hey im megan. im 16. i have a wonderful boyfriend i have been dating for about 8 months. i love him to death. i love to give advice. but i need alot of advice as well. alot of subjects interest me mostly relationships, family issues, mental health, sex, so much. i have experienced alot in my life, i have lost so many friends recently but it was for the better. i play volleyball for my high school team. i really dont like my family but i have realized that when something goes wrong your family is always there for you. you really dont know what you got till its gone. i love all kinds of music and i wear any clotheing that is comfortable. i am trying to grow out of my many bad habits. and hope i'll succed in the end. i love writing poetry and i hav written many and only can pick out maybe like 5 that i really love. my main topic is death lol sounds creepy but they are really good. i am emotional and im very sensitive. i have learned to not worry about what people think of me and what i do. i am a very fun person s and a very serious person at the right times. i can not trust anyone except 2 people in my whole life. its very sad but i can deal with it. life has its ups and downs and ive been threw plenty and i have no problem going threw more because thats life.
Ask me anything please
Bbyess :)
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15/f
is it wierd that i like porn? like i know a lot of guys that look at porn, but watching other people turns me on. is that natural? (link)
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this is very normal. i started looking at porn at a younger age than you. it turns a lot of people on. it very normal at your age as well because you have more sexual desires than you did when you were younger. keep watching it if it pleasures you.
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someone told me that you can have sex in different positions. like, standing or something. is that true? i don't believe it! (link)
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lol yes there are many sex positions. go to:
www.sexinfo101.com it has a lot of positions some are very weird.
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When a penis is erect, how long are they usually? (If you don't mind answering,) how long is yours? (link)
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hey sorry
im no guy
but i do know enough about this.
haha weird
but it usually depends on your age
like my boyfriend is 15 and when he has a full erection his is 6 inches
it depends on who you are too
liek not every guy is gonna hav like a 6 inch erection
the normal size is probably from like 5-7
but yeah everyones different
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16/F
When someone has a boyfriend, how long should it be before they begin to "french kiss"? My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a month, maybe a little more. The other night, when he was dropping me off, he began to kiss me. Now, don't get me wrong, I am fine with a quick peck on the lips. But he opened up my mouth! I felt a little uncomfortable, but I let it go... until he started to use his tongue! I told him he was going WAY too fast. Did I do the right thing? (link)
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You did do the right thing. Only do something if you feel comfortable me and my boyfriend didnt do that until like after 4 months but hey thats just us. Do it when you are ready. there is no reason to rush things at all. If you guys really like eachother then why hurry you hav so much time and so many chances to do that. tell him you arent ready and when you are you will.
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do you think that giving a hj as a freshman is slutty? because some of my friends have.. not my close ones but i know that a lot have. and i have a boyfriend that i really love and like i want to but like a lot of my close friends would consider that to be slutty. like i really dont think its that big of a deal. (link)
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Oh in my opinion it's not slutty.
1. hes your boyfriend
2. you can do whatever you want
I was in 7th grade when i starting giving head and handjobs and what not. He was my boyfriend and still is after while. It would only be slutty if you went around giving handjobs to just any guy. It isnt a big deal. High school is rough. And if your friends are really saying that it would be slutty then..
1. they are sluts since they've done it
2. they aren't your friends for saying stuff like that
But I say do it if you please. Have funn.
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me and this boy are about to date. we talk about having sex sometimes. i asked him last night if he uses condoms or not. he says he doesn't like to, i do respect that bC i have had sex with out a condom, but the guy pulls out ((i know all the lectures people so please do not give them to me)) i told him i wouldn't mind him not using one as long as he pulls out he said that was fine. then i said i was on birth control, he then said that there is no reason for him to pull out, i'm on the nuva ring, i've been on it since november, i honestly dont trust birth control, but how much is there a chance of my getting pergnant by being on the nuva ring?
i am 18 female. (link)
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since you are on the nuva ring theres a 99% chance you wont get pregnant. you are very safe. but however i would deffinatly have him get checked for StDs just in case. Might be good if you did too just to see if you are safe. If he has no stds. I say go for it. its so unlikely you will get pregnant 1% chance you will. so good luck
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im a small woman(118lbs) and my boyfriend is a big guy with a big dick and im always afraid to have sex with him because it hurts, even after a few times of doing it. i want to stretch out so i dont have to make him stop everytime we have sex because i know it hurts his feelings but he doesnt like when i masturbate, he finds it insulting that i have to pleasure myself because im not getting it from him. so what are some things that i can do with him that will help me stretch out, i really love him and want sex to be special, not painful. (link)
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Have him finger you a lot. that always strechs it out. have him do it for 15-20 minutes for a few days and then try sex. use lubrication. lubricated condoms. anything helps
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is it possible to make out w/ out french kissing? (link)
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French kissing is making out. French kissing is kissing with the tongue. Making out is kissing as well with the tongue.
