Guaranteed...I'm probably younger than you think. I know there's a time and place for everything so at times I seem pretty mature and serious. But believe me when I'm with my friends I'm the biggest goofy goober around XD. Don't let my scary girl picture fool you. I'm just wise beyond my years.
Life is unpredictable. All the mysteries and surprises, you never know what may come your way BUT that's exactly what makes it worth while. So don't panic because you don't "have it all together" because in all honesty no one truly does. We all need advice sometimes and I love giving it out. Don't be afraid to inbox me because I'll be more than happy to try to help you with any problem. In closing: Peace, love and happiness.
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I'm love my boyfriend and he loves me. Neither of us is religious so we don't really believe in the whole "wait until you're married" thing. We've done everything except sex. He wants to have sex, and I do too, but I'm kind of scared it might change our relationship. Lately all we've been talking about is having sex, and I'm afraid once we do, there's not really going to be a meaning to our relationship anymore. I brought this up to him and he said that he doesn't look forward to sex as much as he looks forward to seeing me and just hanging out with me. So maybe I'm just paranoid, but does sex change a relationship? Did it ever change yours? Please don't tell me "if you're asking questions then you aren't ready for sex" because I think it helps to ask questions so you can prepare for sex :) Oh and we're both virgins if that helps. Thanks! (link)
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You sound just like me when I was 16. My boyfriend and I were together for a while and our hormones were going crazy. We both wanted to have sex but I was afraid that it would change our relationship for the worse. We were both also virgins like you guys. Long story short, eventually we did have sex and it didn't change our relationship at all. Its no different except we get to have a little more fun every once in a while, if you know what I mean *wink, wink* =)
Do whatever you feel is right. If you feel like your relationship is strong enough to handle a milestone such as sex then go for it. Best of luck.
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Okay so Im a virgin
but i love my boyfriend and he rubs me down there and he went down on me for the first time yesterday. Only problem it didnt feel as good as i thought it would or what my friends told me.
I masterbate with an old vibrating tooth brush on my clit only though (dont judge me)...I think i have orgasmas with that but im not sure..but it feels real good.
Could this be a reason why when me and my boyfriend mess around it dosent feel that great or could it be that im not comfortable doing it yet because we are 16 and have to sneak around to do this.?
sorry for grammar and thanks ahead of time:) (link)
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Are you talking about actual intercourse or getting fingered/eaten out?
Well I know what you mean if you're talking about having sex. I had this big idea that it would be pretty much amazing. It built the whole idea of sex up so much I was certain for disappointed (I didn't see it like that until AFTER I had sex for the first time). And disappointment is exactly what I got. Well maybe not disappointment I just wasn't what I expected. I hope you see where I'm going with my story. I was the same exact age you are now and yes we were also sneaking around. My advice to you (again lol) is to relax, live in the moment. You already breaking "the rules" so you might as well have fun while you're doing it. You masturbating isn't what's causing you guys having sex or him eating you out/fingering you to not feel good. Just tell him what you like while he's doing it. Make it enjoyable for you.
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do they sell that vaginal product REPHRESH..for ph balancing at rite aid and cvs? thanks! (link)
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To my knowledge they do. I do suggest calling in advance to make sure they have it in stock though. Just in case they don't, you'll be saving yourself a useless trip.
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yeah.....
feel kinda wierd asking that. But do they? Cause im a bit self cousious about that cuz my boyfriend wants to finger me nd i agrred but thats the only thing that worries me.
Personal experiances? Boys POV (point of veiw)?
Plzz dont tell me im too young for this...
~Olie =/
14/f && 14/m (15 in aug) (link)
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I was actually fourteen my first time being fingered so I'm not going to tell you you're to young. The truth is, there is no right age. My first time I didn't shave down there but guy the didn't mind, he actually preferred it. Then again different guys prefer different things. Some like it bald. You can't go wrong with trimming though. I suggest a very low trim.
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Ok,
So I had sex with this guy about four days ago.
He didn't use a condom, but i'm on the pill. Now I'm starting to get paranoid and I think I have herpes or some other type of STD.
My vagina is burning a little.
And I can't tell if there are sores on my vagina or not.
Please give me some advice on what it might be, or what I should do about it.
