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oh boyyyy...
so, i had sex for the first time about a week ago. it was really weird and sudden. and it was with someone who ive been friends for almost two years. he means a lot to me, and im sure i mean a lot to him. but its not like we go out, or even really planned on it. i mean, i always wanted to date him and we talked about it, but you'd think we'd be going out by now. we have that thing for eachother, i dont wanna call it friends with benefits, because its friends who hookup, with feelings. awkward, i know. but i kinda feel really stupid now and bad i let him take it. he's been wanting to since we started talking. and i dont know if i just gave in or i wanted to. i mean i wanted to, but now im so stressed. i feel like he's always used me just for ass... what do i do?!
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O man this sounds so similur to my story ok so to give you advice im ganna tell you mine ok this guy who is two years older than me used to flirt with me every day for like 2 years and i thought he was cute but i never thought i would date him i got a cell phone and then he asked me for my number and totally like me we wear friends with fellings who made out and kissed and acted like bf and gf he took my virginity come to find out he had other girls and he never asked me out once and we ended up having sex agian and he made fun of me behind my back and told everyone at school about us and lied about stuff i did he is an ass and i never talk to him anymore i'm sorry but most likely this isn't going to end well it sucks and it sounds like he fucked you over my suggestion is try to get him to be in a relationship with you if he doesn't want to be then don't give him the time of day because if he refuses then he was just after your virginity and ya it sucks but it is wut it is and all you can do is move on and show him your better than him
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talk to him about going official. See what his opinion about it is. If he's doesn't show eagerness... there is no point in forcing him. And if he wants sex again, and you feel uncomfortable... then dont do it. You dont have to do anything that you don't want to do.
What happened happened... you can't restore what has being lost. try to make the most out of it. If you feel like he's using you, then be more careful with him. If he is using you, then try to avoid such situations in which he could ask you for sex, like being alone with him at his or your house, or basicly anywhere.
And you mentioned that he wanted to since you guys started talking. I find it a bit disturbing, because if I understand this correctly it means from the start he wanted to have sex with you. which leads to another conclusion. He might have became friends with you "for all the wrong reasons".
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Hey there...
You've already given it to him once, obviously because you have feelings for this guy. You wouldn't have done so if you didnt...
Now, he's going to want to come back for more.. perhaps this time you shouldn't give in. Talk to him and tell him that you'd really like something to come out of this and you don't want to be used.
Tell him you'd like to get closer so you are able to feel like that towards him. Sex is something that I consider should be done with someone you love and trust... or at least trust!
If you find that he is just using you then you know what his true colours are... best person to talk to hun would be him.
Good luck, Hope I helped :)
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