unintentionally). how do i get back on track and just start over? or make myself feel better? just please... any type of advice? i know this is probably very long and you might feel annoyed and not want to answer.. but even if its just a small answer, i will be grateful for anyone who is listening right now.. i'm just so upset with my life and i want to change but everytime i try to change, it just gets worse. please help :(
First of all, it seems like from this question, you chose guy B, which is what I would have suggested you do, because it seems like he's more emotionally stable and able to be there for you, which, guy A, seems like he can't do. It seems like guy A would always be bringing you down into his issues, and you don't need a relationship with someone who will be bringing you down, you need a relationship with someone who will bring you up and support you.
Now, onto this question. First, some advice, a lot of people on here don't like reading long questions and just skip over them, so in order to get a wide variety of answers, it helps to shorten your question. Sometimes, it seems like your life is spinning out of control. It happens to all of us. One bad thing happens, then another bad thing happens, then another, and soon, it seems like everything in your life is messed up beyond repair. The important thing is to take a step back and look at each problem individually. If you look at all the problems surrounding you at once, it seems too much to handle. But if you take them one at a time, they become much more manageable.
The most important thing is positivity. I've found that if you're surrounded by negative people, your mind is full of negative thoughts, and you're constantly making stressful decisions, you'll just end up giving yourself an ulcer. However, if you think positively, surround yourself with optimistic people, and open up to the possibilities around you, good things will happen.
You will get through this, just be your best self.
I have 4 questions all to do with the same stuff... please answer whichever one/ones you know about. Thanks! And this may be a bit weird and blunt but oh well... stop reading if you dont know.
I'm 23 female and I'm new to anal sex. I really want to do it and my boyfriend is slowly easing me into it so it doesnt hurt. (like with his finger) and when he does that it feels great. It makes the orgasm much more intense and I love it... however I can only handle it so much before it starts to feel like the kinda pressure you get when your gonna poop or fart... and there isnt anything pleasurable about that to me.. I have to make him stop and I HATE doing that. Is that just a normal part of anal sex that I'm gonna have to get used to or is there a way to make it stop? I'm afraid taking his dick will be too much when we get to that point.
Next Question: When he is licking down there... OMG I love it... but I always feel like I'm going to fart. In fact this happens sometimes during sex but mostly just with anal stuff. How can I make sure I dont? Is there a way to get rid of that pressure?
Next question: I heard from someone who doesnt like anal that she doesnt like it because sometimes you have a bowel sitting in your butt that you can touch if you reach in there far enough... How the heck do you avoid this???
Last Question: My butt smells like... well butt. I open my butthole and it smells like butt... I imagine everyone is like this but then why does everyone do anal stuff if it stinks? How can I make sure my butt smells good? Is there a slumber parties thing or something I can buy at an adult store to rub on myself so that it smells good? I know these are weird questions and kinda gross and I'm embarrassed but I really need advice and I'd rather not ask my gynecologist or anyone else I know...
Please no rude comments... just advice. Thank you.
I haven't been on here for a while and so I sorta forget the rules about answering these questions, so I hope this isn't a violation.
Almost all of those problems can be dealt with by going to the bathroom right before anal sex. I know that sounds counter productive, but if you have just gone to the bathroom, then your bowels are empty, and if you have proper hygiene and wipe yourself, then there shouldn't be an odor.
So every guy that I have sex with can hump me for seriously long periods of time without stopping when they are on top. When I am on top I get exhausted so fast. And I was talking to some other girlfriends who say they are the same way. Is it just about being in shape? Maybe practice more? Is it a guy thing to be able to go that long? What can I do to make sure I can go as long as my guy?
The missionary position and "doggy style" are evolutionarily programmed into us; those are the positions that our caveman ancestors used.
Also, when a guy is on top, gravity is bringing him down, and he only has to move his hips, making it much easier than for a girl who is on top, who has to support her whole body on her legs and use her thighs to lift herself up and down.
What Are Some Diffrent Ways To Masturbate??