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The first thing you do is schedule a visit with you gynecologist as soon as possible. If you do have anything its best to get tested and hopefully treated early. For future reference regardless if you are on the pill or not, use a condom.
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can people tell we your not a vigin..?how?
how can you have sex .but without popping your cherry..?
can you loose your virginity if your getting fingered? (link)
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Well the answer to your question depends on the person you ask. To me the definition of losing your virginity is having sexual intercourse vaginally or anally. To me, unless a penis has entered your vagina or anus, your still a virgin. In my opinion, if you've only been fingered or had oral sex or whatever else form of foreplay you're still a virgin, even if your "cherry pops".
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i have been going out with my bf.for a while and hes been active before me many times. any way my question is when i want to give him a hand job he wont let me touch his penis like i rub it outside of his boxers ive tried going in and he like pulls my hand away it pisses me off he doesnt know that thou. like i tried asking and hes like i dont like the mes? and when im going to give him head he has to put a condom on i havnt done it in a while b.c he promiced id get to try witout it on so we havnt done it i asked if i could like taste his cum and hes like no its gross im like bitch fingering me is gross. ive never tasted it and i want to im sick of condoms man and his underwear makes things less exciting like and when we were going to have sex where he didnt have a condom hes like no im not going to cum in you dude way to make me horny and stop. and we tried two seconds wit out one (GREAT) and he wont do it again P.S. im on birth control... weve talked about it and shit and he still puts one on wat do i do to make him change his ways pleaseee. (link)
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Let's not think the worst. Personally I think he is being extremely responsible with the whole condom thing. I know you may not want to hear this but STD's are real. You should wear a condom 100% of the time, even with your boyfriend/girlfriend. I think you should definitely respect that. Maybe you guys could go get tested together and see if you both are cootie-free. If everything comes back negative I think you should bring up the idea of unprotected sex then. *Always use protection unless you are absolutely sure (&nd with proof such as medical papers) that your partner has no STD's or STI's. &nd even then you guys still should get checked out reguraly*
As for the mess thing...maybe its a huge turn off for him. But relationships are a give and take situation. Talk to him about how you feel, how much you want to do these things, and that it bothers you that he doesn't. I'm sure he will take what you are saying into consideration. Who knows, he may just decide to give it a try.
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I know what it is, I just want to hear some of your stories about being fingered.
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S0Exciited's First Time being "fingered":
Well my boyfriend (at the time) and myself were at my house alone for the first time. Naturally we took full advantage of of our privacy. Hands were roaming, kissing was pretty intense, and I was kind of nervous. His hands were all over me and they started to venture futher and futher south of the border. He started to undo my jeans and well "it" happened. The experience was amazing. It's nothing like your first time kissing, touching, or having sex.
:)
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I have never used any kind of lube during foreplay or sex or anything like that...is that a bad thing? (link)
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No that's not a bad thing. You probably don't need any not everyone does. Although when giving a handjob, the lube makes things easier. Even when having sex it makes things easier.
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what does it feel like to get eaten out? (link)
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Well everyone is different. Me, personally, I would have to say it feels amazing. But other girls may not even find pleasure in receiving oral sex. It all depends on what you're into.
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i went out with this boy one nite to hang out wiht him planning on getting fingered or giving him a hand job. i thot i was ready and i want to so bad. but when i got there we were at the park and i would have so done it if we were comfy in a room on a bed or somehting but when he asked me to take off my pants i kinda didnt want to have my but on a bench. and if i did take off my pants should i have taken my thong off too or just the pants and let him get in there? (link)
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You did the right thing. He should have considered the fact that maybe just maybe you would be comfortable taking your pants off in public. Next time try attempt doing these things indoors.
But if you did take your pants on, no you would not have to take your panties off also. Just move them to the side.
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Ok, I know this is strange but I really need advice so PLEASE don't judge me!
Yesterday, My Boyfriend and I were fooling around and I gave him a handjob. He came a little on my hands but I wiped it off. About ten minutes later, I went to the bathroom to masturbate and forgot to wash my hands before I touched myself.
Is it possible that I could get pregnant this way?
And if yes, could you tell me what I need to do?
Thanks!
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Yes there is still a chance you are pregnant. A small chance, but still there is a possibility.
