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okay. my name is ashley for those who are wondering and im 15 years young. im about to be a sophomore in highschool and basically like to give people advice. i have been told that the things i say are pretty good butif you dont like what i say then good for you, i tried. Ask me anything im always up for the challenge and when i answer your question i normally try and relate it to things similar going on in my life. Say anything rude and i will delete the comment. if you need help and dont want others to see it you can message me on myspace or you can IM me at xBESTmemory x3

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does anyone no any quotes about being replaced in a friendship by someone elseeee , thanks id love you foreverrrrrrr

well i know one specifically but it says that shes replaced by a guy, its....

you were my best friend
in the entire world; sleepovers,
pillow fights, late night talks,
inside jokes that no one else would
know. then you met him & now...
i don’t even know who you are anymore.

otherwise if you go to xanga.com they normally have a lot of them

hope this helped =]

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i want to do something really memorable with my girl friends this summer. i have a lot of guy friends too and despite that they're my friends the guys just normally cause stress so i want something to do with my girls. there's about 5 of us and i want like a girls night out sort of thing, or something to do during the day, doesn't matter. i want it to be something that we dont normally do. we're 15 some 16 and we normally go to the movies or the mall or to somebody's house. so any ideas? thanks a bunch

me and my friends are always looking for fun things to do that most people dont think of doing. Try starting the night off mini golfing or going to dave and busters for some food and games. then have a campout if someone has a tent and pitch it up and sleep out there for a change. if someone has a pool to go for a fun night swim.
hope this gave you some ideas =]

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13/f
im a pretty friendly person i guess... i like talking to people and i always try to be really nice to everyone. so i talk to a lot of different people on myspace, AIM and texting. but when i start talking to guys and get to know them, sometimes they end up thinking that i like them. and then they start liking me. its not like im being flirty or anything, i just talk about normal stuff. so im not leading them on or anything. but i feel really guilty, cuz i just like them as friends (and btw i do have a bf). sometimes i think, maybe i shouldnt talk to guys at all, cuz it will only make them think i like them. is it possible to talk with guys and just be friends? or do they always end up wanting it to be more?

you should keep talking to them. most people just have that way about them that seems flirty to them but not to you, its just who you are. i have a friend who doesnt even realize she is flirting. you aren't leading them on especially if you have a boyfriend and eventually the guys will realize that.
hope this helped =]

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ive liked this guy on and off for a while now. like umm 5 months? and he never liked me in all this time. hes my best friend so i just got over the fact that we cant be more. everyone thinks we are together though because we like hold hands and not to mention we're always together. even my english teacher asked him if we are dating! haha. the problem is that sometimes i feel like he wants to avoid me. maybe he just hates all the drama and is trying to aviod ppl annoying him about it. today he was just acting weird to me and then he was back to normal and then weird again. i dont understand it.
and worst of all he told our friends [that are guys] that hes a heartbreaker. then they asked if he was talking about breaking jennys heart and he said no. he said he broke my heart. and i was right there when he said it. and they laughed at me. then they asked if im jealous that he made out with his ex. wtf?!? i hate it. its hard enough trying to see him as just a friend but why is he doing this to me now? hes been such a good friend to me up until this. i dont know whats happened. then i was walking with him and one of the guys until he started saying that he sends girls "mixed messages". he didnt say my name but he was talking about me again right in front of me. the guy asked what he meant. then he put his arm around me and said "like this". in my head i said hell no! and i just said bye walked away without looking back. hes so stupid that he didnt even know what he had just done. and we talked online and he asked why i walked away. then i said "when i liked you you hurt me and you make it into a big joke. its like you dont even care" and he logged off a minute later and never responded. i know he doesnt mean to be cruel because he probably thinks that its not a big deal, but it is. what should i do about this because at this point i have no idea anymore.thank you.