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This is not something that we are allowed to answer.
There are plenty of other websites that can help you with this.
Well am a female n i just had sex with my bf a day after i got my period. He cumed inside of me twice but i had my period. Can i still be pregnant or can i get pregnant during my period?? Please help me am very worried now and idk what to think. Thanks you
It's highly unlikely to get pregnant during your period, but it's still possible. There is a chance, so you should probably get a pregnancy test.
For the future:
For people who ask questions if they're pregnant:
We do not know every detail about your circumstance, nor are most of us doctors, so we cannot tell for certain whether or not you are pregnant. Pregnancy tests can be very accurate, and when in complete doubt, going to a REAL doctor can be even more accurate.
That being said, here are some facts about pregnancy:
-Even if every single factor was in place for you to get pregnant, there is still at MOST an 80% chance of pregnancy, without any birth control or condoms.
-Just putting on a condom does not guarantee that you won't get pregnant-there's a 98% success rate for condoms if they are ALWAYS USED EXACTLY CORRECTLY, but for the average person, the success rate drops to 85%.
-The pill is a very effective form of birth control. There are two forms of the pill, combination pills and mini-pills. The perfect use success rate (you take it exactly as you should without missing any) for the combination pill is more than 99% and for the mini-pill is 97%. The average person has a success rate of about 95%.
-The pill is a great method of birth control for people in committed relationships, because it is much more effective than condoms, and less expensive and more convenient. However, if you are not in a committed relationship, you should be using condoms, because the pill does NOT prevent STD's.
-"pre-cum can get you pregnant, it has sperms". This is a common misconception, that cowper's gland secretions, A.K.A. "pre-cum", contain sperm. However, pre-cum only contains sperm that is left over from previous ejaculations; if you urinate between ejaculations, there will be no sperm in your pre-cum.
The important thing to keep in mind is that every time you have sex, there is SOME risk of pregnancy, even if it is infinitesimally small. Remember the wise words of Dr. Cox, “Statistics mean nothing to the individual.”
18/f - 19/m
The other night my boyfriend and I were having sex. The condom broke, but luckily he hadn't came yet. I know there's the whole pre-ejaculation thing, so what I'm asking is can I still get pregnant off of that? I've been told a whole aray of different things. Some being that yes I can, and some being that no I can't. I just need a straight answer. At the time I was just getting off my period (that just so happened to be two weeks early, so someone told me that I was just ovulating). It'd be really great to get an answer. Thank you.
Relax, the only time you can get pregnant from pre-ejaculation fluid is if there are left-over sperm from previous ejaculation. If he urinated between ejaculations, there would be no sperm left over and therefore no sperm in the pre-ejaculation.
I'm on birth control and have been for about 2 years. Recently within the last 6 months,I havent had sex and I've been taking the pill almost daily but not always at the same time,sometimes skipping a day etc. but recently I had sex for the first time in 6th months the other day.We did it once with a condom and once without and when we did it without,he pulled out and i saw the sperm on a towel but it might not have been ALL of it.The next day after I had sex,I got cramps as though I was getting my period and had like brownish blood etc..but not alot at all. Today ,there was actually blood clots (gross i know! sorry!) but it was still sort of brown. I'm in the middle of my cycle of birth control so this is weird to happen. On top of that,at the end of lasts months cycle ,instead of getting my period for a week ..i just started a new pack to avoid my period . I'm very confused as to what's happening! help!
If you skip one pill a month, you are ok, but two or more and you could still be vulnerable to pregnancy. It's generally a bad idea to mess up the order of your pack, because that screws with your natural biological cycle.
Can you get pregnant during the second day of your period? Well me and my bf had sex the second day of my period n he came inside of me twice. Can i be pregnant? P.s. I get ma period 3-4 days n dont have it for 28 days. Help me pleasee can i be pregnant??