First thing first are you ready for a child and the responsibility of being a mother? Do you want a child? Do you plan on keeping it if you are pregnant?
If yes to all three...you need to talk to your boyfriend about the possibility of you being pregnant and you guys plan for your soon to be baby.
If you don't want the baby I suggest the plan B pill. YOU NEED TO GET IT TOMORROW. It has to be taken within the first 48 hours. Go to a pharmacy such as rite aid or walgreens or whatever.
I hope I helped.
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where are some good places to foreplay? cause we can't do it in either of houses because we both have siblings and parents and we'd get caught. i was thinking a car but we wouldn't really have enough room right? and would that be sketchy? and we're 17 so we can't get a hotel room :( (link)
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Oh to be young and have raging hormones...those were the good days lol.
But seriously unless you want to fool around in public or someone else's home the sad reality is you're pretty much screwed. I guess you could do the car thing though. I would suggest going for it when it's dark outside and in a secluded place where you guys can have a bit of privacy (or as much privacy as you can get in a parked car).
As a matter a fact try the drive-in movie. Stay in the back seat though. You'd be amazed at what you can do there.
Hope to have helped some.
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So i really like this guy and he likes me. He has done a lot more than i have and ive done basically nothing. I'm supposed to hang out with him sometime at his house and im very nervous. I have not kissed a guy since i was in the 6th grade and im in the 10th right now. Ive had bf's but it was always so weird and awkward until now. This is the first time in a very long time where i like someone a lot. And im very nervous with everything and i dont know what to do. Im very afraid that im going to suck at everything because im so inexperienced. So what do i do to get better or how do i handle the situatuion. I'm not planning on having sex with him but other things might come up if not when im there then some other time so i just need help on how to handle it and what to do. (link)
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First of all try to shake all the nervousness off and relax. I remember my first time being over one of my ex boyfriend's house. I was so nervous just like you are, I flat out told him. And he tried his best to make me feel comfortable. Just tell yourself to chill out. You are with a guy you are so into so try your best to have a good time but don't do anything you don't want to. Its good to have boundaries.
If you guys do fool around or whatever just let him take the lead. Like you said he is far more experienced than you are so he should know what to do. Just have fun with it.
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Ive been going out with my boyfriend for 2 months and we've had sex about 7-8 times. The only thing is it hurts still. It stopped hurting after the 4-5th time and now its hurting again. I dont know why this is but Im starting to worry about it abit as I dont know whats wrong. It also feels very tight down below and I thought that once you had sex it doesnt feel tight anymore.
Has anyone else experienced this? and is it normal?
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Its normal for some girls to still experience pain after having sex after multiples times of having it.
I knew a girl who had sex 15 times and still complained about the pain! So yeah it takes some people longer to start experiencing the pleasure (instead of the pain) of sex. Give it time, the pain will cease eventually. In the mean time try having you guy finger you more often so you won't be so tight down there.
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hey im 15.f
i have 2 questions to ask in this.
so heres the story (and oh yea who ever answers ill rate high because i really need help)
my boyfriend and i have been going out for about almost 2 weeks and those 2 weeks he fingered me. i gave me head and we had sex. alot of sex. my question is can i be any chance pragnet since we didnt use a condom the very first time and we were in he shower and he felt like he was gonna cum so he pulled out and waited a little and then we went agian. but he never came. that same day we used condoms but we had sex twice after the shower incident. then i came over agian yesterday and we had sex twice again but with a condom he came but we had a condom and everything was fine. but im just worried that what if i am pragnet and if there is a chance i can be.. because since the first time in the shower my mood changed and i got a small pain like all the way in mmy lower stomach by my vigina. im really scared and i dont know what to do im going to wait ffor my period to come but i dont know by then it might be to late.
another question is i regret having sex with him so much he says he likes me a lot but i feel like our relationship is moving wayyyyyyyy 2 fast and it old him that he said everything is fine and that he wont leave me because we had a thing in the past where i was dating my other boyfriend and he tried to convince me to break up with him so he must like me but idont what to do bout the sex ...and the moving fast
any help ill rate high thank u so much =] (link)
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Uh yes there is a chance you could be pregnant. Condoms are not 100% effective. And then again you guys didn't even use a condom the first time so there is a cghance you could be pregnant. Just wait awhile and see if you get your period.