well one as one of my best guy friends has told me guys tend to act differently around their friends and they dont want to be made fun of soo they will basically act like a player i guess you could say and then when no one else is around they will be all nice and seem to like you. What i would do if i were you is talk to him directly like face to face and dont have other people around either becuase then he would most likely get distracted from you or be again cruel.
hope this helped =]

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my friend is really pretty and likes to flirt with guys. once she was over my house and the guy that i liked was on so she gave him a link to her myspace and asked him what do you think of me. he wouldn't answer since he had a girlfriend. and she goes i can't wait till he breaks up with his girlfriend so he can tell me what he thought. then she put together this lunch so i could meet up with him but she started flirting with him and he asked her to be his girlfriend. she knew i liked him so she asked me what should say. i told her to say yes regardless my feelings and the next day after she said yes she bragged about getting him is she really a true friend?

well some friends, they dont realize that they do things like that. or they do it just to prove to you that they can get any guy they want. i have a friend just like that and if you tell her you like a guy she will go after him and then once she has got them she drops them and they dont want anyone else besides her. it gets annoying. try talking to her and telling her how you feel. you never know she might realize what she has done and feel bad and try hooking you two up.
hope this helped =]

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Hey, I just realized I like my best friend Alex. I have known her since we were in jr. high. But I don't know how to tell her I love her. Thanks for any help.

Frodo

aww. thats so cutee. well if you really want to get her heart. do something extremely cutee. such as call her up one afternoon and be like what are you doing tonight? and see what she says if she says nothing, invite her over to watch a movie just the two of you and when your watching the movie try putting around arm around her see how she reacts. and when your movie ends be like here i want to show you something and go out back and star gaze. that is the cutest thing ever a guy can do with a girl. and then when your looking at the stars tell her how you feel just bring it up easily such like start it out with something like alex you look really pretty tonight. and see what she says. but dont really say anything more but then once she leaves send her a text that says something like i had a GREAT time tonightt =] and see what she says and then you can say something like alex it might sound crazy but i think i like you. and see what she replys.
hope this helped you =]
ohh and if it all works out comment my inbox and tell me i want to hear =]

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Alrighty so there's this guy that I like, and it just so happens that we're good friends. So we're hanging out tomorrow and I'm really happy, I finally feel like I might have a chance with a guy that I really like. But I'm also kind of nervous because I think it'll be just me and him... what if we run out things to talk about, like what can I say? Also, how can I hint to him that I like him, without being too pushy/annoying? I just don't want it to be weird if he doesn't like me in that way because even if nothing happens, I still wanna be friends with him. Help?

dont be nervous to hang out it i can bet once you get together it wont seem as awkward. and dont worry about running out of things to say because normally if the connection is right the conversation just flows. plus if you ever get worried about running out of things to talk about watch a movie so you wouldnt have to worry about that =] to tell him without telling him you like him (lol confusing i know) flirt with him while your hanging out, play with his hair, tickle him (if he's ticklish), nudge him or like nicely push him. hopefully he would catch on. and then after you hang out later that night text him or IM him or however and be like heyy i had alot of fun today =] or something like that
hoped this helped =]

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Today, I was watching Peter Pan and a few Veggie Tales movies when my friends called and asked what I was doing. They laughed when I told them I what I watching. They said Disney and Veggie Tales are for little kids. I can't help it. I like those movies. They're funny and cool, but i need advice on what should I do. Should I stop watching them? Or stick with the movies?

well i think every teenager has a little kid still inside of them. KEPP WATCHiNG THEM =] i love watching all my old movies that i watched when i was little. my neighbor is graduating from highschool and he still watches nick. soo who cares what your friends say, if you enjoy them. then watch them.
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There is a guy that I have known for about 6 months. I see him most weekends because we both have friends within the same circle.

When I see him I never get a chance to be with him alone because of our friends but I need to know the signs of how he would flirt.
He's quite shy with girls.

He always talks to me,or stands near me but doesn't really say much, jsut little things not a proper conversation.