Odds are, you are not, since it is much less likely for you to become pregnant on your period. However, there is certainly no guarantee, and so you should probably take plan B (if it was within 72 hours ago), or just take a pregnancy test in the future. For the future, however:
For people who ask questions if they're pregnant:
We do not know every detail about your circumstance, nor are most of us doctors, so we cannot tell for certain whether or not you are pregnant. Pregnancy tests can be very accurate, and when in complete doubt, going to a REAL doctor can be even more accurate.
That being said, here are some facts about pregnancy:
-Even if every single factor was in place for you to get pregnant, there is still at MOST an 80% chance of pregnancy, without any birth control or condoms.
-Just putting on a condom does not guarantee that you won't get pregnant-there's a 98% success rate for condoms if they are ALWAYS USED EXACTLY CORRECTLY, but for the average person, the success rate drops to 85%.
-The pill is a very effective form of birth control. There are two forms of the pill, combination pills and mini-pills. The perfect use success rate (you take it exactly as you should without missing any) for the combination pill is more than 99% and for the mini-pill is 97%. The average person has a success rate of about 95%.
-The pill is a great method of birth control for people in committed relationships, because it is much more effective than condoms, and less expensive and more convenient. However, if you are not in a committed relationship, you should be using condoms, because the pill does NOT prevent STD's.
-"pre-cum can get you pregnant, it has sperms". This is a common misconception, that cowper's gland secretions, A.K.A. "pre-cum", contain sperm. However, pre-cum only contains sperm that is left over from previous ejaculations; if you urinate between ejaculations, there will be no sperm in your pre-cum.
The important thing to keep in mind is that every time you have sex, there is SOME risk of pregnancy, even if it is infinitesimally small. Remember the wise words of Dr. Cox, “Statistics mean nothing to the individual.”
so two nights ago, i had sex. i actually had my period but i noticed it was kind of gone so i just had sex anyway. the condom didnt break cause like he held it up after and nothing came out..but for some reason im just really nervous. well anyways, i got my period last wednesday. usually my period lasts about a week..well okay so i got my period back the morning after i had sex. but today, its just brown discharge..that doesnt mean im pregnant right? im hoping maybe its just because its the light days of my period since i got it on wednesday..but i dont know.
please help
That is normal, your period could be light, and if you had your period, that means you're NOT pregnant.
Ok, so Im 19/f on the pill. But in the past month Ive missed a few just cause I get so distracted here at school (im in college). Me and my boyfriend have sex regularly and we dont use condoms ( I dont need the condom lecture, please). A couple weeks ago, we had sex and he thinks he came in me just a little. So that makes me nervous because I did miss a couple pills. Now, Ive been feeling kind of nauseous for the past week. And I feel really like grose and bloated, Ive also been moody. (Plus Im constipated, I know.... its grose) I know these are all symptoms of early pregnancy, but its not like Im making myself feel that way. I just happened to look up early symptoms for a paper I was writing and freaked out when I realized that all of them were applying to me. Do you think Im pregnant? Or what are the chances? My next period is a week and a half away. Any opinions would be helpful, thanks.
or people who ask questions if they're pregnant:
We do not know every detail about your circumstance, nor are most of us doctors, so we cannot tell for certain whether or not you are pregnant. Pregnancy tests can be very accurate, and when in complete doubt, going to a REAL doctor can be even more accurate.
That being said, here are some facts about pregnancy:
-Even if every single factor was in place for you to get pregnant, there is still at MOST an 80% chance of pregnancy, without any birth control or condoms.
-Just putting on a condom does not guarantee that you won't get pregnant-there's a 98% success rate for condoms if they are ALWAYS USED EXACTLY CORRECTLY, but for the average person, the success rate drops to 85%.
-The pill is a very effective form of birth control. There are two forms of the pill, combination pills and mini-pills. The perfect use success rate (you take it exactly as you should without missing any) for the combination pill is more than 99% and for the mini-pill is 97%. The average person has a success rate of about 95%.
-The pill is a great method of birth control for people in committed relationships, because it is much more effective than condoms, and less expensive and more convenient. However, if you are not in a committed relationship, you should be using condoms, because the pill does NOT prevent STD's.
