Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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i was on the computer and it was my birthday. my mom,dad,brother,sister,cousins,and everyone came in, i was masturbating with head phones on, so i didn't hear them come in. i had my eyes closed.i finished. i opened my eyes and my mom screamed. i can't talk to any one about this. what should i do? (link)
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Whoops! First of all I would suggest that next time you lock yourself away before you decide to do it again.
Second, There is nothing you can do or say to take it back. What's done is done! Yes it is very embarrasing but your going to have to shrug this one off!
Masterbating is a natural thing and EVERYONE does it! It's just a shock when you are caught, especially by family members who know it happens but don't expect it happens to their own children!
Life will go back to normal. It will be a tad awkward for a while but at the end of the day.. your only human!
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hmm so my boyfriend and i had sex for the first time. He didnt like the experience because he was afraid he had gotten me pregnant. now he says he doesnt want to do it again. BUT I DO. what should i do? oh , and i tried masturbating. NOT THE SAME (link)
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If he doesn't feel comfortable having sex because of the consequences then I applaud him! There aren't that many guys these days that care so much about sex and the appropriate time to do it!
The experience can only be comfortable and enjoyable if both people are ready!
I am sure when he feels like he is ready again to do it then he will! Having sex with you doesn't seem to be the issue but the thought of having a baby is!
I guess in the mean time you could go on the pill and when you do have sex always use condoms to calm the situation! Don't force him though!
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I have gained ten pounds. I have not gotten my period for two weeks now but I'm no taking that too seriously because I have not been able to refill my birth control pills so that could be why I'm not getting it yet. Lately for the past two or three weeks my breasts have been leaking liquid that is either mainly clear with a hint of whitw color to it or straight up white when I squeeze them. Mainly my right nipple and hardly any from my left. Whenever it comes out its not a lot but it does it all day. I looked it up and its hard for mw to find anything about it. I took a test four days after my missed period and it came out negative but it was not digiral and it was an equate and had a VERY faint negative after about four minutes. I tried to look it up and apparently its not a very reliable test with a lot of complaints. I don't know what I ahould do or think. I don't really think I am but I know thwre;s a chance. Help? (link)
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The most accrate way to find out if you are pregnant or not is to see a GP.
Just to be clear, if you don't continue to take your pill your period usually comes 3-4 days after you continuously skip the tablets.
So the fact that you have ceased your pill for about 2 weeks and you still haven't got your period is a problem!
See a doctor!
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how can I commit suicide without making a big deal for others out of it, finding body, cleaning up, anyone finding me. Iam 64 worn out tired need out. (link)
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Get some help for crying out loud! There is always someone else who is worse off then you, stop dwelling on life and change it yourself!
You are in control of your life and actions, so make things better for yourself! Find a hobby or something to do!
My grandfather who raised me was only 58 and died suddenly and very unexpected, I would give anything to have him back or even just to speak to him! Don't waste your life because you feel it's time to 'give up'
Get over yourself! There are people who care about you!
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OK now i dont want to sound like a ho but its my last year in highschool and i dont want to have a boyfriend. I just want to get a dude and have him be my buddy(if you know what i mean. Its too much of a hastle to be with a guy and him being on you and you being on him about where hes/you at or what hes/you is doing. You know what i mean? I just dont know if having a BUDDY will change my image tho. I want to just have sex with a guy and him not fall for me or me fall for him. I want to just have sex. Is that bad? Is it nasty? Am i wrong or a ho? (link)
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Hi there...
Personally, I think that it would change your image. I don't think your a 'ho' however, you may eventually get stuck with that name.
You really need to go about it the right way. I'm not saying that you do need to have a boyfriend.. BUT, you shouldn't have sex with just anyone!
Find someone who you at least trust or 'know where he's been' before you start having sex. If you just pick up some random then you are at more risk of getting sexually transmitted diseases.
I'm not about giving you a third degree on STD's and pregnancy but you really do need to take these things into consideration if you wish to be having sex. If you want to have sex then you need to think of the consequences too.
Don't find a random, have some pride in yourself and you'll eventually get your turn.
Good luck, hope I helped :)
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okay, [18f] ive never had sex and ive been dating the same guy for almost 2 years, hes not been rushing me about anything. but i really want to have sex with him. i have no idea what to do or anything. i read alot of questions on here that says something about the girl being on top or botton or whatever, i dont get it. who goes on top? and what do all the guys want to do when you have sex? i need tips and answers please. please dont tell me that im not ready because i think i am and i really want to so if your gonna say that then please dont answer my question(: (link)
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First Tip: There is no right or wrong way!!!! Always remember that!!!
Second: Use lots of lubricant and use protection!!
Third: I would suggest for your first time for your boyfriend to go on top. Let him do the work.
Be aware that it will hurt a bit your first time, but the more relaxed and aroused your are, the less the pain will be.
Fourth: Once you have had sex the first time, and your familiar with the feelings, then you can experiment on different positions!!
You should be proud of yourself waiting this long, not all girls do what you have done. You seem responsible so take it easy and have fun!!