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Okay while making out with my boyfriend it was getting intense and he was moving his hands around so i grabbed it and put it on one my by breasts. and he squeezed it and what not.
but then later i tried to give him the hint to actually put it up my shirt. i even took his hand and put it halfway up. but then he just rubbed around my back and took his hands back down.
it just confuses me cuz he's fine with putting his hands in my pants and everything but he doesnt seem to want to go up my shirt. maybe hes nervous. i don't know.any suggestions or comments? thanks. (link)
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I have been there before. I dont know guys are reallly weird. Maybe he just doesnt like breasts. Some guys favor certain parts of girls bodies. Like my boyfriend doesnt really fancy my chest either not for the size or anything but he just would rather touch other things. Who knows maybe he doesnt like your chest at all. Maybe ask him. I would if I were you. Maybe ask him in a comfortable way like for example threw a myspace message, aim, phone, or if its comfortable for you ask him in person. Guys are weird and I am not really 100% sure why he does this but he must have some reason.
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I am 13 and me and my dad are cheating on my mom because me and him are sexaully active together. it started when he came in my room and saw my humping my pillow and he asked if i could try that on him i thought he was kidding until he pulled out his penis which is the sexiest one i have seen in my life i imdediatly climbed on top of him and well did it for several hours.How do i break the news to my mom? (link)
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Well you want me to be honest...I honestly think you should just tell your mom and get some help. Because if you dont this could change your whole future and how you live. If you have children you might be abusive as well. He did rape you and in that case he isnt fit to be a parent. Your mom has every right to know and what you did was really wrong. If you tell your mom she might report it and he will be charged for rape. the situation you are in is badly. I am not trying to be mean im being completely honest and giving you my advice. Please follow my advice. It will deffinatly be hard, but you are now scared for life. You need help or your future will be aweful. I beg you to follow my advice and dont ruin your life. You have so much ahead of you dont ruin it.
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i am female 13, last night me a friend heard about a party. so sneaked out of the house and went to the party. well my friend did not like all the drinking and drugs so she left. i end up staying and guess i got a little to drunk and end up some guys had sex with me. i am not sure if they used protection how can i tell if i am pregnant (link)
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I am not going to judge you because teenagers do stupid things i would know because i do stupid things as well. Considering you are 13 you probably werent supposed to be having sex in the first place ecepically because you snuck out of the house so a pregnancy test might not really work. Just wait till your next period. If its a missed period then you are probably pregnant. If your parents let you have sex then i say ask one of them to bring you to your doctors office and get checked. Or get someone to buy a pregnancy test thingy for you. there are other ways to tell as well but however they might not give you 100% accurate results but here they are: if your breasts start to hurt if your breasts get larger if you are feeling sick in the morning or at night. Ask your friend or if you know who else was there ask if they knew which guy had sex with you. If you know what guys had sex with you ask them if they used a condom. You might not be pregnant but you might be. try some of my advice.
I hope you arent pregnant.
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i've been on the pill for almost a year.. and i got my period when im not supposed to. what does this mean? could it mean im pregnant?? (link)
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You are deffinatly NOt pregnant. You would only be pregnant if you didnt have your period. You can't be pregnant and have your period it physically just isn't possiable.
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What does it mean to lose your virginity?
Does it mean having sexual contact...because if so, then any type of contact would make you lose your virginity, right?
Or does being a virgin technically mean you have done anything but intercourse? I'm not too sure about this one, and I don't think Google would be of much help either. Thanks. (link)
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Yeah you are no longer a virgin if you have had sexual intercourse. You are still a virgin if you do anything but intercourse. But heres some advice, if you do decide to get sexual or have intercourse, make sure you only tell someone you really trust or tell no one. I know from experience. So yupp.