-"pre-cum can get you pregnant, it has sperms". This is a common misconception, that cowper's gland secretions, A.K.A. "pre-cum", contain sperm. However, pre-cum only contains sperm that is left over from previous ejaculations; if you urinate between ejaculations, there will be no sperm in your pre-cum.
The important thing to keep in mind is that every time you have sex, there is SOME risk of pregnancy, even if it is infinitesimally small. Remember the wise words of Dr. Cox, “Statistics mean nothing to the individual.”
Okay well im 14 going to be 15 in like 3 months. Me and my boyfriend make 6 months on the 4th of December so tomorrow. We have been talking about sex for that past few weeks now and I think im ready, but I still have this little voice in my head telling me im not. I know I really love him though and I know he won't do anything I wouldn't want to because he always caring of me. I really know I want him to be my first though, but the thing thats getting me is that im to young I think that's the only thing holding me back. What is your opinion on this and does it hurt your first time I really want to know pretty much everything please?
I'm gonna play devil's advocate and say that sex is as big a deal as you make it. It can either be not a big deal or it could be the hugest deal. The important thing is to remember that whatever you do, it's the right decision for you. 14 isn't too young, and I disagree with people that say things like "losing your virginity is the most important decision in the world and if you wonder if you're ready or not, you're not ready". That's sorta a bad attitude in my opinion, because it makes sex into something negative, and it antagonizes you for not being completely sure. People will almost never be COMPLETELY sure about anything, the important thing is to do whatever feels right for you.
hey,
so there's this kid who's been trying to get me to hook up with him for almost three years. i always turned him down because he's told me that he likes me and has wanted to ask me out, but he said that he'll settle for just hooking up. i always thought it would be wrong to hook up with him because i don't like him and i don't want him to think we can become something more.
lately, i've been down and having problems at home and with friends and he's been nice to help me get by. i still don't like him but he insists on us hooking up and i feel bad saying no because he's helped me through kind of a lot. any advice? i don't want to hurt him.
thank you :)
Hooking up isn't a big deal, but it sounds like he wants more than just hooking up. Also, keep in mind that you don't owe him anything. If you don't want to hook up with him, you don't have to, regardless of whether he's been nice to you or not. Whether or not you hook up with someone is YOUR choice, and your choice alone.
That being said, it is important to keep his feelings in mind if you do decide to hook up with him. I don't know everything about the situation, but judging on what you told me, it sounds like he wants more than just a hook up. Maybe he thinks that if you hook up with him, it could lead to something more. It might be wrong to hook up with him if you don't have those feelings for him, because it could lead him on and he could end up getting hurt.
It's all your decision, but these are things to keep in mind.
So I've been having sex with my boyfriend and everything is fine. We have done missionary or just me on top, and there have been no issues.
But if we try a position from where he is coming from behind, it's extremely painful! I feel like he's pushing into the front of my belly [like a painful cramp]. No matter if we go slow, fast, nothing changes. It just hurts.
Any idea why???
From behind allows deeper penetration, it's possible that he's too big for you, and so he would be hitting your cervix. Maybe have him not go all the way in?
im sorry i hate to even ask this but hopefully someone else did the same dumb thing as me. So i had anal sex the other day not the first time but maybe the third and my ass is so swollen and red i dont know what to do does anyone know? I can barley move let alone walk around someone help please
Your butt doesn't make any natural lubrication like a vagina does, so you need to use lube. If you don't use enough lube, it will irritate your butt, which is what most likely happened.
To relieve the irritation, try using some cream for diaper rash, and make sure to use enough lube next time.
so me and my boyfriend had sex on wednesday the 18th protected. then like an hour later, he put it in for like 10 seconds unprotected and pulled out really fast and said "i could feel it start to come out but i know it didnt" and i could tell it didnt too. i was supposed to start yesterday (the 20th) but didnt, which is fine cause my schedule isnt completely set and is always a few days early or late. but i was wondering, since we had sex only 2 days before my period was supposed to start and we both know he didnt cum inside me, is there anyway i could be pregnant? please dont be mean to me abouot this, i really am nervous already. thank you:)
ps, im 16/f.