And now...the best thing for you to do is tell your boyfriend you think you guys are moving too fast. And you need to slow down. Just express your feelings to him.
Hope I helped
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i can guess what type of answers youll give me but ill hope theres some other scenario's you can think of :P
anyways, in the past 3 days iv been gettin overly horny. im 17 and a guy by the way. Before this, i was a normall nice guy with a load of girl mates (im the only guy in my class .. uurgh, its not that bad i guess lol) but iv got one really close girl mate and it was red nose day last friday ofc! fun day that was but she wore this really "Fitting" top that showed alot when she leant over. i dont normally get massivley sexual thoughts about her, i mean we'v done stuff (just as friends experimenting) but i found it a bit wierd an we stopped, shes really pretty with a cute personality...(just realised this isnt really helping my question) so the day went on and my classes lessons had finished and theres this one girl in the year below me on the same course, She's the only girl in her year on the course shes all alone :( so i told her that i stay through her next free period and talk to her to keep her company and then go to her last lesson with her and do some work and chat some more (i'v really really liked her before quite recently, but i hardly know her to be honest so nothing came of it. my feelings for her are cooled off now i dont think of her every second of the day like i used to) but through that free period it was just me and her in the common room we talked and i was fine, then she got up and i couldnt take my eyes off her ass o_o
i dont like being a perv but i just couldnt help it i was mezmorized hahaha then i got home and beat off like 3 times kus once just wasnt enough
i know its normall for my age but has any one been through this? and did it wear off?
have my hormones finnaly caught up with me? i didnt used to be this bad haha
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Of course people have gone through it. Hell I've gone through it. Hormones going crazy are so common especially at your age. It happens sometimes worst than others.
It really sucks when you don't have anyone to fool around with, believe me lol. Btw I'm a female. My guy friends talk about the same thing you're talking about. How horny they've been, how bad they need some etc. Both guys and girls go through it.
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i had sex with my bestie he did not put his dick all the way in and per-cum came in but my cherry did not pop can i have a baby (link)
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Yes you can get pregnant. Chances are low that you are but it still is possible regardless if he went all the way in.
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I'm really confused about what to do!
To make a very long and complicated story short and simple, I had sex with my ex boyfriend of 4 years about 2 months ago. He committed suicide about 2 weeks ago.
I think I may be pregnant with his child. I'm against abortion and would never give up my own child for adoption because... you know... it's MY kid! However, I don't have the money to raise a child. I'm in college right now and if I am pregnant, then the baby would be due around October... I can't not go to school because then I won't have a degree to get a decent job, besides who would take care of the baby while I'm working/in school... my parents would never help me out with this... they would press for adoption or abortion because they're barely financially stable enough to help us - I'm in school strictly on student loans, my brother is joining the armed forces so they'll pay for school, and my sister never went to college- she's got a full time job and is living at home. None of us can support a baby, and I can't ask my dead exes mom to help - she just lost her son and is extremely financially pressed... it's insane! I don't know what to do !!
What would you do if you were in my situation?
I don't have anyone to turn to because the baby's father is dead... I just don't know what to do right now!! (link)
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This is so tough and I'm so sorry about your situation but the first thing you need to do is find out if you are actually pregnant for sure. Go to the doctor.
If you are pregnant I think you should turn to your ex's mother. Why? Because this could be just what she needs, a little part of her son. I mean that is if you choose not to give your baby up, or abort it.
I know it may seem impossible but it truly is not. It will be hard, but you can do it. Look for cheap day care centers and get a job. Look for help and support within your friends.
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So, when a guy is fingering you, are the couples making out while this happens? & if not then what
does the girl do while this is happening? Or what usually goes on while a guy is trying to finger you??
i'm planning on for this to happen with this guy i like & im not entirely sure on how it goes or what happens.
haha sorry if this is awkard reading in any sort of wayy. but thanks if you can help :) (link)
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While getting fingered, you could make out with the guy, that is an option. But there are plenty of other ones. You could kiss and suck on his neck, you could run your fingers through his hair, you could nibble at his ears, caress his body, the list goes on.
I just thought I'd add more than make out while getting fingered because, personally, I don't like to. I'd rather kiss his neck or something.
Hope I was of some help.
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