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im 14/f.
i used to get headachs all the time and i couldnt do anything they kept me out for hours. my mom would get so mad when i would ask for advil. i dont kno wyh tho. i hide when i get hurt and i try to handle things on my own becuase she always gets mad. if the hurt was my fault or not. something is worng with me now. not physicl but mental. i dont know how to tell her this and ask for help. i tried once by atempting suicide but my friend stoped me and she blew it off as teenage hormons. now i cut myslef but i cant control it. she doent notice and i dont want to die but when i get in my moods thre's no telling what i will do. how can i show her what i am going threw and ask her to please help me, without her screaming her head off. any hintS? (link)
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Yeah growing up is hard. I know how you feel. I can't say anything to my mom and i recently went for help in school and when she found out she flipped. Im glad your friend stopped you. You are probably depressed well most likely. I advise you not to go to your school counselor because when i did that thay suspended me from school and shit happened. Ive never cut but my closest friends do and/or did. I know from wat they told me you can't contol it you're addicted. If you tell your mom she might cry and maybe get you some help. Or have your friend tell her mother. You clearly want help and need it because like you said you don't wanna die. there are many ways to get help. Have your friend tell her mom and maybe some way her mom could get you help or she could help you or she could tell your mom and take it from there. Growing up is tough and can and will (sometimes) bring you into depression. If you get help for it you might be cured after a while. I just advise you NOt 2 go to your school for help because well i know from experience wat will happen. But it is after all your choice do as you please but i beg you get help before you do something really bad.
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I can’t help but feel as though I’m not headed anywhere good.
I have not one, not two, but three mental disorders, one of which they discovered in me. Lucky, no? The first one, depression, was discovered when I was in seventh grade (I’m in ninth now) and pushed me to attempt suicide several times. I got over that and moved straight on to anxiety, which proceeded to generally be a bitch to me in all areas. Then, my doctor managed to identify the third one, which I’d had for years. That’s the unidentified one, which I like to call “Emotionless Bastard Syndrome”. Basically, my emotions turn off, sometimes when provoked and sometimes for no particular reason. I’ll be somewhere and I’ll just go completely numb.
Over the past few years, I’ve started to feel more and more… Distant. I’ve read very heavy books and graphic novels, and grow more and more disgusted by my own species. I wrote this, which is probably not a good sign:
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Dear Humanity,
What the fuck happened?
I mean this in all seriousness. You were doing so well. Genuinely, I think everyone expected you would turn out great. You certainly had an excellent start…. You discovered the wheel, fire, electricity, and a whole lot of complicated nuclear stuff. I was always able to overlook your shortcomings because of your promising future, but now this shit has gone too far. You’ve pushed your luck, folks.
Where to start? I guess the first thing I should mention is this little consumer ideal thing you’ve got going for you. You just can’t stop buying shit… And not even shit you need, stupid shit. There’s also bullshit, but I’ll get to that later. So anyway, you kicked off with all this capitalism and free enterprise stuff and that seemed like it was working out, better than communism in any event. But then you got your second addiction, and this addiction was to buying. Didn’t matter what, you would buy pretty much anything and everything regardless of whether you needed it or not. Once again, began pretty innocent. You had free enterprise, you could buy or sell whatever shit you needed, and it was good. But Jesus Christ. How many brands of vacuum cleaners need to fucking exist in the first place? Humanity, I sentence you to watch the movie Fight Club about eight hundred times.
Next, how about we talk about ignorance. This is another strong one, particularly amongst the young. Now, for fuck’s sake, you guys are inheriting the future, and this is the kind of mindset you’ve got? There’s other people starving all over the world, there are kids with dads who rape them every night, and the best complaint you have is about the color of your god damn iPod? Also, if there’s a country that represents the human mindset, it’s America. You use up 80% of the world’s resources, ignore the counsel of other countries, invade smaller nations whilst trying to force your system of government upon them, and have the balls to call yourself leader of the fucking free world? Christ, Teddy Roosevelt would be rolling over in his grave.
And while we get to the subject of invasion and wars, I would like to politely ask the lot of you to sit and wait for five fucking minutes before blowing each other up for once. Come the fuck on. It seems like as soon as everybody has their conflicts resolved and they don’t give a shit about their differences, someone gets greedy or stupid or pissed and decides to find another reason to kill people. And before you know it, BAM! War. Another fucking war. Who’d have guessed? Whether it be for revenge or land or money or resources or women or honor or stupidity, it seems vital to you that you kill a whole bunch of each other in order to satisfy you for a short period of time. Come on guys, at least be original.