When I was at a pub talking to a guy he asked my friend if I fancied that guy, she said 'no i don't think so' because she knows who I do fancy. He said 'Wel you can't blame him for talking to her.'

He doesn't really flirt with anyone, but one night he was quite drunk and he kept looking round in his chair and staring at me, not very subtly, he was really drunk though.

On msn he's much more confident, and says hi everyday, sending me songs I might like and pictures of him at a friends house, he even sent me his coursework once lol.

And once when we were in a group of friends in a park, he started saying a ryhme with my name in it? whats that about

He doesn't really aske me questions though, even though he starts the conversation I feel like i'm keeping it going.

I don't know if I sould let him know how I feel. Sorry for the essay! but it's driving me mad

well him standing near you and basically complimenting you to your friend about talking to the guy at the pub is a plus. and might be his little way of hinting that he is sorta into you. i would just try and flirt with him see what he does. maybe he doesnt know the right way to flirt or to tell if you are flirting with him. make alot of eye contact when your by him or anything else. i wouldnt come right out and say it until you know for sure. also you could try asking him who he likes and if he says ohh idk then normally that means its you. so just push for him to say it or tell him to give you hints about it. hoped this helped =]

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im 14/f. my best friend lives next door and we've known each other since we were 2. both of our families are pretty strict, but her parents are super conservative. like, shes not allowed to date until she's 17, she can't wear 2-piece bathing suits, and she can only wear plain white underwear, nothing "pretty" and definitely no bikinis. well, lately she's started nagging at me for everything i do and its really getting annoying. like i have these sweat pants from victorias secret... theyre just plain grey with a dog on them, it doesnt even say victorias secret, but my friend is like "omg i cant believe youre wearing something from that store!!" and i cant go to the pool when shes there because she'll give me looks and say "you shouldnt be wearing a 2-piece!" and if i have a problem with my boyfriend, i cant talk to her about it cuz she'll just say "you shouldnt even HAVE a boyfriend!" im so tired of her judging me. im definitely NOT a slut AT ALL... i dont dress like one or act like one... but when im around her she makes me feel like one. i havent told her how i feel cuz i doubt it would change anything... she thinks shes right and she also thinks shes trying to "help" me. so would it even do any good to say anything, or should i just ignore it and try not to let it bug me? (i could try, but it really gets on my nerves!!!)

most likely she is jealous of you becuase you can do all that stuff that she cant. even though you dont want to tell her you should. it really isnt to healthy to keep all that bottled up inside. just tell her nicely say something like "sorry that you arent allowed to wear but dont judge me becuase i can. i think its cute" but say it in the nicest way =] hope this helped.

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OK, so this is gonna be long but i`m so sorry but bare with me PLEASE i need help...


so there is this girl, "g" and we became best friends ever since the begining of the year. we were both new and she was still attatched to her other two BESTBEST friends, "E" and "A", so we hung out allll the time! and we went to the mall, EVERYTHING together. however, toawrds the end of the school year, she began ditching US, me and my other best friend "M" for her OTHER friends. we fought and then made up and THEN, yesterday, there was this banquet thing and she went to her friend "A"'s house and didn`t come to the banquet. But that day, when we were like, so youre ditching us for HER and she was like yeah. and i was like ok then youre saying we shuldn`t be friends AT ALL anymore? and she was like yeah.
and we were all WTF.
but today was the last day of school, and we were ok-ish, not bffs.

in two days, i`m having this little get together and i invited her.

but yeah, i still want to be friends with her but shes not coming back to my school next year and shes going to surf camp with two of her friends this year E & A.

PLEASE HELP;
i still wanna hang with her over summer.
thanks

i have a friend just like that. she has basically began to ditch me to, so i know the feeling. if you want to hang out with her just invite her places but if she begins to be rude and ditch you then you shouldnt want a friend like that.

