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Q: alright well, im 15 and my friends are always telling me that you are supposed to shave your pubic hair..but...when ever i do it..it hurts. well i just i don`t know how or what to use. & i would ask one of them, but its more hard to do it with them knowing its me. i was wondering if you could give me some advice, of how to do it, or what to use or whatever. i would really appritiate it. i really neeed some help. =/ and since i`ve tried and it hurts..does that means something is wrong with me? becus i just did it with a razor and shaving cream. ughh helppp.

First off, I suggest making sure that the hair is pretty short before trying to shave because it just makes things easier. Then, try ot figure out the direction of growth, because you'll want to shave against the direction of growth. Be sure you use a new razor and be sure to take small, short strokes. I suggest using a sensitive skin shaving gel and also applying a healing lotion to the outer area after you are finished. The best advice I can give is to just take your time, be careful, and remember to put moisturizer on. Also, don't do it more than once or twice a week, because that skin just naturally gets irritated.

Q: are you supposed to use a condom for oral sex?

It's not necessary, but if there is any question of diseases, it's a good idea. It does take some of the feeling away from the guy, but I'm sure it's better than nothing. It's up to you to make a judgment call. It's not like you need to protect against pregnancy.

Q: is it wrong to want to have sex at the age of 13?

I don't think it's wrong to want it because that's when puberty is kicking in, but I do think it's wrong to actually go out and have sex. It's still too young, so if the wanting is that bad, maybe trying to satisfy yourself could relieve that a little.

Q: I want to buy birth control, but the thing is im kind of young and my parents can't know. If i buy it alone at like the CVS or Walmart, is it possible thatthe sales clerk will stop me from buying it?

The sales people are not supposed to stop you but they may refuse to sell you something if you appear very young. Also, remember you can only get spermicide and condoms when it comes to stores, so your best bet is to go to a Planned Parenthood. Planned Parenthood offers several types of birth control that is usually free or pretty cheap. Plus, they don't judge you for coming in and asking for protection.

If you check their website, they list all locations, so I'm sure you could find one in your area.

Q: I know that when a girl first has sex, it [usually] hurts. So, are there any cons for the boys when they first have sex? Do any disadvantages come with it (pain, etc.)

thnx

There isn't usually pain but guys can be very uncomfortable about their naked appearance and wondering whether they are lasting long enough. Usually, extended time takes practice, so a guy could be very embarassed for only lasting a few minutes.

Q: I just want some opinions on this:

Do you think it's wrong to let your boyfriend go to a strip club?

I personally think it is wrong, but then I see some girlfriends even go with their boyfriends to stripclubs!! I just don't get it. How could you let your boyfriend get turned on by another woman? ..or let alone get a sexy lap dance by another woman? I personally think that can even lead to the thought of cheating.

What do you guys think? I am 18 and my boyfriend is 17 and he will be 18 next month. I don't know whether to never let him go to a strip club(since that is a common thing for men to try out at least once in their lives) or to let him try it out. I am really uncomfortable with that idea.

Honestly, I don't see a problem with letting my boyfriend go. He doesn't go all that often and I know when he comes home to me, I'm the one who is going to satisfy him, so it doesn't matter what the strippers did with him while he was there. It's also fine and sometimes fun to go with them to the strip club because if you're comfortable with yourself and the relationship, it shouldn't bother you watching him have fun. But it's totally up to you. Your feelings may not be the same as mine, so don't threaten your trust in the relationship by just allowing him to do something you don't want him to.

Q: okay. so if you preform oral sex on a guy and he cums and you sallow can you get pregant? my mom is saying you can!

Well then I don't know how your mom properly conceived you with that kind of information. It is impossible to get pregnant if you give oral sex because whatever you digest does not go to your reproductive system, therefore it does not come in contact with eggs to get you pregnant.

Silly mothers...they'll do anything to keep us babies!!

Q: what age is right for sex? i always thought not till your married. what do you think?

It depends on maturity level more than age but I would say around 17 or 18. If you have the control to wait till marriage, that's awesome for you, but just make sure if you can't wait, you think it all through first and make sure it's something you won't regret.

Q: How can you tell the difference between when a guy precums and when he actually cums? (if you're giving him a handjob) Thanks

Well, let's put it this way: Pre-cum is like a light drizzle. The real deal can be anywhere from a thunderstorm to a tsunami...it should be pretty obvious.

Q: Hi. Does a gyno exam include a breast exam, or will the doctor just check to see if everything in the netherregions is healthy? Thanks.

At least when I go, there is a quick breast exam, even if you're young. The doctor may ask if you check yourself monthly too but still check to make sure it's done properly.

Q: wut is sex feel like??

It's like a hug but better!!

