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hey!
ok, so, my name is vanessa! i' a real fun crazy gal =) I'm 19 years old, and about to start my second year of college! i love to challenge myself, to be with my friends, help them out to the max that i can.. mainly reson why am here.. duh lol i love you help people =) and can simply be a great listener. I've been through a lot in my life already... i guess that can be both good and bad. But that means i have some experience about a little bit of everything!
like I said, am in college, am in love with this amazing guy whom i've been with for over a year and a half, am bi, have been in love, have had my heart broken, have been places, study, work, and well, am crazy =) hahaha! in a good way ;-)
so, anyway, ask away anything thats on your mind =) no matter how crazy or whatnot, i'll ceratintly be here to try my best to help =)

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What do you think about sex before being married. I don't know if it's wrong or right so I'm asking you. Please voice opinions and experience.

personally hun, I really don't think there's nothing wrong with sex before marriage. Some may think otherwise, which is fine, =) we're all entitled to our own opinions and ways of doing things.
But when it comes to sex, in my experience i know I just couldn't be able to wait till marriage. To start off, I don't plan on getting married till my late 20's! I want to enjoy my life, and be with whomever i wish till that time comes. I'm not saying like sleeping around, but if i'm in a meaning relationship with someone and feel that I do in fact want to be intimate with them, why not?
Two consentual adults.... hey, nothing wrong with that =)

Hope this helps =)

VB

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The last 7 sugar pills you dont absolutly have to take right? because they're there to help you remember taking them right? I was just wondering if it effects chances of getting pregnant when you start your new cycle because i never take the sugar pills.

thats correct! =)
not taking the "sugar" pills don't effect the pills result. But they are still good for nutrients vitamins and whatnot. And mostly to keep constancy about taking the pill =)
But its not a must =)

VB

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hello, i am 15/female
this is probably a stupid question but i need to know.
my vagina, the inner labia cums outs of the outta labia because it seem to be so big, so you can see my inner labia from outside the vagina [[if that makes sense]]
i don't know if this is right or not, and because of this i am scared to do things with boys incase i have something wrong and they think i am weird.
also should i be shaving my pubic hair?

Hey =)
Relax, as a matter of fact, everything is normal. It may not seem that way but your inner libia can actually be many sizes. It varies from girl to girl. And also, one can be bigger than the one on the other side =)
Its actually more common than you think. Many women out there have had the very same question, its a scary thing at first. Just like you, we're not sure of what to think, and go crazy wondering if it is that something is wrong with our body! But, like many out there, you're fine =) The vagina and specially the lips, are not how many picture them to be. Everyone's is different, so no need to be afraid or ashamed of someone else seeing it =)
As for the shaving, if thats what you want to try and do, go for it! =) There's nothing wrong with it. Just be very careful when you do! =)

Hope I helped! =)

VB

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Hey! This is kinda an odd question but i'll ask anyway. How do you give a hand job? Haha like i know what it is and basically what to do but like..what are good things to do...if that makes any sense at all!! thanks!!

HAhA! Yeah, believe it or not it makes sense =) you should hear some of the thing I ask! hahaha! =P haha!
Anyway, having the basics, Here are some other little things to do:
~At a point of hand motion, slow down, hand on top of the shaft, and with your thumb rub the top of his peins--the head.
~You can take both hands, interlock them around the penis and motion ur hands up and down and a little side to side at the same time.
~There also one where practically put your thumb and index fingers together, forming a circle, both hands, and take that circle and bring down the penis, and then the other hand, and the other increasing speed... haha! (good arm exercise!) haha!
~You can also do the same above, but instead of bringing your hands/fingers down, you bring them up!
~other is to take your hands around the penis, almost as if were going to make a fire... but instead of the hard fast motion back and forth from you, do it softly and also up and down at the same time . =)
~Also, you while moving the hand on the shaft, take your other hand and circle and touch/rub the head of the penis...
....Guys also love it when you play with their balls! haha!
Just have fun with your hands =) haha!

Good luck hun!
and have fun!

VB

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Can anyone tell me what exactly IS the birds and bees theory? i've always heard it for so long and noone knows what it means, even the teachers i just doens't know

basically, The birds and the bess represent the males, and since they seek the flowers (females) for their seed(s)... Get together, contact... you know? the whole metaphorical idea of it. haha!
Its silly, and more complicated than it really should be! haha!