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ok i moved the last 2 month of school and at my old school i was popular and could have any guy i wanted i play sports and was the president of the student counicl but at my new school i have no friends and no boyfriend and the other girls said i couldent play sports and her dad is the head of that stuff how do i get friends PLEAZE help

normally with girls, they are jealous if you are prettier than they are. but they cant disclude you from the sports no matter if her dad is the head of it. what i would do is just be as friendly as possible and join the sports that you used to do at your old school. they'll come around eventually.

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my best friend and i have been doing gymnastics together for a long time. the gym we've gone to is really good (the best in the state), but its really far away and really expensive.

well, this year i decided to try out for cheerleading at my school, and i made it. i thought i'd be able to stay on my gymnastics team, but it just wouldnt work out with the cheer schedule. so i changed to another gym thats a lot closer to my house. its a lot smaller than my old gym and the team is not as good. and it was really hard to leave my old teammates! but at least i can still do gymnastics, which i love, and also cheerleading.

well, now my best friend keeps making remarks about my new gym... like how small it is, how bad the coaches are, how ugly the leotards are, and how she'd never go there. and she keeps bragging about how good she's getting, and how great things are going at our old gym. and then she has these parties and sleepovers with all our teammates from the old gym (who i know as well as she does), and she doesnt invite me. but she makes sure i hear about it. it really makes me feel bad.

i dont want to get in a big fight with her becuz i still have to see her at school and stuff, and we do some other activities together. but it really hurts when she does this stuff. why is she being so mean??

she may be doing this becuase she is jealous that you are on another sport without her so she is trying to make you feel bad. its like the bully everyone had in 2nd grade. or she is doing this bc you left her to go to a different gym. just try talking things out with her and tell her how you feel if she is a true and good friend she will ease up on it. also mention to her that she could try out for cheerleading to the next year. hope this helped =]

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OK so i have this friend and she seems to like any guy she hangs out with or even talk to and i mena i dont know if i'm jealous or something but i really like this guy and i havent added him on myspace but she has and she said that they have been talking and the way she said it was like she likes him or something and well she's really pretty and skinny and i'm the total opposite so if she likes him it kinda ruins my chances and idk someone help please

soo this just happened to my bestfriend. she liked this guy and she told her friend and wahbam the next day guess who that friend was flirting with. but what you should do is talk to your friend. tell her what is bothering you. or just joke around with her to get answers out. say something like wow you change the guys you like almost like changing your underwear. its so often. see what she says to that. and be bold and request to be that kids friend on myspace and just send him a comment saying hey whats up. just saying that can start a conversation so quickly =] hope this helped.

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Ok so i really like this guy and me and him would talk sometimes at school but now it's summer so i added him on myspace and i want to message him but i dont know what to say to him i mena i dont want to tell him i like him i want to become friends with him so what do i say????

soo i am in basically the same exact situation as you are. just start out the conversation on myspace with something like heyy havent talked to you in a while what have you been up to. (i know it sounds reallly corny but it can break the ice) then after or if you have a pretty good conversation just say something like heyy we should chill sometime call me. heres my number and just give him your number. you can hang out in a big group or just the two, i would say if you want to become friends hang out with a big group and go to the movies or even mini golfing =]

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I had this feeling that my guy friend that i have a crush has a crush on me too,but the part that he did'nt actually say goodbye or even talk to me when were outside makes me confused about his feelings for me cause in the class we have fun laughing and talking to each other but in other place i feel that he doesn't know me..do you think he likes me?o he just like to use me cause he don't have any close girl in the class and also he want me to be my textmate dats why he's texting me?..HELP!Ü

well. from what some of my guy friends have told me is when guys are around some of their friends they act different. like they treat you meaner...i guess you could say. its just the guys way. their silly =] but try just keep talking to me and casually talk to him about who he likes. just say something like "soo who are you liken these days" and normally if its you they say ohh idk. but if its not they will say either no one or the girl. hope this helped.
( also try hint to him that your like him. tell him that he looks cute or smells really nice. things like that)

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