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how do you get buttsex to not hurt?
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Use lots of lubricant!!! If pain still occurs, see a doctor!!
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ill just get right to the point ......... how do you do the best bj to your boyfriend cause hes saying i need to buy a book about it!
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If you boyfriend is saying that you need to buy a book about it, then get rid of him!!! How Rude!!
Practice makes perfect and every guy is different!!
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ive been taking the low ogestrel 28 birth control pill for at least 9 months
ive usually been pretty good about taking at the same time of day (within the hour or two)
i had protected sex on september 12
and forgot a pill last friday
so i took fridays pill and saturdays pill that saturday morning
i started the green pills that sunday (so the day after the saturday i took two pills)
i usually get my period 2 days after starting the green pills but it hasnt come yet
(today being the third day)
chances of being pregnant?
or could it just be that i took two pills so soon? (link)
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More then likely it's just because your body was out of routine with the pill. Could even perhaps be because you are stressed??
Take a home pregnancy test just for your peace of mind if you must. Just remember the more you stress the more chances it'll be of your period being delayed even more.
:)
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ok so last night i went to a party and i met this REALLY hot guy who is 17, after a while i drank a little bit too much and this morning he sent me a text saying that i was the best he ever had, need to do it again soon. and im pretty sure u know what im talking about when he said best i ever had, considering i woke up in his room...... what am i supposed to do????????????????????????? should i see him again?? (link)
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I would say not.. it's disgusting that your having sex at 14. You have barely grown up!
You should be put in foster care if your parents aren't looking out for you and sewn up until your legal age!!!
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what is the easiest way to commit suicide
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Like anyone is actually going to answer your question and give you 'ideas'
You are obviously seeking attention or some sort of help if you are asking about it. You want people to reply to your question so you can get sympathy.
Go get some help! What ever your going through, it's not the end of the world. There is always someone who is worse off then you are!!
Remember you are always in control of your life and you don't have to be living the way you are. No matter what it is, YOU are able to make decisions to walk away, move to another town, face your problems.
So do it... face your problems!
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Don't mean to be rude or dirty, i'm just curious.
Why do some women like being licked out?
I am a women but I never been licked out be4 nor do I want to be.
Both genders can repond. (link)
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I guess it's a personal choice, up to the individual. You choose not to be and some choose to be.
Some women feel they are only able to enjoy it that way and some don't feel comfortable at all.
It's definitely a personal choice and it's about what makes that person feel good.
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weird question..is it possible to have a late period if you passed out a few days before its supposed to start??( i had blood drawn as part of a physical)i missed my period this month and was wondering if it got messed up from that experience or worst case scenerio.. i'm pregnant?? i am sexually active but always practice safe sex. (link)
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This is possible because your body went through the stress of fainting. However, it's not likely.
Although you may practice safe sex, it could be possible that the condom broke ?? Get a home pregnancy test just be 100% sure. If the problem reoccurs then I would suggest to make an appointment with your GP.
Goodluck :)
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ok so i really like this boy and he wants to do stuff with me and i dont know what to do...i mean i want to do stuff with him but the furthest ive gone is makeout and i dont know what to do....PLEASE HELP!!!! (link)
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Ok well this is entirely up to you. If you are ready emotionally to go to the next level with this boy then by all means.. go for it.
However, if you do not feel comfortable or ready then you need to tell this boy. No one can force you into this, this is totally your choice!!
If he can't handle that your not ready then he's not the right one for you to be doing this with.
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okay my period has not cam on n i dnt no y. and dis is da second time it has happen da 1st time it was wen it was time 4 my period to cum on n it didnt n i had sex wit this boy but it came da nxt month then da sum days afta my period went off i had sex wit a boy n my period did not cum on dis month n i cnt talk 2 my mama bout it so i ask advice from u plz THNKS!!! SO 4 BEING SO LNG BUT I HAD 2 EXPLAIN WATS WRNG WIT ME! (link)
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Ok first of all, you need to slow down and write in english.
Second, how about you use protection so you don't feel like this everytime you have sex. If you are not ready to deal with the outcome of sex then you shouldn't be having it.
Stress definitely delays your period. So try not to stress. You sound like you are only young so your period may not be regular yet. I suggest you go on the pill so at least that way your are protected against pregnancy and you are able to keep a check on your periods. This will make them become more regularly.
Don't forget that the pill DOES NOT protect you against sexually transmitted diseases so use a condom. This will also double your chances of protection against pregnancy.
I think you should talk to your mother about the contraceptive pill.. this will also show signs of maturity from you. I'm sure she would rather you protected then not at all. Lets face it, regardless of what your mother thinks your going to be having sex aren't you? So think about it!
You will only do yourself out of it in the end if you fall pregnant or catch a disease.
