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no up shirt
Okay while making out with my boyfriend it was getting intense and he was moving his hands around so i grabbed it and put it on one my by breasts. and he squeezed it and what not.
but then later i tried to give him the hint to actually put it up my shirt. i even took his hand and put it halfway up. but then he just rubbed around my back and took his hands back down.
it just confuses me cuz he's fine with putting his hands in my pants and everything but he doesnt seem to want to go up my shirt. maybe hes nervous. i don't know.any suggestions or comments? thanks.
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Chances are: he just wasn't comfortable or felt like he'd be crossing the line. I know it might be awkward, but perhaps you could discuss it with him. Start off by discussing the things you guys both like & casually bring up your situation & let him know your boundaries. Tell him the things you are comfortable with if he decides to go for them. The next time you make out & he doesn't take the opportunity to go up your shirt, look at it as a positive thing. The way I see it is: When a guy rubs your back & tries to make you feel good, he probably cares about you more than someone who goes straight for your boobs & in your pants. I think he just has more respect for you or just isn't the type to go up shirts all the time. But that's just my assumption. Communication is important in a relationship, so don't be afraid to talk about these things & find out what he likes. :)
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Although it would be an awkward thing to do why not ask him the truth on why he wouldn't do this last time and would tuch you in other places? It would be best to have a talk together and find out if he's nervous or has a particular hangup about it.
There's really no other way to figure out why he stopped short of doing this and can touch you below the waist ith no problem.
Let him know it's okay and that you want him to feel comfortable touching you and that you will tell him when he's about to cross a boundary with what you are ready for.
I think that's the problem--he's not ready for this and has a different set of boundaries set up than you might about sex or sexual touching. I dunno what else to recommend.
Perhaps if you wind up together in such a situation again where you are fooling around tell him "It's okay to touch me there" or something along those lines and see if that takes care of the situation. This has nothing I'm sure with how you look physically or anything like that.
You just have a guy who is unsure of himself here. Just tell him to relax and guide him to do the things you want him to that are mutually pleasurable and A-okay as far as your agreement on boundaries are. Actually, you need to define for him the boundaries and what you think is safe and what isn't. Maybe he'd ease up then with touching your chest area and going up a shirt.
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I think he's probably nervous. I don't know how guys think, but what I do know is, is that...maybe he's kind of sensitive? Maybe he feels like he'd be violating or offending you. I think you should give him more subtle signs. He'll get the idea eventually.
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I have been there before. I dont know guys are reallly weird. Maybe he just doesnt like breasts. Some guys favor certain parts of girls bodies. Like my boyfriend doesnt really fancy my chest either not for the size or anything but he just would rather touch other things. Who knows maybe he doesnt like your chest at all. Maybe ask him. I would if I were you. Maybe ask him in a comfortable way like for example threw a myspace message, aim, phone, or if its comfortable for you ask him in person. Guys are weird and I am not really 100% sure why he does this but he must have some reason.
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I think that maybe he is nervous. Next time you talk to him, ask him about it. Tell him you'd like for him to go up your shirt. He probably didn't take the hint the way you intended, and was confused.
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