Moving on, I’d like to point out the royally shitty job you’ve done of taking care of the place you got handed to you. It was classy, too: Millions of other species, vast geological wonders, and natural occurrences that could only be described as miracles, and you had to move in and burn all the forests and kill all the whales and destroy your fucking ozone. An ozone, I have to give you credit for that one. That’s impressive. I mean, it’s one thing to go out and be completely selfish bastards to all the other beings your sharing the planet with, but to destroy something that existed only for your protection in the god damn first place? Humanity, your incredible selfishness and short-sightedness remains unmatched. I can’t imagine. I just can’t imagine.
Now, lets move on to our most pressing matter, which would be bullshit. By this, I would mean the bullshit that you’ve clouded your worlds with. It’s on your news, in your books, filling up your churches… No fucking surprise it’s in your minds. Still not clear what bullshit is? You believing a woman who tells you that the 9/11 widows are all profiting from their husbands deaths, that’s bullshit. A politician who tells you that the rights of a lump of cells outrank those of a crippled man or a grandmother with Alzheimer’s, that’s bullshit. A Texan who tells you that someone else’s happiness detracts from his happiness, that’s bullshit. Every dinner table manner you’ve ever had to learn, every polite lie you’ve ever had to tell, every useless algebra fact they ever drilled into your brain, that’s all prime BS. And a clergy member who tells you that god is amidst all the burning bodies and screaming children? What you have here is real bullshit.
In the bullshit department, religion is the undisputed champion, and always has been. As usual, an innocent start: A bunch of people decide that life sucks and they don’t know what comes after it, so there’s some big guy in the sky who’s taking care of all that for them. I repeat: Come the fuck on. I really would think you would have gotten over this shit by now. This primitive idea has been defended in so many ways for so many years it grows sickening. “Why did god burn my house down?” He works in mysterious ways. “Why did he give me cancer?” We are all a part of his plan. “Why does he murder the children?” Their time on earth was done. Has it ever occurred to you that right now, and I mean right now, there are people who are living lives that will consist of more misery and less happiness than you could ever imagine? There comes a time where you just have to stop rationalizing and admit the blindingly obvious: You are alone in your sad little existence.
Humanity, your being has been a downward spiral for thousands of years, and I believe that you are now beyond redemption or any kind of savior. Buy your last clothes, kill your last enemies, suck your last drops of oil from the earth, and pray to whatever gods or myths you may wish. You were so promising… But your time has finally come. Like all species, you will fade into the past, where perhaps others will learn from your failure. But for now, all you can do is hope for the best.
Truly,
Me
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I began to feel as though the weight of the world was on my shoulders. Now, it seems as though I’m so inside myself that no one knows my true face… I hide behind a wall of atheism and skepticism, which is probably more curiosity gone wrong than a genuine staunch opinion. Every day I’d look up more and more reasons why God doesn’t exist… And boy did I find them. But I recently realized that what I’m looking for is not disproof: It’s proof. I want to believe so badly that someone out there more competent than humans handling this, but I just can’t bring myself to. I recently got a girlfriend, which helped a lot.
And now, I feel like I’m chasing a dream or a ghost of some sort. I’ll go onto Google and search for words like “meaning” or “answers”. I don’t know what I want, I don’t know why I want it, but I can’t stop wanting it… I just don’t know what’s going on. It’s like I’m slipping out of reality or falling out of the world. Thanks for reading this far. I guess I was hoping maybe somebody had answers.
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Wow you are a really good writer. You are probably one of the smartest perrson i've ever met well you kno wat I mean. that all made so much sense and i loved how you wrote it. im sorry i do not have answer i don't think anyone will but i would like 2 say how wat you wrote touched me in the heart and i really anjoyed reading it
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So, my boyfriend and I recently started having sex on New Years Eve. We've done it twice, and
both times it was painful (obviouslly).
He told me to use hand lotion and rub it all over the condom to make it less painful. I was wondering, would this really work? (link)
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Well i hope you guys did stuff before the sex like fingering or handjob or giving him head because you need to be really wet for it 2 not hurt so much so either next time have him finger you or buy lubricant. Hand lotion is such a bad idea don't do it. But having sex will usually hurt the first couple times because his part is streching your insides out and it will usually hurt have him finger you and that will strech you out a bit or if that's not the case then buy lubricant.
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