For people who ask questions if they're pregnant:
We do not know every detail about your circumstance, nor are most of us doctors, so we cannot tell for certain whether or not you are pregnant. Pregnancy tests can be very accurate, and when in complete doubt, going to a REAL doctor can be even more accurate.
That being said, here are some facts about pregnancy:
-Even if every single factor was in place for you to get pregnant, there is still at MOST an 80% chance of pregnancy, without any birth control or condoms.
-Just putting on a condom does not guarantee that you won't get pregnant-there's a 98% success rate for condoms if they are ALWAYS USED EXACTLY CORRECTLY, but for the average person, the success rate drops to 85%.
-The pill is a very effective form of birth control. There are two forms of the pill, combination pills and mini-pills. The perfect use success rate (you take it exactly as you should without missing any) for the combination pill is more than 99% and for the mini-pill is 97%. The average person has a success rate of about 95%.
-The pill is a great method of birth control for people in committed relationships, because it is much more effective than condoms, and less expensive and more convenient. However, if you are not in a committed relationship, you should be using condoms, because the pill does NOT prevent STD's.
-"pre-cum can get you pregnant, it has sperms". This is a common misconception, that cowper's gland secretions, A.K.A. "pre-cum", contain sperm. However, pre-cum only contains sperm that is left over from previous ejaculations; if you urinate between ejaculations, there will be no sperm in your pre-cum.
The important thing to keep in mind is that every time you have sex, there is SOME risk of pregnancy, even if it is infinitesimally small. Remember the wise words of Dr. Cox, “Statistics mean nothing to the individual.”
My husband and I are ready to have a baby.I started my cycle on nov. 4th. We had unprotected sex the day after my period stopped,and a few other times since then. I have done alot of research with ovulation calendars and they said that this is my best week to get pregnant. ( Im most fertile) My cycle is every 30 days.. The ovulation calendar said that I should be ovulating today, november 20. We had unprotected sex on the 9th,13th17th and 19th of this month.. What are my chances of being pregnant?
Depending on how old you are, you have a good chance of getting pregnant, about 80% on average. Good luck!
Am I Pregnant???????????
For people who ask questions if they're pregnant:
We do not know every detail about your circumstance, nor are most of us doctors, so we cannot tell for certain whether or not you are pregnant. Pregnancy tests can be very accurate, and when in complete doubt, going to a REAL doctor can be even more accurate.
That being said, here are some facts about pregnancy:
-Even if every single factor was in place for you to get pregnant, there is still at MOST an 80% chance of pregnancy, without any birth control or condoms.
-Just putting on a condom does not guarantee that you won't get pregnant-there's a 98% success rate for condoms if they are ALWAYS USED EXACTLY CORRECTLY, but for the average person, the success rate drops to 85%.
-The pill is a very effective form of birth control. There are two forms of the pill, combination pills and mini-pills. The perfect use success rate (you take it exactly as you should without missing any) for the combination pill is more than 99% and for the mini-pill is 97%. The average person has a success rate of about 95%.
-The pill is a great method of birth control for people in committed relationships, because it is much more effective than condoms, and less expensive and more convenient. However, if you are not in a committed relationship, you should be using condoms, because the pill does NOT prevent STD's.
-"pre-cum can get you pregnant, it has sperms". This is a common misconception, that cowper's gland secretions, A.K.A. "pre-cum", contain sperm. However, pre-cum only contains sperm that is left over from previous ejaculations; if you urinate between ejaculations, there will be no sperm in your pre-cum.
The important thing to keep in mind is that every time you have sex, there is SOME risk of pregnancy, even if it is infinitesimally small. Remember the wise words of Dr. Cox, “Statistics mean nothing to the individual.”