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I have a friend (24/f) that constantly asks me for advice. At first, I was flattered that she trusted my judgement. However, now it has got to the point that she calls me for every little thing going on in her life. She seems incapable of making any decision on her own, even if it's a small decision. One day, she actually called from the store to ask what toothpaste to buy. When she calls, she expects me to drop everything and help her figure out a solution for her problem.
She also seems to trust only my advice. At one point, she called me with a medical concern. While I have worked in health care, I am not a doctor. I told her I didn't feel like I was qualified to answer her question and that she should see her doctor. She refused to see the doctor and said that only I could figure it out.
I hate to be rude to her since she's always been there for me. She was one of the few people that stood beside me when I fled an abusive relationship. Almost everyone else in my life thought I was crazy for leaving what they saw as a great guy. She offered me money and a place to stay until I got on my feet and could make it on my own again.
I've tried telling her that I'm busy and not always able to take her calls, but it seems to have no effect. I'm also worried that her inability to make a decision on her own could have an effect on her life and health. As much as I want to be there for her when she needs me, I can't sit by the phone all day and I'm not always qualified to help her. Any suggestions?
i think that you should just sit her down and talk to her about it, nd tell her that your not always capable of answering her questions and that sometimes you might be wrong..also tell her that your not always going to be there because what if something happens to you and than how will she live her own life without makin decisions on her own, but dont be rude about it just talk to her nicely..hope it works out,
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My best (girl) friends keep bugging me to ask out this guy who is my friend also. I really like him and all but I don't want to lose my friendship with him...but if I don't ask him my friends said that they would ask him out for me. How am I supposed to tell my friends to back off without seeming harsh?
-Confuzzled
i think that you should tell your friends that your really good friends with this guy and you dont want to ruin things between you guys and if they dont listen to you just go to your guy friend and tell him what they are up too im sure that he'll understand..but if you like him then maybe you should give it a shot,good luck,
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I have this Friend and she told me this secret about her haveing sex, and well being the good friend that I am I didnt tell any one, but the other person she told told the whole school and now the whole school thinks that its me and now they all like hate me. I dont know what to do she keeps blameing it on me and it wasnt me. What should I do tell the other person to confess, let it be, or talk the friend about it. I am so confused please help me.
sincerelly,
LostAtThought77
i think that you should go up to the friend and talk to her about it just sit down with her and be like "look it really wasnt me, dont you think by now i would confess?" and if you know who the person is that told than i think that you should tell her who it was because you shouldnt be getting blamed, now that proves that she isnt a true friend because she would believe you when you tell her that it wasnt you, i hope it works our,hope i helped,
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13/f okay so i have this girl that i was friends with last year then we kind of stopped talking...well a few days ago i found out she made a myspace pretending to be me and said all this personal stuff about me...and admittd it was her...i havent confronted her cuz i dont wat to say....i wana know should i confront her? should i telll anyone? and if i confront her waht should i say?
okay, well first off that is so fake !! and i think that you should totally confront her i mean if she admitted it then yeah confront her, but i think you should keep it between just you two because if you go off anf tell your friends she'll tell hers and then your going to cause all this drama and it will all end in a fight...well hope everything works out,
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ok so theres this guy that i used to like, but we had a falling out and hated each other for a long time. he said something about me to one of my friends that he was assuming about me, and i got mad and wrote him a very long xanga entry explaining in detail why he was a shithead and why he was wrong.
and then i had to work with him for a project, and now, all of the sudden hes been really nice to me... waving at me, making jokes... im just wondering what could have changed. why is he doing this? is it because of what i said?
how can i find out what hes feeling without actually asking?
well first off maybe he just had a change of hearts.. hehe .. and maybe he was like whats the point of fighting with her im not going to win anyways you know and what you did i mean i wouldve done the same thing because he has no right to say something about you thats totally not true and i mean the way you can find out is by like just playing along with it you know and sooner or later hell admit to his feelings or just like ask one of your friends to ask him or if you want ask yourself because that would be the best !! well hope i helped !! ♥dina !!
My male friend (he has a girlfriend, i dont date) and i were really close for quite some time and then he told me that he liked me (for some time now) and then a few weeks later that he loved his girlfriend, the entire situation was aweful and i tried to stay away from it best i could, but now we arent as colse...actually now we are more of aquaintences than friends and im starting to doubt what our friendship was. what do i do? how do i know we werent just close because he like me?
hey well i think that he might be feeling wierd because he likes you and i dont think that he was jsut friends with you because he wanted to get into your pants! guys are wierd they get their moments just like us gurls wen we are on our periods! lol! but the best thing to do it just talk to him and let him know that your there for him and that you still want to be friends! well hope it works out
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ok so 2 of my best friends are mad at me because i keep hanging out with my best guy friend. The one friend told my friend melanie that i always talk about him and the only person i ever hang out with is him and i dont care about anything else but him. And that's not true. Am i doing anything wrong by spending so much time with him?
hey well i think that if they were real friends they wouldnt get mad at you because i mean you can have all the friends you want but your not doing anything wrong you just like to hang out with him alot i do that sometimes too!or maybe you should just tell your friends that you like to hang out with him and if they have a problem then ohh well! its okay everything will be fine! hope it works out
my friend is depressed. she always tells me her problems and itold her to get therapy bcuz it helps and ive been through it. but after i tell her this she always says "see thats why i cant count on you. you never help me with my problems" she always makes me feel so guilty. How can i help her?
hey well i think you did a good job of trying to help her i mean thats jsut her problem if she's going to be like that if she's always depressed than she should maybe get therapy because people who are always depressed can end up killing theirselves soo u should try your best to help her out and maybe you should sit her down and tell her that your just tryin to help! well i hope it works out!