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Hi iim 16 and a female OKAY i PLAiN ON GOiNG TUH MY BOYFRiENDx HOUSE SO WE KAN HAVE SEx BUT iim KiNDA SCAR3D TUH HAV3 SEx B3CAUZ i DNT WONT it TUH HURT AND i DNT WANNA GO TO THE DOCTER AFTERWARDx SO iF i DNT GO TO TH3 DOCT3R WAT DO U THiNK COULD HAPP3N?.......... AND WAT iZ A WAY i COULD STOP iT FROM HURT3N W3N W3 DO HAV3 S3x ... (link)
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Hi there..
I'm not sure why you think you need to go to the doctor after you have sex??
Every girl is going to feel a little uncomfortable during their first time having sex. You need to make sure you do a lot of foreplay to make yourself aroused and "wet" down there.
Make sure you feel comfortable and relaxed throughout the whole thing or you will tense up.
Be sure to use a condom to protect you against any Sexually Transmitted Diseases and Pregnancy of course.
If your not ready for the consequences of sex (including pain) I would then suggest that you are not fully ready for it.
Of course, it is your choice at the end of the day. Just be sure to practice safe.
Good luck :)
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Ok so, my boyfriend and I have been having sex for a long while now it all feels really good but it seems as though the more times we have sex, the less he can control himself!
We've talked about it and know its a problem, he's tried everything he just can't do it!
I hardly get a chance to 'get into it'
We're both open about it and can talk to each other about it, i've tried helping him but he just can't get it together!
I love him so much and he loves me and i'm being so patient with him, he appreciates it but he also gets embarrassed.
How can I get him or what can he do to hold his load or be in control of when he cums?
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Hi there...
Is he very experienced?? This could also be contributing to the problem. What he needs to work on is self pleasure but making it last for as long as he can.. or self pleasure and not cum at all.
This will build up his strength. It's all about power and mind. He needs to teach himself how to hold out. Control is the most important thing here.
I'm glad your being patient, that is important in a situation like this. It's going to take time to get himself to be able to control but practice is important. Your could even help out with the self pleasure thing. You could be the one pleasuring and just before he's about to cum, stop. He'll calm down then start again!!
If this does not seem to help, he may need to start looking for professional help. Just make sure before he makes any decisions in regards to any nasal sprays or medication, he get a second opinion. That's just as important as patients.
Hope I helped, good luck :)
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I just masturbated again. I feel so horibble! I just want to die. I feel like God will never forgiive me. Some one just kill me. I feel like a whore. Some one help me please. Oh my dear God please help me. I feel like such a horibble person. HELP ME!!!!! What can I do. I feel horrible. Will someone please tell me how to stop this? (link)
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You do not need to feel bad with experimenting with your body. You'll find that 99% of boys and girls experiment with themselves, even adults. It is perfectly normal and healthy.
Put it this way.. at least your not having sex!!!
You sound like your beliefs are important to you, but curiosity gets the best of people sometimes and it's ok!
Your not harming anyone or yourself. Your not a bad person and no one thinks of you as a bad person.
Worrying about it isn't going to make you feel any better, so just continue if it feels good.
Hope I helped. Just remember, your a good person :)
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so, i had sex for the first time about a week ago. it was really weird and sudden. and it was with someone who ive been friends for almost two years. he means a lot to me, and im sure i mean a lot to him. but its not like we go out, or even really planned on it. i mean, i always wanted to date him and we talked about it, but you'd think we'd be going out by now. we have that thing for eachother, i dont wanna call it friends with benefits, because its friends who hookup, with feelings. awkward, i know. but i kinda feel really stupid now and bad i let him take it. he's been wanting to since we started talking. and i dont know if i just gave in or i wanted to. i mean i wanted to, but now im so stressed. i feel like he's always used me just for ass... what do i do?! (link)
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Hey there...
You've already given it to him once, obviously because you have feelings for this guy. You wouldn't have done so if you didnt...
Now, he's going to want to come back for more.. perhaps this time you shouldn't give in. Talk to him and tell him that you'd really like something to come out of this and you don't want to be used.
Tell him you'd like to get closer so you are able to feel like that towards him. Sex is something that I consider should be done with someone you love and trust... or at least trust!
If you find that he is just using you then you know what his true colours are... best person to talk to hun would be him.
Good luck, Hope I helped :)
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thanks for your confidence roxy..... the only concern is will my girl love to lick my body inspite of my hairy features....and is it normal to have hairs on bums as well?
as per my knowledge girls are hairy down there, i want to know would it be good if i perform there as i am concerned if hairs might get struck in my mouth...plz advice. (link)
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Having hair all over your body is perfectly normal... wanting to know if your girl will lick your body will be entirely up to her. Unfortunetly I can't answer that question, She might be head over heals for a hairy guy.
If not then perhaps talk to her or someone else about options of how to get rid of your hair if you wish.
Every one has hairs on their bum... some are just a lot more hairy and their hairs are a lot thicker and darker then others.
Although girls are hairy "down stairs" you'll find most shave or wax it off. If she doesn't the, part you will be performing on does not have hair... just around it. If you don't like it then talk to her. See if she will wax or shave it if she doesn't already.
Good luck... hope I helped :)
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