Just kidding...actually, it's kind of hard to explain...on the emotional level, it feels good to connect with someone and on the physical level, if they tend to the places they are supposed to tend to, it should feel good...I think it's just something you have to experience though to really understand it but I'm sure you will. :)

Q: i know this sounds weird, but can a girl have sex when she has her period?

It is possible to for a girl to have sex when she is on her period, and some people have sex during that time because it's less possible to get pregnant. Unfortunately, it can be a little messy and though the girl will obviously have no problem with lubrication, it could be weird for the guy.

I suggest doing it towards the end if at all, so there will be less messiness. Also, make sure you both agree on being comfortable with it.

Q: is it true that if you want to get pregnant, that the best time to have sex is right after your period ends?

Everyone has a different ovulation period but most women ovulate in the middle (about 2 weeks after your period begins or 1 week after it ends). If you are really interested in when you ovulate, there are tests that you can buy in the contraceptive aisle of any store and find out.

Q: ok so i'm sending you this and it might be the second one you get but just incase the onther one didnt work.....ya well i did what you told me to and he likes it but he still dosnt look all that into it.......the reason why i think i'm not good enough for that is cuz his ex was pro ho at giving head cuz she gave head to anyone who wanted it......do you have any really good tips like things that you found worked the best that i can try?

Well, I think it's just something that comes easier with practice. Whatever you do, just remember to use pressure with your tongue and suck hard. And start off slow then gradually work your way to getting faster because one speed isn't good enough.

Basically, all I can tell you is maybe you can ask him what he specifically likes if none of this works. Some guys just aren't big on getting head, but maybe if he tells you the places that are most sensitive to him, you can cater to those spots.

And don't feel awkward asking him. Once you find out what makes him feel good, you'll never have to ask again and you'll be able to do it much better.

Q: when you have sex and your pregnant and you have it unprotected..
is there a chance of like getting twins or something??
like you know you have the chance of getting pregnant when a guy gets in you
but when you're pregnant and a guy gets in you is there a chance of getting pregnant again??

stupid question...

No, there is not. Once you get pregnant, you have no more eggs dropped until you give birth and start your cycle again. Twins are made at the original time if made at all.

Q: My boyfriend and I had sex last week and my period usally comes on around the 24 or 25. It is the 27 and my period still haven't come on. I have been have cramps and back pain. So am I pregnant or not?

Wait awhile before you think you're pregnant. I once had a scare like that and got my period like 8 days late but I still got it...the cramps and back pain could just mean you're going to get your period soon, I had the same thing.

Q: Hey I'm a guy and was just wondering about something...
I know its normal and not exactly their fault and everything, but when a girl goes through monthly stuff, what are we, the guys, supposed to do. I really don't mind it, but sometimes I feel like I need to help out my g/f with whatever the problem may be...but I can't. Should I just be there to talk and listen? That's what I've been doing so far. I mean I can't think of any good advice other than lie down, take some medicine, try to relax, and stuff like that. Should I try to help, or just stay out of the way? Is there any way I can help or no? I know I don't or ever will understand what it feels like or anything, but I'd still try to help with anything. Will rate, thanks in advance.

I would just suggest asking her if she needs anything...maybe if she's feeling sick, drop by and drop off some soup or something. Otherwise, she might just want you out of the way. Every girl is different.

Q: Ok, my girlfriend and I have been broken up for about 3 weeks. Last night we went out to dinner and we made out under the star-blanketed sky at the beach. She called me later that night and sometime later she asked me If I had thought about having one last "night". What should I do? I want to. But I don't know if I should.

I say as long as you're sure there aren't still emotions involved, go for it. But if one of you might be hanging on to memories of previous times together I would stay away. Was the dinner just a friendly thing or is there still hope to get back together? Just make sure before you go through with it that neither of you have a chance of getting hurt.

Q: When my boyfriend and I start to get intimate and he starts rubbing me, would it be so wrong if I took his hand and well, guided him to where he should be rubbing? Or would that offend him?

I definitely think he would appreciate your directions. Guys like to learn so that once he knows, he knows...just slowly move your hand on top of his and show him what makes you feel good. Making a little noise while doing it might help him because it shows him that what your showing him is what you like, but you're not insulting him by saying something critical. He'll appreciate the pointer, trust me. ;)

Q: So me and my boyfriend are having sex and hes been going in me cause im on the pill. Yea I know statistics so please dont lecture me... and we lost our virginity with each other... anyways question is, how do you keep everything in without it all leaking out?
I also get this discharge and when I orgasm its like a waterfall, so it gets everywhere.. how do i control that too?

There is no way to stop what's natural. If you guys are having sex, that's bound to happen. If it bothers you to have his stuff leaking out afterwards, then don't let him cum inside you. On your part, you can't do anything about your wetness besides keeping some Brawny paper towels next to the bed or something...that or don't let him pleasure you at all. I say just try to get used to it because eventually I'm sure it will grow on you.