Hope this helps =)

VB

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I'm 17 and i've been going out with my boyfriend for a while. this is an awkward question but like he wants to more forward (not to sex) but like fingering and stuff. should i like shave down there or something? i have before and wow not a good idea. but i don't want to like not do it and it would be weird.. i'm so lost about this haha.

awww haha!
Don't worry about it, definitely not a weird question, trust me! haha!
But the truth of the matter is, when it comes to hair down there, do what you think is best, and are most comfortable with.
Totally shaving can be a pain, specially if you're new to it aren't careful. I'm not sure how it went with you the first time you did it or what happened, if you're really thinking about it i'd say give it a last try.
Then again, there is the option of trimming. You can go wild and creative runnnig your imagination down there! haha!
Its really up to you and what you like best.
Yes its true that guys do like it a bit trimmed or shaved down there. I'd say try trimming, that way its not completely shaving and still gives it a sense of style and whatnot. haha! =)
Also, if you're not comfortable with the actual blade, get an electric trimmer, specially designed for women. They're pretty good =) and with those you have a lot less chance of cutting yourself =/
But yeah, just give it another try, its def a bit more appealing for the guy, and feels great, for both! haha! =)
Any other questions regarding it let me know! =) But i'd say def give it a try and see how it feels =)
I know I love it! HAte hair! haha!
Good luck!

VB

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lastnight i hooked up with this guy and hes fingered me before as well as other guys but lastnight it hurtttt. it felt good but he put pressure or something over my bladder. no one has ever done this to me before. it hurt realy bad. what is this? do alot of guys do it? and also..when he was eating me out it kinda hurt a lil too.. like he was biting.. why? lol

im 19/f

Some guys think that if they apply pressure the girl will get more pleasure out of what he's doing. The problem is, that yes, even though it is true in a way, there are key points as you may know that when pressure is added, there's a feel of increased arousal. The problem is, that some guys have haerd this, but they just have no idea whatsoever where it is that they're suposed to do it. ts more like trial and error.. haha!
And as for the biting, its the same thing. Although I'm guessing what he was going for was a nibbling feeling. Which if done correctly also makes you go over the edge.. its just very very good! haha!
But the guys that actually do do this aren't that many, since most are interested more on getting pleasured, than giving it... =/

Well, hope this helped! =)

VB

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Okay this is so random and stuff but I was just wondering if guys like when girls moan. I was with my best friend and we had a 6 some. I guess you could say then she started having sex and she didn't moan at all and neither did the other girls there. I was like what? I thought guys loved moaning. None of them moaned. Why? thats so crazy i always moan. always. im confused. please explain.

Definitely!
Guys go crazy when they hear a girl moaning.
It lets them know that they're enjoying what they're doing, ..that they're doing it just right! It turns them on even more! haha!

You were right, don't worry!

VB

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I'm pretty sure what I experienced was a wet dream. I mean, I did have a rather "interesting" dream and I woke up from having orgasm. I'm 16 though and a female. I thought males could only have these.. ?

It is more frequently heard about males having wet dreams. But the fact of the matter is that females can have them too. With males the only difference is that well, if someone else is in the room and is too see them, its obvious that they're erect. And also remember, that guys orgasm so must easier and faster than girls. Which makes it easy for guys to by even a mere dream get super hard and without even touching, just even the thought can drive them crazy! But is definitely possible for females too! ...and also keep in mind, females, at least for the most part, are more concervative about their sexuality and everything regarding sex really.
But all in all, its normal! =)

VB

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my boyfriend says that he wants to have more foreplay because we usually just go right at it. now i am all for that but i dont know what to do? any suggestions?

a main tool for foreplay is to tease!
try alongated make outs, massages, little shows.. just have fun and tease each other.... =)
take baths/showers together.... get "naughty" couples games! haha! =)

lots of luck!
any questions you know where to find me! =)

VB

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If someone fingers you are you still a virgin?

yup!
as long as you don't have intercorse, you're still a virgin! =)

VB

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im 17 and well my penis is not that big ive been with my gf for a few months and she hasnt seen it yet and shes wanting to take things further but im a bit nervous im worried if shell think im too small does it matter to girls that much?
can a guy be too small?

If you're like half an inch... i would say that maybe you may be haha! But i doubt it.... The truth is that girls really don't pay that much attention the size of a penis; thats mainly just a guy thing...
Even though it may sound cliche, it really falls under how you use it. Because, really, i'm sure you've heard abou guys that are huge! But really all that just ends up doing is hurting the females (and taking into consideration that the vagina is at an average 4 inches deep..), specially if they just don't care about the females and are just there to get their own pleasure.. yeah big no no...
Just try to keep your girlfriend in mind, make sure she's getting pleasured. ask her what she wants, how she wants it... Or just listen to her sounds, be aware of her movements, her body... If you keep that in mind, I should say her in mind, meaning pleasuring her, trust me no matter how big or small you are, you are going to be like a sex god to her! ;-) haha!
So don't worry about your size hun, like i said, its mainly just a guy thing. Us girls, we're interested in how you use it and pleasure us more than anything! =)


Much love
VB

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what does it taste like?

Tastes strange the first time.. haha!
Overall its just kinda salty.... and a bit sweet at the same time...
its not too too bad... =)

VB

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is masterbating a sin?

No, its not a sin.
Some may see or think of it as a sin, but it really isn't.
If nything masterbating is a way to give your body pleasure, to destressand just relax... =)

VB

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do u have to have had your period to get plesure from masturbateing?????

sorry if that was a dumb question
Thanks!

not at all! =)

..and not a dumb question =)

VB

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if a girl gets fingered would the guys like it if they shaved before?

For the most part, yes, guys perfer it when girls are shaved....
haha =)

VB

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I just got married a month ago and I'm a virgin. My husband and I have been trying to have sex, but we can't. I think I might have vaginismus, maybe.

What I do know for sure is that I want to have sex, I want to consummate my marriage..I just can't.

we'll be lying together, hugging, kissing, and cuddling and then when it comes to him trying to go in, i tense up. i get really nervous and i can feel my muscles tensing up...but no matter how much i try to relax them i can't. and the idea of it hurting the first time is not helping. and i just need help and suggestions on what i should do.

has anyone else had this problem??

I'm really sorry to hear that you're having this problem. Specially considering that it has taken place after your marriage. I can imagine that you were waiting and saving yourself till marriage... and now a month later being unable to do it =/
But you'll be glad to know you're not the only one.....
There are a couple of things your husband could do. First of, one thing to always remember is to try and get as wet as possible....
Thats always a must.. otherwise even try getting a lubricant to help =) Also, get your husband to finger you and such, so you do get a little of the pleasure and start possibly relaxing and opening you up a little.
and little by little it'll help you relax and eventually being able to consummate your marriage =)
I'm not saying that it wont hurt, BUT, its not going to be that bad. At first it may sting a little, but afterwards you'll just be feeling pleasure =)
But do remember to be and get as wet as possible, so there there isn't much friction for entrance =)

Much luck!

VB

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I just had unprotected sex a few days ago(twice)and yes i know that was stupid with having no condom(i'm a girl, 16). My first fear is of course pregnancy, my period was two days late but i just got it today, so that means i'm not pregnan, right?!? Thats my fist question, then my second is, should i get tested for any std's or something? i haven't noticed anythig weird but is it still neccisary to get the test?
And not to be a total sex newbie but the guy i was with the other day asked me if i was "on the pill?" I didn't know what he ment so i just said yes...what pill is he talking about? What does it do?
Thanks!

Well, no, your not pregnant. Since you just got your period, you're fine in that matter =)

Since you had unprotected sex, its a smart thing to do to get tested for anything.. I don't know how well you know the guy, and or if it was his first time or not.... simply remember to wear a condom! it is soooo important! it protects you from both pregnancy and any sort of std. so you don't have to be worrying about all this, and can enjoy what you're doing.

And lastly, when someone asks you if you're "on the pill", that means if are you taking a birth control pill. to prevent pregnancy.
=)

Hope this helps =)

VB

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ok so the other night at a party i was sitting behind the house and it was dark out and i was with 2 of my best guy friends. well they kept going up my shorts and down my shirt but no matter how much i told them to stop the one kept touching me down there and down the back of my shorts... they kept following me and even did it secretly when ppl were around!! and then i was laying on the grown and the one guy put his thing right in my face and begged me to suck it and kept pushing it at my mouth but i locked my lips.. so im basically asking was i molested? i hate this feeling i have now

sweety....
whenever a guy tries to do something that you don't want, like touching you and he just keeps trying or doing it and you keep telling them to stop... yes, it is sexual assault!..
report this guys hun. They can't be going around acting and doing the things they did to you....
I'm sorry you had to go through this hun.. =/
No girl should ever have to deal with such things....
Any other help or questions or anything at all feel free to contact me... IM me at crazycurious555 or email at ...@aol.com

VB

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During sex, does it hurt for guys like it does for the girls (their first time) or does it feel good to them??

unfortunately, girls are the ones that have to deal with all the pain =/
Even on their first time, its pleasureable.... grrrr! haha!

hope this helps! =)

VB

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